ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Bob Perri, born on November 23, 1937. He passed away peacefully at home with his family on May 10, 2021 at age 83 (1000 moons). He was the light of our lives and we miss him dearly. 

Bob was the youngest of five Perri sons and the last of the brother's to pass away. His beloved mother Maria and father Nicola and their oldest son Vince immigrated from a small village in Calabria, Italy to Ellis Island NY in 1928. They first settled in Wisconsin, where Bob was born and later made their way across the country to California. Bob had a great admiration for his parents and his four older brothers, Vince, Ralph, Frank, and Ben. The Perri family immigrating to the U.S. is a remarkable legacy. Later in their adult life, the Perri brothers would have reunions together and they especially enjoyed reminiscing about their childhood days.

In 1960, Bob earned a BS degree in engineering and business management from San Jose State University. He began a successful career as an aerospace engineer at LMSC/Lockheed Martin. During some of his years at Lockheed, he provided industry-related college courses to students at San Jose State University and Santa Clara University. He was often a guest speaker at IBM conferences to provide information on the first CAD/CAM program that began at Lockheed. In 1994, after 34 successful and rewarding years, he retired from Lockheed as Division Director for Media Services. Bob was well respected and admired by his co-workers and friends. Privately, he was an investment adviser, and income tax preparer for family and friends. 

Bob and Ann first met at Lockheed in 1962. As a joke, a co-worker of Ann's who knew she wanted to meet Bob, put a note in Bob’s wrecked, red MG convertible with Ann’s phone number to call for "car repair"!  The next day at work, Bob introduced himself to Ann, and they laughed about the note, and later he asked her out on a date. They had an instant attraction to each other, and realized they were very compatible, and fell in love. They dated for a year and were married in August 1963. It was a very happy marriage and family life with their two children (Gina & John), and later with their spouses (Jason & Myra) and three beautiful grandchildren (Emilia, Claudia, & Marcus). This year would have been Bob & Ann's 58th wedding anniversary.

Bob was very kind with an easy going nature. He was a good listener and an excellent teacher. He was always constructive and efficient with his time, and could balance between work and relaxation, and especially to spend time with his family. For many years, Bob was the team coach for both Gina and John's various sports, and also the commissioner for MV/LA, CYSA boys soccer teams. Bob was an avid reader and knowledgeable about many subjects such as conservation, science, history, and economics. He played Sudoku daily to keep his mind sharp and he taught himself how to do magic tricks and became quite good at it.

Bob was passionate about gardening and spent time in his garden every day.
He generously shared his homegrown vegetables and fruit with family and friends. He would plant anything Ann asked him to grow for cooking. He was the ‘farmer’, and she was the ‘cook’. Bob enjoyed good wholesome food, and would always compliment Ann for cooking the vegetables grown in his garden. Bob became very skilled at baking, and every week he made artisan sourdough bread and granola. He also baked delicious Italian Biscotti (like his Mom’s) and traditional Panettone bread for Christmas.

Bob was a naturalist at heart and loved spending time in the great outdoors.
He took the family to many different places with natural and scenic interest.
One of his greatest joys was being at the Tahoe cabin with family and friends and spending time at the lake. In the summer, he enjoyed long walks in the nearby meadow and hiking in Desolation Wilderness. During the winter months it was skiing, snowshoeing, and playing in the snow with the kids. Another favorite activity of Bob’s was kayaking and he shared this passion of his with many friends and family. After early retirement, Bob went on annual backpacking trips with his childhood friend, Larry who retired the same time as Bob. They hiked and camped at some of the most beautiful national parks in the country and continued this tradition into their late 70's.

Bob was a lifetime supporter of many local environmental and conservation programs. He was a longtime volunteer on a number of different assignments for the Peninsula Open Space Trust (POST). Most notably, he was a docent for 20+ years at Ano Nuevo State Park on the San Mateo coast. He enjoyed being at the ocean and giving informative walking tours about the elephant seals.

Bob felt very blessed to have a loving family and he was grateful for a wonderful life. He was a devoted husband, dad, and papa who dearly loved his family, and his family adored him. His love, wisdom, and light-heartedness will be greatly missed. 

Thank you to all our friends and family for their loving support, and for all the heartfelt cards and words of sympathy for our loss.
Posted by Cindy Gottsch on September 23, 2021
I have many fond memories of my Uncle Bob and I'd like to share a couple of them. The first memory is when I was about six years old. Our family was visiting from Portland, Oregon for a vacation. One evening we were all in the living room visiting. Uncle Bob was lying on the floor next to the fireplace talking with the grown-ups. I suddenly got a silly idea to tackle him! Next thing I remember we were having an awesome wrestling match together. That was when I realized that my Uncle Bob was really cool! I have never forgotten that day. ❤

My second memory is my summer vacation with Uncle Bob, Auntie Ann, Gina and John. I was a teenager at the time. Gina and John were toddlers. I loved spending my summers helping Auntie Ann with my adorable cousins. We would always be busy taking them swimming, having picnics, riding bikes, or just being together at their home. In the evenings when things would quiet down, Uncle Bob would sit next to Auntie Ann and start talking to her in a special love language that I would describe as the sound of a bird singing. He would do this little bird singing talk to Auntie Ann and amazingly she knew exactly what he was saying. She would answer him back in the same love language! I could hardly believe that she could understand everything he was telling her.
My Uncle Bob was my hero and always will be. He was gentle, soft-spoken, smile on his face and a little twinkle in his eyes all the time.

Eternal rest Grant to him oh Lord and may Perpetual light shine upon him.
Posted by kyle gottsch on September 14, 2021
My uncle Bob was a great man with a beautiful soul. I’ll always cherish the time I went to visit him for my 16th birthday and he took me out kayaking in the ocean. He was always in great shape and even as a teenager I struggled to keep up with him. The Bob I knew was a man who spoke very little words, but his peaceful auroa spoke volumes. A patient man. I know your in a better place now uncle Bob, enjoying your garden in heaven and continuing to send your peace and wisdom to us on earth. Until I see you again. Love always
Posted by Lena Spalitta on August 27, 2021
Wow, where do I begin? My brother in law Bob was one in a million. He always had a smile and a twinkle in his eye. Bob was a kind man, and did so many nice things for me. Every year he helped me with my taxes, and even helped me sell my business, I could not have done it without him. I could ask him anything and he would always know what to do. He was more like a brother than a brother in law, and I will miss him so very much.
Posted by Lisa and Willem on August 25, 2021
I was so deeply moved by your lovingly written tribute. Every word of every sentence was so vivid and captivating. I never had the good fortune of meeting Bob, but reading this made me especially understand why he is so beloved. Thank you for sharing the story of your father, husband, and grandfather with us!
Posted by Connie Mariottini on August 19, 2021
Such a beautiful story from the Family for all to see the super photos & learn so much about Bob. Thank you dear Bob for sharing that wonderful smile for all!
Posted by Jane Swank on August 16, 2021
Dear Ann and Family,
What a beautiful tribute you have composed for your beloved Bob. You have captured his spirit and person perfectly both in your written tribute and in the accompanying photos. Those pictures of Bob as a son, brother, husband, father and grandfather depict so perfectly a man who knew what was important in life - love and family - and who lived those values to the fullest. While you will always miss his presence you will have abundant memories to warm your hearts and to share with one another of your remarkable, kind and loving husband, father and grandfather. 
Posted by Patricia Kalish on August 16, 2021

Dear Perri Family,

I send my deepest condolences for the physical loss of your husband, dad and grandad. I did not know Bob well. I felt that I knew him pretty well through Ann and her descriptions of his interests and skills. Mostly I recognized a very smart, skilled and loving family man, one who truly shared his life with his loving wife. That is the story of his life from my viewpoint. They were together! The loss is deep - but the memories are rich. That is what he has given to the family. 
Posted by Gina Perri on May 22, 2021
When Great Trees Fall


by Maya Angelou

When great trees fall,

rocks on distant hills shudder,

lions hunker down

in tall grasses,

and even elephants

lumber after safety.



When great trees fall

in forests,

small things recoil into silence,

their senses

eroded beyond fear.



When great souls die,

the air around us becomes

light, rare, sterile.

We breathe, briefly.
Our eyes, briefly,

see with

a hurtful clarity.

Our memory, suddenly sharpened,

examines,

gnaws on kind words

unsaid,

promised walks

never taken.


Great souls die and

our reality, bound to

them, takes leave of us.

Our souls,

dependent upon their

nurture,

now shrink, wizened.

Our minds, formed

and informed by their

radiance,
fall away.

We are not so much maddened

as reduced to the unutterable ignorance
of
dark, cold

caves.



And when great souls die,

after a period peace blooms,

slowly and always

irregularly. Spaces fill

with a kind of

soothing electric vibration.

Our senses, restored, never

to be the same, whisper to us.

They existed. They existed.

We can be. Be and be

better. For they existed.

*Thank you to our dear friend Bodhi Freedom for sending this beautiful poem

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Posted by Cindy Gottsch on September 23, 2021
I have many fond memories of my Uncle Bob and I'd like to share a couple of them. The first memory is when I was about six years old. Our family was visiting from Portland, Oregon for a vacation. One evening we were all in the living room visiting. Uncle Bob was lying on the floor next to the fireplace talking with the grown-ups. I suddenly got a silly idea to tackle him! Next thing I remember we were having an awesome wrestling match together. That was when I realized that my Uncle Bob was really cool! I have never forgotten that day. ❤

My second memory is my summer vacation with Uncle Bob, Auntie Ann, Gina and John. I was a teenager at the time. Gina and John were toddlers. I loved spending my summers helping Auntie Ann with my adorable cousins. We would always be busy taking them swimming, having picnics, riding bikes, or just being together at their home. In the evenings when things would quiet down, Uncle Bob would sit next to Auntie Ann and start talking to her in a special love language that I would describe as the sound of a bird singing. He would do this little bird singing talk to Auntie Ann and amazingly she knew exactly what he was saying. She would answer him back in the same love language! I could hardly believe that she could understand everything he was telling her.
My Uncle Bob was my hero and always will be. He was gentle, soft-spoken, smile on his face and a little twinkle in his eyes all the time.

Eternal rest Grant to him oh Lord and may Perpetual light shine upon him.
Posted by kyle gottsch on September 14, 2021
My uncle Bob was a great man with a beautiful soul. I’ll always cherish the time I went to visit him for my 16th birthday and he took me out kayaking in the ocean. He was always in great shape and even as a teenager I struggled to keep up with him. The Bob I knew was a man who spoke very little words, but his peaceful auroa spoke volumes. A patient man. I know your in a better place now uncle Bob, enjoying your garden in heaven and continuing to send your peace and wisdom to us on earth. Until I see you again. Love always
Posted by Lena Spalitta on August 27, 2021
Wow, where do I begin? My brother in law Bob was one in a million. He always had a smile and a twinkle in his eye. Bob was a kind man, and did so many nice things for me. Every year he helped me with my taxes, and even helped me sell my business, I could not have done it without him. I could ask him anything and he would always know what to do. He was more like a brother than a brother in law, and I will miss him so very much.
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