A Tribute on Behalf of the Atta-Mills Siblings
Brother Ato,
Brother Ato Harry,
Brother Ato Kakaraba,
Kokoo’s husband,
Ebusua Panyin Kwame Kanto Gyasi
By any other name, you were the one and only. Your last name was Brew but you were the eldest of the Atta-Mills siblings. We grew up knowing that you were our parents’ first child. You were raised by them. You were nurtured by them. You were first schooled by them. No one could have dared convince us otherwise. The first time I saw your handwriting, I thought I was reading something written by John Evans Atta Mills, Snr.
As the first child of our parents, you in turn took care of us (your Atta-Mills siblings) in countless ways. You tell the story of how you were the one sent to fetch the mid-wife when Mamaa was in labor with Fiifi. You were 12 years old at the time. Yet, a good 70 years later you remembered the mid-wife when you saw her picture in the newspapers. When sister Effie was getting married, you were the one asked to give her away. That was the central place you occupied in the lives of the Atta-Mills siblings. And that is why you were listed as the first child of Mamaa in her obituary.
Growing up, the remaining Atta-Mills siblings (Dr. Cadman Atta Mills, Mrs. Mercy Araba Quarshie, Hon. Samuel Atta-Mills) knew of you by reputation and as a legend. You left too early, and we were too young to have had much interaction with you. As grown-ups, you resumed your elder brother role with a vengeance. It happened slowly, unannounced, and unheralded. There was an occasional telephone call just to find out how we were doing. Then a visit to the Castle just to say hello. Then it was followed by a tight embrace when Fiifi left us. Like any true elder brother, you felt instinctively that we needed you more than ever. Yes, you were the Ebusua Panyin of the Nkuma-Kyerba Twidan Ebusua. But you were also the eldest of the Atta-Mills siblings. You were there for us. And, for that, we are eternally grateful.
Slowly, inexorably, surely you became our point of reference and the link to our genealogy. You taught us who we were and where we came from. A visit to your home was equivalent a visit to a library on our origins. You had all the pictures (of weddings, notable events and personalities). You had all the documents. You had all our history (of our grandfather Dawson-Amoah), our family house in Kotokoraba, and of the symbolism of John Evans Atta Mills, Jnr. Street. With your encyclopedic knowledge of who we were, the Otuam pretenders to our heritage never had a chance. Lest we forget, Brother Ato was a poet, a very good poet in a scientist’s clothing.
As human beings, we always regret what we have lost. Perhaps, we should also learn to celebrate what we gained. In that vein, let us acknowledge that these last ten years under your tutelage, your protection, your apprenticeship, your guidance, and your brotherly love has been a privilege and a blessing. We may have been separated by physical distance but your voice, at the end of the line was the reassurance that we needed to realize that we belonged. Yes, we were so far yet so close. Our telephone calls were epic. We talked. We laughed. Then we talked again, and we laughed. We complained about Kokoo. And we laughed. You informed us about the political events, especially those related to our brother. And yes, we talked about family matters. You “appointed” your younger brother (Kodwo) as your unofficial, unacknowledged, and unconfirmed assistant. And we laughed about that. Brother Ato, you knew you could get him to do anything with the promise of eventual confirmation of this “appointment”. It was all good. That is what siblings do. They tease each other with empty promises. They talk a lot. They talk about everything and about nothing. That is what siblings do. That is what makes them siblings. Then, all of a sudden, it stopped.
We had not heard from you for about two weeks. Then you called. Your voice was distant. You announced that you were hospitalized but you were alright. Then you added “Brother, I am skin and bones”. We talked to Kokoo, our Kokoo. She confirmed that you were not eating. You were weak. You could hardly walk. That is when panic set in. We cried. We cried a lot. Sister Araba and Prof. were dispatched to come to see you. The news was bad but not as bad as we had feared. We talked a few more times after that. We had become used to the fact that all would be well again if you would only eat and regain strength.
Then it happened! Sister Effie left suddenly. You were told. You were distraught. Then the dreaded telephone call came within a week. You had also said your good-bye. Like a magic wand, the protective shield had been stripped from us. We were naked, exposed, unprotected, and without guidance. In one fell swoop, we had lost our matriarch followed by our patriarch. But as we try to tell ourselves, it serves no purpose to dwell on what is lost. We cherish what we had and wish we could have kept forever.
Brother Ato, we thank God for having made you a part of our lives,
Kokoo’s husband, you will be sorely missed,
Brother Ato Harry, may the good Lord welcome and embrace you
Brother Ato Kakraba, May you rest in perfect peace,
Ebusua Payin, (Chief) Kwame Kanto Gyasi, God’s speed!