ForeverMissed
Arunay was the older son of Tarun and Sharmishta, and the older brother of Siddhant. He was a bright, cheerful 12 year old.

It was a freak accident when the sea took him away. And yet, Arunay gives us back more than what the sea could ever take. 

Arunay’s beautiful eyes will stay with us forever and fuel our gratitude. His easy charm will forever keep us grounded. His uncomplicated smile will help us accept our frailty while trusting our strength. 

The ensuing extensive search efforts and the outpouring of love and support from the community show how he touched many lives and hearts. 

Arunay was kind, calm, and composed. He was quiet but friendly and he never judged anyone. He had a big group of friends. He was very athletic, loved all kinds of sports, and was good at all of them.  Playing soccer and becoming a soccer player was his sole goal in life.

In the last year and a half, he fell in love with Sherlock Holmes and developed a sort of dry British humor. Last year over COVID, he got interested in movies, and watched a lot of them. He thought that The Dark Knight was the best movie ever and fell in love with Christopher Nolan movies. He loved discussing every movie at length with his mom. The last movie they watched together was Shawshank Redemption and his mom recalls telling him that we should revisit these movies every few years and see how we get a different perspective as we age. Recently, he had also started showing more interest in economics and politics, and, of course, his parents were very thrilled about it.

Arunay loved playing soccer together with his Dad. Of course, soccer was what he always wanted to play but Dad was no match for his skills, even since when he was 8 years old !

Arunay and his brother were the best buddies ever. They fought, but were inseparable, looking for each other to play with, all the time. Recently both of them developed a love for Calvin & Hobbes, and decided on a new secret language they called “Calvish”. They would crack jokes in Calvish and laugh their heart out, while their parents had no idea what they were laughing over. Arunay and his brother both loved beaches and pools. 

Arunay spent his last moments in this world doing what he loved best, playing on a beach, surrounded by close friends and family who loved and adored him so much. 

Dear friends of Arunay, you have all been part of our loss and we will see Arunay through you! He will reside in our hearts and our memories forever. Arunay will be with us forever. 


Posted by Aarti Thacker on April 16, 2021
We’ve known Arunay since he was 2 years old when he lived with his family in Maryland. He was our son Krish’s first good friend. We had so many playdates and gatherings and had a close connection with the family. After Arunay and his parents moved to California, we were able to connect with them in CA for a few years and it was as if they never left, meeting him for birthdays and festivals all the time. He was very friendly and caring also very mature for his age and had a very calm demeanor. We are so heartbroken and there hasn’t been a day where we have not thought about him. Our Family will miss you so much.
Posted by Harshini Vakkalagadda on April 12, 2021
I do not know Arunay, but finding out about this story left me in shock. I could not understand why something like this had to happen to such a beautiful person and soul. His memory will always be honored and remembered by the people who loved him. As someone who is a high schooler, I am so grateful for this gift of life. I am at a loss of words, I truly do not know what to say. I don't think words can encapsulate the depth of our emotions and how much we all miss him. I hope that wherever you are, Arunay, you are at peace and are safe. Even though I don't know you, reading all these tributes and the amount of love that has come your way makes me realize you are one of a kind. Such a special, wonderful person. I can't wait till the people close to you can see you on the other side. You taught me so many things, like how to be grateful, and you impacted so many lives. You will always be remembered.
-Harshini
Posted by aa h on April 11, 2021
Sending love to this beautiful boy and sending peace to his family.
Posted by Ibtihal AlSahlany on April 10, 2021
oh Happy Birthday Heavenly Birthday Arunay! because your birthday since last month.
Posted by Layla Anastasia on April 9, 2021
Arunay went to school with one of my really close friends and when everything happened, it her really hard, I don’t know Arunay but he seemed like the most awesome person to be around. I wish I could have know him. He will forever be missed by many.
Posted by Meher Parsinni on April 9, 2021
he’ll never get to read this but, Dear arunay. i never really knew you. we were more like acquaintances who would see each other from time to time, i knew you for your smile and only your smile. the smile that could bring cheer into anyone. i remember when i used to see you working thru the cypress doors, you were always so happy. i know so many people love you, and frankly, i do too. i wish i could spend more time with you, get to know you better. i miss you, and i regret not getting to know you better. elementary school ended, everything was now just a distant memory. i saw a post, then another, of how “12 year old boy goes missing”, i clicked, and everything happened so fast i couldn’t breath. it hit like a ton of bricks. i cried and cried and realized the world wouldn’t get you back. i’m so sorry, i’m so sorry. - meher from cypress :,]
Posted by Jin Zhu on April 7, 2021
Arunay will be missed forever. His life was short, but he left a lot of beautiful memories to his family, friends, and the whole community. Although I didn't get the chance to know Arunay in person, I know he was Siddant's big brother and Sharmishta's older son.

Arunay was a wonderful son. From talking with his mother, I know Arunay was very good at academics. He liked math and was great at making LEGO Robots. Arunay was a boy who always made his mom proud. Talking about Arunay always lit a smile on his mom's face. Arunay was a great friend. When Arunay was in Acacia classroom at MSF, Jadon remembers him as a very athletic and friendly boy. He always liked to play soccer with other kids in the playground, and he was also very polite to the other kids and teachers. Arunay is a fabulous brother. Carter and Siddant, Arunay's younger brother, became classmates and good friends. Siddant talked to Carter about Arunay, and how they played together at home. During the pandemic, Carter also saw Arunay check on Siddant during Siddant's zoom meetings. Arunay seems like a caring big brother that everybody would want to have.

Arunay will always be in our hearts, and may he be taken good care of. We all love you and miss you so much! ❤️
Posted by Anil Krishna on April 4, 2021
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This wounded heart shall beat unhealed
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Words of hope ring loud before they are subdued by spaces still.
And the gush of endless action does not my emptiness fill.
I feel your warm, honest embrace, but my cavern walls are cold.
Prayers, chants and philosophy, promise much but they don’t hold.
Kindness, intent, courage, wisdom, reason, cannot me rescue
In my heart full of gratitude only helplessness rings true
My eyes are shut, I cannot sleep, neither dreams have I nor fears.
Let them be in the dark lest I drown an ocean with my tears.
Time distances, distracts and dulls, but the odds it heals are slim
This wounded heart shall beat unhealed, till that rendezvous with Him.
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Tarun, Sharmistha and I go back a long time. Somewhere amidst the luscious green hills of India’s northeast, in the valley of the massive Brahmaputra, about 25 years ago, in the sprawling and chaotic city of Guwahati, our paths intersected. Tarun was my brilliant classmate in college and Sharmistha was our dear friend from a neighbouring college in the city. Tarun’s easy going, gentle and jovial nature paired beautifully with Sharmistha’s sincere, sensitive and endearing simplicity. Several years later when I learnt that they had decided to tie the knot it came as wonderful news. When Arunay was born in 2008 my wife, Kavita, and I lived in Raleigh, North Carolina, USA. Tarun and Sharmistha were in Cleveland Ohio, and soon thereafter moved to Maryland, just a short 5-hour drive away from us. Many visits followed - birthdays, baby showers, winter breaks, and often for no particular reason.

Arunay was the first born among our physically and emotionally close group of friends during the late 2000s. I recall being struck by Arunay as I watched him grow - I had never seen a child with such emotional maturity, such kindness of heart and such an easy personality. Being around him was calming and uplifting. I loved asking him puzzles and brain teasers, sharing silly jokes and word puns, reading to him, painting with him, and engaging in any manner of physical activity - making and flying paper planes, playing soccer and cricket, and ice skating. What made him particularly endearing was the attitude with which he took these experiences in. He would listen attentively, he would ask his questions politely and respectfully, and always take it all in - be it the trick that cracks open a puzzle or a punch line to a joke - with the dawning of that big sunny smile on his countenance. Who knew that children could be such a joy!

Arunay was, in many ways, the child who gave me and my wife, Kavita, the confidence to start a family of our own. Our first born, Meera, 3 years younger to Arunay, connected with Arunay ‘baia’ (her ability to pronounce ‘bhaiyya’ - brother in Hindi - had not yet matured) instantly when we visited Tarun and Sharmistha in 2014. They had moved to California by then, and family responsibilities and physical distances had made our mutual visits less frequent. This made every opportunity to meet a celebration. I recall that during that visit, Tarun and Sharmistha had generously organized a surprise baby shower for us as we were expecting our second child that year. I also recall that Meera and Arunay had a blast together - doing somersaults on their king-sized mattress, playing in the dirt in their backyard, exploring all of Arunay’s toys, and generally having a whale of a time.

When I received the phone call in January, with news of the freak accident that took this kind and gentle child, the universe just stopped being. We all stepped into a different universe at that moment. Arunay lives in this new universe not in the body of one little child, but in a thousand hearts and minds, in a hundred thousand shared experiences, in a million fragments of memories, in a billion tears - each one reflecting back that incredible radiance, that impossible ease of being, that utterly disarming smile. Arunay will live on forever in this new universe.
Posted by Dhruv Rajamani on March 31, 2021
Arunay was a good friend, always loved to play with me and Rivan, he was, undoubtedly, the best friend I ever had. He was always open to suggestions, loved to just hangout, I will always remember him, as my best friend - Dhruv Rajamani
Posted by Priya Verma on March 31, 2021
We have fond memories of Arunay and family back when we all lived in Virginia/Maryland. Our kids were little, about the same age and we met every opportunity we had especially at kid's bday parties. I will never forget his big eyes and big smile, always inquisitive and such a fun kid to be around. He will always be remembered.
Pls accept condolences on behalf of our family. Our prayers for your family, may u find strength, peace and happiness.
Posted by Priya Rajagopalan on March 31, 2021
I knew Arunay when he was a student in Acacia . I remember him coming in to play piano with his friend Or to borrow books in the library/ my office, and making endless rounds of the school building keeping his strips of paper afloat as Mr. Karl had taught him , always Excited , comparing notes and techniques with his friends. Later when his brother became became my student he would often come in at the end of the day to fetch him, and always loved wandering about his old classroom while waiting and I would often tell him he was welcome to come explore with the materials anytime he wanted. That always got me a smile that I will always remember. May the universe look after him ❤️
Posted by Patty Zhu on March 30, 2021
Selena and Arunay were classmates at BASIS. Arunay is a sweet and brave child. Words cannot express our sorrow for him. We will remember him forever. Please accept our condolences.
Posted by Andrew Hinkel-Lipsker on March 29, 2021
Arunay -

For five years I watched you grow and develop into an elite athlete. From an early age it was evident that you had soccer skills that far out-performed your classmates, but despite your God-given talents, I still saw you out on the grass every single lunch period practicing your skills, sometimes just by yourself. Your dedication and passion for the sport of soccer are inspiring even for me, someone who has dedicated their life to sports and fitness.

I also watched you grow socially into a kind and caring classmate. Though you wielded great power in the sports arena, you chose to use your gifts to help other students improve rather than boast. I cannot thank you enough for such a mature and compassionate attitude.

No disrespect meant to my other students, but I do not think there is a single kid who could match you on the soccer field. I hope that wherever you are now, you get to play against Maradona and the other greats so that you finally get the challenge you deserve.

Love and respect,

Coach Andy
Posted by Julie Huson on March 29, 2021
I feel privileged to have watched Arunay grow from a spunky, playful schoolyard companion into a thoughtful, reflective boy as he transitioned from elementary school to middle school. From all my interactions with him, what stands out most to me is how dearly loved he was by his friends. That loyalty shows how much friendship means to us all as we journey on in life. Friends are our joy, strength and lifeline. Arunay was blessed to be a friend to so many.
Posted by Raghav Thallapragada on March 28, 2021
I was close with Arunay when we were partnered for the Science Olympiad. I really appreciated being his friend and was lucky to have him in my life. He supported me when going to my new school at Basis Independent Fremont. He introduced me to some of my best friends there. Arunay was an amazing, intelligent kid with a great sense of humor. I will always remember him through his big impact on my life, his loving and cheerful character. We will miss him for sure. I give my support to Arunay's family for enduring such a hardship but as we all know, Arunay is not gone from us.
Posted by Meiyi Cheng on March 26, 2021
Our hearts goes out to Arunay and his family. He will always be remembered and missed here at Basis Independent School. We wish Arunay and his family love and peace. 
Posted by Sean Wong on March 26, 2021
I have never really interacted with Arunay, but I have trained with him many times. He was very friendly and kind, and was the best on the team. I will always remember him in my heart.
Posted by Gene Huneycutt on March 26, 2021
Arunay was a pleasure to have in 4th Grade Engineering Class. He was respectful and engaged during class. He created some very creative projects. I wish Arunay and his family love and peace. - Gene Huneycutt
Posted by Vipul Shah on March 24, 2021
My name is Hiren. Arunay and I were both in Montessori School of Fremont. The first time I met Arunay was when I was in transition. The way we both met was when I was working on a material in the school called racks and tubes. I was alone and working on it when the teacher then came to me and brought Arunay. Arunay and I started doing this work and I kept on spilling all of the beads and so Arunay and I made up a song about how the beads were rolling and this was actually the first time I felt I had a friend in the class. When I went to 1st grade I was excited that I had gotten in the same class as Arunay. I remember in first grade we used to sit together and work on all sorts of materials. When I was in 2nd grade Arunay and I then started to come to each other's homes. I remember there I used to play tag with Arunay and catch a plush soccer ball. In 3rd grade Arunay and I spent almost all the time with each other in school. We used to play basketball and soccer outside, go trick or treating with each other and we even made a record by the end of the school year by finishing all the synonym and antonym boxes. In 4th grade Arunay had left the school but I still had fun times with him when I came over to his house and we still played with each other. In all I had many many memories with Arunay and I miss him very much and how much he had helped me over these years.
Posted by Mamta Khosla on March 24, 2021
Siddharth, Mamta and Esha have sweet memories of Arunay as a toddler. Our daughter Esha and Arunay had many playdates and celebrated events like Holi, Hallowean etc. together. I have vivid memories of Esha and Arunay throwing colors at each other at the Hare Krishna temple during Holi (I'll upload the pics). We have fond memories of celebrating Aunay's third birthday in MD. Before COVID Sharmistha, Tarun, Arunay and Siddhanth visited MD and it was hard to recognize him as I still remembered him as a toddler before they moved to CA. The visit is itched in our memories forever.
Posted by Karthik Krishnakumar on March 23, 2021
Tvishi, Advik, Janani Aunty and Karthik Uncle would like to celebrate Arunay and the nice moments we spent together. Arunay was a friendly, disciplined kid and a great host as always. His welcoming eyes that was full of joy and happiness will always be remembered.

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Posted by Aarti Thacker on April 16, 2021
We’ve known Arunay since he was 2 years old when he lived with his family in Maryland. He was our son Krish’s first good friend. We had so many playdates and gatherings and had a close connection with the family. After Arunay and his parents moved to California, we were able to connect with them in CA for a few years and it was as if they never left, meeting him for birthdays and festivals all the time. He was very friendly and caring also very mature for his age and had a very calm demeanor. We are so heartbroken and there hasn’t been a day where we have not thought about him. Our Family will miss you so much.
Posted by Harshini Vakkalagadda on April 12, 2021
I do not know Arunay, but finding out about this story left me in shock. I could not understand why something like this had to happen to such a beautiful person and soul. His memory will always be honored and remembered by the people who loved him. As someone who is a high schooler, I am so grateful for this gift of life. I am at a loss of words, I truly do not know what to say. I don't think words can encapsulate the depth of our emotions and how much we all miss him. I hope that wherever you are, Arunay, you are at peace and are safe. Even though I don't know you, reading all these tributes and the amount of love that has come your way makes me realize you are one of a kind. Such a special, wonderful person. I can't wait till the people close to you can see you on the other side. You taught me so many things, like how to be grateful, and you impacted so many lives. You will always be remembered.
-Harshini
Posted by aa h on April 11, 2021
Sending love to this beautiful boy and sending peace to his family.
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Shared by Praveena Gummadam on April 18, 2021
I first met Arunay when he, Tarun and Sharmistha were visiting Chicago. He was probably around one year old. I still remember Sharmistha holding Arunay's hands as he toddled around the restaurant we were in. Even then, showing us his wonderful coordination and future soccer player skills. Our family was fortunate enough to eventually move to Fremont near Arunay and his family. One of my favorite memories of him was when we were watching the World Cup Soccer final between Argentina and Germany. Germany won. Arunay, being a HUGE Messi fan was the only other person as upset as I was that Argentina lost! He was only about 4 or 5 but his passion for the game and for Messi was so evident. As he got older, I always admired how kind he was to both my daughters. He was always sure to include them in all his games, despite the fact that they were younger than him and didnt have the same interest. My older daughter has special needs and Arunay ALWAYS made sure to speak with her and treated her with kindness and respect. His loss is immeasurable to all those who had the privilege to know him. I hope we can all live our lives with the same courage, kindness and enthousiasm he lived his. 
Shared by Ekansh Samanta on March 29, 2021
He was my friend in soccer and he was fun to play with. I miss him a lot.
Shared by Travis Cabral on March 25, 2021
I've coached Arunay since he was 9 years old here at Fremont Youth Soccer Club. Arunay was extremely gifted at playing soccer. His balance with the ball at his feet was exceptional, the way he could shift a defender to make them off balance with a slight drop of the shoulder, and go around with ease, had everyone in attendance in awe. His skill on the ball was a reflection of the passion that grew within. Watching Arunay with the ball at his feet would automatically make you smile, due to his comfort and confidence with whatever skill move he was performing with the ball. One thing that I will forever cherish were the talks we had during water breaks, and before / after practice. Arunay would stay after practice each day to ask how he can get better, what can he work on at home, advice on how to make decisions on the ball quicker, etc. The drive to get better at the sport he loved inspires me each day to match that same drive as a coach. During practice Arunay would always try to "Meg" me (when you pass the ball between someones legs as they are moving, which is a big thing in the world of soccer). Every once in a while he would catch me off-guard during a water break and "meg" me and automatically start laughing, he ended up having bragging rights the rest of the week, (sometimes months)! To this day, Arunay is the only player to "meg" me from the 08BBE team ;)  I remember Arunay loved to scoop the ball up while dribbling and juggle the ball over a defender's head to get away from them. His teammates even named that move after him, "I just did an Arunay!" or "You just got Arunay'd!" He had a good kick out of the boys saying that :)
 
It was a daily routine to talk about how our day or weekend went upon arrival to the field, and if we had anything interesting planned for the weekend. Not a day goes by that I don't think about Arunay. 

All his teammates and coaches miss him very much!

Arunay will forever have a spot on the team and will forever be our Number 9.

Sincerely,
Travis Cabral