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Closest Friend for 53 years

Shared by Jim Phillips on April 4, 2020
Blair was the first person l met freshman year at Williams College in the fall of '67.  Roommates for 4 years when I was introduced to Motown and the Supremes and Blair's love of music.  Roadtrips to Skidmore to visit Lyn and Sue and Vassar to visit Tis.  Trips to NYC to stand outside of stage doors to pester Broadway stars.  Not sure I would have survived the psychedelic '60's without Blair as an anchor.  We both went to grad school at University of Texas in Austin--law school for me, communications for Blair.  I stayed in Austin while Blair left for LA to seek his fortune.  No one who knew Blair doubted he would be a success.  Sure enough--started in the mail room and ended as President of his company.  Best man at my wedding and he remained a strong and integral part of Syl's and my life in all the intervening years.  He hosted us and the kids when we visited LA; last visit was when he picked us up at the airport when we had a long layover from a flight from New Zealand and daughter's wedding in Fiji.  We heard from him every year at birthdays--never failed to honor us with a card and phone call.  I don't think I have ever met anyone who was more positive or embraced life and friendships with such radiant energy.  Blair's passing leaves a deep hole in our lives.   

Generosity

Shared by Elora Cosper on March 15, 2020
It has been almost a month since we lost our dear friend and family member, and there has not been a day that has passed where I haven't thought of him. I miss his presence in the world. I can feel the absence of him. It seems hard to believe that it has already been a month, when so much has happened in the days since his passing; it is a whole new world. Today I am reflecting on Blair's generosity. He was one of the most generous people I have ever known. He was generous with his love, with his time, with his energy. I loved his energy so much. I used to wish I could bottle it and take it home with me every thanksgiving we spent together, so that I could keep it with me throughout the year. He was generous with that vital, vivacious, brilliant, shinning enthusiasm. It was contagious and inspiring. When I see what is going on in the world now; COVID-19, markets crashing, social distancing, supply hoarding and price gouging... I think of Blair and what he would have made of all of this. I know what he would do. He would show up, how ever he could, with that same generosity of spirit and his beautiful smile and show the kindness we should all be modeling right now. I will be taking my cues from him, today, and I hope everyday hereafter, to be more like him, in all the beautiful ways that he was. 

A friend shared this poem with me by Lynn Ungar. In its own way, it reminds me of Blair. 

Pandemic

What if you thought of it
as the Jews consider the Sabbath—
the most sacred of times?
Cease from travel.
Cease from buying and selling.
Give up, just for now, 
on trying to make the world
different than it is. 
Sing. Pray. Touch only those
to whom you commit your life.
Center down.
 
And when your body has become still,
reach out with your heart.
Know that we are connected
in ways that are terrifying and beautiful.
(You could hardly deny it now.)
Know that our lives
are in one another’s hands.
(Surely, that has come clear.)
Do not reach out your hands.
Reach out your heart.
Reach out your words.
Reach out all the tendrils
of compassion that move, invisibly,
where we cannot touch.
 
Promise this world your love–
for better or for worse,
in sickness and in health,
so long as we all shall live.
 
–Lynn Ungar 3/11/20

More on Motown

Shared by Megan Cooper on February 27, 2020
The post from Jim Lattin reminds me that Motown was the soundtrack of our lives~ especially anything sung by The Supremes! During our growing up in Ithaca, chances are that if you visited our home or rode in our car, music was playing in the background.
The night after Blair died, I had a dream. All I remember is the image of Diana Ross looking down from above and asking me, "Is it ok if I visit Blair?"
Music was an integral part of Blair's life.  Outside of work his favorite hobby was songwriting with his dear friend Terry Stockwell.  About 10 years ago Blair prepared a CD for me of some of these great songs. Blair and Terry wrote a beautiful song that she sang at our wedding, "Circle of Love."
I feel that we are all forming a "circle of love" around our beloved Blair.

Motown

Shared by Jim Lattin on February 26, 2020
Blair and i shared a love affair with the supremes and ultimately all motown
we cajoled our parents to take us to nighclubs in Boston and ny to see them live. We tried to meet the supremes in person hanging out by the stage door. We failed but did meet and converse with dianas hairdresser. You’d of thought we were in nirvana!!!
subsequently we did meet and interview marvin gaye and tammy terrell  as well as the 4 tops and temptations when they played concerts at cornell. We created “press passes” for the tatler( ithaca high newspaper.  What memories.......

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