ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of Anthony Joseph, 84 years old, born on October 17, 1936, and passed away on May 26, 2021. We will remember him forever.

(There is a slideshow, with music, to watch under the Gallery link at the top left)
Posted by Celia Brewer on June 19, 2021
Tony Joseph was my friend, family, role model, and mentor. I became best friends with his daughter Jennifer in 6th grade when the family moved to Del Mar. I was enchanted by Tony's collections. He had colorful antique Disney toys, political buttons, and children’s books. I had never seen anything like it. The Joseph family once kindly invited me to join them on a vacation in Yosemite. Tony knew the park like a best friend. Not only did we see deer and bears, he showed us secret waterfalls and trails. I was hooked. For many years, Tony was part of my beach life with his boogie board at 19th Street, always giving a salutary wave on his way into or out of the water. Tony’s love of the natural environment showed throughout his life and that impressed me. Tony also included me with his family one Easter for my first fancy brunch at Islandia where we had sherbet in between courses to clear our palette. I was terrified of committing a dining faux pas. It should be plain by now that I did not have the ability to reciprocate these invitations, yet Tony and his family continued to include me and those experiences changed my world. I will always remember the night Tony came home after being appointed to the San Diego Superior Court bench, becoming the Honorable Anthony C. Joseph. I bowled him over with an overenthusiastic hug—I was so proud of him. Years later, when I was a young lawyer, Tony gave me suggestions and advice. I will never forget his belly laugh and eye-crinkled smile during lunch at Dobson's where I whispered to him what I thought was a terrible secret: I told him that some lawyers lie. My, but he was entertained by my naïveté! As a lawyer, I also became familiar with his long term support for Lawyers Club, a professional organization dedicated to advancing the status of women in the law and society. Tony walked his talk. I also read some of his legal opinions and realized how fortunate I was to know and love such an intelligent and careful judge, someone with an innate sense of justice and fairness driving his interpretations and dedication to the law. It was a loss for all of us when he stepped down from the bench. In recent years, I occasionally saw Tony at UCSD’s Canyonview pool and I know he was still actively working for justice, seeking review of whether a racist's name should sit on a law school building. I regret I did not see him more. Luckily, his family allowed me some time with him at the end, so I could thank him for all of the ways he influenced my personal and professional life. I am forever grateful to him simply for being such a good and true man, and for being kind to me in ways that changed my perspectives. Tony will be forever missed. He and his family have all my love, always.
Posted by Pamela Reynolds on June 7, 2021
Hi Jazzy, Jennifer, and Joyce- this is a wonderful site to celebrate a wonderful life. I have enjoyed all the photos of Jazzy growing up with the people she loves. I wish you all strong memories-

XO- Pam Reynolds
Posted by Pat Zaharopoulos on June 7, 2021
I met Tony in 1974 when I was hired as a deputy in the criminal law division. He was a gentleman. His intelligence, excellent work, and gentle manner set him apart, even in an office of very smart, accomplished people.

It was an honor to know Tony and a pleasure to be in his company. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your good memories of Tony bring you comfort now and joy in the future.  May his memory be eternal.
                                Pat Zaharopoulos
               
Posted by Chris Ambeba on June 7, 2021
Tony,
It was a pleasure and an honor helping take care of you during your last days. I was inspired by your resilience and determination, even in the most difficult of times. Thank you for your kindness and friendship. I am grateful to have known you and for having had an opportunity to work with you. Rest in peace, my friend.
Posted by Steve Costa on June 7, 2021
My fondest memories of Tony will always revolve around water. I remember that first moment when I first met him walking through the garage and seeing the surfboards on the rafters. Just a few hours later we were on the beach at Del Mar and I noticed a certain glow to his face from his being near and showing me that water for the first time. Witnessing Tony in the water, whether swimming in La Jolla Cove or to Alcatraz or across the Golden Gate or in the UC San Diego swimming pool, there was always that glow and aliveness, along with a certain focus and tenacity.

Frequently when I’m sitting on the shores of Tomales Bay I think of Tony as I witness a long distance swimmer pacing themselves and am always amazed at the strength it takes to stay in the water so long. I try to imagine what they're thinking all that time in the water. Whenever I see these swimmers in the future I will remember Tony and the vitality that water gave him and can give us all.

Besides his relationship to the water, I was touched by his deep relationship to his mother, his sister and brother, his family, and in particular the pride and joy Jazmin you gave him in recent years. I think of his appreciation and passion for so many things: looking at photographs of his ancestors, hunting for political buttons and first edition children’s books, eating vegetables and fruit from Chino’s and meals at nice restaurants, talking politics, going to the theater. He truly enjoyed his life. He didn’t even get mad at Kate, his sister and I when we “lost” him after he’d swum from one side of the Golden Gate Bridge to the other where he was alone and lost in his wetsuit without his glasses, shoes, or a wallet. And I’ll always remember his grace and love officiating at our wedding. 

He clearly could have had a big ego given all he accomplished in his life but he wasn’t full of himself at all. I only saw him being a “regular” person and imagined was himself wherever he was. I think Josh my son summed it up recently when he said, “Tony was such a great guy.”

I know that he struggled the last months not being able to get up and continue to swim a longer life, though I imagine it must have given him great comfort to be in the beautiful home he created with you, Joyce, surrounded by the things and people that meant so much to him.

I’m so deeply grateful that Tony was in my life

Steve Costa
Tony’s Brother-in-law
Posted by Maria Aster Cruz on June 7, 2021
I am so grateful to have met you and your family. Thank you for letting me take care of you, Tony, as your caregiver. You were cooperative and always tried your best to get better.
Your family loves you and I know that you love them so much, most especially your grand daughter Jasmine. I remember every time I told you, “Please open your eyes Tony, Jasmine loves you”, You always opened your eyes and looked at Jasmine's photo.
You will be missed and thank you for the wonderful memories.
Posted by Jennifer Joseph on June 5, 2021
Hello,
Please feel free to leave notes, memories and stories of Tony here or in the story section. Also, if you would like to add any photos, that would be wonderful... his family would love that. I think that this site will let you add in photos. If not, please let me know and I can post them up for you. We will be having a Celebration of Life for Tony in a month or two. We will post details here. Looks like late July or early August but still confirming.
Thank you, Jennifer Joseph 

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Posted by Celia Brewer on June 19, 2021
Tony Joseph was my friend, family, role model, and mentor. I became best friends with his daughter Jennifer in 6th grade when the family moved to Del Mar. I was enchanted by Tony's collections. He had colorful antique Disney toys, political buttons, and children’s books. I had never seen anything like it. The Joseph family once kindly invited me to join them on a vacation in Yosemite. Tony knew the park like a best friend. Not only did we see deer and bears, he showed us secret waterfalls and trails. I was hooked. For many years, Tony was part of my beach life with his boogie board at 19th Street, always giving a salutary wave on his way into or out of the water. Tony’s love of the natural environment showed throughout his life and that impressed me. Tony also included me with his family one Easter for my first fancy brunch at Islandia where we had sherbet in between courses to clear our palette. I was terrified of committing a dining faux pas. It should be plain by now that I did not have the ability to reciprocate these invitations, yet Tony and his family continued to include me and those experiences changed my world. I will always remember the night Tony came home after being appointed to the San Diego Superior Court bench, becoming the Honorable Anthony C. Joseph. I bowled him over with an overenthusiastic hug—I was so proud of him. Years later, when I was a young lawyer, Tony gave me suggestions and advice. I will never forget his belly laugh and eye-crinkled smile during lunch at Dobson's where I whispered to him what I thought was a terrible secret: I told him that some lawyers lie. My, but he was entertained by my naïveté! As a lawyer, I also became familiar with his long term support for Lawyers Club, a professional organization dedicated to advancing the status of women in the law and society. Tony walked his talk. I also read some of his legal opinions and realized how fortunate I was to know and love such an intelligent and careful judge, someone with an innate sense of justice and fairness driving his interpretations and dedication to the law. It was a loss for all of us when he stepped down from the bench. In recent years, I occasionally saw Tony at UCSD’s Canyonview pool and I know he was still actively working for justice, seeking review of whether a racist's name should sit on a law school building. I regret I did not see him more. Luckily, his family allowed me some time with him at the end, so I could thank him for all of the ways he influenced my personal and professional life. I am forever grateful to him simply for being such a good and true man, and for being kind to me in ways that changed my perspectives. Tony will be forever missed. He and his family have all my love, always.
Posted by Pamela Reynolds on June 7, 2021
Hi Jazzy, Jennifer, and Joyce- this is a wonderful site to celebrate a wonderful life. I have enjoyed all the photos of Jazzy growing up with the people she loves. I wish you all strong memories-

XO- Pam Reynolds
Posted by Pat Zaharopoulos on June 7, 2021
I met Tony in 1974 when I was hired as a deputy in the criminal law division. He was a gentleman. His intelligence, excellent work, and gentle manner set him apart, even in an office of very smart, accomplished people.

It was an honor to know Tony and a pleasure to be in his company. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your good memories of Tony bring you comfort now and joy in the future.  May his memory be eternal.
                                Pat Zaharopoulos
               
his Life

About Tony and some history....

The Honorable Anthony C. Joseph, known by family and friends as Tony, passed away peacefully in his sleep at home on May 27, 2021 after suffering a debilitating brain injury in a fall in September 2020.  He was 84 years old.  He is survived by his wife Joyce of 62 years, daughter Jennifer, son John, granddaughter Jazmine, and sister Kate.

Tony’s life was filled with devotion to his family and a wide variety of talents and interests, including a love of the law, environmental causes, a collector, teacher, mentor, and mediator.  

His very favorite extracurricular activity was spending time in the water, surfing and swimming in the ocean and pools. Over time he gained the title, “The Swimming Judge.”  In recent years, he swam most days with the UCSD Masters swimming program, but was still occasionally called back to the open water to experience the waves and fish life beneath him.  Over the years he swam the Alcatraz Shark fest swim numerous times, starting from Alcatraz Island and ending at Aquatic Park in San Francisco, and the Golden Gate swim.  Local swims included the La Jolla Rough Water, Oceanside Pier, Newport Beach two mile Pier to Pier, and Coronado’s Fourth of July Rough Water.  Probably his favorite swim (done twice over time, once in each direction) was being part of a relay team of six swimmers, “The Swell Guys Too,” all members of the La Jolla Swim Club, to swim across the Catalina Channel.  In 2016 they set a new swimming record for men in their 70s when they swam from the California coast to Catalina Island in 14 hours flat, breaking the previous record of 16 hours, five minutes. It was reported at the time that the team was greeted by a pod of Pacific white-sided dolphins, who took a brief break from their feeding frenzy to check out the victorious swimmers and their support vessels.  The team expects their record to stand for some years to come.

Born in San Francisco, Tony grew up in West Los Angeles.  He graduated from U.C. Santa Barbara with a bachelor’s degree in Political Science, and received his law degree at Boalt Hall at the U.C. Berkeley Law School in 1961.  After graduation, he served briefly as counsel to the California Assembly Finance and Insurance Committee in Sacramento.

In late 1962 he joined the California Attorney General’s Los Angeles office, specializing in investment fraud, anti-trust, business law and natural resource matters.  He was the first president of the California Association of Deputy Attorneys General in 1969.  In  1973  he transferred to the Attorney General’s San Diego office where he joined the Natural Resources section which, among other things, represented the California Coastal Commission and the San Diego Coast Regional Commission.

In 1979 Tony entered private practice but shortly after was appointed to the Superior Court in San Diego County.  He was assigned to the Vista court for four years, and later returned to Vista to serve a two year stint as Supervising Judge.  He was assigned to a family law and motion calendar in downtown San Diego in 1983, becoming Supervising Family Law Judge for two years.  He taught family law extensively at judicial colleges and as an adjunct professor at the University of San Diego School of Law.  In 1985 he was honored as the first Judicial Officer of the Year to be selected by the Family Law Section of the California State Bar.  Other honors included the Belva Lockwood Award from Lawyers Club of San Diego and the Madge Bradley Award issued for North County Lawyers Club, both feminist bar organizations. He was a member of the Board of Trustees of the Del Mar Union School District when his two children attended the District.

After retiring from the bench in late 1999, he joined the private alternative dispute resolution firm, ADR Services Inc.  His services included acting as a neutral in arbitrations, mediation and settlement conferences in all types of civil proceedings,, including business, real estate, anti-trust, torts, malpractice, family and trust matters.

There will be no formal services.  A private celebration of life will be held this summer.

Donations:  San Dieguito River Valley Conservancy or your favorite environmental organization.
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Shared by Maria Aster Cruz on June 7, 2021
I am so grateful to have met you and your family.  Thank you for letting me take care of you,

Tony, as your caregiver. You were cooperative and always tried your best to get better. 

Your family loves you and I know that you love them so much, most especially your 

grand daughter Jasmine. I remember every time  I told you,  “Please open your eyes Tony, 

Jasmine loves you”,  You always opened your eyes and looked at Jasmine's photo. 

You will be missed and thank you for  the wonderful memories.