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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Brendan McFadden, 53 years old, born on April 12, 1957, and passed away on October 31, 2010. We will remember him forever.
November 1, 2023
November 1, 2023
Dearest sweet Brendan. I think of you so often! You are greatly missed by me and all who knew and loved you. I am so lucky to still be a part of your amazing family. I miss you so much and keep happy memories in my heart. I enjoy sharing the memories with your family, There are photos all over the house and shared open memories in their hearts. I hope you are at peace. Please watch over your loved ones! xox
November 1, 2023
November 1, 2023
It is heart warming to read these beautiful tributes to Brendan, who touched so many lives in his orbit and leaves so many wonderful memories for family, loved ones and friends touched by his helpul ways, his kindness and generosity. We miss you and hold you close.
October 31, 2023
October 31, 2023
Dearest B,
I think of you so often, and have many happy memories of our time together.
I miss you and know you’re at peace…
Love,
Your 2 year older twin
Mom always baked 2 cakes on April 12!
October 31, 2023
October 31, 2023
Dear Brendan is hopefully thriving on the Other Side. They are lucky to have such kind, sweet, gentle, bright soul over there. We sure miss him here.

Love and condolences to all of Brendan’s family and friends.
October 31, 2023
October 31, 2023
Gentle, kind, giving, thoughtful, bright, capable, loved and treasured . . . . You are all these in my thoughts and memories, Brendan. Miss you.
October 31, 2022
October 31, 2022
Thinking of you today, twelve years since you passed over, Brendan. Your memory lives on in my heart. Wishing you peace, my friend. oxoxoxo Maria
October 31, 2021
October 31, 2021
Dearest Brendan, I miss you and your memory is eternal in my heart. I trust you are at peace. oxoxoxoxoxo Maria
October 31, 2021
October 31, 2021
Brendan we love and we miss you every day. There’s a beautiful new McFadden Center at the Onset Bay Bath House and a gorgeous photo of Mom and Dad (“Cape Cod Gothic”). You would love it! It’s where we all learned to swim and spent many happy hours. I remember you rowing the boat.
April 13, 2021
April 13, 2021
Happy birthday in Heaven Brendan

You are in a far better place than this world

Cousin Marcella
November 6, 2020
November 6, 2020
Whenever I open your Forever Missed tribute, I am touched by the perfect song Mary picked for your page in history. You are "Forever Missed", loved and your memory is treasured, Brendan. You are "Gone Too Soon".
November 1, 2020
November 1, 2020
There was a blue moon last night! You would have loved looking through the telescope at the “Last Chance Planet Dance” sidewalk astronomy event. Your photos would have come out better than mine. We miss you.
April 13, 2020
April 13, 2020
Dear Brendan, the world is relatively quiet these days as we are all facing a world wide pandemic. I miss your gentleness and deeply caring nature especially at this time. I hope you are at peace, exploring the other side (s), my friend.
April 12, 2020
April 12, 2020
Thinking about you with love and gratitude on your birthday. It’s a quiet spring day and I have felt your presence a lot lately. Everything is very quiet, because everyone has been sheltering in place and staying home in the face of a global pandemic. I just talked about you in my meditation group. We are all learning as we go. Times like this I think about your gentle approach to dealing with life’s curveballs, and your ever-present generosity helping others. Missing you and remembering your wonderful qualities with a smile on my face and love in my heart.
October 31, 2019
October 31, 2019
We love you and miss you, every day. Yesterday Lucille told me she came across the hundreds of photos you took at her and John’s wedding and it was such a treat to see them. She’s making books to show her mother. So you live on in our memories and our hearts and lives.
April 14, 2019
April 14, 2019
9+ years have passed since you departed this world. You would have been 62 this week. I'm sorry we can't see your smile and the kindness in your eyes. You are missed, Brendan.
April 13, 2019
April 13, 2019
Dearest Brendan...it is so sad for us all to be without you. xoxoxo
April 13, 2019
April 13, 2019
Dear Brendan,
I miss you here on earth. What a kind, sweet, quirky, funny, and loving soul heaven gained when you left us. Sending love and a pair of micro-microphone glasses to you.
megan
April 12, 2019
April 12, 2019
Happy birthday Brendan. I didn't know you but you are in Heaven now in a far better world than this one. I hope to get there one day and see you.
Cousin Marcella
November 27, 2018
November 27, 2018
I wish I had a chance to have known Brendan better. We lived overseas and lived in a different state when we returned to America.
June 23, 2017
June 23, 2017
My name is Evan. I'm Brendan's nephew. I had a very special relationship with Uncle B. and I am proud that I knew him for as long as I did. Brendan was a very kind hearted person who always wanted to give, but he never felt understood in a lot of ways from what was communicated. My uncle had a lot of successes, but also a mental health issue that I will not disclose out of respect to him. I know the cause of his death which was not stated, and the cause of it was a result of him feeling separated from others he knew. My uncle will be remembered and I will pray for him every night. He is with Jesus, and that's what he wanted. I will hold all of my memories with him dear to my heart, and I hope he is a shining star in the kingdom of heaven. God rest your soul Uncle B. ☺️
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
Brendan had such a sweet and generous heart. And very kind. He lived to be helpful and supportive of others, and contributed his unique gifts to us all. He really was a romantic. His sweetness really shines through in all of the photos...Love you Brendan. Happy birthday to us...
April 12, 2017
April 12, 2017
Honoring your 60th birthday, Brendan. Wherever you are, I hope you know how much your memory is treasured. Much love, Maria
November 1, 2016
November 1, 2016
This year was the first year I didn't ask why. At the end of Halloween I drove by the pond we always walked to when I was younger and saw a deer. I watched it and of course thought immediately of you and our times down the Cape and in Makne. When I see deer, I always think of you. I brought mom down and we watched fondly, reminiscing of the good times. I love you like always. I believe you saved me during my car accident this year. Thank you for always being with me. You are always alive in my memories, and I'll never forget you B. Thopank yopou fopor lopookoping opout fopor mope dopuroping mopy opaccopidopent. Opi knopow yopou dopidopin't wopant mope topo dopie opin opa copar thopat dopay. ❤️
November 1, 2016
November 1, 2016
The book is beautiful. Thanks to Maria, Mary and Haley for persevering in making it.
October 31, 2016
October 31, 2016
Remembering Brendan today. With professional guidance and personal support from Maria Karras, Haley and I completed Bren's memorial book last year. We are grateful for Maria's loving help. It is a wonderful memento of the many happy years we all shared. Tonight we lit a memorial candle for him and put it with the pumpkins and squashes we brought from Northern Retreat's garden.  He would have loved it.
November 1, 2015
November 1, 2015
Haley, Maria and I have spent the past few weeks on a beautiful book in your memory. We just finished it. I think you will love it!
October 28, 2015
October 28, 2015
Hey Brendan, thinking of you as Maria, Mom and I work feverishly to complete your memorial book! You'd like it, I think :) Lopove, Hopalopey
April 14, 2015
April 14, 2015
When I was alerted that it would have been your birthday this week, I felt disappointed and somewhat angry that you chose to end your life. If you knew how much you would be missed, would that have changed your plans? Nonetheless, wherever your spirit is now, I pray you have found peace and light.
April 12, 2015
April 12, 2015
Happy Birthday sweet Brendan! I think of you so often. I have a handsome, happy photo of you on the inside of my closet that greets me each morning...Sending you love on this day and always. You are so missed...xo

~Lisa
April 12, 2015
April 12, 2015
Thinking of you on your birthday dear Brendan, and everyday. With love always.
November 24, 2014
November 24, 2014
I've learned of this site just today. I would have left a message before if I had been aware. What a tragic loss of life!!  Brendan had so much potential and so much to offer. It's a terrible shame that he didn't realize that and didn't find an avenue to lead him to that end. I do hope he's at peace now.
October 31, 2014
October 31, 2014
I just wanted to say how much of a pleasure it was to know you, even if it wasn't for long. You are greatly missed by those around you whose lives you have touched.
October 31, 2014
October 31, 2014
I want to add that a lot of the notes I see on your wall are positive and happy, remembering you fondly. I guess I'm just not quite there yet, at least not right now. I feel furious over what happened, not furious at you but just furious in general, as if maybe there was something I could have done to help you or make you feel less alone. I sometimes think "what if I had called you more often?" Even worse, I think about the time I stood you up one night when I told you I'd meet you at Evan's apartment but I ended up letting you down because I was too drunk to drive over. I have a vivid image in my head of you hopping on my bike and driving over saying "okay i'll see you soon!" and I fully intended on going over, but I was drinking so I literally just lost track of time or got side-tracked and didn't even make it over. I am so mad that I did that, I will never forgive myself for it. I hear you in my head saying "Why didn't you come over?" I think you were hurt.I would do literally anything to be able to go back in time and race over there to see you, because I would be so excited to see you again. I would never do that ever again, if I had the chance to make it up. We could have had more fun experiences if I had just went over to Evan's apartment so we could all hang out.

I was home a couple of months ago and I tore through the garbage bags with your things in them, looking for answers. I didn't find much I guess, because I think underneath it all I'm looking for answers about what happened, and they just aren't there. But I am just so confused, and the questions I have will bother me for the rest of my life, because you are the only one who can answer them and you aren't here. I have your camera here in my closet, and I haven't gone through it yet even though I want to, because doing those kinds of things are huge tasks for me and I have to be in the right mindset to do it. It is really hard.

I never even saw your body Brendan so I sometimes wonder if you are even dead at all. I know I'm crazy but sometimes this fleeting idea comes into my head that maybe you are still out there somewhere.
October 31, 2014
October 31, 2014
Hi Brendan, I was sitting here doing my homework at 3am like a good college student, and my email alerted me that it was the 4th anniversary of your passing. I knew that it was, but getting the notification while i'm sitting her in my living room trying to work really caught me off guard. I feel sad now.

I had a discussion with my boyfriend tonight about Thanksgiving. I told him I really wanted him to come to our family's Thanksgiving rather than his, which is selfish of me, I know. He has a big family and always has so many relatives at his own Thanksgiving dinner. Even if you were here, our family just doesn't have that. But I wanted him to come so bad because last Thanksgiving I was really lonely. There were six of us at the dinner table, Evan and Haley weren't even there, and it sucked. Although I've missed you every day since you died, last Thanksgiving was the worst for me (besides the first set of holidays after you passed, that was terrible.) Thanksgiving felt like a fricking joke, like as if presence is optional. It seemed like people didn't want to be there or didn't even care to come, because literally no one was there. It was so stupid. I didn't want to be as lonely this year so I selfishly tried to get Elliot to come to ours. I've felt that way since you stopped coming.

I feel somehow like in typing this to you, you will hear it. I'm not saying anything to make you feel bad about what happened, I don't want you to feel any more sadness or pain than you already did. I say it because it is the truth for me, and I want you to know how much of a void your absence has on my life and in my heart.
April 13, 2014
April 13, 2014
Happy birthday uncle b! I miss you all the time and think of you quite often. I know you like our times at the beach. I'll keep visiting :) happy birthday uncle b!
April 12, 2014
April 12, 2014
Happy birthday Bren! Maria and I watched the video of your surprise 50th birthday party at the Kingsley yesterday. We were laughing so much! Your reaction at the airport was so funny when we all picked you and Evan up after your trip to Florida, waiting and hiding in a limo, while you were looking for Bill's truck. Meanwhile you kept missing the limo driver's sign with your name while Bill was coaching you on your cell. By the time we arrived at the Charles Hotel for the second part of the surprise, John and Lucille hiding out of sight when we arrived at the restaurant, you were good and relaxed and ready for anything. Maria and I are working on a book about you ... wistfully enjoying the photos. Love you always.
April 12, 2014
April 12, 2014
I watched all these wonderful photos this AM and I cried. I hope Brendan is ok now. And I hope he knows how much he was loved.
November 1, 2013
November 1, 2013
I love and miss you B. You have been on my mind lately and I miss you so much. There is so much I want to share with you! I got married in June to a man you would love. We speak about you often. When I got married, I knew you were there in spirit, and that made me smile. You live on every day in the lessons you taught me as a girl that I continue to live by today. Thank you for everything.
October 31, 2013
October 31, 2013
I love you B. Your picture is up in my dorm room so I can see your smiling face every time I walk in the room. You are missed, however I know your spirit is alive with the heartbeat of the earth. You are beautiful, and you taught me patience. No one loves anything as unconditionally as you love. You are free now, just as you always have been. A free man, a free soul, a free spirit.
October 31, 2013
October 31, 2013
Thinking of you today, Brendan. Your smile and goodness remain forever in my memory. Rest in peace, my friend.
October 30, 2013
October 30, 2013
Brendan thank you for teaching me about love and forgiveness and acceptance. I love you and think about you often. It has been a good year and we are all doing well. I know you know that, but I wanted to tell you that we miss you and are grateful that you are in our hearts always.

Love, Mary
April 15, 2013
April 15, 2013
Brendan, I sent you a huge birthday hug, I hope you got it. In my mind you are just off on one of your "walk-abouts".
Your kind and generous spirit is ever present. I keep you very close to my heart.
~Lisa
PS Thanks for helping me fix the shredder last week ;)
April 14, 2013
April 14, 2013
Happy birthday, sweetie. I uploaded more pictures, including my favorite of you, kneeling by the goldfish pond when you were a boy - the most beautiful little boy ever. Guess what - the grapefruit tree you grew from a seed had its first two fruit this year! Check out the picture! We are all doing well. I think of you often, on the open road, having new adventures. I love you! Mary
April 12, 2013
April 12, 2013
Thank you, dear Brendan. You literally gave me the shirt off your back - after 911 - the NYFD T shirt I love so much.

I hope you know that we, your friends and family, wish you peaceand love on your birthday.
Anita
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Dearest sweet Brendan. I think of you so often! You are greatly missed by me and all who knew and loved you. I am so lucky to still be a part of your amazing family. I miss you so much and keep happy memories in my heart. I enjoy sharing the memories with your family, There are photos all over the house and shared open memories in their hearts. I hope you are at peace. Please watch over your loved ones! xox
November 1, 2023
November 1, 2023
It is heart warming to read these beautiful tributes to Brendan, who touched so many lives in his orbit and leaves so many wonderful memories for family, loved ones and friends touched by his helpul ways, his kindness and generosity. We miss you and hold you close.
October 31, 2023
October 31, 2023
Dearest B,
I think of you so often, and have many happy memories of our time together.
I miss you and know you’re at peace…
Love,
Your 2 year older twin
Mom always baked 2 cakes on April 12!
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