I suspect that everyone, well almost everyone, receives email on their mobile 'phone. Gmail is not synced to my 'phone. Additionally, I rarely check email on my pc on weekends. No immediate information for me. Therefore, without the appropriate support systems to prevent long 'lag times', I sought to engage in a debate. Consider this to be 'fair warning' that my response time should be categorised as similar to a move in a chess game that is played without a timer.

It is only today, 16th October 2023, that I checked my email. There, I was directed here, to Aubrey's site. It is here that I read what, in my opinion, is a barely plausible rationale for a clear instance of 'delinquency'.

It is here too that I read Cheryl's assertions about Aubrey's eating choices on his birthday.

In rebuttal, I state that Aubrey, a member of a Familia known for being, among other things, independent minded, some may say 'fiercely independent', was not known to give much consideration to the 'advice' of others. Regardless of the qualifications or rating of the advisor. This is the man who it is said, left a medical facility when he was not satisfied with the information provided.

He loved his curry. Steve once told me of a 'discussion' he and Aubrey had after Aubrey asked/ordered/directed/instructed him to stop by a roti shop. That 'discussion' took place some time in 2018. Aubrey, independent minded Aubrey, loved his roti. Whoever could have said whatever.

I remain confident that curry would have been his menu item choice on 12th October 2023.

Nah Garvin. Not roti, not curry - specific diet. Macaroni pie or someting like dat. Or he wudda shrug and say 'ah not fussing'...'whaever'.

Aubrey, boy yuh may as well go ahead and give me your usual greeting, which has been truly missed since your sudden departure from our ‘earthly presence.’
I certainly hear you on the other end saying, “blasted delinquent!”
As my counter, “boy I didn’t really forget your birthday, but actually spent most of the day quietly praying for you usually MISERABLE/MISCHIEVOUS BEHIND!”
You were “miserable,” but in a good way, which we certainly will do anything to experience just ONE MORE TIME.

Without you being in our physical presence, at least I could win this ONE “argument:” you may NOT have been the most ‘gifted in looks’ in the family , (of which, you certainly would have been contentious), but by far you had the sharpest mind among us. That uncanny ‘wit’ you possessed, is missed on a daily basis by all of us.
You had a heart, as pure as gold, and a ‘giving nature,’ which was uniquely YOURS. Words CANNOT simply express the gratitude, which all of us continue to impart/direct your way for all you have done for us during your ‘earthly life!’
Continue resting in peace, my “little” brother! Oh, how I miss those “Argumentative Sunday Mornings!”
You are forever in our thoughts! Rest on!

Aubrey, it's the night of your birth and I'd be reminded if I didn't publicly remember you. 
For all you've done for us, we thank you. We can never repay you.
Continue to rest in eternal peace
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Well alright. Today is the 12th October 2023. Today, 12th October, is the date of your birth. Ah on time. Since July I have been reminding myself - "doh forget, doh be late like in July fuh June this year" As an additional reminder I said to myself that it have a certain brother - me no call no name - who will not hesitate to give me picong for my "tardiness" so doh give him the opportunity. So, look meh, ah on time.

Now, after all my efforts over the past months to remember, I sit down in front of my PC and turn it on. I click on gmail. Yuh know it have a reminder in my inbox. Ah vex. Ah do de West Indian ting, ah steups. Ah get up. I went and make my breakfast. When yuh doh know what yuh doh know. I din't know that this site does send reminders. All dat time I spend tireding out my lil brain.

After all was said and done ah come back with the intent to say what ah want tuh say. There, on gmail again, I see another, something. This time is ah message saying that it have ah new post on yuh website. Ah say pappa yo, this website have all de bells and whistles. I click whey deh say tuh click tuh view tributes. Ah end up here. Ah read Cheryl's Tribute. It thought it to be just like her, succinct and honest.

So, as ah here and ah done venting ah want to say that today you would have been 62 years. Ah would ah call yuh. We would ah have a long chat. The chat became long because somewhere in the conversation we would have expressed differing points of views. You had the capacity to disagree without being disagreeable. I, always one for a good argument, miss hearing your perspectives that you so ably defended. Your absence is still felt. I console myself with the memories of our conversations.

Not wanting to start another debate - tuh besides, why not? I wondering what you would have eaten today.  I say curry, perhaps a roti. Who says differently?

My dear brother Aubrey, 62 years ago God blessed us with your presence. You forever looked out for us and lived your life selflessly. Although you were taken from us far too soon, we do appreciate the fun and spunk you brought into our lives. Now you are resting peacefully having done your part, may the angels continue to guide you in the forever life. Love you bro! Happy birthday!

Aubrey boy Garvin mek me drop what ah doing. Doh tink we forget yuh eh. De traveling posse was in the air most of May 20. Is only coming up on de anniversary we realize we book flight and in de air on de same day. Buh we talk bout yuh a lot and we said we prayers too. Come June 2 yuh knockabout sisters from de traveling posse still out de country quito quito in Vietnam. You were in our thoughts throughout. Is no way we forgetting about you - we doh need no 'special' day to thing about yuh. An today me and Steve call yuh name. We know yuh getting all de rest dat yuh need even though it wudda be nice to have you wid we physically. As we always say - God knows best. Blessings mih brudda

Wat ah ting! Early this year, 2023, I was searching for a picture of a lighted candle to send with ah lil note to a friend. During that search, I came upon ah candle in a holder that was shaped like the top part of your favourite piece of equipment. I think our father called it ah theodolite. The thing he then you used to peep through when measuring distance or checking elevations. Anyway, ah say nice, I saving it to use in remembrance on the 2nd. So, today is the 2nd. I copy the image. I try tuh paste de image. Yuh know the thing cannot be pasted. I gone scrolling tuh see if anybody was able to paste anything. During that checking I notice ah post by Cheryl on June 2nd 2022. Ah say oh - never mind what I said - the important thing is we are now in July 2023. Today is Sunday 2nd July 2023. I am ah little late. But doh mind dat! I remembered it was the 2nd. So, how tings? How them new fellas working? I could see that yuh have ah different crew. How much ah dem yuh fire already? From on my side I could see that yuh make them fix de roof. I eh getting the set ah sun and rain like I did get last year. Thanks! Buh hear nah! Yuh see we father and Mervyn yet? Anyhow, that is talk for next time. Ah go check yuh in October. Doh worry, ah go remember. Until then, ah gone. But before ah go, ah lighting a candle.

Here's thinking of you brother Aubrey on this Christmas Day. I know you would have been celebrating with us if you were still with us. The ginger beer is perfectly made to your liking and don't talk about the coocoo!! You are never far from our thoughts. So many daily occurrences keep reminding us of you. And as I gaze on yor picture above my fireplace I pray that your soul continues to rest in eternal peace. Love you always bro!

Brudder Aubrey, boi! Not sure how things get celebrated up there in Heaven. Maybe/perhaps every day is a Birthday by you! Who knows?! But what ALL of us were wishing you ALL of yesterday here, is that God and Mama put on one of your Happiest Birthday Celebrations EVER in your honor! We still miss you a lot on this side; and recent events have only made that worse. Also, if you were here, there are so many day-to-day irritants we are facing that you would already have worked out in two-twos. But we know that you are still watching out for us. And we are confident that God knows best; and that He appreciates all the marvelous works you have been helping with ... right there by His right hand. Plus, things "hav't and bound" to be way better over there than down here. But just in case; and knowing how you love your belly, we have been ceaselessly praying that the food up there - including the much hyped milk and honey - is to your liking. At least up to Cheryl and Sharon's standards. So a Belated Happy 61st Birthday to you, Lil Brudder. We hope you are not "over-wukking yuhself" up there - like you used to do down here. So get some good rest, eh ... until we meet again. And one more thing, please look out for our "forever-loved" Big Brudder Junior, who hasn't too long reached up there. Please show him the ropes for us; and introduce him around. And tell him we really missing him on this side too. Happy Birthday; take good care, Aubrey; and all the best till next time.

Remembering you today on what would have been your 61st birthday. It's raining, and everytime it rains I remember us working outside filling that trench to stop a water leak that plagued my basement every single time it rained.

I no longer have to be mopping up water in the basement thanks to you and your great work.

Miss you...love you for ever brother Aubrey

Thinking of you bro on this your 61st birthday. Being back home recently we never ceased calling your name while we were carrying out our exercises. The pleasant memories and your teachings to others live on! Love you bro.

A year to this date we laid you to rest. You continue to be in our hearts and mind. Your memories live on. Continue to rest in eternal peace. Love you always.

Bro, it has been a year since you were suddenly “snatched” from us. The time spent with you on this earth, was well spent. I certainly yearn for our usual Sunday morning “bantering sessions,” but, obviously, the Lord thought it best, that we probably had enough of those, and decided to take you to help him “build those castles in the sky.” Seemingly, to the Lord, your ‘work on earth’ was done!
I am certain that you will embrace your “new assignments,” with the same passion and diligence, as you employed with your “earthly chores.”
You are forever loved, by us all.
Continue to Rest in Eternal Peace!

Bro, seems like yesterday we talked and laughed. I can hear your hearty laugh and see you double back, holding your belly exclaiming 'oh lord'. That image remains with me and comforts me as I think of you no longer being on this earth with us. I remain comforted that you were well taken care of in the latter years because of the love we had and still have for you. May you continue to rest in eternal peace just as you lived a very peaceful life! Love you bro!

Aubrey, 5 years ago you got a stroke and your pep in your steps was forever curtailed. It didn't stop your positive attitude and drive. You pressed on, appreciating every moment of life. What a great brother you have been! Love you bro!

Ruth Moore (sister of Aubrey) has dedicated a donation to

Eisenhower Fellowships
in memory of
Aubrey Cleghorn
This donation will help Eisenhower Fellowships further their vision and mission.

Thinking of you Aubrey on this Chistmas Day when you would have been celebrating Christmas with us. You rightly declared that no one has to accompany you on the trip but little did we know that God had better plans for you. Forever in my heart - love you bro!

The Cleghorn Family

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even be touched , they must be felt from the heart .
Blessings.

Aubrey….Rest in eternal peace.

Dear Aubrey, on this your 60th birthday we remember you. Visiting your grave is so surreal. We will forever love you and cherish your memories. Continue to rest in sweet peace as we honor you and carry you in our hearts. As we place some roses for you and light a candle know that you are never forgotten. Love you bro!!

My dear brother Aubrey, 3 months have passed yet you seem to be here with me still. I continue to think of you and thank God for the time we had with you here on earth. You will continue to be fresh on my mind Aubrey. So many times I sit and reflect and I see your unassuming demeanor, just taking it one day at a time. I continue to draw on that strength and pray to God that he gives me the strength to continue on with a purpose that is befitting of you. Continue to rest in peace my brother!

I became a caregiver for Mr Aubrey back in 2013,he was always a polite,soft spoken and thoughtful gentleman. I fondly remember him and his sister Ms Cheryl,going beyond to make my stay as comfortable as possible,sometimes allowing me to feel as if I was on a vacation rather than being on duty. I extend heartfelt condolences to Ms Cheryl and the rest of the Cleghorn family. God bless.....R.I.P. Mr Aubrey.

I remember Aubrey as a quiet confident person .
Always pleasant , always kind , yet in some ways unassuming.
I always know Aubrey to speak in hushed tones , never shouting or loud . Ensuring still that his message was not missed .
I was truly saddened by the news of his passing , and felt in some ways that he might just appear with a smile and say “I was downstairs “ or “It wasn’t me”…..
He will certainly be missed , in the physical space , but his spirit will live on .
Rest In Peace . 

Aubrey was a man I held in esteemed regard. I will always remember and cherish the memories shared between us. He was known for his valuable contribution toward the 'men who could cook of South Street' lime. As a neighbour he was always willing to giving advice with regards to any construction occurring and his cheerful disposition will be sincerely missed.
On behalf of the South street men who can cook and the Andrews-Edmond family I extend my deepest condolences to you and your family during this extremely difficult time. You are in our prayers and thoughts.
May his soul rest in eternal peace.

I enjoyed my interactions with Aubrey over the years. Aubrey was a giving person, who was always in the service of other, especially Cheryl (who reciprocated equally). I will remember his strength of character. Within 2 day of the stroke, he said to me 'look, I'm ok. I'm standing'. He could not speak, but he said the works with his facial expression.  He worked diligently to get back to whole health. When my former manager's husband suffered a heart attack, it was Aubrey I turned to for advice on what he had to do to exercise the limbs and to get back his speech. Service! Aubrey I'm sure that you are continuing to serve, after all the practice while you were with us.

I am not a person to easily concede, but, in the construction field, if I had half the dedication and demand for perfection, as my brother Aubrey possessed, I would be okay!.....and I consider myself to be dedicated and a perfectionist in my own right.
Aubrey was simply "cut from a whole different piece of cloth!"

My brother Aubrey was simply a "cut above the rest," particularly in his chosen field of construction. Aubrey was so much into the construction industry, that, he always strived to be a step ahead, as it pertained to innovation/new ideas in the construction industry.
Whenever Aubrey will come to the USA (particularly Houston, Tx. & South Florida) on his regular vacations, most of his time will be spent visiting "modern" structures, so as, to incorporate new ideas/technology into the construction industry in Trinidad & Tobago. That was basically at the very core of his vacation time spent with me. Those early morning drives to the Galleria and downtown (in Houston) and along A1A (from Ft. Lauderdale to Miami) viewing various structures, really "completed" his vacation.
Though Aubrey really enjoyed those outings, his mind remained constantly fixed on his projects in Trinidad and Tobago, so much so, that, throughout our many drives, he will be constantly on the phone, giving instructions to his workers back home in T&T. He was like a "highly-tuned, high-tech construction equipment." He was always totally "tuned in." I clearly remembered on one of our early morning drives in Florida, he was so 'buried" into his phone, giving instructions to one of his foremen back home (in T&T), that little did he realize that, I, being somewhat disgruntled that he was so entrenched in the phone, had actually made a "B-Line" and was pulling back up in front of the house.
Yes, construction was basically Aubrey's life!
May His Great Soul Continue To Rest In Eternal Peace!

Aubrey,
I cherish the moment that I met you. What a beautiful soul ! Continue to smile .


The Sealey family

It is an honor to write this tribute for Aubrey Cleghorn, a friend, neighbour par excellence, and personal home project consultant.

I met Aubrey when he came to live next door to me with his sister, Cheryl. Aubrey was a quiet, strong person and a work-a-holic. He would leave home very early in the morning and return late at night. I think he worked 24 hours/7 days a week at a certain time in his life before the stroke. He was dedicated to his work and worked hard. Even on vacation, when abroad with his family, he was still working and overseeing his projects in Trinidad.

Aubrey was generous and kindhearted. He never refused an opportunity to give of his financial gains. Whenever, I asked for donations for my harvest stall at Ste Madeleine R.C. Church, for contributions to my children fund raisers at school, for any activities at all in the Church, he always gave willingly.

Aubrey was a great support to and regular member at the meetings of our resident's association, South Cocoyea Resident Association. He shared ideas and was always present and assisted in any event that was organised by the
association, be it the Health Fair, Christmas Dinner or Saturday Soup Sale.

Aubrey was my personal project consultant. Before I undertook any project on my house, I would consult Aubrey and he would advise how it should be done.
When the project started, he would come across to my house and advise or argue with the workers, ensuring that the job was properly done. He shared his knowledge willingly.

Aubrey enjoyed Christmas lunch with my family for a couple of years after Cheryl left home. His company was always pleasant and enjoyable and he gave great compliments to the cook which was highly appreciated of course.(SMILE).

Aubrey was a true neighbour, caring and selfless.
When I had to carry my car for service, he would pick me up from the service center , take me home and then carry me back ,next four hours to pick up my car. He never refused. He always lent a hand.

My daughter, Simone describes him as a" silent guardian." She says whenever I travelled abroad, he would always be looking out for them ,even when they came home late. He was a protector , making sure all was well.

It was a privilege for me to have been part of Aubrey's life. He was a caring, gentle, helpful person, a cherished friend and neighbour who I will miss dearly and who will never be forgotten.
As I am writing, my eyes are filled with tears.
Eternal rest grant unto him O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him.
May he rest in peace. Amen

From our years spent in the Scarborough roman catholic youth group our group bonded as a family and Aubrey and his sister Sharon joined the group and we did many activities together. We had good memories in the group of doing concerts, visiting the sick at hospital, singing out at functions and going on outings together. It is these memories that Aubrey will be remembered for. May he rest in eternal peace.