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23rd March 1937

March 23, 2021
On this day, 23rd March 1937, the Republicans won the Battle of Guadalajara, in the Spanish Civil War. Despite this they lost 2 years later to franco’s fascists and there followed decades of fascist rule until 1975. Also on this day my uncle Barry was born.

I think of him every day and the thought of never speaking with him or seeing him again hurts.

A few days ago I came across this sculpture by Albert Gyorgy called Melancholy:

It captures the hole, the emptiness, that is left in the living when a loved one dies.

I have many memories of being with Barry in post-Franco Spain primarily because my mother moved there with my youngest brother Jason in the early 80’s after my father, Barry’s only sibling, died in 1980. Another brother, Tim, also lived there for many years and Barry joined us a few times. It was a little strange as Barry’s brother Jeffrey never went to Spain as it was a fascist regime.

The first time we went I couldn’t book a flight to Alicante, near where my mother had moved to, so Barry, brother Mark and me flew to Madrid. It was a late flight so we stayed over for a night in Madrid planning to drive the following day. Owing to pretty severe hangovers we didn’t drive the following day but were just able to go to the Prado and view Picasso’s Guernica, his 1937 painting of the fascist bombing in April of that year:

I still remember the smell of the breath of our guide as he described how the bull looking left was Picasso showing his anti-fascist views.

Another time Barry and I flew together to Barcelona and we stayed in a hotel at the bottom of the Ramblas, this time we still stayed out late the first night but didn’t drink as much as on our Madrid trip. We were walking back in the early hours when just before reaching the hotel we were surrounded by a number of women, very quickly hands were feeling for valuables in various pockets. I fought them off and then went to Barry’s aid, he was transfixed in shock. Barry was quite a sight after they’d dispersed; his glasses askew, jacket half off, but fortunately nothing stolen.

So, if you drink, raise a glass of red to Barry today or however you care to remember him.

Keep on keeping on, love Duncan.

A post I wrote the day after Barry's zoom memorial (apologies for any offence and parochialism).

February 21, 2021
MY HUMANE UNCLE BARRY.
It was my uncle Barry’s zoom memorial yesterday. Covidian restrictions have dictated that we now use the internet to replace normal routines of life, and death.

I was a little trepidatious: it was new, it wouldn’t do Barry what he deserved, there would be technological difficulties. And yet it went really well, our human ability to adapt comes to the fore. I was particularly taken by the range of people who knew and spoke about Barry but all related the same essence of what a wonderful human being he was. Barry was a very humane person; he truly considered and respected all others in a positive light (excepting drumf). He was a better human than me.

There is a terrible cost unfolding with this pandemic. Currently the UK has the highest death rates in the world. Any humane government would not only properly consider this and do all they can to reverse things. But so far, since this time last year, they have neither properly considered and certainly not acted in the best interests of her majesty’s subjects.

Any humane government would hang their heads in shame, do the right thing and step aside for more capable, less grubby, less predatory folk to lead this country.

They stand in absolute contrast to my uncle Barry.

https://punch.photoshelter.com/image/I0000bR1GC6xmQpc
Keep on keeping on, love Duncan.

Here's a post I wrote the day after hearing of barry's death.

February 21, 2021
R.I.P. BARRY.
My heart weighs very heavily at the moment because yesterday morning I was woken by a New York detective who told me that my uncle Barry had just died. I have been very close to Barry for all my life and loved talking with him and spending far too infrequent times with him. Our telephone conversations would last for hours ranging over many topics. He taught me much about art, he studied graphic design at the RCA in the 60’s. When he won a Schweppes travelling scholarship Barry chose New York and pretty much stayed there.

Barry never married so my 3 brothers and me are his closest relatives. Over the past 2 days in conversation with various folk, emails, chatrooms and other social media have learnt how he deeply touched many people’s lives. Sadly, as with others, in covidian times his funeral will have few in attendance, don’t yet know NY regulations, but I will be arranging a video link. Somewhat ironic as Barry was very much still in the 20th century with regard to modern communication.

He supported the Baggies, and in his honour they are playing the Villa tomorrow.

He was a very good cartoonist with a distinctive style, he did the cover of Punch a few times. Maybe when I sort through his overflowing apartment I’ll get together an anthology of his cartoons; he kept thinking of and drawing cartoons up to his death.

I have many stories of my times with him. Whenever someone close dies it’s hardest to think that there will be no more stories to be created.

I imagine he is now in conversation with St Peter critiquing the typeface above the pearly gates.



Here’s a link to one Barry's covers for Punch magazine:      https://punch.photoshelter.com/image/I0000gp3dC4GkbMk

Keep on keeping on, love Duncan.



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