Homily from family mass prior to Thursday's viewing (from Deacon Pat Hessel)
Ave Spratt – Memorial Mass
It’s unfortunate that our numbers are so limited this evening, but I am grateful for the opportunity to speak more personally with you.
Priscilla, the other night after Mass, we talked about Ave’s passing. I remember that, with a smile on your face, you told me about Ave’s last day, driving the go-kart, indulging his “need for speed.” It was very telling that, while most people in your situation would have been speaking about your own personal grief and challenges, just a few days after losing your husband, you were focused on the fact that, if Ave had to have a last day on earth, this was a good one.
When I asked how you and the family were doing, I got a sense that both you and the family, although terribly saddened by Ave’s death, had already achieved some level of peace. How does that happen? I remember that you spoke to me about your sense that heaven and earth are not distant from one another. If I understood you correctly, you were saying (my words) that, if there is a barrier between heaven and earth, it’s more like an old screen than a brick wall. This is the blessing of faith. And we see it reflected in the first reading that you chose for this evening’s Mass: “In the eyes of the foolish, they seemed to have died, and their departure was thought to be a disaster, and their going from us to be their destruction, but they are at peace.”
I think we take away two messages. First, if by faith, we believe that Ave is at peace, then we can share with him some level of peace and even joy, despite our sadness. And please understand that sadness is normal and healthy and real. Our faith gives us hope, but it can’t entirely insulate us from sorrow. And second is the point that you made, Priscilla – the dead are never far from us. Ave will never be far from us.
I also saw an image of one of your “Ave stories” in the second reading that you chose. You told me that in the year 2000, Ave received his first communion. Afterward, you asked him how he felt when he received the Eucharist. His response: “I felt complete.”
In this second reading, Saint Paul was writing to Timothy. He knew that his own death was imminent, and yet he had a sense of peace. His words speak of a sense of – to use Ave’s word – completion: “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” Ave’s first communion was not the end of his race, but was the foundation of a spiritual strength that would, indeed, allow him to finish the race.
That’s what I saw in this reading. But I wondered whether you chose it because of Ave’s fascination with actual racing. Was that it? I still remember him telling me: “Life begins at 600 horsepower!”
Father Paul chose the Gospel reading, and I’m happy he chose the one he did. It allows me to make an important observation about Ave – an observation that you, his children – should understand and remember.
Jesus said: “The person who loves their life loses it, and the person who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.” When Jesus said that we should hate our life in this world, he wasn’t suggesting that we should make our lives miserable, and that, somehow, we would be better people if we were miserable. Jesus wasn’t saying that. He was exaggerating to make a point, the point being that we can become attached to the things of this world to such an extent that we neglect or lose interest in the really important things. The “things of this world” include material possessions, wealth, power and status. Ave had all of those. Did it make him a bad person that he had, and enjoyed, snowmobiles, boats, go-karts, and an electric car that did 0-100 km/hr in less than three seconds? Of course not. Can you imaging your dad getting off a snowmobile and saying: “Now I feel complete?” Obviously not.
We are called to love God and love our neighbour. Ave vocalized his love for God when he spoke about his first communion, and showed his love for God countless times when he insisted that you come with him to Sunday Mass. Toys are toys, but God is God. And I don’t think Ave was confused about that – at all.
When we speak about love of neighbour, we typically talk about sharing our time, talents, and treasures. And the extent to which we do that is a clear indication of whether our first love is for God or for the things of this world. And here again, Ave demonstrated his love for God by serving his neighbour. I was always amazed that despite his many family and work-related obligations, he had the time – or, more correctly – made the time to lend his talents to various committees and worthwhile causes. He had a real talent for that and he put his talent at the service of others. And, of course, he was also generous in sharing his treasures. There is a school in rural Nepal that would not have been built were it not for the generous support of Ave and your mother. And this is only one of many examples of his generosity.
I am happy to be able to talk to you, his children, about these things. You’ve grown up in a privileged environment as a result of the hard work and sacrifices of your parents. At a time like this, when we recall your dad’s life, it’s important to remember the things that were most important to him: the love of God, family, and neighbour.
Kids, your dad, Priscilla, your husband, was a remarkable man. Have faith that he rests with the Lord, have trust that he will never be far from you, and imitate him in sharing love generously.
-Deacon Pat HesselWords cannot express how much I miss him, he was the coolest dude.
He’s gonna have unlimited NASCAR and Chinese food in heaven
All of us on the lake would agree that Ave was a great entertainer! He was the familiar voice of our annual Jackfish Lake BBQ/ boat watersport demo. He did it with his own unique flare and sense of humor. He and Priscilla were always generous hosts to our board and our community. He was a key contributor to our Jackfish Lake Echo, always assuring the board that we could count on his full page advertising spreads, and his informative written articles. The expression “only the good die young” could never ring more true. May you rest in peace Ave, and know that this summer’s fireworks will have a unique brilliance in them, knowing you have the best view of us all.
Mr. Spratt
I see here that others have expressed similar sentiments and are sure that all his children's friends past and present have been impacted by Mr. Spratt's dedication and generosity. To most teenagers/kids Mr. Spratts was intimidating (until you got to know him that is).. but behind this serious facade, you could always see the laughter and joy in his eyes (which led to constant questioning.. That was a joke right?). Witnessing Mrs. Spratts and his marriage and commitment, as well as his devotion to his family was an incredible example and I will carry with me for life.
He is already deeply missed, but his legacy will truly live on in each one of his amazing kids. Holding you all close in my thoughts and prayer. It has been nearly a decade since I last spent time with you’ll and ‘The Spratts’ still come up regularly through stories I share.. Eternally grateful for the past when our lives were intertwined and I got to be a witness to your family's and Fathers love. Rest in peace, Mr. Spratt.
We shared many great trips along the way, and many happy times. I think Ave is the one that taught us how to play squint! I’ll remember Ave every time we hit the water at Jackfish Lake, every time we see fireworks light up the sky.
Our sincere condolences to Priscilla & family, our best wishes in this time of loss.
Kim & Joe Grauman
Missing my Neighbor & Friend
We miss you so much Av,our memories are written in stone along side your Legacy.
A hallway smooch
I saw him stroll through the hallway and my heart skipped a beat. My Dad! Here at school! Yahoo! Textbooks in hand, I hurried over to greet him and gave him a kiss on the cheek. We went out to the truck and he kind of sheepishly said, “That was so nice of you to give me a kiss when you saw me. I thought preteens were embarrassed by their parents?”
EMBARRASSED?! I was so confused. I wasn’t embarrassed. I was bursting with pride. Didn’t he know how awesome he was?The tall, handsome, cool, kind guy walking in the hallway was MY dad and wanted everyone to know.
I couldn’t be more proud to be your daughter, Pops. Then, now, always.
A Mentor, An Inspiration and A True Friend
I met Ave through business 18 years ago. He was a powersports industry icon, and someone I came to respect tremendously in a very short timeframe. Ave was a key member of all the Executive Dealer Council meetings I hosted, and I would strategically plant seeds with him to help steer the dialogue in advance. Regardless of subject, Ave was the one person in the room others looked to for leadership and guidance. I recall one particular meeting where the conversation was tough and the group was divided in opinion. I spoke with Ave on a coffee break and asked if he could help rally the troops and close the meeting with some inspirational thoughts. He winked and told me "I had already planned on it, Kiddo". In true Ave fashion, he summarized the 2-day meeting in 30 seconds, reminded the audience that they were called upon to be ambassadors, and that they needed to come together & have faith. His exact words were "Even when the going gets tough, we can't fold up the tent". When he spoke, people listened. And when he finished, all were onboard. He was a true inspiration and a natural-born leader.
Our friendship strengthened when we worked directly together in the marine business. While we wore different hats and sat on opposite sides of the table, we understood that our #1 objective was to make people's dreams on the water come true. We would strategize for hours, always looking for ways to join forces and win as a team. I looked forward to our weekly conversations - which would always start with a quick update on the family, then Ave reminding me to "take time & smell the roses". I'd chuckle and tell him I was waiting for him to take his own advice, then I'd follow suit. His contagious big-belly laugh on the other end of the line always warmed my heart :)
Ave helped shape my career in more ways than one. When conflicted, I'd reach out for his words of wisdom and he'd help me gain perspective. We'd review the pros & the cons of every situation and he'd offer his thoughts, one-by-one, then ask me to share mine. I remember confiding that I was struggling between doing what I knew was right vs doing what was expected - and he told me the answer was easy. "Listen to your gut, and follow your heart, Young Lady". I listened.
There are so many stories I could share, but, instead, I will share my list of the "top 10" life lessons learned I from Ave.
1) Always trust your instinct
2) Only partner with folks you trust
3) Fight for what you believe in (even if it means ruffling feathers in the boardroom)
4) Protect your team, at all costs
5) Be prepared in a negotiation, but know when to agree to disagree and walk away
6) Never skimp on HP... The bigger the better!
7) Put in the effort, work harder than anyone else in the room
8) Set the example, lead with intention
9) Call a spade a spade, but do it respectfully
10) "Never fold up the tent" and "buckle up your bootstraps"
Ave, thank you for being a mentor, a life coach, a second father (at times), and a confidante over the years. I look forward to sharing a glass of red wine and some "Alberta beef" with you someday high above the clouds. Know that I treasured our friendship and appreciated the time you offered, so generously. I am honored to have known you and will cherish the memories always.
Sending the deepest of sympathies and my most sincere condolences to Priscilla, Laurenne and the entire Spratt family - as well as the extended Martin Motorsports family.
Love Always,
Krista
Wedding Prep
Ave has always been kind, caring, and a pleasant smile and ‘how ya doing?’ Every-time we saw him. His children and family are evidence of the good, blessed, and righteous life this man has led and we will miss your gentle smile and generous heart.
Travelling with Ave
Everyone off the plane and headed to car rental land and then it happened. I said "I just have to WAIT and get my bag that I checked". Being new and all I felt like the scene changed and there was some visual stares coming from the team that felt like I did something wrong. Ave of course had a very fast walk in the airports, by the time the news got to him that the new guy checked a bag, I got the raised eyebrow stare from 200 feet away. To me it read, "you have got to be kidding me" and in fact that was exactly what it meant.
From that day forward I travelled light, carry-on only. Years pass and I received a few more of the eye brow stares but all in great fun and getting to know the great man he was to me.
I will miss the raised eyebrow stare!
Trust
That summer, they gave him a Chevy Tahoe to use for the weekend. He then gave it to another one of our friends for the day.
Point of the stories is it’s remarkable how much trust adults would placing him at a young age, and how he would place trust in others of his own age (when he probably shouldn’t have).
12 years later, despite living 5 mins from a Skidoo dealer, I drove to Martin & bought 2 machines from Ave. Even tho we hadn’t been in touch much, felt I should pay back for that & our high school grad party at the farm (which others may chime in on).
Another 16 years hence, I went back to him to buy a ski/wakeboard boat.
A Co worker and a True Friend
adventures with Ave and Pricilla and the HLP team we will remember forever. Ave had an infectious laugh and a zest for life and family like no other. Always up for a challenge in whatever he did.
Priscilla, our hearts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Ave..
Rest In Peace my friend.
The Man Who Wore Many Hats
When I think back about our lunches together Ave must have brought many hats with him. He would be my dear friend, life coach, mentor, cheerleader, faith leader and far too often, my therapist!! I have never met anyone who could do so much for me and my soul every time we were together and expect nothing in return. I will miss Ave dearly but carry him with me always.
I loved Ave’s passion for everything he did. We definitely shared a passion for boating and family. During one of our boat rides (with our family) to test a new model, Ave was so excited to show us how the new boat performed. Ave told all of us to hold on tightly as he sped up and cranked the wheel hard demonstrating the handling of the boat. I am sure it was awesome, but I was too busy flying across the boat face first into my sons groin to notice the boats performance. It was not the landing I was hoping for, but that boat sure did handle just as Ave promised.
Ave, you gave so much and expected nothing in return. I will forever be grateful for your friendship and the opportunity to meet and spend time with your amazing family. You will stay with me as I strive to be the best man I can.
Your friend always
Love,
Rob
23 years of neighbours and friends
As everyday living dynamics and some beliefs were different from ours to Ave and Priscilla there was always a common thread...Strong family bond and good friends. Ave never judged who we were or the many parties that happened on this corner of the beach. He always loved, his friends good music & fun. I recall hearing him with the most infectious laugh in the background.
Showing gratitude was significant for him. He worked many hours one winter and felt bad for not contributing enough to the cleaning of the skating path and rinks. Priscilla and him took us to a good ole rock concert at Rexall place. As he was driving and we were passengers he insisted that we not stop having beverages because he wasn’t. I’m sure his bar tab was worth more than the tickets. Lol.... It was a night to remember.
Giving advice & help....he was a master. Whether it was telling my husband what kind of boat, skidoo, or tractor to buy from Martin or privately or sending mechanical help our way.
Winter lake ice has always been serious business in this corner of Jackfish. Between Ave and Peter there was no messing around. Duelling sweepers and a Zamboni making the perfect ice to skate for all to enjoy was the best satisfaction for him.
Ave was a huge contributor to this community of Jackfish Lake in so many ways. He never took a seat on our board of the Jackfish Lake Management Association but was always there behind the scenes to help. Without hesitation Priscilla and himself hosted Jackfish Lake Days BBQ a few years in a row. He organized the waterski & wakeboard demonstration and for many, many years always organized the biggest & best fireworks display helping to celebrate the event.
Ave & Martin Equipment were significant sponsors to the Jackfish Lake Echo. I was President, Communications director and editor at the time. I could always count on Ave to relieve some pressure, give tactful advice about controversial topics and for hammering out a lake article for me before publication during his busy family and working schedule.
Ave will be dearly missed on the shores of Jackfish to my family and all who knew him.
Sending our most heartfelt condolences to the entire family.
Rest In Peace Ave
With love and gratitude,
The Helten-Fradette Family
Long Long Time Ago
I was so impressed with their wedding photos taken in a Ski Boat, they both loved the sport of water skiing , so no photos in a limousine, perfect pictures in something they both had a passion for.
As we became closer friends and started to associate on special occasions I will never forget my wife phoning Priscilla to ask if we needed to bring anything,,,,,,,,,,,,only to be greeted on the other end of the phone with, Spratt Residence Laurenne Speaking (who would you like to talk to) She was barely 2 years old but learning all the good manors that Ave and Priscilla would go on to teach all of their children. We were so amazed and said they will raise a really nice family.
We ended up going on many trips with Ave and Priscilla through the Huston Leisure group and all the staff, they were always business trips with just the right amount of fun mixed in.
We got to golf with Ave and Priscilla in the Rocky Mountains where Ave shot par on the course,so nice to witness.
On these trips Priscilla and Ave would always be the life of the party and not to mention they could together sing, You're The One That I Want, as good or better than John Travolta & Olivia Newton John. So pretty to watch them do that. The look in their eyes was TRUE LOVE.
Things progress and they moved out to Jackfish Lake, but we had a cabin there so we kept in contact thru lake life and Ave giving our son tips on Skiing slalom course barefoot etc.
I remember a time driving the boat for Ave and going into Lost Lake narrows we almost hit a Deer crossing in front of the boat, but I kept it pinned as we went thru, as I know Ave would have been disappointed should I chicken out and dump him in the mud, he successfully completed the slalom course a half dozen times. (He certainly went hard) just like in everything he did Family ,Friends and work he had a passion for everything.
My wife Paulette and Priscilla always would visit the night away whenever we would meet up, I know they truly enjoyed each others company and it was special. We were always included to anything they did at the lake and always had a great time. So thanks Ave and Priscilla for the memories you let us share with you.
Everybody's gonna miss you Ave.
Condolence's from Paulette and I to all of your family in this difficult time.
A message from Coby Veeken (mother-in-law)
us for a cruise around Jackfish Lake in the pontoon boat. We were four
generations on the water and enjoyed a gentle tour and then some time in
a placid bay for a swim ... even without a life jacket, eh, Paxon?!
At Christmas get-togethers, before the gifts could be unwrapped, Ave
organized the family in singing the 12 Days of Christmas – each child
chose their part and cleverly sang at the appropriate time. It was
hilarious! We had so much fun.
Thanks, Ave, for beautiful memories.
/ Coby Veeken (mother-in-law)
My name is Janet Winters. Frank is my husband. Frank retired from Huron Tractor 5 years ago. He attended many Doug Friend meetings and Ave was in his group. We are so sad to hear of Ave’s sudden death. We can t imagine how much he will be missed.
25 years ago Ave was with the Doug Friend group in Exeter and we hosted them at our home for Dinner. I had been on a kindergarten school trip all day. I had ordered fresh rhubarb pies, picked up 2 inch thick steaks, baked potatoes, salad and green beans. We set up tables in the back yard. The kids did homework upstairs and ate inside.
Ave was so kind and polite. He helped me serve and asked our son Harrison about his school trip. Many years later you and I were talking at the Presidents club at Pelican Hill about our children and hard teen years that we were both experiencing. You brought me comfort just being able to talk to someone that had similar issues. That night Frank and I talked about what a great couple you and Ave are.
We have lost a couple close friends too young. One in his mid 50 s and one 61. We think of them everyday. Their family’s are surrounded by people who love them. Like them...Ave is a special person and we know he has certainly made his mark on this earth.
God bless you and your family at this difficult time.You’re in our hearts and prayers
Friends from Ontario
Janet and Frank Winters
My personal Coach
I remember one volleyball tournament I had, it was in between games and we found an open gym that was in no use. Right away he started throwing balls at me and making me run even though I was extremely tired because he knew that hard work pays off. I distinctly remember thinking to myself “wow I really have the most amazing father”. My team ended up winning the tournament and throughout the game I could hear my dad yelling coaching advice from the stands. Immediately, it gave me the biggest smile on my face because I knew I had the best supporter out there and I know that he will be cheering loud above for years to come:)
What Ave meant to me (shared on behalf of Jeff Reiniger)
Ave walked by the room (I’m sure on purpose) .. and like when a car drives by a good parking spot.. you heard him hit the brakes.. go into reverse ... and come back to the room. I believe his exact words to Carleen were “get that boy off your bed”. Thankfully, he still allowed me to visit the next weekend. Little did I know how profound an impact he would have on my life.
Ave was my friend, my mentor, and grandpa to our children and all I wanted to do was make him proud.
The friend
I recently shared a old text conversation between Ave and I with a colleague and his remark was “it sounds like two college friends planning a golf trip”. We would go to hockey games..often leaving disappointed that it cost us (him) money. Ave loved a good a deal and appreciated value. It quickly turned into a contest who would have the greenest grass, grill a more tender steak and I will always remember the epic ping pong battles.
The mentor
From day 1, Ave always liked the fact that I came from a family business background. He was a firm believer that those values (an extra level of care, desire to succeed and the practice of ethical business) would translate into me becoming a fine young man. At 18 years old I would nod as he would tell me this but now I truly understand. Every Sunday, we would visit the lake and I would always crave those special moments with Ave in his office. It was like going to school and the topics ranged from succession, how to close a deal, what minivan would best suit my growing families needs but still have curb appeal, politics and how lucky we were to have such wonderful family life. That alone time in his office will be greatly missed
As much as Ave cared about my work life, he cared about my faith. He would often Invite me to early morning men’s conferences. I would often find an excuse or reason I couldn’t attend. However, when he found out that I woke up at 3 am to go the brewhouse to drink beer and watch Canada win a gold medal in hockey.. he told me being at the church by 7 next Saturday should be no problem. Sure enough, I was sitting with him at church next Saturday morning. In the early years, I was also able to volunteer time with him at Camp Arcatheos. By his example, I hope that I too can continue to grow in my faith.
The father and grandpa
Everyone was always intrigued by the Spratt family. How could come someone raise 8 kids? How do they make it all work? How much is their grocery bill every week? The strength of Ave and Priscilla’s marriage is how.
Ave was available for his kids at all times. Sometimes it would be just to talk..and often it was related to car troubles. The 8x multiplier was in full effect for Christmas concerts, sport events and first car purchases and he loved doing them each time.
Watching Ave with his grandkids and seeing how much they loved him was truly special. From camping with grandpa, to driving the boat and making “grandpa fried eggs” they had the best time.
For the last 6 years he threatened to eat all of Paxon’s toes and I wish he had 4 more to try and get all 10. Ave, I will continue my promise to you to care for your daughter and will be there for your family in any way I can.
I’d like to share a text Ave had send me last spring.
Hi Jeff. Thanks for your call the other day. It was really appreciated. I apologize I had to cut it short. We will get through these crazy times with many valuable lessons learned. I am grateful to you that you have placed you and your family in a good position in life. You are a good leader and have done well in life. Many thanks and well done Jeff!
Those words meant everything to me. He was proud.
Your son in law,
Jeff
My first meeting with Ave
A Medical Professional
A Gentleman and a Personality
Maria and I are sad … and yet so grateful to have had Ave as a dear friend.
I hate to put anybody on a pedestal, but Av was my ideal of what a true Christian gentleman should be, plus a pile of personality on top.
So caring for and proud of his remarkable family, such a profound, deeply intertwined, love-and-religion based partnership with Priscilla, So faithful to the church, Ave preached the gospel yet rarely used words, followed all the tenets of wealth creation in a fair, deeply honest way, put a deep Christian face on capitalism. And we had so many good laughs together, at times uproariously .
Every few months, Ave and I got together over long lunches at the Homefire Grill, where we’d discourse on things Catholic, business, politics, our personal lives, future plans, comparing notes on how we were doing in our relationships with our loved ones.
He was more interested in hearing about Maria’s and my lives rather than talking about himself – though once prompted, we always did catch up on both sides.
Always, always, always, I left our lunches with an extra spring in my step, revitalized with ideas and encouragement from Ave.I’d like to think he felt the same way.
Our last few conversations were actually of the heart, in a physical sense. At the Homefire Grill, he told me all about his first brush with heart failure, how the angioplasty docs so casually fired off stents into the arteries surrounding his heart. I was fascinated.
Little did I know I’d be calling Ave months later -to tell him, just days ago – that it was my turn to experience the angioplasty procedure. As always, he was reassuring, and we had a good hour-long chat catching up as always.
Thank you Ave.We will miss you incredibly and allow ourselves some regret that we could not enjoy our retirement years together.But I will be eternally grateful for all the wonderful times we had together. And what I learned from you about living a Godly life.
Graham and Maria and our family.
Just when you think you know a guy..
- "Work" Ave (as I came to learn as there are a few different Aves) is business first; we are on the clock, we got a job to do- learn.
- Ave had booked us two vehicles (one for us and one for him as he had meetings while we were going on factory tours).
- Ave had booked us cabins in Vonore , located between our two factory stops, while he stayed at the airport closer to his meetings.
- Ave was about an hour away from us. We were alone. The boss is gone. Lets party! Vacation has started.
- First, we need to make sure Ave thinks we are nestled in and then we can let our hair down.
Ave, however would not let us drive to the cabins our first time alone. He assured us he NEEDED to ensure we found our way despite our reassurance that GPS and google maps do in fact exist and will lead us there. He also assured us we didn't all need to cram into one vehicle and he had room for at least one of us for the drive (Crap, now we are separated; he may even tuck us in too). All is well, stick to the plan, we may now just have to double back for the beverages.
This is when the wheels fell off of the plan entirely, we were following Ave and he pulls into a gas station and gets out of his car. He approaches our vehicle and says in his usual police officer intimidation impression, "Does anybody want anything while we are here?"
We then gave the easy reply to keep the plan alive, "no we are all good, likely just get some rest."
Stern faced silence followed by a smile that could have reached back to Edmonton. Of course, he knew all along.
Ave replied, "Well I am going to grab a Chelada to enjoy. Suite yourselves."
*our whole car on queue*
"On second thought maybe I'll grab something"
"Me too"
"Oh, maybe its not too late for one"
"Sure twist my arm".
The plan was dead, but a new plan fell into place and it created an irreplaceable memory. We were able to soak up the rest of the evening with The Man himself, personally escorting us to our cabins, showing us all around the property, filling our ears with his endless stories of his times at these same cabins, and genuinely kicking back and enjoying time with his team.
Ave wore many different hats and every time he put a new one on my admiration for him continued to grow. Ave was our boss, mentor, leader, role model, but most importantly, a friend. And not always the fun police. There will never be another one like him.
Your friend,
Spencer