ForeverMissed
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Words are powerful yet they are not enough to describe the life that he lived nor can they describe the grief that his physical absence brings... It's a reality for those who are still here having to grapple with making sense of such thing. Some days are easier than others. Memories are all what we have now of him. They make the heart ache and they also bring comfort - comfort in knowing that he has lived; comfort in knowing that he has made people smile; comfort in knowing that he has fought his battle until the end; comfort in knowing that even though he is gone, he is still here. 

Please share your precious memories between you and him with us. We promise we'll treasure them forever. It would mean a lot to me and especially my kids getting to know their daddy.


April 13, 2021
April 13, 2021
Alex volunteered at the Oregon State Capitol in 2019. He assisted with greeting guests and distributing programs at special events. Although he was only with us for a short time, his warm smile and willing spirit made a very positive impression. He was well-liked by all the staff and volunteers he came in contact with and will be deeply missed.
- Capitol Visitor Services Volunteers
April 11, 2021
April 11, 2021
I can't believe you left bro.Am shocked by this news.I remember our good memories at St Pius x seminary back in high school.The time we spent together as classmates was one of my best bro.I loved the way you danced reggae music during variety shows.I remember you used to sit just infront of me during our final year.Wherever you are,May God rest your soul in internal peace.May your Family get comfort forever bro.AMEN
April 11, 2021
April 11, 2021
I knew Alex even since I hadn't met him in person. He had waited for years for his wife to come home after working in Africa so they could be together and raised their own family. I was there on their special day and I couldn't be happier for my dear friend since she married to the best man of her life. The way he took care of his son would show how much love was there and how much determination he would carry on to work and support his beloved family. He talked about a dream house he would get for their family while they were living in an apartment, and he did achieve that dream in a short time. When we visited, he hold my youngest baby girl who was just 3 month old or so, just like as if she was his little girl. Then we were told that his wife was pregnant with a girl. I could see how delightful he was when they shared that big news. I always saw him smile whenever we met. He called his wife "babe" and he was a sweet man. Just like other men, he loved basketball and would not care about the other's conversations when the game was on. He will forever live in our memories, good memories.
April 11, 2021
April 11, 2021
My best cousin and friend..always remember when we were kids..made fun memories that I still cherish todate..When you flew to Abroad you never stop communicating...You kept your promises..you always visited during vacations..we went places enjoyed each other's company and one thing am forever thankful of is you introduced me to Jeremiah Ndiritu Who is now and still my husband.You told me you wanted the best for me and that's why you made sure we had relationship with him.Am forever grateful for thinking of me and my future...forever indebted to you.Words can't express the love and care you showed and showered to your family and friends..Your legacy still lives on.Will forever hold the memories we made in heart.You still live on in our hearts
April 10, 2021
April 10, 2021
Dear Alex,
It's with deep heart and lots of pain when I flash back to what you went through,
your desires for the family - Matt.5:9.
I have no precise words to Express my feelings but God has the answers to all this.
I know you loved the Word of God and feel this verse has got message to us.
 Jeremiah 17:7-8. "Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit."
Alex ,
We miss you,
We love you and your family.
We know that Amighty God has good plans for you .
Let his will be accomplished .
For the Family -Phillipians 4:7.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
My dear g.g.son , may almighty God keep you in his kingdom till we meet again.
Amen.

April 10, 2021
April 10, 2021
Alex, your light and love for life is still shining on us. Your laughter and smile still infectious. Your loving spirit is the ever guiding light to your babies.
Even in absence of the physical we still feel your presence. We know you're in good company next to your brother Bonke and the angels.
Alex... get that party started in heaven for our reunion
We love you always ❤❤
April 10, 2021
April 10, 2021
A beauty of humanity Alex was. He carried the weight of life with a smile. No matter the pain nor the strife he tried his best.
Glad you crossed my path for you taught me a lot. I pray your mom, wife, kids , grandma, aunties and others will keep your candle burning ( the world needs it)
     Love you and yours. R I P
April 10, 2021
April 10, 2021
Dear Alex,
Your smile was so infectious
So forever be precious
Your soul was warm and sweet
So warm, it took Tram off her feet
Your hands were always open
You were a rare token
My jokes would confuse you
And just like that, time flew
No more joking around
Needless to say, your time in this
world was profound
Please watch over my dear friend and your kids
You will forever be missed
April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021


A very very kind and truly respect who ever he meet . We miss you Alex .
-Neal Nguyen
April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021


Alex , is like my own son.I know her mom for almost 25 years she is my bestfriend until now. Since he came to US he is been very closed to us. We always celebrate his accomplishment . and I want to be sure we will do the party in my house so he can invite all his friends.  I love him so dearly. He is very sweet, gentle and very kind guy. He is always there if we need him. He is always willing to listen and share his ideas. He is very respectful. My heart is crying everytime I think about him but I know he is in god's hands now. I will always keep him in our prayers.He will be missed forever.
-Evangeline Yabut Bonifacio


April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021

He was a man with a great heart and was able to accommodate many from all walks of life. May his soul rest in eternal peace.
-Timothy Thuku

April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021


I remember coming over to the house for a party. Every one brought food. Mostly Kenyan food. What a great party it was. Alex was so happy. What a great party it was.
-Ron Weber

April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021

I only met Alex once when you guys were visiting Las Vegas. We met up and had some jamba juice. But in that short time I found Alex to be a kind hearted man. He had a very nice and gentle soul. I knew then you would be in good hands. I remember when you and I worked together that you always talked so highly of him. He will always be remembered. He will always be near watching over you and your lovely children. ♥️♥️♥️♥️ Take care Tram
-Debbie Ferreira


April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021
I knew Alex when we were schooling together in St Phillips High school ,Embu Kenya. Alex was a down to earth young man ,who always stood for what is right.
-Hon Ashford Kairiba
April 9, 2021
April 9, 2021
We miss you Alex, but you remain forever in our hearts... till we meet again

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April 13, 2021
April 13, 2021
Alex volunteered at the Oregon State Capitol in 2019. He assisted with greeting guests and distributing programs at special events. Although he was only with us for a short time, his warm smile and willing spirit made a very positive impression. He was well-liked by all the staff and volunteers he came in contact with and will be deeply missed.
- Capitol Visitor Services Volunteers
April 11, 2021
April 11, 2021
I can't believe you left bro.Am shocked by this news.I remember our good memories at St Pius x seminary back in high school.The time we spent together as classmates was one of my best bro.I loved the way you danced reggae music during variety shows.I remember you used to sit just infront of me during our final year.Wherever you are,May God rest your soul in internal peace.May your Family get comfort forever bro.AMEN
April 11, 2021
April 11, 2021
I knew Alex even since I hadn't met him in person. He had waited for years for his wife to come home after working in Africa so they could be together and raised their own family. I was there on their special day and I couldn't be happier for my dear friend since she married to the best man of her life. The way he took care of his son would show how much love was there and how much determination he would carry on to work and support his beloved family. He talked about a dream house he would get for their family while they were living in an apartment, and he did achieve that dream in a short time. When we visited, he hold my youngest baby girl who was just 3 month old or so, just like as if she was his little girl. Then we were told that his wife was pregnant with a girl. I could see how delightful he was when they shared that big news. I always saw him smile whenever we met. He called his wife "babe" and he was a sweet man. Just like other men, he loved basketball and would not care about the other's conversations when the game was on. He will forever live in our memories, good memories.
His Life
April 9, 2021
"The soul that is within me no man can degrade." Frederick Douglass

This was one of Alex's last favorite inspirational quotes while he was fighting his battle with mental illness. Before his illness took control of his life, he was a loving human being, great grandson, grandson, son, brother, nephew, husband, and his most proud title - daddy.  

Always with a smile on and caring spirit, he was there for everyone to the best of his ability. Life was not always just; yet, he maintained his optimism and humanity until the end. The people who interacted last with him can attest to this. 

We continue to move forward with him always in our heart - a reminder to be kinder to each other and also as important, to take care of ourselves, so that we can add on to his legacy. 

https://vimeo.com/359916360

https://kpsu.org/learning-to-grow/alex-kibara-psu-health-sciences-student-and-immigrant-from-meru-kenya-a-special-night-of-swahili-music-and-african-culture/

https://issuu.com/cwecenter/docs/career_success_stories_2015

https://www.facebook.com/watch/live/?v=155548795883623&ref=watch_permalink




Recent stories

8/21/22

August 22, 2022
just another 'normal' day of the year - no occasion or anything special. we were just having breakfast when T. said she wanted to go see daddy. Since we were talking about other daddies, we asked which daddy did she mean. she said "daddy Alex". 

so we went to the garden, picked up some sunflowers and went to 'see' daddy. E. always loves to place flowers in the vase for daddy. he asked, again, if we can dig up the dirt so we can see daddy since mommy told him that daddy's no-longer-working-body is down there. he'd ask a few more times. he'd say that daddy is playing hide and seek and we should go find him. 

mommy had to remind him that daddy died, that he can't come back anymore, his body doesn't work, and he can't come... 

he wasn't having it this time. he continued to say that he wanted daddy to be here and just started crying and aching for his daddy. it was the longest 30' of a parent's life. the feeling of helplessness and wondering if there is any purpose or reason for this like people like to say.

he's 4.5 years old now. he was 2 when daddy passed. most of the memories are really stories told by mommy but mommy can be wrong. children do indeed remember beyond the capacity to recall them memories vividly. 

just another day in the moving-forward-in-grief journey,

Father’s Day 2022

June 19, 2022
3 years ago we spent Father’s Day in the psych ward - the beginning - or maybe the ending - of the downfall of your mental illness leading to your death 10 months later… :( 
You were so optimistic then. It was your second Father’s Day with us and your last. You told me to go home to get some rest (I was pregnant with our second then) and that I shouldn’t worry because you would be okay. 
I wanted to believe you. I did believe you. I had to. Things were good for two weeks after you got discharged. And then everything went dark after that. 
I wonder if you see us from wherever you are. I wonder if you see the kids growing. 
April 11, 2022
I saw your babies about a week ago. Your son is a spitting image of you. He reminded so much of you that it was a happy and also a sad moment. Happy because through your babies, your spirit is still here with us, sad because physically they won't get to experience your presence growing up. 
No worries tho, they're well taking care of.  Tram has stayed strong for them and they are adjusting well.  They're happy kids full of joy just like you. 
We all miss you. You're gone but forever with us❤❤❤

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