Dear Tony, Charles, Paul and Peter,
We were so blessed to have known Alma for a very long time and to have shared many events together at all the various stages of our lives.
Jim and I first knew Howie Ingersoll at Cornell. He had been dating a sorority sister of mine and they had parted ways and he kept “hanging around the house” where everyone knew him. I too was “hanging around the house” because Jim had graduated and we were committed to each other. I was “on duty” at the telephone of the sorority on Friday and Saturday evenings. Howie and I did a lot of talking and spent a lot of time together, always as good friends. Later I came to regard Howie as the brother which I never had.
We reconnected at a Reunion at Cornell and discovered that he and Alma lived nearby in Wayne. We were in Media and quickly began to bring our young families together;I think the first time we stayed at Bohemia was when Dave was 1 1/2 yrs. old, 1958. I think we have pictures of Tony and Dave running around on the uneven ground. I remember your big house in Wayne with your two aunts living on the third floor. Very briefly Alma and I even did some design work, remodeling plans for people. We even entered a GE kitchen design contest!
In 1964, we moved to Menlo Park CA and that’s where we were when we learned of Howie’s sudden death. Jim was making monthly visits to Scott Paper Co. in Philadelphia at the time. Seems very strange now, but we did not fly freely, nor did we talk endlessly on the telephone in those days. In our extreme despair after Howie’s death,Alma and I wrote very long letters back and forth for a long time. (I returned the letters she wrote to me recently in Estes Park). It was the first young death in our lives and shockingly sad for us too.
Jim saw Alma each month for the next year on his visits to Philadelphia and and said I’d hardly recognize her, she was so thin. She set a date to visit us (likely May) and I saw her come down the ramp in the airport on the arm of a man whom she introduced to me. They kissed as they part and she said……… ”Well, I WAS going to wait until later tonight to tell you that you’ve just met the man I’m going to marry”………Frank Hix. They were married in late June I think!And the rest is history!
We were lucky to continue our close relationship and got to know Frank well and loved him also. Through the various moves for GE, almost to Scottsdale AZ and Syracuse NY and Westport CT (we visited there too) and our move back to Rosemont in 1967 and then to London 1971-1976 we stayed in touch. We probably met at Bohemia several times. In London Frank and Alma visited us, more than once. We shake our heads now in wonder (you two must have been 15 and 16?) but Tony joined Dave and traveled throughout Europe by Eur-Rail ending up in Monaco w/Prince Albert, for Stephanie’s 17th birthday as I recall. Wow!!Quite an adventure.
At some point Alma preceded Frank in moving to Estes Park to run the insurance business and we visited them there, I think, soon after we returned to the US in 1976. At some time we sailed in the Caribbean several years together, bareboat out of Honduras (w/the Raymonds and Kilbournes). And then we investigated the western part of US together, first adding Joanne and Ken Tunnell from Cornell, and then Lynn and Dean McEwen tour traveling group. As best as we can reconstruct these decades the travels were: Durango and the four corners area w/the railroad ride in 1997 and Chaco Canyon;we were in Mendocino, north of San Francisco in September 2001 (we continued w/our travel plans once we learned that all family members were okay) Fort Ross, Calistoga, Lake Tahoe, Sacramento;Mississippi steamboat Memphis to New Orleans where the MacEwens had lived (we had extra historical tours with Lynn) in 2003;the Columbia River for Lewis and Clark anniversary trip in 2005;Portland, Maine and St. Lawrence River to Quebec w/Taulk Tours in 2007;Southern Oregon, Ashland, Crater Lake, and the coast in 2010;Nova Scotia and Halifax in 2012. The list is not totally accurate but the trips were really wonderful!
During these years, with the Hixes in Estes Park and the Stockers in Menlo Park CA, we joined Alma and Frank on Stanley Steamer Rallies twice, out of McCall, Idaho, and out of San Luis Obispo, CA. Jim was in charge of “finding water” along the highway for these five day adventures. Frank’s cars were considered “the best”. We never had any problems at all!He was an expert and the most respected leader of the Stanley owners. We also joined them one year at Monterey CA where he had been asked to exhibit one of his steamers. As I recall they dressed in their period clothes, as we knew they did in Estes in their historical tours in the 12 passenger red steamer!!
We had many wonderful times with these dear friends. Whenever we reunited, we never missed a beat, it was old times as if we’d been together always. We loved them Alma and Frank dearly, such wonderful lifelong friends and are lucky to have so many lovely memories.
Pat and Jim Stocker
November 2019