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Barbara “Barb” Cordle (née Wolcott) passed away on March 12th, 2020, in St. Petersburg, Florida, at 80 years of age. 

Barb is survived by her children, Anthony “Tony” Cordle and Randolph “Randy” Cordle; siblings, Dorothy Lyczak (née Wolcott) and Dennis Wolcott; grandchildren, Aaron Cordle, Amanda Cordle, Nicole Cordle, Anthony Cordle, Ryan Cordle, Farrah Cordle, and Georgio Chacon; nieces and nephews, Cinda Torregrossa (née Carey), DeAnna Fowler (née Borton), Chaz Wolcott, Jeff Wolcott, Greg Wolcott, Teresa Ward (née Wolcott) and David Wolcott. 

Barb was preceded in death by siblings, William “Billy” Wolcott and Ritchie “Buzz” Wolcott and her parents, Rhea Aline Richards (née Hans) and Richard Wolcott.  She will also be rejoining over a hundred of “God’s Children” who died of AIDS in her motherly loving arms at Pater Noster (Our Father’s) House in Columbus, Ohio. She was married for many years to Ollie “Tony” Cordle (deceased).

Barb Cordle was born on October 1st, 1939, in Akron, Ohio. The oldest of five children, Barb developed a nurturing, selfless manner as she helped her single mother raise her younger siblings.  At age 9, Barb selflessly saved a younger brother by pushing him to safety before being run over herself and dragged a long distance by a dump truck full of steel. Barb spent over a year in the hospital and had dozens of surgeries, but was losing her battle to save a leg due to continually worsening infection. To the amazement of her treating physicians, who later claimed there was no medical explanation for her sudden improvement, Barb’s leg, although scared, finally healed. Through the Grace of God, her unwavering belief in the power of prayer, and Holy Water, she secretly sprinkled on the festering wounds during painful dressing changes, her infection disappeared, and her skin grafts finally “stuck.” 

During an early surgical resuscitation, she was pronounced dead. However, Barb then was revived with a startle after leaving the “Great Light” encompassing her, and “Knowing God” in a way she could never fully explain except by repeating, “It was Love.” During this experience she could see her resuscitation, but felt no fear. Barb remembered hearing, “Your work is not done” before suddenly becoming reunited with her earthly body. From that day forward, she never feared death or meeting, Christ, “again.” When reflecting on her life, however, she did always say, “I hope He has a sense of humor.” Barb’s survival and subsequent healing was never counted as an “official” miracle but was described as such by her treating physicians. 

God had a plan for Barb to fulfill in the hour of His choosing. Still, it would be decades before He would illuminate her true vocation.  

Barb graduated from St. Mary of the Springs Catholic High School, Columbus, Ohio, in 1957. She was referred to by one of her closest friends, who later became a Catholic Missionary Priest, as one of the Three Musketeers. One of the other Musketeers became a Dominican Sister, and Barb became a Discalced Carmelite in The Order of the Discalced Carmelites of the Blessed Virgin Mary of Mount Carmel. This little known fact surprised no one who knew of it, but most never noticed the scapular worn throughout her adult life and at the moment of her death.  There was no reason to tell people when they need only to witness her actions to know God was working through her.  In Barb’s twilight years, her St. Mary of the Springs Alumnae recognized her for her life of humanitarian outreach.

Subsequently, she graduated from Mt. Carmel School of Nursing, Columbus, Ohio, after being told by an instructor concerned for her future mental health that she might be “too caring” to be a nurse. Barb worked as a nurse in various capacities for years and always wore her heart on her sleeve.  In 1974 a horrible tornado tore through Xenia, Ohio. Barb, without any preparation, joined the relief effort and helped to care for many injured and homeless people without personal concern for her safety.   

Barb was an amazing mother, as well.  While her boys were young, she helped teach at the schools, was a crossing guard, had leadership roles in the PTA, was a Boy Scout Leader, chased drug dealers away from school zones, etc.  Barb also served as the neighborhood pancake breakfast cook-with chocolate chips and specially shaped pancakes, of course.  Her breakfast table was always open and typically crowded, often managing three griddles simultaneously to keep up with the appetite of the neighborhood boys and the occasional brave girl.  When she learned that a group of the boys was skipping high school and hiding out playing Atari, she did not get angry but instead showed up at the door bearing bags of White Castle hamburgers; feed now, and discipline later.  She officiated the “wedding” of two dogs who shocked the neighborhood children with premarital reproductive activities.  She connected with all these youths, many of whom, in their later times of need, sought her comfort and guidance.

As the years progressed, a new vocation called; helping the poor. Barb met a fellow parishioner at St. Cecilia’s Parish in Columbus, Ohio, who was down on his luck and could not find a job, so she responded by praying and ultimately creating, “The Church’s Free Job List.” Through this ministry, she found hundreds, possibly thousands, of people jobs while simultaneously providing for their material and spiritual needs. From the kitchen table and a few old file boxes, she created an expansive network of employers, service providers, and people willing to help when they could by matching willing people with real jobs.

Then in the 1980s, with the onset of the AIDS pandemic, her vocation expanded, and Barb found her true calling; the “Cup” God had prepared for her and which she readily accepted.  Barb loved and cared for thousands of individuals with AIDS.  At this time, these individuals were primarily shunned and feared by others, including much of the medical community.  Barb had no fear, often quoting Deuteronomy 31:8 when confronted, she comforted those afflicted with no concern for own safety. Barb once said, “God told me this is what I am supposed to do.”

Subsequently, the Pater Noster homes were founded.  It was in these homes that Barb comforted the sick and gave dignity to the dying.  The then-controversial LIFE Magazine pictorial found here illustrates AIDS in this period and Barb’s work (http://time.com/3503000/behind-the-picture-the-pho...). Barb’s hand was resting on David Kirby’s, moments before his death; another warrior passed.  It was 1990, and this was a familiar scene for these people who rarely lived for more than a decade with the virus. These photos put a face to AIDS, one that could not be ignored.  Barb was always hands-on, believing in people’s inherent need for touch and connection. It was not uncommon to find her holding an AIDS patient in her arms at the time of their death.

Amazingly, despite unprecedented potential exposure to the then mostly misunderstood HIV, including dozens of needle sticks from highly contagious patients, she never contracted the disease. This remarkable fact led medical researchers to take blood samples over the years to search for what cell or chemical protected her.   She was a realist and preached the scientific principles to prevent exposure, but she knew they were looking in the wrong place to find her shield. 

During this period, when people refused to adopt or foster children with the virus, she accepted them with open arms. More than a few were suddenly a part of her household.  When a national supermarket chain refused to let children with HIV enter their play areas, she accepted the challenge, educated their boards, and helped them write reasonable guidelines. She participated eagerly in writing national legislation, which was later adopted to assure children with HIV could go to school and live fully integrated lives without unwarranted social stigma.  HIV positive children are welcomed in such public settings today in no small part due to the courage Barb showed in confronting the misplaced fears held by influential yet misguided people.  

Over the years, her faith in God and remarkable fearlessness in His name occurred again and again. She walked into crack houses past armed gang members, who guarded the doors, with a dismissive wave of her hand to rescue clients within.  On the way out, she stopped to give the gang members her card, suggesting that they give up their poor choices and see her for help getting their life back in order. In one such case, where the local police had the house under surveillance, they later commented that they were shocked when she just marched up the stairs and through the doors.  The Officer said they would not have attempted entry without a SWAT team for backup. Barb stood toe-to-toe with thugs threatening those she loved.  She helped guide a misinformed health department on HIV prevention practices at a time when they were out of touch with this community.  Barb started a needle exchange program long before it was mainstream or accepted practice. Before the San Francisco program, there was Barb.  Barb asked for forgiveness as a Catholic before putting boxes, actually nearly crates, of condoms out as a practical way to hopefully decrease the transmission of the disease. 

Barb would be the first to admit that she was horrible with finances; she didn’t understand them and didn’t want to. When the money was out, and the bills were due, she would remain upbeat and say, “Don’t worry, God has this.” And true to her belief, God provided time after time.  Once when funds were tight and the Pater Noster transportation had finally broken down, a local Christian charity group arrived at her doorstep.  Their representative said, “We don’t need this wheelchair van any longer, and something told us you could use it.  Could you take it?” Once, someone stopped for directions, at her rural “AIDS House.” After learning of her work, the passerby wrote a donation check for thousands of dollars. The rent was due that day. Too many times to count, with sometimes only hours to spare, a stranger or someone who knew her work would just show up and answer, “Here I am.” Barb died with very few possessions and six dollars and eighteen cents to her name.  On the other hand, she leaves behind too many loved ones to count, precisely reflecting her values and how she would have wanted to go out of this world.

 As evidenced by her incredible works, Barb was an active, devout, and as she would say, “an imperfect member” of the Catholic Church.  Barb always emulated the teachings of St. Theresa of Calcutta, the generosity and desire to help the afflicted of St. Francis of Assisi, and the incomprehensible love of St. Mary, the Mother of Our Savior, Jesus Christ. Barb devoted her entire life as a volunteer to whoever needed her assistance. She was generous to a fault. Once she received a fancy new coat as a Christmas gift.  She wore it out to one of her favorite restaurants, The Spaghetti Warehouse, that very same night.  At the restaurant, Barb excused herself, and when she returned, the coat was not with her.  She had given it to a stranger she saw in the parking lot at the restaurant 10 minutes earlier.  When asked, Barb simply said, “They needed it more,” “could you pass the cheese” or something like that. Most gifts given to Barb were only temporarily in her possession.  She was just a conduit of giving.  Even after death, she demonstrated this unusual trait through partnering with LifeLink of Florida.  She wanted to impact at least one more life, even after death. 

Just one more…

Barb would list her faults, quite readily, but they were trivial on the scale of a life well-lived for the betterment of the individuals around her. She frequently said, “Many want to change the lives of large groups all at once, but I prefer to focus on the individual and make a small change in that person’s life.” She certainly changed many lives, one at a time.  

Due to the Coronavirus pandemic, her memorial service will be on MARCH 11th at 6PM, at St. Cecilia’s Parish on Norton Road, in Columbus, Ohio.  Celebrants will include Father Connolly, (Pastor) and Father Deville, a dear friend and advisor of Barbs.  All are welcome to attend and celebrate Barb’s life. Please add this date to your calendars.  In Honor of Barb, please consider bringing a single red Rose to the service, a symbol so significant in and representative of her life.

She asked that donations be sent to The Saint Vincent de Paul Society: https://www.svdpcolumbus.org/donate

Public Condolences, Stories, and Pictures are much appreciated: https://www.forevermissed.com/barb-jo-cordle/about

Private Condolences: BarbCordleMemorial@nym.hush.com







March 12
March 12
I can't believe you have been gone for 4 years today Sis. It feels like yesterday we were talking and laughing together. I miss you so much but I know you are in a wonderful place and that you have the biggest and shiniest halo in Heaven. Save me a place near you.. see you soon.
Love, your baby sister (and only sister LOL) Dotty
October 5, 2023
October 5, 2023
Was just remembering something about Mom. No matter how busy she was, if someone came to visit or talk or with a problem she would drop her agenda and attend to the human relationship and person there with her. If you are like me you often would think the visitor is preventing you from getting your important work done. Barb would have said the important work is not the task but instead, the relationship between two members of Christ's Church and the task can wait. I am sure she was right. Seems like yesterday we lost her. I am certain she is in whatever part of heaven has Reece's Cups and Sugar with some Coffee on it in a cup (She would put multiple tablespoons of sugar in a cup of coffee!).
October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN BARBIE...October 1
I miss you so much everyday but especially on your birthday since you and I have always celebrated our birthdays together. Yours is the 1st of Oct. and mine on the 4th but we always celebrated them as one. It seems so empty without you. I miss your sweet smile and your loving attitude towards everyone. You were never judgemental and always seem to understand the pain others had. You were my idol ever since I was a little girl and I always wanted to be like you....BUT... I can never fill your shoes. Thank you for being the best big sister in the world. It won't be long before we can be together again and I can be your pain in the backside little sister again. LOL  I love you and know you are having a great birthday party in heaven and eating Angel food cake with Mom and Richie and Billy and of course, Jesus. HAPPY 84TH. BIRTHDAY BARBIE!!!!! Love, your little sister, Dotty.
May 17, 2023
May 17, 2023
Can't believe it's been this long. Still, I see Mom in so many beautiful things around me from the children to The Church and especially in the Eucharist. What an astounding gift the Body and Blood of Christ are to us all made even sweeter for me in that I can see her receive in my mind's eye and hear her voice praying the Lord's Prayer. Such an example to haplessly attempt to follow. If anyone sees this and knew Mom, take a moment to write your memories here to share with all who visit. We never know what amazing things her testament may do for those we do not even know, but I know her work is not done. I can hear her now chatting with Jesus about drugs, suicide, and especially abortion.....He likely wishes he had given her a few more days on Earth. :)
May 16, 2023
May 16, 2023
Happy Heavenly Mothers day Sis.... wish you were here to celebrate with your boys and with me too.. Please give Mom my love and of course Richie, Billy and Denny too...I guess my whole original family is with Jesus now. I miss all of you so much and I thank God I was blessed with you as my family members. It won't be long now before I get to join you and complete our original family. Make room up there for me big Sister....
Love you bunches...Dotty
March 12, 2023
March 12, 2023
Barbie, my dear sweet big sister,
Three years ago today you left us and met Jesus in person. I know He greeted you with open arms and thanked you for all the great things you did in His name on this earth. But being a selfish human being I really wish He had left you here for a little while longer for me and the rest of the family. When you see Momma and Richie and Billy give them my love too and please put in a good word for me with Jesus. I know he listens to you. By the way, Denny is pretty sick and I don't know if he will be joining you soon or not but if he does please be sure the whole family is at the gate to welcome him. I will see you before to long also. I miss you so much and cherish the memories of our childhood and our adulthood together. Thank you for all the kind and good things you have done for me and my family and for so many others. You really are a Saint and have earned your halo.
Love and hugs, your baby sister, Dotty
March 4, 2023
March 4, 2023
Well Sis today is Richie's 82nd birthday so since you are with him to celebrate it please give him a birthday hug and kiss from me. Someday we will all be together again and can remember all the great years we had together on earth...and then we will have an eternity of joy and happiness in Heaven with Jesus... I love and miss you all so much but knowing you are with each other gives me peace.
Love, your little sister, Dotty
February 14, 2023
February 14, 2023
Happy Valentines Day in Heaven Sis... I love and miss you. Give Mom, Grandma, Billy, Richie, David and Heather a hug from me too please. Someday we will all be together again and celebrate everyday with Jesus and family forever.
Love you big sister, Dotty
December 27, 2022
December 27, 2022
WELL SIS, HERE IS ANOTHER CHRISTMAS WITHOUT YOU HERE...I WILL NEVER GET USED TO IT. I MISS YOU SO MUCH AND STILL LOOK FOR GIFTS WITH ROSES ON THEM TO GET FOR YOU. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU EVERY DAY. GIVE MOMMA. BILLY AND RICHIE MY LOVE TOO....SEE YOU SOON!
LOVE, YOU LITTLE SISTER, DOTTY
November 28, 2022
November 28, 2022
I cannot believe it has been over two years since this Saint went home. I am reminded of her gentle, loving ways and idiosyncracies daily. I look forward to a reunion when she has time to visit me on the ground floors of the celestial home someday. If you read this, try to do something Barb-like for someone today.
November 28, 2022
November 28, 2022
HAPPY THANKSGIVING IN HEAVEN BARBIE!!!!  LOVE AND MISS YOU. PLEASE GIVE MOMMA, BILLY AND RICHIE MY LOVE AND KEEP LOTS FOR YOURSELF....
I MISS ALL OF YOU SO MUCH....THE HOLIDAYS ARE SO EMPTY WITHOUT YOU ALL....
LOVE, YOUR BABY SISTER, DOTTY
October 1, 2022
October 1, 2022
Happy Birthday Barb,
   We all miss you very much. You will always be my favorite sister-in-law. We love you and think of you often.
October 1, 2022
October 1, 2022
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN BARBIE...
I miss you so much everyday but especially on your birthday since you and I have always celebrated our birthdays together. Yours is the 1st of Oct. and mine on the 4th but we always celebrated them as one. It seems so empty without you. I miss your sweet smile and your loving attitude towards everyone. You were never judgemental and always seem to understand the pain others had. You were my idol ever since I was a little girl and I always wanted to be like you....BUT... I can never fill your shoes. Thank you for being the best big sister in the world. It won't be long before we can be together again and I can be your pain in the backside little sister again. LOL  I love you and know you are having a great birthday party in heaven and eating Angel food cake with Mom and Richie and Billy and of course, Jesus. HAPPY 83RD. BIRTHDAY BARBIE!!!!! Love, your little sister, Dotty.
June 7, 2022
June 7, 2022
https://youtu.be/JEGZ_Wk57vU

I had the honor to interview with Ohio Historical Connection regarding my mother's life work and motivations. I hope you will share this link broadly and possibly use it for a Bible Study or Youth Group Meeting and discussion. I believe her life and walk with Christ are genuinely inspirational. I am still waiting on Papa (Pope Francis) to reach out regarding her beatification! 
May 8, 2022
May 8, 2022
Happy Heavenly Mother's Day Barbie. You were a great sister and a wonderful Mother. I miss you so much.
Give Momma and Grandma a hug and kiss from me too and tell them I said Happy Mother's Day. Someday we will all be together for eternity and will celebrate together.
I love you big sister......Dotty
March 12, 2022
March 12, 2022
A true loss to everyone left here...and a new angel in Heaven.
March 11, 2022
March 11, 2022
AN ANGEL GOT HER WINGS 2 YEARS AGO TODAY.....MY SWEET SISTER Barb Cordle
I regret having to post this on FB because it is so heartbreaking. My sweet sister Barb had an aneurysm on the brain and it burst. She fought hard but has lost her battle. She has gone home to be with Jesus and Momma, Billy and Richie and all of the others who are loved and missed. She was a wonderful Mother, Grandmother, sister, aunt, nurse and friend. She did God's work all of her life and is now getting her Heavenly rewards...May she rest in peace. I miss you and love you big sister....See you soon. Love, Dotty
January 16, 2022
January 16, 2022
I haven't written here for a while. I do enjoy reading others' accounts and hope that there is some healing that comes from the site and the memory of my mother, Barb Cordle. I have been asked to provide an account of her work/life. This is a challenge that could take years to do any justice, but I have a few days. She felt that a single heartfelt Rose could represent more than a room of flowers. I hope I can choose the Rose from amongst the flowers of the fields cultivated by her life. Prayers Appreciated!
January 8, 2022
January 8, 2022
Hey Sis,
Today it is 10 years since Mom went up to Heaven. Please give her a big hug and kiss from me until I get there to do it in person. I miss her and you and Billy and Richie so much. Things just aren't the same down here without you. The sun isn't as bright, the grass isn't as green, and life just seems empty. It won't be to long though before we are all together again as a family. I love you and am looking forward to our family reunion. Be sure to be by the Marlboro tree so I can find you real fast.   Love, your bratty little sister, Dotty
December 25, 2021
December 25, 2021
My dear sweet sister Barbie,
Another Christmas without you...it just doesn't feel right without you here. I know you are actually celebrating Jesus' birthday with Him in Heaven and that you are probably very happy., but being only human, I can't help but miss having you here with us. You always brought joy to everyone in your life and we need more people like you down here Sis. I love you and miss you so much, but I thank God for letting us have you here on loan for 80 years. We will all be together again someday. Merry Christmas and please tell Jesus Happy Birthday for me too.
Love you, Dotty
October 1, 2021
October 1, 2021
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN BARBIE...
I miss you so much everyday but especially on your birthday since you and I have always celebrated our birthdays together. Yours is the 1st of Oct. and mine on the 4th but we always celebrated them as one. It seems so empty without you. I miss your sweet smile and your loving attitude towards everyone. You were never judgemental and always seem to understand the pain others had. You were my idol ever since I was a little girl and I always wanted to be like you....BUT... I can never fill your shoes. Thank you for being the best big sister in the world. It won't be long before we can be together again and I can be your pain in the backside little sister again. LOL  I love you and know you are having a great birthday party in heaven and eating Angel food cake with Mom and Richie and Billy and of course, Jesus. HAPPY 82ND. BIRTHDAY BARBIE!!!!! Love, your little sister, Dotty
May 11, 2021
May 11, 2021
Happy Mothers Day in Heaven big sister... I love and miss you so much. Give Momma a big hug from me too for Mothers Day... See ya soon.... Love, Dotty
March 12, 2021
March 12, 2021
I am so sorry I can not attend Barb's Memorial Mass. She passed away on March 12, which is my birthday. However I really do not need that date as a reminder of Barb. She is unforgettable.
My continued condolances to her family.
A.S.
March 11, 2021
March 11, 2021
I miss you big sister... Tomorrow will be a year since you left us but it seems like yesterday to me. My heart still hurts and I still pick up the phone to call you. I know you are with Jesus and also with Mom, Richie and Billy but you are so missed on earth by so many people. Thank you for being the best big sister anyone could ever have and for being such a saint here on earth. Someday we will all be together again as a family forever. Until then, don't forget to save me a place by your Marlboro Tree. Love you so much, Dotty
March 10, 2021
March 10, 2021
Tomorrow is mom's memorial mass at her home parish, St. Cecilia's, in Columbus, Ohio. Fr. Connolly and his team have gone out of their way to be helpful in fulfilling this wish she had to have her memorial mass, "Back where it all started (referring to her outreach to the poor and sick)." One of my oldest and dearest friends Anne, whom my mother loved as well, will perform one of the readings. One of her dearest friends Fr. Deville will Co-Celebrate. This Memorial Mass will occur one day before the anniversary of God bringing her home. For those who may want to participate from afar, please feel free to join us March 11, 6 PM EST at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtW6f7AIn3NauP25aBKnlkw
December 24, 2020
December 24, 2020
Barb,
It is Christmas Eve and you are not here to celebrate Christmas with us. It seems so empty without you and all of the love you give to others..The only consolation I have is knowing you are celebrating this day with Christ on His special day. I also know you are with Momma, Billy and Richie and that someday, not to far away, I will be there with you all for eternity. Until then, big sister, know that you are so loved and so missed here on earth. Please give my love to Mom and our brothers too and tell them I will see them soon. Also give baby Jesus a little kiss on the forehead from me and tell Him Happy Birthday.
Love you and miss you Big Sister, Dotty
October 1, 2020
October 1, 2020
OCTOBER 1ST.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN BIG SISTER....LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU BARBIE! I MISS CELEBRATING OUR BIRTHDAYS TOGETHER LIKE WE HAVE FOR YEARS...I KNOW YOU ARE EATING ANGEL FOOD CAKE AND WITH MOM, RICHIE AND BILLY...SOMEDAY WE WILL ALL BE TOGETHER AGAIN FOR ETERNITY. UNTIL THEN, I WILL CHERISH ALL OF THE MEMORIES WE HAVE SHARED IN OUR LIVES HERE ON EARTH.
I LOVE YOU (MORE)
April 26, 2020
April 26, 2020
I am indebted to Barb’s indomitable spirit- she took me in as a volunteer and photographer when others would not; and together we all created the “photo that changed the face of AIDS”. She was/is an angel.
March 30, 2020
March 30, 2020
I apologize for the mistake my phone auto corrected and it was supposed to say Barb.
March 30, 2020
March 30, 2020
Herb could light up a room when she came in and she did that the first night I met her at the nursing home. She was very helpful from the beginning out in the smoking area including the rules that they had in place about the smoking area. She made sure that I knew other things too and was very helpful when my friend Marianne was in the hospital let me know how she was doing and sadly she did not make it either. It was a pleasure to no Barb and I will always remember her fondly.
March 28, 2020
March 28, 2020
My deepest sympathies to a wonderful family, mirrored by the beautiful lady who raised them. Barb used to say I was her favorite brother-in-law and loved my homemade spaghetti. Of course Barb would say that rather than hurt my feelings and besides that, I was her ONLY brother-in-law. I will always miss her smile and gentile demeanor. I'll always remember when she and Dotty went to Washington DC. She received an award from the White House for her work at Pater Nostra House. The only thing Barb ever bragged about was her children; never awards. This world is a darker place without her. Put a good word in for me to Jesus Barb, I don't want to stand in line for days.
March 25, 2020
March 25, 2020
Please forgive me because I was traveling & just found out Aunt Barb has passed. May God console all hearts that knew & loved her, she will be very much missed.
Thank you Aunt Barb for all you did throughout your life & your beautiful smile will be missed.
Blessings, Teresa
March 25, 2020
March 25, 2020
First let me say how sorry I am to hear of Barb's passing. A long time ago, thru our church, I volunteered to work with the teen youth group. That's how I met Barb and her sons Randy and Tony. I remember her as very loving and giving. If I needed anything, she was always there to help. People like that you don't meet everyday. The youth group, of course, all grown now, was and still is the joy of my life
March 24, 2020
March 24, 2020
I'm not sure when l met Barb, l moved to Florida in 1996 to take care of my parents. But when we did meet, we instantly became friends, both of us being nurses. I was amazed how she created the Pater Nastor homes out of nothing but her perservence, she was always amazed at what l did clinically in my career - it was a mutual admiration friendship. Even reading her bio l learned much more. She had a great sense of humor! I was able to get to know Tony personally, and Randy through the stories she told, proud mama she was. Being a nurse in the 80's, l too had to deal with AIDES precautions and issues. Life magazine' s cover was so impactful at the time, never imagining that my future friend facilitated and was part of that - amazing. Later as my mother's dementia worsened, Barb took care of her several days each week which allowed me to get out to grocery shop,etc. My Mom loved Barb and always looked forward to her. Amazing is the word l see often in others tributes, she was the quite, humble embodiment of Amazing. Thank Barb for being my friend. I hope Tony and Randy can find comfort in all these tributes. Love to you all.
L R
March 23, 2020
March 23, 2020
So sorry for your loss. She was a great lady. Many fond memories of her. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Lisa Riley
March 23, 2020
March 23, 2020
I didn't get to spend as much time with my Great Aunt Barb but I have great memories from the time I did get to spend with her. I loved getting to know all about her and her beautiful accomplishments. Watching my Grandma and her sister together was always beautiful. When we came to visit last summer I was able to spend time with Barb and I am so thankful for that. Heaven has gained a beautiful Angel after allowing her to be an Angel here on earth. I love you Aunt Barb and you will be missed by so many!!
March 22, 2020
March 22, 2020
Go in peace Barbara, your job is done and you can rest now. It was my pleasure that our paths crossed and I got to know a very caring and wonderful person. You will be missed and especially at the Fordham Condos, you were loved by all that knew you.
March 22, 2020
March 22, 2020
I often saw patients at Pater Noster House in the 90s and Barb was a wonderful tireless supporter and caregiver. She will be missed!
March 22, 2020
March 22, 2020
I sobbed when I read the obituary. Barb was the most amazing woman I ever met. I was an AIDS social worker through the 1990's, so our paths crossed frequently. I began to love my frequent home visits to Pater Noster House. Barb assisted me with my master's thesis by letting me interview willing residents. She was just the most amazing woman, and inspired all she knew. God bless you Barb.
March 22, 2020
March 22, 2020
Barb was so wonderful and caring. She would always look out for my dad when they shared time in the same home facility until he passed away. She used to have a wonderful positive outlook and always ready to share a kind word and a smile. Her place among the angels is assured. I want to thank her for all she meant to me and my father. May God bless her and her family and may her memory be cherished for her large and wonderful heart.
March 22, 2020
March 22, 2020
I am a 1957 graduating classmate of Barb's at St. Mary of the Springs Academy (1830-1968) in Columbus Ohio.
Many years after graduation, we met again in a store front on W. Broad St in Columbus. She was running a " Free Job List" and I seem to recall a free clothing distribution there also. At the same time, she was managing apartments nearby housing AIDS patients.
In her bio for our 50th HS reunion, she wrote, " 109 patients died in my arms."
May she rest in peace.
Annie McKinnon Seren
March 21, 2020
March 21, 2020
I met Barb while working at the City of Columbus, Division of Electricity with her husband Tony. She was so easy to talk to and somehow we started to talk about the “AIDS” house as I recall. She was telling me about a little boy that was about to have his first birthday and no one thought he would make it. I told her my mom was the “Cake Lady” and Rockwell Clown and asked her if it would be ok if she could make a cake and we could deliver it. Barb was Ecstatic. I made and decorated cakes with mom all the time so I knew she would be all in. I went home and told mom (Mary Teal) she was so touched.. Oh course, we can do this but on one condition, you must dress up as a clown when we delivered the cake..!!. so that Saturday off we went! In the kitchen the little boy sat in his high chair and ate happily .. as mom made balloon animals ... so happy and sad... Barb was thrilled, then mom asked if there were other residence there and Barb said yes and some were very sick. You must realize back then it was taboo to be near a HIV patient let alone caring or being in the same room. So, off we went in our clown outfits trying to bring smiles to all. My mother and Barb C. were angels on earth. I witnessed something special that day that I will cherish forever. I am so thankful to have had the opportunity to meet Barb.

I often wondered what happened to that little boy since he was Abandon . I found out years later at Tony’s funeral that Barb adopted him and he is living life to its fullest! What a blessed mom you had, I will remember and think of her until I see her again. God Bless you!

March 21, 2020
March 21, 2020
My heart goes out to your family. The only consolation I might offer is that this world’s loss gives God reason to celebrate a GREAT Child of God coming home. Barb stands out in my memory as the most loving selfless individual I’ve ever known.

I was attending the memorial service for Barb’s mom, Rhea Hans Wolcott Richards, when I learned brother Billy had been moved to Hospice. I chose to go there rather than remain at the memorial. And there sat Barb, at Billy’s bedside, holding his hand. Billy and I had been close as teenagers, so to see her care for him gave me some comfort at his passing, and she definitely comforted Billy.

Barb was a truly amazing and incredibly gifted human being, blessed with the spirit of Christ inside her.

Rest in Peace, Barb, with God’s Love.
March 21, 2020
March 21, 2020
She also left a note about how she hoped we would reflect on her life...

"She wasn't very good at financial matters. She never learned to ride a bike or drive on freeways. Her "halo" was bent but she spent her life trying to be a small shadow of Our Father's Love to her family, her friends, and her patients at Pater Noster House."
March 21, 2020
March 21, 2020
I just found a note from many years ago. I asked Mom what she wanted her loved ones to know.

Her Responses:

I wish to have my family and friends know that I love them.

I wish to be forgiven for the times I have hurt my family, friends, and others.

I wish to have my family, friends, and others know that I forgive them for when they may have hurt me in my life.

I wish for my family and friends to know that I do not fear death itself. I think it is not the end, but a new beginning for me.

I wish for all of my family members to make peace with each other before my death if they can.

I wish for my family and friends to think about what I was like before I became seriously ill. I want them to remember me in this way after my death.

I wish for my family and friends and caregivers to respect my wishes even if they don't agree with them.

I wish for my family and friends to look at my dying as a time of personal growth for everyone, including me. This will help me live a meaningful life in my final days. 

I wish for my family and friends to get counseling if they have trouble with my death. I want memories of my life to give them joy and not sorrow.

March 21, 2020
March 21, 2020
Barb is my only sister by birth...I am still trying to accept that she is gone and that I can't just pick up the phone and call her or message her like we did 10 times a day. Barb was my role model growing up and even a second mother to me and my brothers. There is so much to say about her that it would take at least a book to mention every little thing she ever did for others. She always gave a red rose to people and said it was a sign for a new beginning and I used to tell her she needed to change her name to Rose.
She was a fun person and a loving sister, daughter, mother, grandma, aunt and friend. She gave out love to everyone and walked in the footsteps of Jesus all of her life....Her job here was finished and Jesus called her home. Her heavenly rewards will be many...and I know she will give them away to others instead of keeping them for herself.
I love you MORE big sister...and someday I will be there with you and the rest of our great family. We can all rejoice and praise the Lord day and night together....Thank you Barbie for being my big sister .... I miss you so much.....Your pesty little sister, Dotty
March 21, 2020
March 21, 2020
Barb was my face book friend, I never met her in person but she was a wonderful lady. I lived beside her Mother in Gulfport, Florida. and knew her sister, Dotty. What a wonderful family. I know Dotty and her family are heart broken but she would want you to celebrate her amazing life and remember that she is with her family in Heaven and having a wonderful time rejoicing. 
March 20, 2020
March 20, 2020
I worked with Barb at Boca Ciega Center when I first became a nurse almost 15 years ago We often relieved each other on the dementia unit and she taught me so much as a new nurse. I knew there was a reason this nurse was different than the rest and now reading her story helps me understand really just how selfless she was. I used to wonder how someone could be so sweet, compassionate and caring at all times. Barb was truly a saint I am happy to say she was an angel that passed through my life
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March 12
March 12
I can't believe you have been gone for 4 years today Sis. It feels like yesterday we were talking and laughing together. I miss you so much but I know you are in a wonderful place and that you have the biggest and shiniest halo in Heaven. Save me a place near you.. see you soon.
Love, your baby sister (and only sister LOL) Dotty
October 5, 2023
October 5, 2023
Was just remembering something about Mom. No matter how busy she was, if someone came to visit or talk or with a problem she would drop her agenda and attend to the human relationship and person there with her. If you are like me you often would think the visitor is preventing you from getting your important work done. Barb would have said the important work is not the task but instead, the relationship between two members of Christ's Church and the task can wait. I am sure she was right. Seems like yesterday we lost her. I am certain she is in whatever part of heaven has Reece's Cups and Sugar with some Coffee on it in a cup (She would put multiple tablespoons of sugar in a cup of coffee!).
October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN BARBIE...October 1
I miss you so much everyday but especially on your birthday since you and I have always celebrated our birthdays together. Yours is the 1st of Oct. and mine on the 4th but we always celebrated them as one. It seems so empty without you. I miss your sweet smile and your loving attitude towards everyone. You were never judgemental and always seem to understand the pain others had. You were my idol ever since I was a little girl and I always wanted to be like you....BUT... I can never fill your shoes. Thank you for being the best big sister in the world. It won't be long before we can be together again and I can be your pain in the backside little sister again. LOL  I love you and know you are having a great birthday party in heaven and eating Angel food cake with Mom and Richie and Billy and of course, Jesus. HAPPY 84TH. BIRTHDAY BARBIE!!!!! Love, your little sister, Dotty.
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Barb Cordle Faith Journey from Birth to Death for Ohio History Center

March 7, 2022
I had the distinct honor to interview with the Ohio Historical Society on my mom’s work and life.  I did my best to utilize the resources she left to us and our many discussions over the years to recreate the never straight but always God-Centered path she took to achieve so much.  Her life reflected her attempt to follow the words of Christ in the Lord’s Prayer.  To my surprise, the secular organizations involved allowed me to use The Lord’s Prayer as the foundation for the entire discussion as I could describe her life, choices, and sacrifices earnestly in no other way.  I hope I did her justice and didn’t make too many errors as there was so much to cover and so little time.  The video is a couple of hours in length, so please pick a time to watch it when you can reflect on your interactions with Barb, her life, and her work.  The Vatican may not have started the process yet, but in my eyes, she should achieve Sainthood, despite her admitted flaws.  Her trust in God in all ways is something we should all try to emulate.   Please leave comments on the youtube site and here if you wish.  
With the Ohio Historical Society, now Ohio History Center, we are working to have a historical marker placed at the site of Pater Noster. I provided hundreds of photos and videos for presentation and archiving at a later time as well.  
Thanks, and I hope you will take time to watch and share,
Randy Cordle

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HAPPY 83RD BIRTHDAY SIS.... LOVE YOU, DOTTY

October 1, 2022
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN BARBIE...
I miss you so much everyday but especially on your birthday since you and I have always celebrated our birthdays together. Yours is the 1st of Oct. and mine on the 4th but we always celebrated them as one. It seems so empty without you. I miss your sweet smile and your loving attitude towards everyone. You were never judgemental and always seem to understand the pain others had. You were my idol ever since I was a little girl and I always wanted to be like you....BUT... I can never fill your shoes. Thank you for being the best big sister in the world. It won't be long before we can be together again and I can be your pain in the backside little sister again. LOL I love you and know you are having a great birthday party in heaven and eating Angel food cake with Mom and Richie and Billy and of course, Jesus. HAPPY 83RD. BIRTHDAY BARBIE!!!!! Love, your little sister, Dotty.
September 15, 2020
I just learned of Barb’s passing. A very loving and caring individual. Was most lovingly referred to as “the Baby Lady” at St. Cecilia by those whose children she lovingly babysat or entertained. May she rest in the arms of our loving Father. “RIP Barb“ Much love...

A Gal-Pal indeed...

March 27, 2020
I was very fortunate to be Miss Barb's nurse for a while. She moved from where I was working and I knew that she was very special and I wanted to be friends. She and I kept in touch from time to time, I took her out for lunch one afternoon and had a blast. We had such a great time, laughed and shared stories. What an amazing woman I thought to myself...and now I realize what an amazing angel she was on this earth. The Lord blessed us all with her kind spirit and smile. May she rest in peace...to Barb's family, may you feel at ease to know that she is surely at God's side and smiling down at us...you are all in my prayers. God bless you, and be well ;)

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