ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our Mom, Grandma, Sister, Aunt and Friend; Barbara Goodman. We will remember her forever.

All are welcome and encouraged to share stories, memories, and photos. There will be a private family service on Wednesday, April 14th at 10:00AM to be held at Our Savior Evangelical Lutheran Church in Sun City, AZ. 
Posted by Malerie A Kline on April 18, 2021
Mom Barbara I have so many beautiful memories of spending special time’s with you & the family. I appreciate that you have always accepted me like family. I Have always Loved you like my other Mom.. You will forever be in my Heart & Prayers. You are a Beautiful Angel & one day I will see you & my mom again but until then I know that you & my mom are up there dancing & being free from pain.
Posted by Cindy Warner on April 17, 2021
Hi Mom,
  I love you and miss you so very much. It's been 15 days since you went to Heaven. It seems so surreal that you are NOT here with us.
 We had your services on Wednesday, and while it was soo FINAL, it was a good day to finally know that you are at rest, with Walt, together again for always. Your last wishes were read to all and they're wasn't a dry eye in the church. You really did" HAVE IT ALL"! and so did "WE" WE ALL HAD YOU, ALL OF YOU!!
 Everyday I want to call or just stop by your house to have a cup of coffee, a donut or a breakfast sandwich, you know those from Mc Donalds that you like much. And sometimes I do stop by to say hello to Daryld and see how his day is going or if he needs anything. Most time, like usual he says "nope, don't need a thing". But, I check none the less. He misses you so very much, as we all do.
 I gotta tell ya MOM, YOU, MY DEAR left sooo many lasting impressions on sooo many peoples hearts and minds. I still can't believe that I will never hug you, Talk to you, give you kiss, have a meal together, play cards and ohhh so many others things again. Each day seems to run into the other. So many times I feel like I'm just going thru the motions of life here on earth without you. Everywhere I go, I am reminded of you in so many ways. GOOD WAYS I'll have you know.!!! Gosh MOM, I miss you soooo sooo much.
 I know you are finally at peace and comfortable. And for that we are all blessed. So as I now must go on living "as you asked""us to do, I will BUT not without you knowing that I'm waiting and watching for the signs you said ""I would know"" when you are here with me surrounding me with your presence. IM WAITING MOM!!! 
      I MISS YOU AND I LOVE FOREVER.
    YOUR DAUGHTER. CINDY. 4/17/2021
Posted by Cathy Erwin on April 14, 2021
A tribute to my mom, a personalized eulogy poem written just for her and read today at her funeral gathering. She always liked my poems and I can only hope she would have liked this one too. It's my last gift for my mom. "I love you mom, I miss you more than words can say, God Bless you" . Love always and forever, Cathy

Mom                                                
By: Cathy 4/14/21

On April 10th, nineteen hundred & thirty eight                          
my mom Barbara Ann Winchell was born,                    
sharing her grandmother’s birth date                                                
The 3rd oldest of 8 and growing up poor                 
a product of big families and the 2nd World War         
In Wisconsin she grew up, in a town called Fox Lake  
following generations afore her, a home to make 

Mom married at 17, her high school beau          
and by 23 years of age, she had 6 children in tow                  
Divorced and married, 2 more kids by thirty one    
with health issues to follow, child bearing done    
That marriage too, would not forever last                    
as she grew older and wiser, each year of her past  

Born into the 2nd generation, of 5 girls and 3 boys          
a tradition mom continued, that brought her great joy  
For a family with 8 kids, they’d be forever bound           
to the heartbeat of their mother, a wonderful sound                                                For she lived for her children, they always came first         
together forever, for better for worst                

A marriage to her children, that would never part       
that began at their births, right from the start               
For each of her children, independent and free       
branches growing stronger, on the family tree       
Sometimes hard to believe, they share the same DNA
her children as different, as night is, to day

Our mother had courage, way deep down inside    
never outwardly scared, at whatever she tried   
Moving 2000 miles, away from her home           
packing up and going, to places unknown                   
A couple more marriages followed the move                  
but unlucky in love, is all they would prove

Determined to better, her life and ours           
goal driven and purpose, gave her the powers      
From Wisconsin to Arizona, across this vast land                  
she made a move, that to many, was bold and grand
Taking her 8 children to a place unknown                 
raising them up, until most fully grown

Except for the two youngest, she’d move them one day  
this time to Alaska, to begin a new stay                      
Her focus again, came from deep in her heart           
another journey to explore, another new start     
While in Alaska she’d meet, the man of her life            
Walter Goodman she married, husband and wife       

Together they shared over 30 years of living       
support to each other and love worth giving
He helped mom to raise, the last kids at home               
bringing stability to her life, and yet still places to roam

For together they traveled and moved many places    
a journey to venture, with lots of new faces                
Until the Good Lord called Walt, it was his time to go
the honeymoon now over, leaving nothing but woe

As strong as mom was, Walt’s passing hit hard            
starting over at 70, was not in the cards                     
For the first time in her life, now truly she’d be         
all alone in her home, was all she could see                 
Her emptiness we’d fill, with our families from 8                 
but at times not enough, still alone her fate

As the months turned to years, now 5 or 6 had past
then mom met Darrald Feaker and both fell in love fast
At this stage in their lives, there was no time to wander
they moved in together with no time to squander      
At age 76 and 82, when they first got together              
life could be long or short, like cold Arizona weather

But whatever time they had, they wanted to share   
not married but together, in love what a pair
As life would have it, they had 7 great years    
making shared memories, through laughter and tears
We should all be so lucky to reach their ages and in love
a legacy from both and a gift from above

I’ve learned from my mother so many good things             
her love for her children is constant, even with wings                                         
Life is an adventure and you can’t sit still                  
as long as there’s a wonder, a determination, a will
Explore the unknown, discover what life has to give
don’t settle for average, you have but one life to live        

No regrets, no misgivings, looking forward at best       
life is a blessing, not a reality test              
Believe in God, ask forgiveness, he’s always there                     
to answer the call and show that he cares                       

To sweet Jesus I pray and to God above          
bless my mother Barbara Goodman with all of your love
Keep her safe and happy as I hope all angels
are watching over the rest of us, from a heavenly star, Amen
Posted by Cindy Warner on April 14, 2021
Good morning mom, with a very heavy heart I'm here to chat with you. I MISS YOU SO VERY MUCH. We know that God has you safely tucked in up there in HEAVEN. I know the trumpets blared, and the choir sang so loudly upon your arrival. I can just imagine the joy in your mom's heart when she could once again hold you and love on you. JOY, JOY, JOY. I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU MOM. We are all trying our best to hold it together here in earth.
  We know that HEAVEN is your new home and that we WILL meet again one day. No pain, no suffering, NO CANCER... Rest in GLORIOUS PEACE MOM.
YOU ARE SO LOVED AND SO MISSED...
until later.....
Posted by julie glenn on April 7, 2021
Barb, I miss you already.....from the day I met you, I thought you were an amazing lady. You were always so positive, loving and enjoyed every minute of life. I was so grateful my Dad found such a special lady to spend his life with. I love you for always making him so happy....I know he was tough.....YOU could handle him. I will always love you for that.....you also raised a beautiful family and I admire that....I love you for making me a part of your family.....please watch down on Dad and I......give us some signs so we know you are okay. I have no doubt that you will be the life of the party in heaven.....I will forever miss you but do know that I will see you again some day....I love you, Barbara Goodman......a true angel you are.....
Posted by Kathy Ryrie on April 6, 2021
Grandma Goodman - I've only been a part of this family for a few short years but you always made me feel welcome and loved. Thank you for that and please know that I'll always take care of your grandson, Leroy. You will be missed and thought of often. ~ Kathy Ryrie
Posted by Cindy Warner on April 6, 2021
Mom,
Ohhh my gosh, I LOVE YOU and I MISS YOU TERRIBLY. Its sooo very hard to carry on each day. Many times I pick up my phone to make my daily ""mom call"", and I'm reminded very quickly that you aren't on the other end. nor will you ever be again. I love you MOM. Some times I will be at the grocery or just checking the mail and tears fall like a faucet running just thinking of you and how much i miss you. Memories are what we have left of you and i will cherish them like never before. As I held your hand in your last couple days I always said I LOVE YOU MOM and you ALWAYS answered I LOVE YOU TOO. This is my daily comfort now. I asked you before you passed, " HOW WILL I KNOW IT'S YOU WHEN YOU COME TO VISIT ME ""?? Your quick reply was "HUNNY, YOU WILL JUST KNOW", and YOU promiced to come often. I pray you will always, I will be looking for you MOM... lead my path until I can join you on the other side. I know your welcome into GOD'S KINGDOM was the most GLORIOUS event ever. I LOVE YOU FOREVER..
                 LOVE YOU
                YOUR DAUGHTER, CINDY
Posted by Carri Dove on April 5, 2021
GRAM ...

Goodbyes are not forever,
are not the end,
it simply means I'll miss you,
until we meet again.

Gram I was honored being your first granddaughter. I have so many fond memories to always look back on, from lots and lots of events, like your milestone birthdays, my wedding, family gatherings, holidays and the list goes on. Some of my personal favorites were you showing me how to sew for the first time, sitting down to a game of cribbage, going to yard sales and getting a deal. I loved how you decorated for every holiday and you decorated everyone room in the house. I was always amazed that you could move homes and you were unpacked in 2 days from start to finish. When I was younger I loved watching wheel of fortune with you, I always knew you would get it before the contestant, you loved crossword puzzles and would finish them always. My most treasured memory was when we vacationed with you in Wisconsin, we stayed at Aunt Alice's and we shared a room together, we had so many laughs, from going to Mr. B's (aka pork and twinks), going to Aunt Vera's and surprising her with us being there and going to the Nelson family reunion. The list of memories go on and on. I was truly lucky to have had you in my life for as long as I have. You were always a huge part of my life, you will be highly missed going forward. I know you will always be there in spirit so it does give me a bit a comfort. I am so happy you are pain free and have reunited with others that went before you tell Grandpa hi for me. Continue to guide us and look over us. I LOVE YOU GRAM until we meet again. ♥♥♥ XOXOXOXO ♥♥♥

Your granddaughter Carri  4-5-2021

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Posted by Malerie A Kline on April 18, 2021
Mom Barbara I have so many beautiful memories of spending special time’s with you & the family. I appreciate that you have always accepted me like family. I Have always Loved you like my other Mom.. You will forever be in my Heart & Prayers. You are a Beautiful Angel & one day I will see you & my mom again but until then I know that you & my mom are up there dancing & being free from pain.
Posted by Cindy Warner on April 17, 2021
Hi Mom,
  I love you and miss you so very much. It's been 15 days since you went to Heaven. It seems so surreal that you are NOT here with us.
 We had your services on Wednesday, and while it was soo FINAL, it was a good day to finally know that you are at rest, with Walt, together again for always. Your last wishes were read to all and they're wasn't a dry eye in the church. You really did" HAVE IT ALL"! and so did "WE" WE ALL HAD YOU, ALL OF YOU!!
 Everyday I want to call or just stop by your house to have a cup of coffee, a donut or a breakfast sandwich, you know those from Mc Donalds that you like much. And sometimes I do stop by to say hello to Daryld and see how his day is going or if he needs anything. Most time, like usual he says "nope, don't need a thing". But, I check none the less. He misses you so very much, as we all do.
 I gotta tell ya MOM, YOU, MY DEAR left sooo many lasting impressions on sooo many peoples hearts and minds. I still can't believe that I will never hug you, Talk to you, give you kiss, have a meal together, play cards and ohhh so many others things again. Each day seems to run into the other. So many times I feel like I'm just going thru the motions of life here on earth without you. Everywhere I go, I am reminded of you in so many ways. GOOD WAYS I'll have you know.!!! Gosh MOM, I miss you soooo sooo much.
 I know you are finally at peace and comfortable. And for that we are all blessed. So as I now must go on living "as you asked""us to do, I will BUT not without you knowing that I'm waiting and watching for the signs you said ""I would know"" when you are here with me surrounding me with your presence. IM WAITING MOM!!! 
      I MISS YOU AND I LOVE FOREVER.
    YOUR DAUGHTER. CINDY. 4/17/2021
Posted by Cathy Erwin on April 14, 2021
A tribute to my mom, a personalized eulogy poem written just for her and read today at her funeral gathering. She always liked my poems and I can only hope she would have liked this one too. It's my last gift for my mom. "I love you mom, I miss you more than words can say, God Bless you" . Love always and forever, Cathy

Mom                                                
By: Cathy 4/14/21

On April 10th, nineteen hundred & thirty eight                          
my mom Barbara Ann Winchell was born,                    
sharing her grandmother’s birth date                                                
The 3rd oldest of 8 and growing up poor                 
a product of big families and the 2nd World War         
In Wisconsin she grew up, in a town called Fox Lake  
following generations afore her, a home to make 

Mom married at 17, her high school beau          
and by 23 years of age, she had 6 children in tow                  
Divorced and married, 2 more kids by thirty one    
with health issues to follow, child bearing done    
That marriage too, would not forever last                    
as she grew older and wiser, each year of her past  

Born into the 2nd generation, of 5 girls and 3 boys          
a tradition mom continued, that brought her great joy  
For a family with 8 kids, they’d be forever bound           
to the heartbeat of their mother, a wonderful sound                                                For she lived for her children, they always came first         
together forever, for better for worst                

A marriage to her children, that would never part       
that began at their births, right from the start               
For each of her children, independent and free       
branches growing stronger, on the family tree       
Sometimes hard to believe, they share the same DNA
her children as different, as night is, to day

Our mother had courage, way deep down inside    
never outwardly scared, at whatever she tried   
Moving 2000 miles, away from her home           
packing up and going, to places unknown                   
A couple more marriages followed the move                  
but unlucky in love, is all they would prove

Determined to better, her life and ours           
goal driven and purpose, gave her the powers      
From Wisconsin to Arizona, across this vast land                  
she made a move, that to many, was bold and grand
Taking her 8 children to a place unknown                 
raising them up, until most fully grown

Except for the two youngest, she’d move them one day  
this time to Alaska, to begin a new stay                      
Her focus again, came from deep in her heart           
another journey to explore, another new start     
While in Alaska she’d meet, the man of her life            
Walter Goodman she married, husband and wife       

Together they shared over 30 years of living       
support to each other and love worth giving
He helped mom to raise, the last kids at home               
bringing stability to her life, and yet still places to roam

For together they traveled and moved many places    
a journey to venture, with lots of new faces                
Until the Good Lord called Walt, it was his time to go
the honeymoon now over, leaving nothing but woe

As strong as mom was, Walt’s passing hit hard            
starting over at 70, was not in the cards                     
For the first time in her life, now truly she’d be         
all alone in her home, was all she could see                 
Her emptiness we’d fill, with our families from 8                 
but at times not enough, still alone her fate

As the months turned to years, now 5 or 6 had past
then mom met Darrald Feaker and both fell in love fast
At this stage in their lives, there was no time to wander
they moved in together with no time to squander      
At age 76 and 82, when they first got together              
life could be long or short, like cold Arizona weather

But whatever time they had, they wanted to share   
not married but together, in love what a pair
As life would have it, they had 7 great years    
making shared memories, through laughter and tears
We should all be so lucky to reach their ages and in love
a legacy from both and a gift from above

I’ve learned from my mother so many good things             
her love for her children is constant, even with wings                                         
Life is an adventure and you can’t sit still                  
as long as there’s a wonder, a determination, a will
Explore the unknown, discover what life has to give
don’t settle for average, you have but one life to live        

No regrets, no misgivings, looking forward at best       
life is a blessing, not a reality test              
Believe in God, ask forgiveness, he’s always there                     
to answer the call and show that he cares                       

To sweet Jesus I pray and to God above          
bless my mother Barbara Goodman with all of your love
Keep her safe and happy as I hope all angels
are watching over the rest of us, from a heavenly star, Amen
her Life

Barbara's Obituary

Barbara Ann Goodman (nee Winchell), 82 passed away on April 2, 2021 at her home in Sun City, Arizona. She was surrounded by the love of her 8 children, extended family and her companion Darrald Feaker.

Barbara was born on April 10, 1938 in Waupun, Wisconsin to Martha and Cecil Winchell and was raised in Fox Lake, Wisconsin. Barbara was one of 8 children, the third oldest. She attended Fox Lake School and was baptized and confirmed at St. John’s Lutheran Church, in Fox Lake, Wisconsin. Throughout Barbara’s life she lived in Wisconsin, Arizona, Alaska and Washington. She loved life and lived it to the fullest. She was an independent, strong, adventurous, courageous woman as well as a world traveler and a Christian of faith. Her claim to fame has always been her 8 children. They were the wind beneath her wings and she was and always will be, their “HERO”.

Barbara is survived by her 8 children; Cathy Erwin (Dennis) from New River, AZ, Cindy Warner (Earl) from Phoenix, AZ, Jerry Nelson (Robyn) from Surprise, AZ, Doug from Sun City, AZ, Kim Lufsey from Sun City West, AZ, Guy Nelson (Maria) from Litchfield Park, AZ, Teri Winburn (Wayne) from Goodyear, AZ and Barbie Pruitt from Phoenix, AZ.  Barbara also has 19 grand children, 26 great grand children and 3 great, great grandchildren. Barbara is also survived by her sister, Darlene Miller from Peoria, AZ  a brother, Jeff Winchell (Sharleen) from Chandler, AZ, a brother-in-law, Jerry Slusser from Stoughton, WI,  a sister-in-law, Connie Winchell from Cambria, WI, numerous nieces, nephews, cousins, friends and her companion of 7 years, Darrald Feaker from Sun City, AZ .

Barbara is preceded in death by her husband, Walter Goodman, her parents Martha and Cecil Winchell, 3 sisters; Teddy Slusser, Alice Binder and Mary Counsell and 2 brothers; Bob and Allen Winchell, a sister-in-law (Pat Winchell), two brothers-in-law (Bud Miller and Charlie Counsell), a son-in-law (Larry Lufsey), grandparents and aunts, uncles and cousins too numerous to count.

Due to Covid and limited seating, there will be a private family service at Our Savior Evangelical Lutheran Church in Sun City, AZ. Barbara has been a member of this church for over 15 years. Her ashes will be interned at the church Memorial Garden. The date and time of the service is yet to be determined.

Memorial donations may be made to Barbara’s church, Our Savior Evangelical Lutheran Church in Sun City, AZ (Specifically their Missionary Work) in the name of Barbara Goodman and her family.


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Happy 1st Heavenly Birthday Mom

Shared by Cathy Erwin on April 10, 2021
Happy Birthday Mom, 
Wishing you a very Happy Heavenly Birthday. Another milestone birthday to celebrate but unlike the others we can't be there to share in it with you. Just know I am there in thought. I miss you more than words can say and hope you can feel my love always. Have a Happy Heavenly Birthday and may all your heavenly wishes come true. Happy Birthday Mom! 
Shared by Kennidee Hill on April 5, 2021
I never imagined that this day would come and how fast it did. I have so many memories with grandma- too many to list. But i do have some favorites. 
I remember when i used to spend the night at grandmas house and we would eat dinner in the recliners. she only let us drink milk or water for dinner so good thing there was chocolate syrup for chocolate milk. After dinner we would grab some ice cream and sit in front of the tv and watch criminal minds. This was our routine, every time i went over. My favorite part about going over to grandmas was getting to sleep next to her in her bed and my least favorite was having to help her make the bed every morning- which had to be perfect (grandma don’t play about her bed). 
Grandma and I would gossip about all sorts of things, Tell me family stories, and explain to me the importance of things in life. She would make fun of me because every time i went over the first thing i did was go in the kitchen. I will miss her spontaneous baking. 
when i was a kid grandma used to take me school shopping and she took me to get my first eyebrow wax!! I love you endlessly grandma and i don’t know what i will do without you. I’m sad that you won’t get to see me get married or even hold my kids one day. But i am so happy that you are no longer in pain. You areso loved. Please walk with me as i continue this thing called life. I love you always 
-kennidee 

Lovely lady

Shared by Anita Hotchkiss on April 6, 2021
My heart is broken for the loss of this lovely lady. I knew her through work for a lot of years & longer thru my dear friend Teri. She was so warm & kind & she always made me feel like family. I am sending hugs out to all who loved her. She will truly be missed by so many.