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February 18
February 18
I pray daily for his sweet and adorable soul.
He was a dear and unforgettable friend!!!
Miss him and think often about him and his dear parents, mybfriends. Always in my heart!!❤️
February 17
February 17
I think of you daily! Sorry you missed your beloved 49’rs in the Super Bowl. I’m sure you are with us. 
February 16
February 16
We still think about you , still talk about you, ,still quote you, still laugh about you ..but most of all we still miss and love you ♥️♥️

Forever your friends

Brian & Lynnet
February 15
February 15
I miss my brother so much. I can't believe its been three years. I remember that day like it was yesterday. That feeling of hopelessness, gazing up the hill, watching the rescuers dig, using ropes to prevent themselves from falling in. And then, finally, the sheriff giving me the news. Such a shock! Even though I knew it was coming, it still hit me in the gut, and took me to my knees. He was always taking risks, but he always came through in the end. Not this time. I still ask myself if there was something I could have, SHOULD have, done. I know there wasn't, but the survivor guilt is still there. Probably always will be. And now, I just try to move on. I think about what Ben would want, and I know he wants me to move on, so I do. Or at least, I try. I miss him. I guess I always will.
February 15
February 15
Ben, it’s still so hard to grasp that you are not just touring out of the country or just really busy in Seaside. I suppose that comes from not having seen each other regularly enough when you were alive. For that, I am sorry. Not a day goes by though that I don’t give thanks and praise for our amazing family of which you remain a huge part of. The love carries on…
If only you could have pulled some strings where ever you are now and had the niners win the Super Bowl in over time!
February 15
February 15
We continue to appreciate your life and legacy in your AMAZING children. Remembering in love, BROTHER!!!
February 15
February 15
Thank you to the family, friends, staff, patients that have remembered Ben, myself and our kids over these three years. Hope you can heal and continue to know how important you are to us and how loved you were by Ben. ❤️
February 27, 2023
February 27, 2023
I wanted you to know that you will never be forgotten, you have helped so many people and especially with your kind words..you were a great doctor.
February 26, 2023
February 26, 2023
I think of you and your wonderful family often…. I miss you and your infectious laugh! ❤️
February 26, 2023
February 26, 2023
He is in my heart and in my prayers now and will be forever. I miss him!!!. So do my children,
Juan, Ramiro and Kjersten.
February 25, 2023
February 25, 2023
Love you, Uncle Ben, and the rest of the Cockcroft fam <3
February 16, 2023
February 16, 2023
Your children are carrying on your legacy, cheering them on and in their corner!
February 15, 2023
February 15, 2023
Ben has bean in my thoughts recently and now i see that this is the anniversary of his death and i miss him terribly.I wish i lived closer to his children to give them my love and support threw this tough time.
February 15, 2023
February 15, 2023
When I think of Ben, it moves me to smile, and I only hope one day his family can evolve their pain and loss into a smile as well. Ben is forever missed, but he lived large, as his infectious laugh revealed, did good, and left too soon. 
February 15, 2023
February 15, 2023
When both Eric and Peter’s football teams looked like the could make it to the Super Bowl this year, to play each other, I was sure It was Ben pulling strings from the “other side”! Then each team had its calamities and it didn’t manifest. No, I guess, Ben cannot play God! Football without Ben sucks! So do a lot of things. It is still too shocking to comprehend that he is gone. Miss you bro, oxo
September 23, 2022
September 23, 2022
Ben, we miss you. Our son's are roommates in Burbank together, two cousins living the dream! We are cheering on your legacy, April, Travis and Janet and Lucas. We are so proud of them. Aunt Kristin
September 22, 2022
September 22, 2022
For Lindy, April, Travis, and Lucas:
On those days when you miss someone the most, remember how they loved you. Remember how they loved you, and do that for yourself. In their name, in their honour. Love yourself as they did, they would like that. They would like that very much indeed.
Donna Ashworth
September 22, 2022
September 22, 2022
I have been thinking a lot about Ben lately, and hadn't realized it was close to his birthday. His passing was a big factor in my deciding to retire. Losing my colleague so abruptly and unexpectedly made me realize how heart-breakingly short life can be. While practicing Medicine is rewarding and fulfilling, the time it takes to do it well, to give your best to your patients and feel good about what you are doing, takes time from your family and your friends. It also takes time from caring for yourself. Ben was devoted to his family. He was also an incredible physician who was devoted to his patients in a culture that was making it ever more difficult to provide the type of care that patients really need. I know he was up at night doing charts, and working on weekends when he wanted to be with his family. We all miss him, but I wish he had had more time like he wanted for his family and his non-medical passions. Thank you, Ben, for being you and for sharing your love of family and for the outdoors with me, this helped me make the difficult choice to retire and be present for my family and friends.
February 16, 2022
February 16, 2022
I was recently in Hawaii, watching the surfers at various beaches, and I couldn’t help but think of Ben and how much he would enjoy surfing there. He would have enjoyed getting a picture of the waves and the surfers. He would most probably have encouraged me to take a lesson or two…. I can almost hear his wonderful laugh as he says, you should try it! Words cannot express how much I miss him. Lindy, I hope you and the kids are well. Thinking of you and sending you my love! Warmest hugs!
February 15, 2022
February 15, 2022
Lindy,

Antoine and Monique,

I wrote this yesterday, Feb. 14th, as that was my last communique with Ben on a medical subject we were discussing. Amazing how Fate and Destiny intertwines itself....

So, In Loving Memory of a Living Legend---My Buddy Benny..I titled this memory:



BEN-LINDY!

FANTASTIC NEIGHBORS, YET UNFORGIVABLY,

NOT CLOSER FRIENDS WE COULD HAVE BEEN !



LINDY, WHEN WE  BECAME AWARE OF YOUR LOSS OF THE KIND, GENTLE, AND EXTREMELY GIFTED SOUL OF BEN.....

WORDS CAN NEVER EXPRESS WHAT A PERSON PROFOUNDLY FEELS DEEP INSIDE, AS CONDOLENCES,

HENCE, IT IS RARE, IF NOT HUMANLY POSSIBLE, TO

SHARE EXACTLY IN ONE’S OWN SOULFUL WORDS WHAT THOSE PERSONAL EMOTIONS ARE:

HOWEVER, AND SADLY UNFORTUNATE, IN THESE SITUATIONS, WORDS ARE ALL THAT WE HAVE

I KNOW THAT YOUR HEART IS BROKEN, AND HAS BEEN LADEN WITH MEMORIES,

YOUR EYES MAY BE FULL OF DRY TEARS.
AND LIFE NOW IS FILLED IN MISSING BEN WITH EACH FLEETING DAY.
FOR ONE ,CAN ONLY TUCK AWAY THEIR OWN INTIMATE WISH WITHIN THEIR SOUL TO PRAY



AND FOR US, WE MERE HUMAN FRAIL BEINGS, THAT ARE LEFT BEHIND,

WE HOPE WE LOVE AND WE SORROW EACH TO OUR OWN ACCORD

AND YET CAN PROVIDE OUR OWN “MODICUM” OF SOLACE TO SWAY,

AS NO ONE CAN EVER FIND TRUE COMFORT IN SUCH PARTING EACH N’ EVERY FLEETING DAY,



WHEN SPEAKING ABOUT A SOUL’S COMPANION BOUND AND SEALED BY FATE.

FURTHERMORE, THE VERY TIE THAT BINDS EACH OF US IN OUR OWN HUMANITY CARRIES ITS OWN INDIVIDUAL WEIGHT

HOWEVER SEEING THE TWO OF YOU TIME TO TIME, ONLY REAFFIRMED WHAT ONE CAN ONLY KNOW IS/WAS/AND FOREVER WILL BE TRUE

THAT YOU AND BEN

WERE BOUND AD INFINITUM IN ETERNAL SPIRIT WHICH FOR THE BOTH OF YOU, ILLUMINATED


PERCHANCE LINDY, IN SOME OF OUR ENCOUNTERS. THE TWO OF YOU WERE NOT FULLY AWARE

NOR DID YOU NOTICE OUR REALIZATION & OBSERVATION OF YOUR DEEP DEDICATION TO YOUR SPECIAL BOND

BUT

WE CERTAINLY DID!

NEVERTHELESS, YOUR INSPIRATION , IN SPITE OF PERSONAL TRAUMA AND DIFFICULTY MADE US MORE AWARE

OF THE PRECIOUS FEW MOMENTS LEFT, MORE TO SHARE, IN OUR OWN ROAD N’ PURSUIT OF LIFE’S HAPPINESS

HEARTBREAKING TO SAY THAT, ALL OF US, MOSTLY TAKE FOR GRANTED EACH AND EVERY, IF NOT COMMON, EACH PASSING DAY





AN AWAKENING


*(LINDY—I AM NOT INTENTIONALLY MEANING TO BE CONSIDERED PRESUMPTUOUS, REGARDING SUCH A DELICATE MOMENT BUT THIS I MUST SAY),


LINDY , YOU AWAKE EACH MORNING TO START A NEW DAY

ONE CAN ONLY ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE CAST WITH THE PAIN OF LOSING BEN,

AND THAT WON’T EVER GO AWAY.



THOUGH YOU GO ABOUT THE THINGS YOU MUST DO IN YOUR ROUTINE DAY
AND AS THE HOURS PASS , STILL YOU CAN’T AVOID THE THOUGHT(S) AGAIN OF BEN IN ANY WAY

THE BLESSINGS YOU AND BEN CREATED IN CHILDREN , NOW ADULTS,

ARE THE REMKINDER THAT HIS LIFE IS HERE TO STAY



AS ALL HUMAN BEINGS WE COLLECTIVELY WE POSSESS EMOTIONS,

YET IN THAT STATE, AS I SAID, MERE WORDS ARE NEVER ABLE TO SAY

RARELY , THE DEEP & PERSONAL CONDOLENCES

THAT ONE WISHES, BUT CAN NEVER, BUT EVER, PRECISELY CONVEY

THE WISH AND WANT TO CALL OUT OUR LOVED ONE’S NAME JUST TO HEAR THEIR VOICE ONCE MORE
BUT THEN, WE REMEMBER THAT, SADLY, WE HAVE NO CHOICE

AND AT THAT VERY SPECIAL MOMENT FOR THAT DEAREST OF DEAR ONES,

THE HEART STILL REMAINS TO CRY OUT
JUST TO SEE HEAR ONCE AGAIN THAT ONE SIMPLE “GOODBYE”

TO SAY BEN, A LOVE, YOU AND HE ALWAYS WILL ENDURE

IS A HOPE THAT MUCH OF YOU, IN HIM, WILL FOREVER BE INSTILLED.

THE DAY THAT HE HAD TO LEAVE, YOU COULD NOT KNOW
AND WHERE HE WAS DESTINED YOU WERE WERE NOT SURE TO KNOW

BUT KNOWING ONLY WHERE YOU COULDN’T GO.

AND NOW ALL YOUR MEMORIES OF HIM HOLD DEAR
BUT GOSH, AND NOT UNDERSTATING, HOW YOU MUST MISS SO MUCH THE SIGHT OF HIM

AND WISH THAT HE WAS ONCE MORE HERE.

WHO NOW CAN HEAR YOU WHEN ALL ALONE AND YOU NEED TO CRY?
THE SENTIMENT YOU FELT TO HEAR AND SAY “I COULDN’T EVEN SAY GOODBYE.”

SOMEDAY YOU WILL KNOW WELL
HOW HEARTS WITH LOVE AND SPIRIT, ALIVE ONCE MORE WITH STORIES TO TELL

OF HOW YOU WERE MISSED AND HOW YOU HAVE GROWN
TO KNOW THE REALIZATION TO BE FINALLY AT HOME....TOGETHER

UNTIL THEN, YOUR PERSONAL DEEP MEMORIES OF OUR BEN YOU'LL KEEP NEAR
& HOPES OF A GLIMMER OF SOME SENSE AND PEACE REVERE

OF THE CARING AND LOVE FOR THAT EXTRAORDINARY ONE, THAT BEN, MY FRIEND, APPEAR

 WHO WILL.REMAIN

...IN YOUR MIND BODY & SOUL.... FOREVER TO BE SO DEAR!
February 15, 2022
February 15, 2022

As we forward we tend to look back, which brings us to the Present.

PRESENT
We find ourselves wondering, hoping, wanting. But we are lost in those thoughts, not knowing how to be present. To present is one of the hardest things for us to do. So LET US be present for each other, before there are no more reasons to be present. by l.k.r.m.

as we light a candle today, let us remember to love each other always and to be present for yourself and your love ones.
February 14, 2022
February 14, 2022
Much love and thoughts to Lindy and the kids at this time. My heart is with you.
February 14, 2022
February 14, 2022
A year ago, Ben called me while driving to go snowboarding. The calls were something he did regularly and were a wonderful time to share news and ask questions with each other. I could imagine the smile on his face about taking off on this outing. I miss Ben tremendously and so I looked at all the pictures that have been posted here which include ones before I met him and Lindy in 1996 but were part of the stories I'd heard from Jim. The one from August 2001 of Jim and Ben lying on his garage floor, with the 8 salmon they had caught between them, still brings a smile to my face and hangs on my wall where I see it daily. The August salmon fishing trip became a highlight of the year for Jim. As was true at our August family reunion and memorials for Ben and his uncle George, I feel again the great love that we all shared - and continue to share now and for the future.
February 8, 2022
February 8, 2022
First I want to say to the wife and children of Bens, I hope u all are doing well loosing Ben is such a huge loss to you all. My thoughts and prayers always with you all. He was so proud of each one of you. I still can’t believe this is real and how can this happen to such a wonderful person, he was so kind the greatest person that one would be happy to know & blessed. I worked with Ben at Providence in a seaside many laughs. The one thing I know is how he loved his wife & children he shared that often. I’m sure that Ben is having a great time & that he is with his family every step of the way looking out for them. What a tragedy to loose such a amazing person. He is missed & always will be. It breaks my heat that his wife & children can’t share their lives together with Ben, I know they can share all the memories & I know Ben left behind many of them. You keep resting Ben one day when that time is right you will b together for eternity.
February 7, 2022
February 7, 2022
Dearest Lindy, April, Travis, Janet and Lucas,

Reflecting upon the many unbelievable things you have had to do this year, my hope is you will look back and realize how strong the five of you are, and how much you have been there for each other.

Ben's balance of independence coupled with loving others and family is living on through you. You have been navigating a lot of demands, rising to the challenge and forging on ahead. I wrote an anthem when Kami and Nana died which carried me through, and still carried me through when I feel overwhelmed with the grief of losing beloved Uncle Ben with you.  May this anthem assist you in continuing to pull up the determination and fortitude you have accessed this entire year. You are greatly loved by me, and NEVER ALONE! So thankful for each of you, and so inspired by Ben's life and legacy living on through you!!!

A TIGHT KNIT FAMILY ANTHEM

Come aboard and sail with us and you soon will see. We are sailing, NO MATTER WHAT, we are TRIUMPHING. Following the light, we will stay the course. Bound in unity...a Tight knit family.

Together, we will sail the seas. Together, storms we will defeat. Together, forever we will be. A force, a tight knit family.

Forging on ahead, sailing though it's ROUGH. There are the ties that bind. We'll make it through with LOVE. 




February 6, 2022
February 6, 2022
Oh Lindy! It is so good to hear an update from you and the “kids”! I love hearing how April is unfolding ,yet , another talent of being a modern home designer!  Glad to hear reconstruction is underway…so much you have put together and accomplished this fast year … with such apparent grace ! Just as your letter shows, you have intuited that we would be thinking of you, your family and remembering Ben this month. I will absolutely join you in lighting an all day candle for Ben….Love you Lindy and thank you❤️
February 6, 2022
February 6, 2022
The one year anniversary since Ben’s death is on February 15, 2022. I have good news that Quackenbush builders will start on the fire damage and remodel March 2022. After the kitchen and smoke damage we discovered walls with dry rot and leaks, plumbing pipes too old, fences and retaining walls deteriorated. Ben and I started architectural plans and since Ben’s death April has amazingly taken over making the house plans a modern work of art.
I will be moving into a great rental in Gearhart, an eight minute drive from the house. The condo is large enough to bring all the boxes, etc that have been in storage for a year and a half. I greatly look forward to seeing what material items are left after losing one thousand items in the fire. Also bike riding on the prom to the house to see the progress.
If you would like to post on forever missed for Ben’s one year anniversary please do or join me to light a candle in his remembrance. I cannot believe a year has gone by so quickly. It seems like yesterday that we had the traumatic news of Ben’s accident and death.
Thank you for all your support and love you have given to April, Travis, Janet, Lucas and myself this past year. I would not have kept going without my kids and you all.
Love, Lindy
February 5, 2022
February 5, 2022
I've been thinking about Ben a lot lately. Thinking about questions I have for him. Thinking about things he could teach me. Really missing him. I guess this is normal right about now. He was an excellent colleague, a truly incredible physician.
February 4, 2022
February 4, 2022
YOU BETCHYA LINDY,

BECKY AND I ( ANTOINE AND MONIQUE) WILL SCRIBE A TRIBUTE TOMORROW TO OUR GOOD BUDDY BENNY......IF HE UNDERSTOOD THAT WE PRAY EACH NIGHT TOGETHER AND MENTION BEN IN OUR REMEMBRANCES , HE WOULD NOT BELIEVE US. THAT WAS BENNY......I LOVED THAT GUY....HE PLAYED CHESS AND MONOPOLY WITH A VENGEANCE AS HE DID EVERYTHING IN HIS LIFE, WITH VIM VIGOR AND VITALITY......HE IS FORMIDABLE.....HIS MEMORY WILL NEVER EVER DIE AS LONG AS OUR MEMORIES KEEP HIM ALIVE IN OUR HEARTS. HE M ADE SUCH A PROFOUND IMPRESSION ON US FOR SO MANY YEARS THAT FORGETTING BEN, WOULD BE LIKE FORGETTING TO BREATHE....SUFFICE TO SAY...N O T HAPPENING!!! LINDY, I DON’T KNOW IF YOU KNEW THIS BUT ON FEB 14th 2021, BEN AND I WERE EMAILING EACH OTHER WITH VIRUS QUESTIONS.....HE WAS A TOUGH COOKIE WHEN IT CAME TO SCIENCE.....WHAT A GENIUS MIND, IN FACT, AGAIN YOU DON’T KNOW THIS , BUT, HE GAVE ME THE GLORIOUS IDEA OF A DELIVERY SYSTEM FOR MY VIRAL CURE FORMULA, AND MY COMPANY CELLULAR DYNAMICS LLC GEORGIA, IS WORKING ON THE PATENT....BUT WE DECIDED TO KEEP IT PROPRIETARY. GOD BLESS BENNY, WADDA GUY WADDA SCIENTIST AND WADDA CARING INDIVIDUAL, FATHER, AND HUSBAND! LINDY, THY NAME IS LUCKY TO HAVE HAD BEEN WITH BENNY AND THE M OTHER OF SUCH BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE , TRAVIS APRIL AND LUCAS. BOOYAH!

WITH LOVE, HONOR AND RESPECT TO THE FAMILY COCKROFT,

T & BECKY
September 23, 2021
September 23, 2021
Was just thinking of you today...I was telling Moni about how stoked you were about discovering you could ride a truck's wake to save gas...and how I thought that was about as cool as stacking every last possible vegetable on a buffet salad and going back for seconds (lol). Well, until, that is, I was nearly out of gas driving one night trying to get home after we camped -- no working credit card or $ -- from the Sequoias to Los Angeles in my old VW. I basically hitched a free 200-mile ride via a dozen trucks pulling me down the highway in their drafts. A few tried to shake me, but I held on and made it all the way home -- thanks brother. love you. happy birthday from Italy. ~ rf
September 22, 2021
September 22, 2021
It’s comforting to read again the many tributes to Dr. Cockcroft, on this special day, where he would have celebrated 63. I feel like I should be walking into the clinic with home made chocolate chip cookies, or apple pie to celebrate this day, but instead I am remembering what a great doctor and friend he was. I think of him often.
August 26, 2021
August 26, 2021
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August 8, 2021
August 8, 2021
Ben Cockcroft’s eulogy
Hello. Aloha.
As I press this pen into service for the purpose of praising the love of Ben, Benny, Benjamin David Cockcroft I must call upon his soul, his spirit, his overpowering joy to lift me and hold me in the lightness that is our collective gratitude that he was a part of our lives. The energy that is our experience of his life will forever be melted over our hearts as a heavy and comforting weighted blanket, making us feel held and comforted, to gently dream the timeless colors of rainbows and ocean tones. Ben is riding that perfect wave and he is telling that horribly inappropriate joke and flashing that quirky smile to his heart’s content. Let’s take a quick moment to acknowledge the lovely silence and find our breath and possibly deliver a quiet Kleenex to a loving neighbor. Thank you.

Wow. Ok. So. If you have your lucky numbers ready, please pull them out now and we’ll begin the weighted blanket raffle. That was a joke.

I finally have found the courage to write my brother’s eulogy. It is a laundry list of praise for a man that really lived a full life. When I was younger, Ben and I bore a strong resemblance, but as we aged it was clear he had better hair, physique and even surfing ability than I. He was an amazing competitor. He loved the game and he played to win. It was his childlike joy that made everything he did an adventure and exciting. He had a laser focus, sometimes he was just fun to have a meal with. I still have some granola bars that he kept in his car…..when I eat them, I feel like I’m fulfilling the adorable frugal side of Benny.

“My son the doctor “ Susan said when confronted by my request for words of praise this morning. That Ben would be “on-call” for his family when it comes to medical advice was an amazing blessing for all of us. He was compassionate, caring, resourceful and supportive. He was courageous. Ben was truly an exceptional doctor.

Ben was always having the best time out of everyone in the room, he was constantly putting other people before himself, he was very generous, and he mastered the art of loving unconditionally. I imagine he and Butch are now finally together again, and they’re probably eating. Ben didn’t take life too seriously, he had an unfiltered honesty that exposed his lighter side and crazy sense of humor. “There are no words” became an inside joke for Ben and I, when he overheard the rest home manager using the phrase repeatedly with grieving families.

Ben was fearless, and precious. That may seem like an odd couple, but it was two sides of great love. It takes a lot of courage to give unconditional love to others and that is why he was so precious, so important, so valuable. If we can continue to spread our love, his love, to all the people we meet and touch, in this way we will honor and activate his legacy. Ben was a lover.

Ben had an interesting and beautiful sense of fashion. Those pants that unzipped into shorts; functional yet sporty, unique and khaki. That was Ben. He was all about good vibes. I’m really going to miss him.

In closing, I would like to share a poem that resides at the Seafarers memorial in Homer, Alaska. Ben’s life was similar to the lives of the courageous men that are memorialized at that place, and this poem caught me off guard when I encountered it. The day Ben was born, Eva, our mother, went to the beach in California and was knocked over by a large wave, which apparently, was Ben’s cue to start his life outside the womb on Sept 22, 1958. Ben was a true “Seafarer”; may he Rest In Peace.

The Sea by Ryan Bundy 1996
The sea tells a story
It tells of the life it brings
And the lives it claims
It’s deep dark waters are home to some
A final resting place to others

The sea tells a story
It tells of the cycle of life
Running through its waters
Fish spawning, dying, sinking to the ocean floor
Returning to the cycle that engulfs all life

The sea tells a story
It tells of prosperity
Yet how that prosperity can be unforgiving
Nearly everyone will experience its vastness
But some will remain there forever
August 7, 2021
August 7, 2021
Hi everybody,

The family and friends gathered in upstate New York will be having a memorial for Uncle Ben tonight around 6pm ET. All are invited to join via zoom with the invitation below, and we'll also be recording and sharing the video afterwards.


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May 2, 2021
May 2, 2021
TO LIVE
This is dedicated to all those you have loved and loss loved ones this pass year. What is the purpose of living? I have been told it is to love, laugh and to live each day to the fullest. The greatest of these 3 is love. For most of us we can go on each and everyday, by loving and being loved. Some of us do not go on. We stop existing in this world, we feel the world would be better off without us in it. When we feel this way NO ONE can convince us otherwise. There is nothing wrong with not existing in this world. Since we of the living are still here, we look to those who are not. We hope they have found their love they were always searching for. We hope their pain they had in this world is now at ease. Our goal is to look around and find our love here if we can and we need to keep going. We know if we cannot then we know deep down in our soul, we were loved and will always be loved. NO ONE has all the answers and we were not meant to have them all, regardless what you might think. So to answer the question, the purpose of living is LOVE. I do not care what or who you love as long as you love. Love every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every moment you are alive. Then maybe you will be with us till the end. And for some reason your end comes before mine, I know at least while your were here we loved you and you will always be loved. I will go till I cannot go on anymore, then when my end comes, I will get to see all of you again. Love equals so much and so little. Love is neverending no matter how dark your world is. When you say these words, say them with your heart, I will love you always and when you cannot then say them as Dr. Been Cockcroft did through the patient’s he helped, the community he helped, and the family and friends he held dear to his heart ❤️. by l.k.r.m.
March 22, 2021
March 22, 2021
I am so sad to here about Dr Ben, as well as a surfing friend of Docs i worked for many years for a local non profit that supports local people with special needs. Dr Ben was the pcp for alot of our residents. He was so great with them and they all loved him very much. I will miss seeing him in the water, his sense of humor, and true compassion for those less fortunate.
March 12, 2021
March 12, 2021
This is tough.

Still sorting it out, looking around, motionless, like lightning just struck my ear. This loss defies logic and proportion - - too soon, too sudden, unfair.

Ben and I shared the best of our teen years, our worst growing pains, and unmatched epic adventures. He imprinted his kindness, strength and courage onto my wild soul - - marks I still bare proudly. We could tackle each other as if invulnerable, then try to build something out of dreams and air as if architects, and then lay in a frozen cornfield looking up at stars, talking for hours about life, as if immortal. Inevitably, we waded into our own oceans, never losing site of the river that lead us there.

From the Library of Unforgettable-s:
Upstate New York, 1972-ish, Ben and I and some of the kids decide to go skating on frozen Friend’s Lake at full-moon-lit midnight. We take the long road down to the lake and come to a breathtaking mirror-like finish, reflecting a crisp sky of crystals. Tonight, everything is visible, awash in an iridescent Prussian blue. We slowly venture out onto the creaking and moaning glass, while skidoo tracks re-assure us the ice is thick and safe. The breeze becoming stronger, we pause for a moment. We open our jackets like sails, and let the wind propel us silently across.

The smiles on faces, keeping pace with the rush of air, the slight sound of one’s own breath and the skate’s edge on ice, framed by a snow-blanket landscape, shone through a winter shimmer lens — well, that’s my favorite memory of Ben. Or when, mid-conversation, he stuffed a banana completely into his mouth. Tough call.

The morning I got the news of his passing, I realized that a melody which came to me the night before was meant for Ben — like a signal sent when someone’s cut a wire. I managed to get a rough of it done and urgently sent it to Lindy because, to me, that’s just what Ben inspired: love, devotion, honesty, lightness, humor, strength, but also those intangibles: joy — melody — music.

Still rough. Ben’s dad, Jim, my dad, Dale, uncle George, now Ben ----- *expletive*! All meaningful, purposeful, and glorious beacons of light, gone so close together. I’m in tears with the family - - trying to sort of handle it - - stunned.

The outpouring of love and thanks to Ben, Lindy and his kids from family, friends and community says everything. Spoiled are we all to have had the privilege of spending a moment in his company. 

I’ll upload any pix as I find them.

Love you Ben - - miss ya buddy - - I’ll catch ya up there.
March 6, 2021
March 6, 2021
To my dear friend and personal doctor.
I just received the news of your accident. Thank you for your years of compassion and all the ways you helped me stay healthy and happy over our twenty-three years together.
Rest in peace, my friend.
March 5, 2021
March 5, 2021
Benjamin Cockcroft
I don’t know where to start, I am so saddened by this news.
   He was such a fantastic human, intelligent, funny, always smiling and adventurous. I went to medical school and residency with Ben. I feel like I have millions of stories mostly between 1982 and 2005. Even though we stopped doing as many things together as we focused on family and work he was one of my best friends. We would stilI call each other and talk about cases, family and surf.
     I met Ben in medical school while at the University of California at Irvine and we hit it off immediately, I loved his quirky sense of humor, sense of adventure, shared his love of the ocean, and his dog ‘Butch’ who came to class with him regularly and went on many trips with us. He was in the class one year behind me but was only one of three surfers In our medical school at that time. We started surfing together and ended up taking many surf trips to many beaches including Mexico and Costa Rica, we went separately to Hawaii, Tahiti and Fiji  but shared our stories and adventures. I remember him doing a stand-up comedy routine at the medical school talent show, he was fearless!
    We ended up doing our residency together at San Pedro Peninsula Hospital in San Pedro / Palos Verdes area. We continued to surf together and take more trips. He was in medical school when he met Lindy and they had one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve ever been to. I told him about a place I loved to go to surf, camp and hike in the 70s along the Northern Oregon and Washington coast. After residency we both went up to visit in 1989 and were both offered jobs. Unfortunately my mother was sick and I was taking care of her at that time and could not leave. I remember meeting Wally,  Hugh their families and the staff realizing what a wonderful place and opportunity it was. Ben and Lindy went on to live an idyllic life in an idyllic location raising a family of three. Our lives took separate courses, even though we stopped seeing each other much after 2005(our last trips to Mexico and Costa Rica together that year) we still kept in touch. Our last conversation was on my phone  on 02/15/21 and I was amazed he was still snowboarding when I in my older age was being satisfied with walks and hikes. I’m so saddened by this, I pray for his family - he is irreplaceable.
I could only find a few of our photos so far— I know there are many more somewhere




by Dr Scott Nelson
March 5, 2021
March 5, 2021
I was unaware that Dr. Cockcroft had passed until today. Dr. Cockcroft was the first provider I worked with for my Medical Assisting externship. I enjoyed my time working with him immensely and learned a lot from him by watching his interactions with his patients. I had the opportunity to meet his wife Lindy as well. I offer my deepest, heartfelt condolences to Lindy, their children, and the PMG North Coast family for their loss.
March 5, 2021
March 5, 2021
Doctor Cockcroft was my mother's provider before I moved down to Seaside in 2012. He provided such good care for her and he provided good health for me. I shall miss his smiling face and good humor. He was the best doctor I have ever had. I could talk with him and discuss anything and I always felt good about coming into for my annual physical.  I send my condolences and prayers for his family and loved ones. He shall be so missed.
March 3, 2021
Greg and I went to med school with Ben and were looking for him to invite him to join a zoom reunion for our class when we saw this.  Our hearts go out to Lindy (whom we also remember fondly) and their children. We were just talking about what a kind soul and bright spirit and love of life's beauty that Ben had even in the stress of medical school. We are so touched to see that he had been so successful with his family life, his friends and his career, and are not surprised that his patients loved him so much. He and his family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
March 1, 2021
March 1, 2021
My condolences to those who loved Dr. Cockcroft, and truly all he ever got to meet him. Dr. Cockcroft delivered me almost 28 years ago. He delivered 4 other siblings of mine. He was such a kind hearted, funny, and empathetic person. I remember my Aunt Grace May would take us kids to go watch him surf sometimes. He was so patient with my siblings, and always made us laugh. He inspired me to work in the healthcare field. I am so happy that I did, but sad that I moved to Portland, because then I couldn't work with him.
Dr. Crockcroft was beyond compassionate, he always remembered what we had going in our lives and told us about some of his adventures. Thank you so much to his family for sharing him with us for this whole time, now we his community that he built up will grieve with you. He is not truly gone, just his energy is now free. My deepest sympathies for his wife Lindley and his family. 

Sincerely with a heavy heart,


Amberlee Cokley (Eckhardt)
February 28, 2021
February 28, 2021
I met Ben while I was volunteering for massage at the Longboard Classic. I have enjoyed and always looked forward to seeing him over the last 8 years, and being able to give him a much needed massage during the event. He always spoke of his wife and kids; it was obvious he swelled with pride and joy and so much love for them. He was always so kind, grateful, and humble.

Hearing this news of Ben not making it out of a snowboarding accident has been heartbreaking. It just does not seem fair. Not for Ben. My heart breaks for his family and friends. I hope that his spirit and his family will find peace one day.

I would like to offer a gift of massage or acupuncture to Ben’s family and close friends in the hopes that it may help those who are suffering such great loss to process emotions during this most difficult time. Please email me if I can be of assistance. I would be honored to help, and I think Ben would be happy for it, too.

With warmest regards,
Heidi Manning
(heidi.manning73@gmail.com)
February 25, 2021
February 25, 2021
Dr. Cockcroft was the first doctor for both of my boys, he was always so patient with them and included both my husband and I in their care. He always made sure to let us know any concern of our kids he saw and actively listened to any concern we had for them as well. I am sad he won't be there for our family as our provider and my heart and thoughts are with his family throughout these troubling times. He will be very missed around the community.
February 25, 2021
February 25, 2021
Dr. Cockcroft was one of the first providers I worked with when I started at Providence as a student several years ago. Dr. Cockcroft was also the doctor that delivered me 28 years ago. That first week I worked with him I mentioned to his assistant Mindy that he delivered me when I was born, Mindy then told Dr. Cockcroft as he was walking by and he turned, looked at me for a couple seconds and said “Oh, I thought you looked familiar!” and then we all laughed. He wasn’t just kind and an excellent doctor to his patients but he was pretty dang funny too!
I have since moved to a different department in the clinic but that memory has and will always make me laugh. He really was such a kind and bright light to everyone and he will be greatly missed.
February 24, 2021
February 24, 2021
I am still in shock-just back to Buffalo and my computer so im finally able to share my photos and thoughts on Ben.We have been together most of our lives and im crying now just thinking about how much i loved him and am going to miss him.im still not over the loss of my dad and this just sucks so bad.i wish we were all together instead of so far apart this covid pandemic is getting old.i will post more when im able.
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