9/20/2011
Good Morning, Everyone!
Now that I have this site up and going, I promise to TRY and keep everyone up-to-date on this page, as well as I can. It will be easier to keep you all current on this page, then it will be to do so on Facebook, or personal email, texts or phone calls. The last 4 days have been some of the most difficult I've ever had to live, but at the same time, the most rewarding! By now, most of you know that Ariana Michelle made her way into the world on Friday night(9/16/11) @ 9:03PM weighing in at 3 lbs, 3 oz., and 16 inches long. Labor for her was the EASIEST I have ever experienced, but I've been told it was more than likely due to her small size. I had been cramping and having strong contractions all morning and into the early afternoon on Friday, but played them off , for the most part, thinking they were the 'normal' Braxton-Hicks contractions. My first clue that something wasn't 'quite right' was when Michael & I were eating lunch, and I all of a sudden felt like I had peed my pants a little bit ( I know...I was embarrassed, too!), Off to Magee we went! And sure enough, this was the 'real deal', and being MY daughter, Ariana wasn't about to be patient much longer!! I watched TV, and walked the hall, and walked the hall some more...with NO pain meds!! (GO ME!! LOL) By 8:30PM Friday night, I 'knew' I was ready to start pushing. And within about 30 minutes of this, the nurse had me reach down, and I got to basically 'catch' Ariana in my hand!! It brings tears to my eyes, even now, to think back to this very moment!! No words can express the emotions I felt right then and there!! Ariana stayed with me overnight at Magee, and by Saturday afternoon~ we came to her new 'home away from home' here at Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh. I know I've had many 'critics' that thought that I shouldn't have any business even getting pregnant at 43, much less, going through with a pregnancy. Especially after the two other times that I tried, and it ended tragically for Marissa & Kaitlyn. I can't explain the 'drive' I have to accomplish the goal of becoming a mother. I suppose it goes back to my own childhood and early adulthood when being a mother was 'ripped' away from me selfishly. I've never been one to accept that I 'can't' do something, so I'm not sure if it's selfish of me, or not...but I would like to think that God allows me to walk this journey with a purpose in mind! Sure would be nice, at times, to know just exactly what the 'greater good' and 'purpose' is, though. lol I don't know what the next hours, days, weeks, or even months holds in store for Ariana and I, but I do know that since I have to be 'Mommy' & 'Daddy' to her right now, I am going at it with every bit of energy I can muster! Yes, I have my moments when I am alone, and cry because I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt that I 'allowed' myself to be in this situation... getting pregnant, and going through a 'high-risk' pregnancy pretty much all alone, without much support from anyone~ only to now have a precious little girl who is struggling to fight for her life. I'm by no means, a 'religious' person, but I've been praying ALOT and asking God to show me the reasons He has brought us to this point, and to help carry me through.There's a plaque on the wall here in the NICU that I recite its saying DAILY: If He brought you to it, be rest-assured He WILL bring you through it! Sooooooo true!!!!!!! Ariana has dropped a full pound as of this morning, but her nurses have explained that the weight fluctuation is rather normal. Being a parent of a 'preemie' in the past~ I had some knowledge of what to expect, what would be 'normal', etc...but I also believe that each pregnancy & birth is very different from another. I'm learning things that I didn't know the last time through, and I've become a 'Preemie' junkie... reading and/or researching all that I can so I can learn why things happen the way that they do, what to expect, etc. Yesterday, I was on the phone talking to my cousin 'back home' when I heard alarms going off......I dropped my phone, and ran like a mad crazy woman! Come to find out that the 'alarms' are a 'normal' thing in the NICU, when the least little thing is detected! Ariana's heart rate had dropped (bradycardia) for no 'real' reason...other than what the doctor explained was 'over-stimulation'. The least little 'change' in her surroundings can 'startle' her...whether it be a voice, touch, etc. As she gets stronger, this will improve. She has also been diagnosed with Infant Respiratory Distress Syndrome...another 'normal' issue in preemies. I do find it somewhat 'comical' that all that is 'normal' for the doctors and nurses, as they see these things everyday, is sooooo 'abnormal' for us who are the parents of these precious little ones, especially when it is OUR baby!!! As much as things are going 'wrong' in certain aspects of my life, so much is going right, and I am focusing on that , and what a blessing God has given me. Ariana has taught me so much about patience, and gave me a whole new understanding to what I had thought 'unconditional love' was all about!! I know her Daddy hasn't been here to see her just yet, and I have tried my best to keep him informed on everything, with phone calls, pictures, etc. I know he's scared as hell, and who could blame him? Even as discouraged and as angry as he has made me over these past few months~ I certainly can't blame him for being afraid! So, I'll also take this time to 'publicly' apologize to him for being so nasty. I know it's no excuse, but I have had little to no sleep in weeks, and feel as if I have little to no moral support from the people that I should have it from. I know that "I'm sorry' doesn't erase the pain, but please know that I am very deeply and truly sorry taking all of my worry & frustration out on you.I do love you, and I always will, and probably to a fault! But it's mostly because when I look into Ariana's beautiful eyes~ I see you, and everything that we went through to bring her to us!!! Thank you for being the reason that I have this very special blessing in my life!!!As of last night~ Ariana's treatment team had decided to try to 'wean' her from the vent, even for just a little bit at a time...claiming it's not 'good' for her to become totally dependent on the ventilator (which is a GOOD thing!). The plan is to rotate the vent to the CPAP machine every 6 hours , at 30 minute intervals. The first 'round' of this went well. Her oxygen saturation levels stayed where they needed to be. I realize that this is only one tiny step forward, along with the reality that there may be a few steps backward along the way...but hey, she's got mine & Herb's genes!!! I don't know of many redheaded Irish-German girls that are wimps!!!!!! LOL Until we meet again.....Love, Brenda & Ariana