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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Alexander (A.J.) VanDuren. We will remember him forever. I hope all his friends will write on this site and share things you did with Alex and tell stories of times u had with Alex please help the family keep Alexs memories alive Thank you Alexs Nana.  To anyone with any pictures of alex please post them so we can share them also please
March 31
March 31
Happy Easter son I miss you so much , but honey it won't b long and I'll b with you again . It's so hard here now and everything is getting so much harder . Please make sure Kayla is ok and you stay by her side I know you already r but this way I've told you just in case I love you son more than you'll ever know .
January 20
January 20
Hi son I sure miss u and Kayla so.much you'll forever b my hero Alex I love you so much and really want to b there with the 2 of you I know theres things to still b done here but it's getting harder everyday I love you son see you soon nana
December 23, 2023
December 23, 2023
Hi baby I hope you are watching Kayla she's probably scared Alex will be there for her okay I love you and Merry Christmas I'll talk to you in a little couple days okay I love you love Nana
November 30, 2023
November 30, 2023
This is for A. Barlow thank you so much for always thinking of Alex he was a great kid and it really makes me so happy you continue to love him sometimes I feel like your the only one that really cared about him everyone else seems to forget him already. Thank you again you wasn't only a friend you was really his family I love you
November 30, 2023
November 30, 2023
Hi son I love you so much I guess you and Kayla are dancing in heaven I bet you was so surprised to see her she was killed in an auto accident on the 29th of October. Aunt Cindy is so torn up that being her only girl it was devastating and she died being trapped in the car please watch over her and take care of her I love you so much son doesn't seem like 3 years is already past us. But i go see district attorney on Monday about juliañ and it looks like just maybe they got him now for you I'm not sure but he's wanting to talk so something is up I'll keep u posted I love you son forever with me every step of the way. Love u nana
November 30, 2023
November 30, 2023
Damn cousin it’s been 3 years already since you left us. I love and miss you, today must be hard for everyone but your not forgotten. I hate that you got snaked and nobody did nun but you’ll get justice soon, today is all about you
November 16, 2023
November 16, 2023
Ally rat hold kayla tight and give her a kiss from me. I love you both so much. I know that she is with you, but don't flight hug each other and watch over us. Please both of you come to my dreams
October 24, 2023
October 24, 2023
Alex I miss you so very much . At doctor's office now since you've been gone I have been so sick and I mean health wise I now have diabetes and high blood pressure and had 2 strokes really everything has gone wrong with me . Well they r calling me I love u
October 23, 2023
October 23, 2023
Alex I miss you more than ever and I just wish you were still here but soon we'll be together son I love you so so much and miss you also it's going to be 3 years and still nothing's been done but God will get justice one way or another I love you
October 10, 2023
October 10, 2023
Thank everyone for keeping Alex memory's alive. He is missed so very much they really need to do something with this fool that did this to him . 
September 28, 2023
September 28, 2023
Today is my My Son's birthday R.I.P. how I'm feeling is something to imagine people you don't want to know. I love and miss my son and I'm f***** up cuz of what happened but God I got you it's good!!!! Your time is COMING BELIEVE THAT I PROMISE YOU THAT ON GOD JUST KEEPING IT
September 28, 2023
September 28, 2023
Happy birthday son I love you and I miss you so much I just left the cemetery and your mom was there but she didn't talk to us she has usual but anyway I love you so much and happy 20th birthday I would just wish you were here to celebrate it with us I love you baby Nana
September 28, 2023
September 28, 2023
Happy heavenly birthday lil cousin!! Your 20 now wish you was here to celebrate LLAJ I love you
September 28, 2023
September 28, 2023
Man cousin, happy birthday man I miss you so much I wish we can go back to days where we would spend time together at the pool or just hanging at Auntie‘s man or us just play fighting, and you end up giving me bruises again like I would do anything to have that day back. I miss those days I wish you could just come back. Life is just so unfair, but I hope that you are turning up up there even though you’re supposed to be with us and don’t ever think that I don’t stop thinking about you because I think about you every damn day but I love you cousin
September 9, 2023
September 9, 2023
It’s your birthday month so I been thinking about you a lot lately. I love and miss you cousin
September 8, 2023
September 8, 2023
Man oh man uzzin I got my first apartment and I was setting up your pictures up and omg I just started balling my eyes out man I miss you so fucking much mann it suck so much that your gone , and I hope you’re proud of me and I hope you know that I love you
September 7, 2023
September 7, 2023
Alex I'm getting ready me and Nicky to come see you and bring some stuff out there to you . Man son this is so hard stil I catch myself calling everyone Alex I won't ever get over any of this . Dude is in jail again and I've emailed detective so we will see. I love you son see you in a little bit
September 1, 2023
September 1, 2023
Went out to the cemetery yesterday and NO ONE has been there. I guess time has passed and everyone has forgotten you and that's what hurts so much even your mom. But one thing for sure I haven't and never will. Also dude is in custody again I just wish they would charge him I just no I'm going to keep pushing it so just know that.its getting hard for me to get places the doctor took my license due to I'm blind now due to diabetes. I wish u was here I love and miss u love nana
May 11, 2023
May 11, 2023
Alex I love you so much I miss you so much it just is really taking a toll on me I just want you to know baby that you're probably won't be long and I'll be with you but I just want you to know I love you so much I never forgot you I just been so busy I love you baby You're always be my boy
March 6, 2023
March 6, 2023
Son well it's almost St.Patricks day and I'm missing you so much lately. I BROKE off my relationship with Irish he's nothing like we all thought. but gm is fine I here sam is having a baby. And as for your case well nothing has happened not even questioned the bastards. But don't worry God will get justice . I love you son k Nana
February 8, 2023
February 8, 2023
I love you Alex and really miss you so much. I just wish Billy and your mom would of listened that night before and came and picked you up. But everyone thought I was going over board on my thoughts. I'm at work right now but I'll write more later
January 3, 2023
January 3, 2023
Happy New Years Alex. We all miss you so much, I pray you get justice soon
December 30, 2022
December 30, 2022
To my dearest grandson Alex I love you so much it's been 2 years that you've been gone from us and it looks like the police r just letting this go well that's something I can't do you were my life and it's not easier as a matter of fact it's harder but I promise it won't be another year son Nana has lived her life and I promise u the people responsible r going to feel every minute of you I love you alex
December 24, 2022
December 24, 2022
Merry Christmas Alex Nana has to go to work but I'll write you in the morning son. Love Nana 2022
December 14, 2022
December 14, 2022
Hi my love I miss u so very much. Not a day goes bye that I don't think of you. It seems life sure goes on for everyone. Sometimes it really angers me. Mainly all that was involved with your murder but one thing for sure GOD knows the truth and he will get justice for your murder. ok son Christmas is almost here and I know that was your favorite time of year so I try to do things in remembrance of you I love u son forever until I'm with u. Love nana
December 12, 2022
December 12, 2022
Alexi miss u so much. I'm going to go to cemetery today it's really hard for me to go there lately because this isn't right. I love you Alex and I'll write more later k your nana
November 30, 2022
November 30, 2022
Hi baby well today it's been 2 years since u left us. One of the very worst days of my life. Since then I've been sick and unable to handle life. But one day we will b together again. 
Do u remember my friend Irish well he got out and I'm with him now ,hes really good to me you would be proud and now you don't have to defend me like u used to do. Anyways son I just want you to know your forever on my mind and in my heart. I love u Alex . Love Nana
November 11, 2022
November 11, 2022
Alex I have really became so ill lately first diabetes and now so much more my heart  and a mass in my breast. High blood pressure and now my right eye I'll be blind in due to lens detached from Renta anyways son I'll b joining u soon,. I love you son nana will see you again really soon
October 1, 2022
October 1, 2022
Alex my hero . well do u feel older i sure hope your doing good and you reeq and jj and everyonel else r together . as of for nana ive been and am very sick. I sure ive had this for awhile and just found it out. Well its time for me to get back on the cops over your case so please help all u can
September 29, 2022
September 29, 2022
Hey Alex, I thought about you all day on your birthday yesterday, I love you baby boy you 19 now :)
September 28, 2022
September 28, 2022
Happy 19th Birthday baby boy. I miss you so much, I hope you heard us today at your grave. I can't believe you would be 19 today. You dance up in that sky baby boy show the other angels up there with you got moves, love you so much♥️♥️♥️♥️
September 10, 2022
September 10, 2022
Alex its been almost 19 years ago u made me the happiest grandparent in the world the day u came into this world and almost 2 years ago when you left me it was the saddest day of my life . i want you back so bad knowing that's impossible but i still want you. I love and miss you so very much Alex. Ive been getting sick with diabetes and its not controled and its not even important and i know ive got other grandkids so i need to get better for them so until i get to u you and reeq. Be there for each other k. Nana loves u.
August 31, 2022
August 31, 2022
Damn Alex I wish you was here man it ain’t right you had to leave so soon. I’m sorry you didn’t have real friends around you I love you cousin
August 2, 2022
August 2, 2022
mann cousin, i wish this was all a dream still.. i wish shit was so different between us and it kicks my ass everyday. no matter what you are always on my mind and i miss you so fucking much
July 31, 2022
July 31, 2022
Alex i love and miss u so very much....... The pain i have is indescribable and hurts so deep.. I need u so badly. That dude JUJU is in county jail for some other stuff and im going to visit him i need to know why he did this and see who he says was all involved . he can talk to me and maybe get man slaughter or he can just play stupid and it b murder but that all depends on him. Anyways ill let u know k i love you always and forever..until were together again.nana
July 21, 2022
July 21, 2022
I miss you so much Ally rat. Love you to the moon and back forever. Visit me in my dreams baby boy ♥️
July 5, 2022
July 5, 2022
Happy 4th of July son i sure miss you badly today was a day you liked alot. We always had fireworks with cindy and jeff and kids. I havent went the last couple years its really not the same without u. Jacob and Lee is moving to Tennessee Lee got a transfer with his job . now hes going to b really close to Brandon so that will b a good thing. I wish i would of sold this house and got the hell outa here but i didnt so i feel stuck here now like i will b leaving u behind. But we will see . i love u sooooo much .  love nana
July 4, 2022
July 4, 2022
Well just wanted u to know u r officially a uncle Brandon and Lena had there daughter this morning . i know you would b so happy for him. Theres so much that your missing out on but for sure all the pieces of crap u were with arent even trying to get justice for u . But look Degunna well hes dead got killed in Sacramento but no loose he got what he had coming. Well son i really just wanted you to know about Brandons baby ok son i love u so much
June 18, 2022
June 18, 2022
I haven't wrote you in a minute but that doesn't mean I forget about you. The love I have for you is unconditional and I wish you were here to see all the accomplishments I have made so far in life. It's forever your world, we just living in baby boy. My guardian angel please keep watching over me . 
June 1, 2022
June 1, 2022
Hi Alex I just wanted to say I love you and I really miss you I have nothing for what's going on still with your case as I can say is they finally put you in Crime Stoppers and God I miss you so much sun it seems like it's been forever and I can't even do anything without you I'd really going downhill a lot but I'm trying to hang on for as long as I can for my other grandkids but is so hard without you I just want you to know I love you so much okay I'll write you more it later son and as for Sam he left the state and his grandma lori blocked me. So it just leads people to believe the story gets bigger and more people were involved than they say ok babe ill talk to u later
May 12, 2022
May 12, 2022
Alex I just wanted to let you know that they listed you finally in the Crime Stoppers and let you know that Sam got married and he's away from here he moved away I just want to let you know I love you so much I miss you so much
April 16, 2022
April 16, 2022
Alex you know ive always felt you gave 100% to yours and sam relationship as cousins where he maybe gave 50% well its really not looking good now that sam got shot and now being relocated to texas and c hanging identy and not even telling nothing on you well ? Its looks like he has a part of u and the shooting maybe he was forced to shoot u ? Let me know please son please6. I love u and wont stop until someone if in custody for all this. Love nana
April 14, 2022
April 14, 2022
Alex it seems like forever i havent been able to hear you or see your smile.. Man this has been the hardest 1 and half ive ever had to go through and still not even sure how much more i can even take. You were and still are my everything. Brandon is getting ready to have his first baby and im so happy 4 him but this is also something ill never get to see with you is your child because there wont b one. Thats another reason something has to happen man alex you really missed out on so much all becauae of a week ass punk .. The law might not ever get justice but GOD will. I love u son
April 8, 2022
April 8, 2022
Hi son just needed to say i love you and everyday seems to get harder without you until were together again Alex .
February 9, 2022
February 9, 2022
Alex just wanted you to know your going to b a uncle Brandon is having a baby girl. I only wish you was here to meet her. But i know youll watch over your niece since you was the protector of the family. Alex this has went on way to long with no arrests being made please help us alex. I live and miss u so much
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March 31
March 31
Happy Easter son I miss you so much , but honey it won't b long and I'll b with you again . It's so hard here now and everything is getting so much harder . Please make sure Kayla is ok and you stay by her side I know you already r but this way I've told you just in case I love you son more than you'll ever know .
January 20
January 20
Hi son I sure miss u and Kayla so.much you'll forever b my hero Alex I love you so much and really want to b there with the 2 of you I know theres things to still b done here but it's getting harder everyday I love you son see you soon nana
December 23, 2023
December 23, 2023
Hi baby I hope you are watching Kayla she's probably scared Alex will be there for her okay I love you and Merry Christmas I'll talk to you in a little couple days okay I love you love Nana
His Life
January 8, 2021
UNTIL WERE TOGETHER AGAIN
we think about you always
We talk about u still you have 
You have never been forgotten
And never will we hold you close 
Within our hearts and there you will
Remain to walk and guide us through
Our lives. Until we meet again . i 
Love you ALEX .


Alex was born 09/28/2003. Alex was one of 6 children.  All of Alexs life he always smiled and appeared to be happy. Alex was a busy boy that loved his family so much and he was so full of life. Growing up Alex was always a little guy
  At the the age of 5 he was on a swim team and he took first place in all his races and was the Champion of the breast stroke races.
  He also was a boy that could watch someone fix or do anything and he by the age of 8 was fixing my car changing brakes tires my starter radiators .  he soon was cutting my trees down and doing mantinence on my house.  He could fix anything and do anything , most of the things i would need done he learned from his uncle spookie .  Alex loved spookie so much he did everything his uncle would do.

  At 15 is when he grew overnight from 4 To almost 6ft.  And thats when he started calling his brother Brandon his little brother. So thats when he became the big little brother.  Alex loved his brothers so much he was waiting for his big little bro to get to come home on leave.
  Alex loved his aunt Cindy when he would b mad at me he would always call aunt cindy to go stay with her. Alex was a person so full of life never really down or depressed.  Alex was my everything and a very spoiled kid there was NOTHING he asked for that he didnt get.  He loved his family so much and his cousins he always looked out for all of them.
And if he didnt see his aunt kim everyday he would call her to make sure she was coming to smoke thats something he had to do everyday.
December 23, 2021
Christmas used to b everything to u Alex but when u was little Rudolph the Red Nose Raindeer was your favorite show youd watch it over and over you really wore it out ...... Well uncle vince made you your very own Rudolph and we have it out with you now.  Hope it brings good memories to u son.......This is so hard without u and i try to make it better but its hard.  I love u so very much i hope you and Reeq and JJ have a wonderful Christmas i know your all together and Ant.dog too But sorry Ant dog his brothers are all no good .  i just wish u could have saw the bad in that chapo dude hes the worst!!!! I will b with you son soon i can just feel it .     love nana
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Alexs smile

August 27, 2022

Alex had the most beautiful smile .  and no matter what he was going through he never stopped smiling.  This has been the hardest thing to accept which i will never accept but i do have to live with it.  That day plays over and over in my mind daily i just wish we could turn back time and skip that day but we cant do that besides thats selfish of me to want him here with myself because hes in a much better place where he can really smile the difference is its a real smile now no longer a smile to make everyone believe things were ok.I love you alex and just no you were my life then and still are Nana loves you.

Alexs friends

March 9, 2022
Alex was a very faithful person and loyal to his friends I always have told him that the friends don't think of him as he doesn't them and every day it just shows us every single day that he didn't really have any friends his friends were all just users and I don't know but they weren't his friends we loved Alex so very much and we miss him so very much I just wish you would have realized that he didn't have any friends not a one I love you so much son I miss you even more till we see each other again I love you Grandma
November 12, 2021
STOP GUNS NO ONE IS EVEN A LITTLE BIT RESPONSIBLE TO HAVE ONE. SAVE LIVES STOP GUNS!!!!!!

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