ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of  ANNA BALMER, 88, born on November 7, 1927 and passed away on May 26, 2016. She was a greatly-loved mother, grandmother, greatgrandmother, relation and friend. We - her family and friends - will remember her forever for her boundless love, kindness and wisdom.

+ REQUIEM MASS +

FRIDAY 10 JUNE AT 10.00

AT ST JOHN THE BAPTIST CATHOLIC CHAPEL,

2 BRISTOL ROAD, KEMP TOWN, BRIGHTON, EAST SUSSEX 

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Posted by John Balmer on June 6, 2016
THE ARGUS NEWSPAPER ANNOUNCEMENT PUBLISHED ON 7th June, 2016

Anna Balmer (Née Sapio)

BALMER ANNA Passed away suddenly on Thursday 26th May, aged 88. Beloved mother of Maria-Rosaria, Edmund, Anthony, Richard and John. Requiem Mass at 10:00 am Friday 10th June at St John the Baptist Chapel, 2 Bristol Road, Kemp Town, Brighton, BN2 1AP. Flowers to Christopher Stringer Funeral Director, 67 High Street, Rottingdean, Brighton, BN2 7HE. Tel: 01273 306000. Online tributes see: muchloved.com

Published in The Argus
Posted by John Balmer on June 4, 2016
DONATIONS IN MEMORY OF ANNA BALMER FOR CANCER RESEARCH UK SHOULD BE SENT TO THE FOLLOWING WEB PAGE
http://donateinmemory.cancerresearchuk.org/0007053
Posted by John Balmer on May 30, 2016
Filled with the utmost grief at your sudden death. So hard to come to terms with your passing. You asked us not to cry when you died but you gave us the gift of tears. You gave so much love to your family: your family was your life. So very sad you were often terribly lonely. Breaks my heart. You were the very best of mothers; one of a kind and how lucky to have an Italian mother such as you. I will always cherish my Italian inheritance; of how to live, give love and also cry. Your love is etched on my heart and in my prayers: I know we will continue to prayer for each other. Keep an eye on us mum. Pain is the price we pay for love and the pain is great but then your love for us was too-"Ti voglio bene"

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Posted by John Balmer on June 6, 2016
THE ARGUS NEWSPAPER ANNOUNCEMENT PUBLISHED ON 7th June, 2016

Anna Balmer (Née Sapio)

BALMER ANNA Passed away suddenly on Thursday 26th May, aged 88. Beloved mother of Maria-Rosaria, Edmund, Anthony, Richard and John. Requiem Mass at 10:00 am Friday 10th June at St John the Baptist Chapel, 2 Bristol Road, Kemp Town, Brighton, BN2 1AP. Flowers to Christopher Stringer Funeral Director, 67 High Street, Rottingdean, Brighton, BN2 7HE. Tel: 01273 306000. Online tributes see: muchloved.com

Published in The Argus
Posted by John Balmer on June 4, 2016
DONATIONS IN MEMORY OF ANNA BALMER FOR CANCER RESEARCH UK SHOULD BE SENT TO THE FOLLOWING WEB PAGE
http://donateinmemory.cancerresearchuk.org/0007053
Posted by John Balmer on May 30, 2016
Filled with the utmost grief at your sudden death. So hard to come to terms with your passing. You asked us not to cry when you died but you gave us the gift of tears. You gave so much love to your family: your family was your life. So very sad you were often terribly lonely. Breaks my heart. You were the very best of mothers; one of a kind and how lucky to have an Italian mother such as you. I will always cherish my Italian inheritance; of how to live, give love and also cry. Your love is etched on my heart and in my prayers: I know we will continue to prayer for each other. Keep an eye on us mum. Pain is the price we pay for love and the pain is great but then your love for us was too-"Ti voglio bene"
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Shared by John Balmer on May 27, 2016

My parents fell in love in Naples during the war years. Mum was stunningly beautiful and Dad was rather handsome. When my father, Wifrid, proposed marriage to my mother, he sought the permission of her mother (my granfather-Antonio Sapio-had died a few years earlier). Although my gradmother was very fond of Dad, she was very protective of my mother and wanted to be certain of the strength of my father's love for Mum. Ann- my mother-was her much-loved youngest child of my grandmother and was probably here favourite daughter: She used to call mum O sole mio after the song (yu are mu sunshine).  So she agreed to the mararring but insisted that Dad go back to England and wait a year. So he did and they kepin contact by letter. A year latter he returned and my grandmother agreed.  A probable to overcome was the wedding. My grandmother insisted that the marriage ceremony should be a Nuptial Mass (the norm for us catholics). As an anglican, my father decided to become a catholic (difficult because his father was a devout Anglican and a member of the Church of England and diocesan synod). Even though Dad was recieved into the catholic church the local parish priest refused to marry them (he did not trust the intentions of "this Englishman").  Mum was resolute all the same and sought advice from a senior cleric of the Metropolitan Diocese of Naples who suggested that the clergy at the Basilica of Our Lady of the Rosary (Maria Rosario)  in Pompeii were more intellectual and open to the marriage. They were. Another problem! The basilica did not have any gaps for a nuptial mass, that is, with the exception of Friday October 17th (a date analogous to the English to Friday 13th). So this date was taken and on this date on Friday, October 17th, 1946 mum and darried were married during a sung latin mass at the basilica where the children of the local orphanage sang. These were the war post war years and things were tough. The wedding dress was given by a dear friend of mum's: a sad story. (Whilst her friend married in this dress her husband was arrested by the Nazis immediately after the wedding as was never seen again.) There was no formal photography but a former soldier friend of Dad's saw Dad at the Basilica, said well dad chap and fortunately took a photo of Mum and Dad: the only photo of the wedding which we cheerish. Confetti (italian wedding sweets) were given to family and friends and the wedding breakfast consisted of pasta fagioli; a simple classic dish of pasta and beans!  The day after the wedding my parents left for their new life in England by train-taking a very short honeymoon in Rome.  My Italian grandmother who so loved her youngest daughter only saw Mum once again when Mum returned a few years latter with her first born and only daughter Maria Rosaria (named after the basilica where they were married) which brought great joy to my grandmother. Shortly afterwards my grandmother discovered she had cancer and instructed her family not to tell my mother to avoid her grief. Mum found out about her mother's death by letter some 3 weeks after her death and she was heartbroken.  Mum visited the resting place of her mother, father at the Sapio mausoleum in San Giorgio a Cremano. On the silver jubilee of their wedding mother's sister Zia Pia and Zio Raphael gave - as is custom in italy- new wedding rings. On their Ruby Anniversary, mum and dad renewed their wedding vows during a votive mass of Our Lady of the Rosary at St John the Baptist Church, Kemp Tow, Brighton. Their golden anniversary was a far sober afair since Dad was in hospital with cancer. In 2004 Mum, her eldest daughter Maria and youngest son John visited the Basilica of Mario Rosaria in Pompeii where the archivest brought out the wedding register with mum and dad's signature. They also visited the family mausoluem.