The journey through grief is a personal experience, unique to each of us. It makes it a challenge to know how to support a grieving friend this holiday season. Many people suffer from the fear of saying the wrong thing, so even the most well-meaning of us can be a true loss for words – sometimes just when a friend needs our comfort most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When words fail, we look to acts of support instead. However, it\u2019s not always clear how to take action to support your friend either. Oftentimes, the best support comes with a sense of balance; support in either word or action, coupled with a respect for your friend\u2019s privacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019re struggling to find the right way to support your grieving friend during the holidays, consider the following suggestions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For many people, the worst thing a friend can do is nothing. So, make sure you \u2018show up\u2019 for your friend in some way. It can be as simple as a thoughtful card – not one that extolls holiday joy and celebration – but one that lets them know you understand they are hurting and that you\u2019re there if needed as they face a holiday season without their special person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It may feel uncomfortable bringing up the subject of loss, but talking openly about their loss may be just what your friend needs – and what no one else is providing for them. Ask genuine questions about how they\u2019re feeling, and whether they\u2019d like to share anything, then simply sit quietly and listen for as long as they need you to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Many grieving individuals don\u2019t have the energy to attend large holiday parties or face crowded stores and restaurants. Instead, invite your friend for a simple cup of coffee or a casual walk. A break from their normal routine can help them to step outside their grief for a brief time and allow them to enjoy your companionship without feeling too much holiday overwhelm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone\u2019s journey through loss is different, and on a unique timeline. While it may be tempting to remind your friend of the joys in their life this holiday season, never pressure them to deny their sadness and pain or move on from feelings they are still processing. You may not understand their mood or emotions, but support them by practicing acceptance and non-judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pretending that everything is normal and going through the motions of a typical holiday season can prove incredibly painful for a grieving person. Be the friend who acknowledges that things are different this year, and let your friend know that they aren\u2019t bound by the usual holiday expectations. Share that you understand they\u2019re dealing with an incredible challenge, remind them of their strength and offer to be there for whatever they need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n