Luv you always
Graig
I. Captain Bob
Postscript:
My most sincere condolences to Justine and Bob’s family and friends. I believe I am one of Bob’s newer friends, having known him only since the middle 1990’s when we began working on some projects together. Those of us who knew Bob know that he was a person of many dimensions. He was a kind and gentle person and had a great sense of humor. Of all my many memories of Bob, this stands out the most. Two vastly opposing sides of Bob’s personality. Bob could be a rough and tumble guy. In 1997 one of Bob’s workers wronged him and wanted to argue about it. Bob hit him so hard his feet came off the ground. Argument ended. The next day I met Bob to sign a paper. I had my weeks old baby granddaughter with me. I asked Bob to hold her while I signed. Silence. “Bob, are you alright?” Silence. Then Bob confesses he doesn’t know how to hold a baby and he is afraid. He forced himself to brave it. Bob was shaking and ringing wet after the paper signing. Shortly thereafter, baby Robert, Jr. came into his life. Now everybody is all grown up. Two vastly different sides of the same person. We all have many, many stories we could tell. I wanted even more
Bob and I met online on that website www.noneof yourbusiness.Com haha! Ok seriously, our first date was at The Fat Lady restaurant near Jack London Square in Oakland California. He told me he had a boat but I wanted to suss him out before I hopped aboard some vessel with a strange man. He immediately put my mind at ease with his easygoing manner and ready smile. He reminded me of one of my favorite uncles from when I was a child! (Gaylord a jazz musician. Also a sober alcoholic for many years. One of my favorite qualities in a man).
We had a wonderful meal out on the sidewalk cafe on a perfect Bay Area day. Then we took a little ride on the boat. It was such a wonderful afternoon. He was having a good time too apparently because he took my photograph that day and used to love to show it to people. He'd say "Look! This is from our first date. I'm so lucky!" Well I feel lucky to even though I only knew him for a few short years. He used to tell me I was the first person he ever truly fell in love with. I'm just going to have to take his word for it now because I can't ask him again, for the hundredth time. At least not yet! Someday way off in the future though. I have a lot of grandchildren and several children who would probably like me to stick around. I know Bob would want that to he love my kids like his own. Just ask them :)