ForeverMissed
Momma, Nanny, Aunt Berda, Bestie Gourd, Wifey

On April 15th 2021 Berda Fetters, 61, of Jonesboro received her wings.
She was met at heavens gates by her beloved mother and best friend, Lois Ramsey.


She is survived by her daughter, Christi Smith, son in law Craig Smith, two grand babies Jacob Smith and Lucas Smith, Her son, Justin O’Neal and her beloved yorkie “Beamer Steamer”.
Two younger brothers John Goodman, and Carl Ramsey. Who between them blessed her with 2 nephews, and 4 nieces, to whom she loved as if they were her very own.
Jonathan Goodman, Brandi Norris, Jessie Goodman, John Wayne Goodman, Alexander Ramsey, and Jessica Ramsey.

A memorial will be held at a later date to ensure that all who were touched by her life have a chance to attend, celebrate and say goodbye in a Berda kinda way.
We will remember her forever.

Posted by Anne Aja on June 22, 2021
Dear Christi,
It must be so hard to say goodbye to your Mom, Christi. Everything you've communicated about her tells me how intensely she loved you and your brother. I know that she lives in your heart. You are in my thoughts.
Sincerely,
Anne
Posted by Ne Ne on May 13, 2021
I known her for a very short time.she was always sweet friend!! that will be missed very much.by many she was a ray of sunshine in everyone life's.Joseph Joey Campbell
Posted by Williams Eric on May 12, 2021
She was such a sweet loving person and I'm so broken hearted that she's gone. But in a way better place . Till I'll see you again. I'll be missing you.
Posted by Ne Ne on May 11, 2021
My bestie my wifey my every thing I needed !!! She was a one of a kind an angel !!! She came into my life a boss !! The first day I meet her we were chasing geese away from her fishing spot at Blaylock lake !!!  They keep coming up and pooping everywhere and it stank so we would chase them off. We got soooo tickled at each other running along the lake bank chasing them stupid geese !!! From that day on me and her have been inseparable and became best friends !!! There was never a time I needed her she was not there !!! She and I got so close we could sense things about each other !! She always knew just what I needed to make whatever I was going through better as if she was a part of me and that's why I called her my wifey !! She was my everything !!! She always knew just what to say or song to play !! I never knew what was gonna come out of her mouth !!! She would always say Dee you ate that one friend !!! But really it was her so was that one friend !!! No one can ever take her place in my heart or in my life !!! I will never have another Betda a wifey !!! She was such a complete and over whelming person that I never needed anyone else in my life except this amazing woman God has seen fit to put in my life !!! Betda and I have shared so much together many many tears and many many laughs !!! She and I took a trip to Florida for a week and and the way there we stopped at a truck stop and got a shower the whole time we were in that shower room she talked to me in a man voice so all those truckers thought we were a man and woman in there all I could do was laugh at all the things she was saying !! We get our showers and as we got to walk out she says to me Dee just watch all these faces as we walk out and its 2 woman !!# she was right the looks we got were crazy !!! But that was my Betda my wifey !!! I could stay on here for months telling stories of our friendship #! We shared a very real and honest friendship like no other !!! We were always there for each other no matter what !!! The day my home burned she was right here with me and took me out of here she was also the one that was hete and brought me back home when it was done !!! It was the last act of love my wifey was able to give me cause on April 15,2021 God called her home !! He need an angel my angel !! So I'm gonna close my wifey by saying I miss you Berda Lynn Fetters more than words can say !! Thank God for putting you in my life !!! It's was my honor to have been your friend !! I was so lucky to have you for as long as I did !! And never forget what I always told you my wifey !! The world became a better place the day you were born !!! Now you have the wings to show what an angel you have always been here on earth !!! I LOVE YOU MORE THAN WORDSCAN SAY MY WIFEY ANDI WILL FOREVER MISS YOU !!! I will see you on the other side wifey and until then I will carry you in my heart ❤ each and everyday !!- rest easy my bestie and fly high love you always and forever !!! Your friend Dee
Posted by Christi Smith on May 11, 2021
She was my ROCK. She was my counselor, my vault, my shoulder, and my truth seeker because if I was asking...the truth is all she was telling. She was also my best friend and my favorite teacher. She taught me how to love with everything that I am, to fight with everything I’ve got, and to always just be myself because she was proud of who I had become. I was the mother she had taught me to be, and coming from a mom like her....that’s the greatest compliment any mom could hear. She told me not to long ago how much she loved being a mom, but (“and don’t take this the wrong way”, she said) nothing in the world compares to being called “nanny” by my boys. She said Jacob and Lucas were nannies heart, and that she loved them to the moon and back and all the stars. So basically in Berda terms that’s even more than fishing and coco cola!

If you knew her you know how stubborn, and hard headed she could be. She was as independent as they come. She never asked for help unless she had attempted every possible way (at least a dozen) and found no way around it. Yet she was the first one there to offer help always. If she couldn’t help physically she was at least going to make sure you weren’t hungry after. Truth is out of the sea of condolences I’ve received not one of them came without gratitude for a time(s) my mom had been there to help no questions asked. Be it a dry bed, a listening ear, words of encouragement or a dose of reality...whatever it was, if she had it to give (and even when she didn’t) she made sure no one went without. She had the strength of a warrior and the soul of an angel. She made a world that made no sense...somehow make sense again. In the sound of her voice...the wisdom of truth it told, in the light of love you saw in her beautiful blue eyes, or the security you felt in her hugs...she was so much more than the name you used to get her attention. (“A thousand times” if she had her ear bobs in) She was so much more than the many hats she wore all woven into one. She was the GLUE, she was my glue.
I need you to know I would never be this strong without you, and I’ve loved you since the first time I opened my eyes. Like the mother you are, you’ve kept your eyes on everyone you love ever since. Rest now mama lord knows you’ve earned it. I’m going to miss you so much, I already do, and I’m sure I always will. I know, even though I’ve picked up the phone a million times to tell you something, I know...”it’s already written.” I promise we will be ok down here, because you raised us that way.

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Posted by Anne Aja on June 22, 2021
Dear Christi,
It must be so hard to say goodbye to your Mom, Christi. Everything you've communicated about her tells me how intensely she loved you and your brother. I know that she lives in your heart. You are in my thoughts.
Sincerely,
Anne
Posted by Ne Ne on May 13, 2021
I known her for a very short time.she was always sweet friend!! that will be missed very much.by many she was a ray of sunshine in everyone life's.Joseph Joey Campbell
Posted by Williams Eric on May 12, 2021
She was such a sweet loving person and I'm so broken hearted that she's gone. But in a way better place . Till I'll see you again. I'll be missing you.
her Life
She was a mom, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a grandma, a caretaker, a healer, a way maker miracle worker. She must’ve moonlighted as a magician because I’ll never understand or be able to comprehend how she was able to become and stay so strong when most would have given in a long time ago. She had the kind of soul you only had to meet once to love forever. She never met a stranger and became a great friend to so many.
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Shared by Christi Smith on May 11, 2021


I remember watching my mom as a little girl. She was a beautiful person both inside and out. I remember hoping and praying I’d be beautiful, like her, when I grew up. I watched ever so closely as she put on her makeup, curled her hair, used 12 cans of aqua net hairspray (the higher the better) to keep it perfectly in place. She wore her pants so tight she had to lay across the bed to button and zip them. If it was cutting off her circulation she couldn’t tell. She was to into dancing with the Mr. Micheal Bolton to care. While I just stared, amazed at how she could dance in those 6in red high heels. Last but not least she’d spray on her favorite perfume (back then was)...Halston. I would be waiting wrist out for my one spray and she’d say “now rub em together, and I’ll be home from work before you know it. I love you Babygirl!” Somehow she knew that one smell (her) would comfort me on nights she couldn’t be there.
She brought the sun out in the mornings and put the moon to bed at night. To me...she was magic. As I grew older and the magic of the innocence slowly faded she was the rock to always keep me steady, keep me grounded and keep me safe. She wasn’t perfect, but she was perfect to me.