Betty Siu Fong Siu - ForeverMissed.com Online Memorials

Let the memory of Betty Siu Fong be with us forever.

Born in Kagok, Canton, China
Passed away on July 29, 2020 in Oakland, California, United States

This website honors “Betty” Siu Fong Siu, 92, of Oakland, CA who passed on July 29, 2020.

Betty, the most devoted and loving wife, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, is survived by sons, Arthur (Donna) and Howard; daughters, Loretta and Edna (Jim); grandchildren, Michael, Gail (Brian), Tony, Nathan (Angela), Courtney (Daniel), Gregory (Charity) and Jordan; and great-grandchildren James, Aeryn and Ronan.She is also survived by family members of her paper sons, Phillip and Wayne.

Born in Kagok, Canton, China, the eldest of three (3) children, she came to the US as the young bride of “Buddy” Quon Pot Siu. Like many immigrants, it was her goal to come to Gum Shan (the Gold Mountain) to live a life of opportunity away from poverty, conflict (Sino-Japanese War, Chinese Civil War), and the limitations of her rural village life. In 1947, she arrived by boat in San Francisco with Buddy, the clothes on her back and four (4) Chinese coins from her mother. At the immigration station, not knowing the exact date of her birth, she chose July 4th as her birthday in recognition of the life that she would live in her new adopted country.

At the age of 18, Betty arrived in the US, newly married to a man that she barely knew; pregnant with her first child; with barely any education; unable to read or speak English; with no family or friends; no creature comforts; no place to live, and no security. Most would agree that Betty faced many insurmountable obstacles, but she came with the determination to live her dream and the will to build the best life possible for her and her growing family.

Over the next 56 years, together Betty and Buddy lived the American dream. They were entrepreneurs and owned a grocery store; purchased a house and rental properties; raised a family; and helped their kids through college so that they could go on to build their own families. After they sold the store, Betty went on to work for other store owners and retired from her position verifying checks for the Bank of America with company stock in her portfolio. Through Betty’s natural tendency to talk story, throw parties and cook (who can forget her sesame balls, fried chicken, chow mein, Scandinavian rosettes), she created a strong sense of community and built a wide extended family by forging meaningful relationships with countless others.

In 1993, Buddy passed. Betty then lived alone for 27 years in her own home as the matriarch of the family that she and Buddy created. Those who met Betty would agree; she was a very strong, independent woman who lived her dream even up until her passing. Betty was known for her tenacity, her strength and her conviction. Although she was considered uneducated by many standards, she was dedicated to continuous learning and studied the daily newspaper.She proudly tells the story of how she arrived in the US with very little in her pockets, but was leaving a rich woman because she realized her dreams. As she would often say, “I have everything. I can eat anything, and do anything. I have my family who shows me how they can work together. What more could I want?”

Betty had the natural talent and personality to make friends no matter the situation. She was truly an amazing woman whose drive to achieve her goals will forever be appreciated by her family who loves her dearly and the others whose lives she touched. She will be missed. Together, in her memory, we celebrate the legacy that she gives us through the courageous, purposeful and inspirational life that she led.

In recognition of the pandemic, services will only be held for the immediate family. In lieu of flowers and contributions, the family asks that you carry on Betty’s spirit by making a contribution to your favorite charity, having a favorite meal with others in your immediate family or social bubble, and finding ways to live your best life.

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July 29, 2021

It's been one year since mom passed. Sometimes, it's hard to believe that she's physically gone, but I know that she lives on through her legacy.

Our parents taught us the importance of family, hard work, sacrifice, community, and giving. They also showed us that you can live your dreams even if you start with very modest beginnings. I will always be grateful for these gifts and appreciative of the opportunities that our mom and dad gave us. Mom told me that I would better appreciate what I have if I have to work for it. She was right.

Mom and dad loved their garden. They had beautiful flowers and fruit trees that we all enjoyed. On this 1 year anniversary, Jim, Jordan and I are creating a new flower garden in our yard. We're starting with about 20 roses and 18 dahlias. Perhaps, they'll see the garden from where they are.

January 25, 2021

I was commissioned to create a video portrait of Mrs. Siu, and had the pleasure of spending a wonderful day with her, in her home and in her garden. It was a privilege for me. A remarkable person, and a beautiful family.

August 22, 2020

I remember Baw Baw being stern when I was very little but I eventually came to know her as a fun and funny person. She has taught me a lot I will miss her. Most of all she imparted upon me her bravery.

Farewell Baw Baw, Love Jordan.

August 5, 2020

Baw-Baw (as I will always know her) welcomed me into the family from day 1. She never asked anything of me except one thing: take care of her daughter and grandson, which I've tried my best to do. She never seemed to worry about herself, only that everyone else in the family was happy. Most of all I'll never forget that instant smile anytime a camera was pointed in her direction.

August 5, 2020

One word: Go-getter! Betty was a go-getter. Whatever she put her mind to, she got it done. I got to know Betty more intimately in the latter years of her life although our families have known each other since the 60's. We called her "Baw-Baw" (as others did) from my generation. She was a loyal friend, a devoted wife, mother and doting grandmother. Betty was full of energy, wisdom, practical advice and a huge heart. She and my mom spoke on an almost daily basis. They were there for each other through some of life's most challenging times. Our conversations in the past few years went well into the night. She gave me insight to the struggles of life for the generation before sharing stories of sacrifice and courage bridging two countries east to west, stories of friendships forged through common experiences of a new life in a new country and the fears, hopes and dreams that came to fruition. Success is a life well lived. Betty lived a successful life. She was someone her friends and family could lean on. She'd often say "All I want is my family to be happy. That is all I can ask." She felt blessed, always was positive, most of all I will remember her love for all within her circle of friendship and her CAN DO spirit! Betty, I'll miss you but you'll forever be in my heart. Affectionately, Diana

August 4, 2020

Mrs. Siu: We will miss you at parties where you always sat smiling as you watched the kids play. Thank you for all your kind words and shared wisdom.

August 4, 2020

Mrs. Siu - I was always so happy to see you at parties I went to at Uncle Art and Auntie Donna’s house. Not only because of your amazing fried chicken but because I had also secretly considered you as an extended grandma. Having lost my grandparents at a young age, you always gave me the warm caring feeling that I so longly missed from mine. I loved how you always asked how I was doing in school, at work and sharing how you were proud at seeing my sister and I grow throughout the years. I will miss your tight hugs, getting your recipes and cooking tips, and your infectious laughter that I could always hear from any room. We are blessed to have known you for so long. ❤️

August 3, 2020

While I didn't know Betty, I know Loretta. Based on the beautiful tributes here and the story of her life, I see those same qualities in Loretta. My sympathies to the family.

August 3, 2020

You will be missed...You left this world in better condition then when you arrived...we can see this by your accomplishments and the family you brought into this world...

August 3, 2020

We were nobody when we moved from Japan - no family and no friends here. She and her family took us under the wing. We are forever grateful to her kindness and will truly miss her voice, hug, and unfiltered opinions.

The Kanai Family

August 2, 2020

My memory of Mrs. Siu was a woman who had impeccable timing in all her life ventures. She knew when to listen and when to offer advice; she accepted other peoples' fragilities and never judged; she loved with all her heart with passion and showed compassion to those who were in need; and most of all, she was a friend to the many different generations. Mrs. Siu was a take-charge person and always ensured everything was in order by providing comfort, enjoyment and loads of food to all. The knowledge that she has proceeded us is reassuring, because when we meet again, she will ensure the road will be paved to a perfect path for us to journey onto. I will miss her, but knowing she is in a better place gives me solace.

August 1, 2020

Mrs. Siu,

You were always my special friend and mentor.

With love and affection,
Anne

August 1, 2020

How does one pay tribute to a life long friend & gift like Betty Siu?

We may carry on with Betty’s defined life examples of perseverance, sacrifice, inspiration, kindness, selflessness and fortitude.
Betty lived her life with purpose and direction, setting those specific examples so that future generations also have aspirations to follow.

Knowing Betty is like winning the Lottery. What you gain in knowing her is immeasurable in value. Betty embraces friendship and family as the foundation of her natural soul. She speaks from her heart and shares her knowledge willingly without reservations because she genuinely cared.

Not long ago, I asked her, “How do you want others to remember you?”
Her pensive response, “I’m like an Umbrella,.. giving care to those that need help.”
Such perfect example- Similar to how an umbrella protects us from the harsh rain, Betty shelters those in need under her canopy of ‘care and love.’ This was her gift to others to remain steadfast and personable. She possessed a heart of gold, even if you happen to spend just a few moments with her, you walked away feeling valued regardless of your circumstances.

To the Betty Siu Family,.. A Mom’s Love is like no other.
Your mom even in her advanced age had the special gift to be childlike as she believed in ‘miracles’ that can happen in life. She’s my ideal of a Superhero & bravest woman I’ve ever known considering her humble beginnings and living by example to inspire others through life accomplishments.

Thank you for this opportunity to share,
Take good care-
Jeanne Pong

August 1, 2020

Missing Betty!
What I truly loved about Betty were the many stories she had to tell and how animated she became while telling them.
My favorite, which she told me often, had to do with her gifts of jade. According to Betty you did not give a person a piece of jade because it was pretty, you gave a gift of jade to those you wanted to have be protected.
She claimed that while wearing jade you were protected from falls, blows, hurts of any kind. I’m a believer.
I treasured her stories and will remember her fondly.
My sincere condolences to her large and loving family.

August 1, 2020

She’ll be forever missed.

July 31, 2020

Baw Baw welcomed me to the Siu family with open arms. She was sharp and fiercely loving. I'm glad she was able to meet and spend a little time with her third great grandchild.

July 31, 2020

Mom gave me her heart. I'm so grateful that I was able to spend the last month with her.

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August 8, 2020

It is hard to lose a dear friend like Mrs. Siu. She was a close friend of my mother's and they would chat often. When one wouldn't hear from the other, they would worry about each other. They were able to share their life stories and experiences, concerns and happy moments. When my mother passed and I was missing her, Mrs. Siu told me how much she missed my mom too. Mrs. Siu became a link to my mom. She made me feel that a part of my mom was still here.
Mrs. Siu lived a long and fulfilling life. She had a positive attitude towards life, and I've learned from her to see the good in things. She loved her family and was proud of each and every one of them. I've learned from her to just do my best, and to appreciate all that life has given us. Mrs. Siu had the most beautiful smile and I will miss that. I will also miss our conversations. I will miss the sound of her voice. She was so kind to all my family, and they also remember her smile and friendship.
So, as hard as it is to say goodbye to Mrs. Siu, I take comfort knowing that she was happy with her life and filled with gratitude. I take comfort knowing that she and my mom are enjoying each other's conversations once again... friends reunited.

We are a Family of Immigrants

August 5, 2020

It's impossible to talk about my parent's story without recognizing that their journey is an important part of our nation's history. The Siu's are a group of proud immigrants who like many others, of many colors, nationalities and races, faced seemingly insurmountable challenges as they struggled to make a new life in the US. They came to pursue their dreams as they learned about this amazing land of opportunity, but they were greeted with racism and in humane treatment. (I think about whether I could have survived being below deck on a ship for weeks on end without a friendly face in sight to then arrive in a foreign land where I would sit in a jail cell for months before being released.) So often you hear about how racism defeats us. Our parent's success reminds us that the challenges of racism (at least some of it) can be overcome.

In 2012, the Angel Island Immigration Foundation opened the Angel Island Immigration Station historical museum. Please take a minute to click on this link to read more about the significance of the Station, especially the stories of immigrants from Guangdong Province in southern China who fled from a land stricken by both natural and man-made disasters and a collapsing rural economy. This plaque in the photo memorializes our parents journey with their two paper sons, Phillip and Wayne. For many years, this was a story that we could not tell; and even to the end of her life, when asked where my dad was born, my mom would reply "Hawaii".

When our world allows us to meet again in person, we hope to meet you on Angel Island to celebrate our parents' lives and the lives of our family and friends who will be "forever missed". Stay posted for more information.

August 2, 2020

Dear Baw Baw,

I have so many memories of growing up with you. Coming home to your house from elementary school (if you weren't home, I would go to grandma Kwen Serng's house until you came to pick me up), eating fruit after dinner, and then listening to Chinese soap operas while falling asleep. I had the most fun learning how to make different chinese snacks (jian dui, chinese white cookies, joong) and picking fruit at harvest time. It was always amazing to me how we would make or harvest so much and then you would share it out to so many different people.
You loved sharing your wisdom with the grandkids too. Though it was hard to listen all the time, I know you only wanted the best for us. I hope I can continue to make you proud.

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