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Born on October 17, 1951 in Duncan, Oklahoma, United States
Passed away on April 6, 2015 in Liberty, Missouri, United States
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Alfred Barham, 63 years old, born on October 17, 1951, and passed away on April 6, 2015. We will remember him forever.
We both always had trouble remembering each other's birthdays but now I get a reminder from this site every year on yours. For some reason I feel that you would find that pretty funny.
This.week we will return you to your daughter in the Springfield national cemetary. I find myself wanting to call you about a new show I saw and you call me to talk a bought your kids and grand kids, especially the grand kids. I miss our talks. I guess our time us come. I will talk to the kids and grand kids about their father and grandfather you were so proud of. I miss you so much. Love kay
Ray I am so sorry that our families did not live closer so that Glenn and Charlie did not get to know you and Kay better. I know that Kay and your children will miss so much. They now will be comforted in knowing that you are in the arms of the one who loved you the most, Jesus Christ.
Ray I am sorry that J B and I we did not ever live close enough for you and Kay and my family to become closer. I was so touched when you and Kay came to the Memorial Service for J B. I know Kay and your children will miss you so much. You are now in the arms of the Most Loving One of all, Jesus Christ.
I was saddened to learn of Ray's passing. He and I shared a special bond through law enforcement - my career being in Texas. Over the last year or so, I thought of Ray often and wondered what was happening in his life. I am truly saddened that I didn't make the effort to track him down. Ray, you're in a better place and I know that God's grace will surround you. See you on the other side....
Ray I remember 28 years ago when I started my PM shift at CPD fresh off break-in. I was ready to turn south on Troost from Linwood to respond on a call with another officer I did not know. I was nervous and overly cautious just hopeing to find the address. All the sudden my vehicle was bumped in the rear. My heart skipped a beat because I thought I was in a vehicular on my first night by myself. When I looked in the rear view mirror who I saw was Ray. He was laughing his head off. I still remember it like it was yesterday. He just told me that my car was not hurt and let's make the call "Boot". That started Ray and my friendship. We worked on and off duty together. You will be missed brother. See you again someday.
I feel sad that your life ended so soon. I am thankful that you, Kay and I were reunited after all those years apart and were able to enjoy a few visits. You will be missed!
I had the privilege to work with you. You taught me so much about being a good Cop. You will be missed. Thanks for the great times and always making the job fun. God bless you and may God surround you in his loving arms as he welcomes you to heaven.
Ray was the love of my life for many years. We laid that aside but when you share a child, the flame never truly dies. He gave me the greatest gift of all, our son, Jimmy. We also shared the loss of our little baby girl. So his loss is heart felt and sad and I will always cherish the gifts he gave me. His memory stays alive in Jim. So thank you Ray for spending some of your life with me.
I am so glad that I decided to pick up the phone and call you 14 years ago. I only wish we could have had more time dad as there was so much more of my life I wanted to share with you. I love you and will miss having you back in my life more than you could have ever imagined.
I cannot believe we are parted. My heart breaks and I miss you so much. We always joked about this time in our life as though we could alter our lives once again. You are my Big Brother and I love you so.