ForeverMissed
Words are powerful yet they are not enough to describe the life that he lived nor can they describe the grief that his physical absence brings... It's a reality for those who are still here having to grapple with making sense of such thing. Some days are easier than others. Memories are all what we have now of him. They make the heart ache and they also bring comfort - comfort in knowing that he has lived; comfort in knowing that he has made people smile; comfort in knowing that he has fought his battle until the end; comfort in knowing that even though he is gone, he is still here. 

Please share your precious memories between you and him with us. We promise we'll treasure them forever. It would mean a lot to me and especially my kids getting to know their daddy.


Posted by Lora Howden on April 13, 2021
Alex volunteered at the Oregon State Capitol in 2019. He assisted with greeting guests and distributing programs at special events. Although he was only with us for a short time, his warm smile and willing spirit made a very positive impression. He was well-liked by all the staff and volunteers he came in contact with and will be deeply missed.
- Capitol Visitor Services Volunteers
Posted by Kababa Raymond on April 11, 2021
I can't believe you left bro.Am shocked by this news.I remember our good memories at St Pius x seminary back in high school.The time we spent together as classmates was one of my best bro.I loved the way you danced reggae music during variety shows.I remember you used to sit just infront of me during our final year.Wherever you are,May God rest your soul in internal peace.May your Family get comfort forever bro.AMEN
Posted by Duong Ngoc on April 11, 2021
I knew Alex even since I hadn't met him in person. He had waited for years for his wife to come home after working in Africa so they could be together and raised their own family. I was there on their special day and I couldn't be happier for my dear friend since she married to the best man of her life. The way he took care of his son would show how much love was there and how much determination he would carry on to work and support his beloved family. He talked about a dream house he would get for their family while they were living in an apartment, and he did achieve that dream in a short time. When we visited, he hold my youngest baby girl who was just 3 month old or so, just like as if she was his little girl. Then we were told that his wife was pregnant with a girl. I could see how delightful he was when they shared that big news. I always saw him smile whenever we met. He called his wife "babe" and he was a sweet man. Just like other men, he loved basketball and would not care about the other's conversations when the game was on. He will forever live in our memories, good memories.
Posted by Maryanne Mwaura on April 11, 2021
My best cousin and friend..always remember when we were kids..made fun memories that I still cherish todate..When you flew to Abroad you never stop communicating...You kept your promises..you always visited during vacations..we went places enjoyed each other's company and one thing am forever thankful of is you introduced me to Jeremiah Ndiritu Who is now and still my husband.You told me you wanted the best for me and that's why you made sure we had relationship with him.Am forever grateful for thinking of me and my future...forever indebted to you.Words can't express the love and care you showed and showered to your family and friends..Your legacy still lives on.Will forever hold the memories we made in heart.You still live on in our hearts
Posted by David Mburugu on April 10, 2021
Dear Alex,
It's with deep heart and lots of pain when I flash back to what you went through,
your desires for the family - Matt.5:9.
I have no precise words to Express my feelings but God has the answers to all this.
I know you loved the Word of God and feel this verse has got message to us.
 Jeremiah 17:7-8. "Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit."
Alex ,
We miss you,
We love you and your family.
We know that Amighty God has good plans for you .
Let his will be accomplished .
For the Family -Phillipians 4:7.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
My dear g.g.son , may almighty God keep you in his kingdom till we meet again.
Amen.

Posted by Chiru Waithaka on April 10, 2021
Alex, your light and love for life is still shining on us. Your laughter and smile still infectious. Your loving spirit is the ever guiding light to your babies.
Even in absence of the physical we still feel your presence. We know you're in good company next to your brother Bonke and the angels.
Alex... get that party started in heaven for our reunion
We love you always ❤❤
Posted by Melisa Wambalaba on April 10, 2021
A beauty of humanity Alex was. He carried the weight of life with a smile. No matter the pain nor the strife he tried his best.
Glad you crossed my path for you taught me a lot. I pray your mom, wife, kids , grandma, aunties and others will keep your candle burning ( the world needs it)
     Love you and yours. R I P
Posted by Kat Nguyen on April 10, 2021
Dear Alex,
Your smile was so infectious
So forever be precious
Your soul was warm and sweet
So warm, it took Tram off her feet
Your hands were always open
You were a rare token
My jokes would confuse you
And just like that, time flew
No more joking around
Needless to say, your time in this
world was profound
Please watch over my dear friend and your kids
You will forever be missed
Posted by Tram Kibara on April 9, 2021


A very very kind and truly respect who ever he meet . We miss you Alex .
-Neal Nguyen
Posted by Tram Kibara on April 9, 2021


Alex , is like my own son.I know her mom for almost 25 years she is my bestfriend until now. Since he came to US he is been very closed to us. We always celebrate his accomplishment . and I want to be sure we will do the party in my house so he can invite all his friends.  I love him so dearly. He is very sweet, gentle and very kind guy. He is always there if we need him. He is always willing to listen and share his ideas. He is very respectful. My heart is crying everytime I think about him but I know he is in god's hands now. I will always keep him in our prayers.He will be missed forever.
-Evangeline Yabut Bonifacio


Posted by Tram Kibara on April 9, 2021

He was a man with a great heart and was able to accommodate many from all walks of life. May his soul rest in eternal peace.
-Timothy Thuku

Posted by Tram Kibara on April 9, 2021


I remember coming over to the house for a party. Every one brought food. Mostly Kenyan food. What a great party it was. Alex was so happy. What a great party it was.
-Ron Weber

Posted by Tram Kibara on April 9, 2021

I only met Alex once when you guys were visiting Las Vegas. We met up and had some jamba juice. But in that short time I found Alex to be a kind hearted man. He had a very nice and gentle soul. I knew then you would be in good hands. I remember when you and I worked together that you always talked so highly of him. He will always be remembered. He will always be near watching over you and your lovely children. ♥️♥️♥️♥️ Take care Tram
-Debbie Ferreira


Posted by Tram Kibara on April 9, 2021
I knew Alex when we were schooling together in St Phillips High school ,Embu Kenya. Alex was a down to earth young man ,who always stood for what is right.
-Hon Ashford Kairiba
Posted by Sheila Wangusi on April 9, 2021
We miss you Alex, but you remain forever in our hearts... till we meet again

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Posted by Lora Howden on April 13, 2021
Alex volunteered at the Oregon State Capitol in 2019. He assisted with greeting guests and distributing programs at special events. Although he was only with us for a short time, his warm smile and willing spirit made a very positive impression. He was well-liked by all the staff and volunteers he came in contact with and will be deeply missed.
- Capitol Visitor Services Volunteers
Posted by Kababa Raymond on April 11, 2021
I can't believe you left bro.Am shocked by this news.I remember our good memories at St Pius x seminary back in high school.The time we spent together as classmates was one of my best bro.I loved the way you danced reggae music during variety shows.I remember you used to sit just infront of me during our final year.Wherever you are,May God rest your soul in internal peace.May your Family get comfort forever bro.AMEN
Posted by Duong Ngoc on April 11, 2021
I knew Alex even since I hadn't met him in person. He had waited for years for his wife to come home after working in Africa so they could be together and raised their own family. I was there on their special day and I couldn't be happier for my dear friend since she married to the best man of her life. The way he took care of his son would show how much love was there and how much determination he would carry on to work and support his beloved family. He talked about a dream house he would get for their family while they were living in an apartment, and he did achieve that dream in a short time. When we visited, he hold my youngest baby girl who was just 3 month old or so, just like as if she was his little girl. Then we were told that his wife was pregnant with a girl. I could see how delightful he was when they shared that big news. I always saw him smile whenever we met. He called his wife "babe" and he was a sweet man. Just like other men, he loved basketball and would not care about the other's conversations when the game was on. He will forever live in our memories, good memories.
his Life
"The soul that is within me no man can degrade." Frederick Douglass

This was one of Alex's last favorite inspirational quotes while he was fighting his battle with mental illness. Before his illness took control of his life, he was a loving human being, great grandson, grandson, son, brother, nephew, husband, and his most proud title - daddy.  

Always with a smile on and caring spirit, he was there for everyone to the best of his ability. Life was not always just; yet, he maintained his optimism and humanity until the end. The people who interacted last with him can attest to this. 

We continue to move forward with him always in our heart - a reminder to be kinder to each other and also as important, to take care of ourselves, so that we can add on to his legacy. 

https://vimeo.com/359916360

https://kpsu.org/learning-to-grow/alex-kibara-psu-health-sciences-student-and-immigrant-from-meru-kenya-a-special-night-of-swahili-music-and-african-culture/

https://issuu.com/cwecenter/docs/career_success_stories_2015

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Shared by Tram Kibara on April 11, 2021
4.11.2021

This is for you babe. But more so I want to make it so others could see who you are. I can talk to you privately but we no longer have the privilege to interact with you and I want to make an attempt to share this. You're never forgotten. 

It's been a year babe that you left this earthly world. It's been longer than that that I felt left behind by you. I'd be lying if I say I never had thoughts of resentment and anger toward you for leaving me because I did. The longer you're gone though, the more I'm able to separate you from your illness that brought out the worst in you. You weren't perfect. Neither was I. But that was not all who you were. You were more than that. I know you tried your best. We both came into our marriage with our best intentions and wishes. We both wanted a family with kids running around and be the parents that we desired to be. We wanted to make each other happy. And I think we were able to do that even just for a short time.

The first time I met you, you had this brightest smile on your face and I thought you were very cute:) On our first official date so to say, you asked me "so how do you see yourself in 5 years from now?" - I teased you saying that I didn't want to be interviewed but I knew then that you were a respectable man that I could count on making my dream of having a family come true. 

You were the kind of partner that would open doors and shower me with presents and always trying to make sure that I felt special and taken care of. One time, when we were walking and clumsy me got my hand hit the car somehow, you just took my hand and kissed it. You learned how to say I love you in my Vietnamese and even in Malagasy. You learned some phrases in both languages in an effort to communicate with my loved ones and always trying to present your best to show them that I chose you rightly. You did those little things for me out of love. Sometimes they might take you a while to get them done because you're a true procrastinator but you will. You finally got some roses planted at our house shortly before you left. I never got to thank you properly for that. Or for other things that I did not see you doing for me and our family. Thank you mpenzi <3

You always reminded me how beautiful I am especially when I doubted myself. You made sure that I knew you treasured my good heart. It's probably the highest compliment that I'd ever got from anyone. You always saw the best in me and encouraged me to stay true to myself.

We got engaged two weeks before I left for my Peace Corps journey in Madagascar. Even though you were devastated, you let me go. You wished me "success, fulfillment of [my] desires and more so the courage to face each day with tremendous joy." After 3 months in training and first month in my community, I witnessed a stillbirth and completely broke down and just wanted to go home. It was your perfect chance to say yes, come home love. But you didn't. You reminded me why I wanted to go there in the first place. You reassured me of how brave and strong I am. You told me how proud you are of me. You gave me encouraging words and just listened. You knew me better than I knew myself. I'm forever grateful for that. 

Our engagement was a rough 26 months apart. Yet, you continued to choose to come back to me and stood by me. You scarified a lot of your own desires so that we could have the family that we wanted. 

You were the hardest worker I'd ever met. When you told me that you often showed up to work 30' early or even an hour before, I laughed but I so admired your dedication to your work. You'd tell me stories about your coworkers and how sometimes you needed to take on a bigger load than what your normal task was. That who you are. You were always ready to help others. I don’t think I acknowledged enough how hard working you were especially when you were working 2-3 jobs to provide for us. I so wanted you to rest and be with me that I did not fully appreciate what you did. I’m sorry babe.

When you got sick and was in the hospital and we came to visit you, you assured us that you were okay being there because you wanted me to go home and rest and take care of our family back home. I wanted you home. I wanted so badly to take away your pain and sufferings. I failed. You continued on fighting that cruel disease that consumed your thoughts and shadowed your caring heart. One by one, we started leaving you with your own pain. Our fears and short-comings prevented us to be there with you. I’m so sorry that I wasn’t able to be there like I vowed to to comfort you in your darkest moments. For the little faith that I have left in me, I hope that you were comforted by His grace then and during your last seconds.

Last but not least, I want to tell the world what a loving father you were. You left me memories of you being a daddy that I could now use to show Erickson and Teresa who you are and how loved they are by you. You would call Big man Eriko and Sweet Teres. When Erickson was born and had to be transferred to the NICU at a different hospital, while checking in with me, you were there for him constantly. You wouldn't leave his sight. The way you looked at him brought joy to my heart then that if anything ever happens to me, I knew that he would have you to hold dearly. When Teresa was born, you were overjoyed. It was especially hard for you then as you were struggling with your illness, but you still tried to be there for me and for them, if not through your presence then through your gifts and words. Your last email to us said, 

[...] If there’s anything else I can do, please don’t hesitate to let me know. Have a beautiful afternoon. We love you, I love you and let Eriko and Teres know they are appreciated, honored, loved, and wisely growing up. 
Give them the best tender care you can and have a blessed weekend. Loved you then, now, and afterwards. Bye-bye for now!

Bye-bye for now love. You are always in my heart. I miss your physical presence and the short good times that we had. I miss you as my husband and the father of our kids. I’m still confused at times how you did not get to continue living and enjoying the life that you created but I hope that wherever you are, you are being celebrated for your kindness and contributions to this world. 

Until we meet again,
Yours always,
em