One oddity in losing a parent lies in the adjusting experience. Juxtaposing the past, present and future in an imbalanced experience. Dad lived a very imperfect, proud, religious and peaceful life. As his malady dragged on and he became frail, he got more reflective.

    He held on strongly to the teaching of values he wanted understood, Then he gradually relented on teaching as he knew he should. He reflected on the well-being and unity among his children, And granted the utmost aspirations of the grandchildren.

    He was a teacher, classy and deliberate in his interactions. In his deliberateness, we found our blessings. Because like a maestro insisting on a rhythmic and energetic finale, Dad dictated the pace and timing at the end.

    Wanting to walk back into his Douala residence fully aware! Knowing how much longer he needed to stay stateside for treatment! Announcing in advance his departure date back to his homeland! Visiting with family and friends back in Douala over a fortnight period!

    After allowing all the chance, the blessings of praying together; Granting closure for him and all who desired; Dad passed in his home just as he wanted. On a deliberately peaceful Tuesday morning.

For the richness of your Teachings,
For the touches of your Blessings,
Father, May You Rest in Peace!

Wriitrn By Phil Okala 

Write it down, when I have perished:
Here is everything I cherished;
That this walls should glow with beauty
Spurred my lagging soul to duty
That there should be gladness here
Kept me toiling year by year…
Every thought and every act
Were to keep this family intact.
Alexander Ambe Okala

"Our father was born Alexander Okala Abe aka Alexander Okala Ambe. He was born Sept 4th, 1937 in kumba ( Southwest province). After elementary school he enrolled and attended Gov't technical college ombe.
  After graduating from ombe, he enlisted into the West Cameroon police force. He did worked in Tiko, then Buea and was transferred back to Tiko. His second assignment in Tiko was interrupted as he enrolled into the Cameroon higher police academy in Yaounde.
    Upon graduating from Cameroon higher police academy in Yaounde, he briefly worked in Tiko and was transferred to Bafoussam. After Bafoussam, he went to Foumbot then Douala, where he spent 15 yrs at 6eme and 8eme arrondissement.
    After his retirement from the police force, he resided in Douala, where he was active as president of st paul catholic church, president of Lekie section tribal meeting, and local politics in Douala 3eme. He also spent time travelling to the USA to visit his eight kids and grand children.
    He leave behind his wife for 52 yrs, a brother, two sisters, eight children and more than twenty grand kids. Feel free to contact any of his kids to express your condolence.
Regina Etta aka Regina Abe
Bernard Okala Abe
Philip Abe Okala
Marieclaire Ojong aka Marieclaire Abe
Antoinette Enohmbi aka Antoinette Okala Abe
Quinta Mbaugbaw aka Quinta Okala
Alexander Okala
Joseph Okala"

Written By Bernard Okala Abe