ForeverMissed

Dear family and friends,
This site was put together in the hope that we all can encourgage each other. Our family has so many different emotions. We know you all knew Brian and he made you laugh at some point --many times. He touched all of your hearts in some way. We know that.
Please click around on this site and if there is an appropriate story you can pass on to us, please do.  If he made you laugh or smile, please share it with us so we can smile and laugh.  If there is a picture you'd like to share, please feel free to share that as well.

We love Brian more than anyone could ever know. He was a wonderful brother and son. There are no words to describe the pain we feel in our hearts. We appreciate you taking the time to share this journey with us. 

If you'd like to post pictures, just click on "sign in" (upper right corner)  and enter your email and create a password.

Much love, Patty and Peggy(sisters) and Betty (mom) 

Posted by Shane Bakken on July 24, 2016
I've been thinking a lot about Brian over the course of the last couple of months. A band will come on the radio whose concert we saw, I'll see a movie on the guide channel that we watched, or drive by a place we frequented. Though we drifted apart the last couple of years, we hung out a lot when I first moved back here from Arizona.

I met him through my brother Ryan. They were close friends. The three of us started hanging out together on weekends, because I really didn't know that many people here. It wasn't long before Brian and I became good friends too. Him and I started hanging out more than the three of us. One of the things I liked most about Brian was that he was easy to talk to. He had a great sense of humor and was easy to connect with. There were so many nights after concerts that we'd just hang out at his place, have a drink, watch a movie (mostly The Big Lebowski), and just talk. With Brian, you could talk about the things that mattered most in life. Things you don't normally talk about in social situations. Family, faith, aspirations, things like that. 

There's a lot of individual instances I remember. The time he came with me to Arizona, and rode back in the U-Haul, just so I didn't have to drive alone. The times we saw Sevendust. The times at Summerfest. All the times I'd go meet him at his bowling league so we could go hang out after. But those times we sat around just hanging out talking are the times I remember best. The times I'll miss the most. I'm so thankful I got the chance to get to know him. My life is better for him having been in it. I will always miss him.
Posted by Michael Berlik on July 3, 2016
if you know Brian, you know he loves playing a good joke on someone. so all the better when you could pull one on him.
We would have him stay at our place on the weekends after we got married. We had rented a documentary about a little rock band that we thought Brian might like, a band called Aerosmith (hard to make sarcasm work in print), and he was excited to see it. It gave the backstory on a number of songs, videos and tours after their resurgence in the late 80's.
One song in particular from the doc sticks in my mind. The opening had a woman speaking, like she was an elevator operator telling you what was on each floor. If you know Aerosmith, you know the song, so I won't tell you because Brian would be disappointed in you if you haven't guessed it with that clue. Anyway, the woman had a very smooth and silky voice, and I can only imagine the image Brian had conjured of her in his mind. Patty told him that you got to see what she looked like in the video, and Brian quickly asked if she was hot, to which Patty said yes. Bear in mind Patty and I had already watched it, and the woman, while endowed with a great voice, was ordinary in all other respects.
So the two of us sat there watching him, anticipating the moment when it would be revealed.
The look on his face when he realized the truth and that Patty had got him to gulp that hook, line and sinker was hilarious. I'm sure he repaid her with a horse bite behind the knee for that one.
It was a simple moment, but sometimes, if you had the power, those are the ones you'd like to go back and relive. Good times...
Posted by Gary Rudek on June 10, 2016
Someone once said that when laughter is shared it binds people together. It gives respite from sadness and pain. It helps to keep one motivated during depression and grieving times. 

There were humorous moments when Brian really made me laugh. Like when he would act irritated with his sister Patty because she liked to follow him around with a video camera and he would make remarks in an attempt to embarrass her in return. I especially laughed at one instance when there were a flock of geese honking above out of camera view and Brian said: "that's a goose, Patty!" as though without that revelation she wouldn't have had a clue!

By the way, I never had the opportunity to meet Brian. I've heard many accounts and saw videos that continue to make me laugh. I've learned about Brian's gift of humor that he has left for many to remember, enjoy and share the laughter. A wonderful gift that serves to bind together family, friends and all those that miss him.
Posted by Kelly Korth on June 1, 2016
"Brian had quite the sense of humor. My little sisters were in the same grade and they said he was the class clown. Everyone wanted to hang around with him-he was so fun! They told me how in gym class he would pull his green sweat pants over his shoes to look like "Gumby" and that it was hilarious especially since he was so tall and slim.
Posted by Jake Paullin on May 22, 2016
I miss my favorite best friend.
Posted by Karie Youngberg on May 8, 2016
Yesterday we missed you, Brian, cutting wood (or just crying over the pretty wood,lol) at your mom's! Miss you so much, I love you!
Posted by Patty Berlik on May 2, 2016
Brian was the best brother I could've ever had. There is not enough space here to tell you how I feel about him and how big the hole is in my heart now that he is not with us. He was the funniest person I've ever known. He could make anything funny. And at the same time he had a kind tender heart. Brian and I could be standing in our mom's kitchen and out of the blue he would hold my hand. Just hold it--no reason. Often times he would kiss my hand and smile at me. He was so sweet and soft hearted. We always said "I love you" before ending a conversation on the phone. Every time.  I will hold him in my heart and mind for the rest of my life. Brian, I miss you and love you so much!
-Patty

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Posted by Shane Bakken on July 24, 2016
I've been thinking a lot about Brian over the course of the last couple of months. A band will come on the radio whose concert we saw, I'll see a movie on the guide channel that we watched, or drive by a place we frequented. Though we drifted apart the last couple of years, we hung out a lot when I first moved back here from Arizona.

I met him through my brother Ryan. They were close friends. The three of us started hanging out together on weekends, because I really didn't know that many people here. It wasn't long before Brian and I became good friends too. Him and I started hanging out more than the three of us. One of the things I liked most about Brian was that he was easy to talk to. He had a great sense of humor and was easy to connect with. There were so many nights after concerts that we'd just hang out at his place, have a drink, watch a movie (mostly The Big Lebowski), and just talk. With Brian, you could talk about the things that mattered most in life. Things you don't normally talk about in social situations. Family, faith, aspirations, things like that. 

There's a lot of individual instances I remember. The time he came with me to Arizona, and rode back in the U-Haul, just so I didn't have to drive alone. The times we saw Sevendust. The times at Summerfest. All the times I'd go meet him at his bowling league so we could go hang out after. But those times we sat around just hanging out talking are the times I remember best. The times I'll miss the most. I'm so thankful I got the chance to get to know him. My life is better for him having been in it. I will always miss him.
Posted by Michael Berlik on July 3, 2016
if you know Brian, you know he loves playing a good joke on someone. so all the better when you could pull one on him.
We would have him stay at our place on the weekends after we got married. We had rented a documentary about a little rock band that we thought Brian might like, a band called Aerosmith (hard to make sarcasm work in print), and he was excited to see it. It gave the backstory on a number of songs, videos and tours after their resurgence in the late 80's.
One song in particular from the doc sticks in my mind. The opening had a woman speaking, like she was an elevator operator telling you what was on each floor. If you know Aerosmith, you know the song, so I won't tell you because Brian would be disappointed in you if you haven't guessed it with that clue. Anyway, the woman had a very smooth and silky voice, and I can only imagine the image Brian had conjured of her in his mind. Patty told him that you got to see what she looked like in the video, and Brian quickly asked if she was hot, to which Patty said yes. Bear in mind Patty and I had already watched it, and the woman, while endowed with a great voice, was ordinary in all other respects.
So the two of us sat there watching him, anticipating the moment when it would be revealed.
The look on his face when he realized the truth and that Patty had got him to gulp that hook, line and sinker was hilarious. I'm sure he repaid her with a horse bite behind the knee for that one.
It was a simple moment, but sometimes, if you had the power, those are the ones you'd like to go back and relive. Good times...
Posted by Gary Rudek on June 10, 2016
Someone once said that when laughter is shared it binds people together. It gives respite from sadness and pain. It helps to keep one motivated during depression and grieving times. 

There were humorous moments when Brian really made me laugh. Like when he would act irritated with his sister Patty because she liked to follow him around with a video camera and he would make remarks in an attempt to embarrass her in return. I especially laughed at one instance when there were a flock of geese honking above out of camera view and Brian said: "that's a goose, Patty!" as though without that revelation she wouldn't have had a clue!

By the way, I never had the opportunity to meet Brian. I've heard many accounts and saw videos that continue to make me laugh. I've learned about Brian's gift of humor that he has left for many to remember, enjoy and share the laughter. A wonderful gift that serves to bind together family, friends and all those that miss him.
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Shared by Tom Micnhimer on September 15, 2016

The morning sun shines into my window.

I am awake. Thinking. Thinking of you.

Your are so wonderful.

You are like the leaves in the trees, beautiful, and bright.

But soon you leave home, drifting far away.

There is no looking back.

Oh, how I long to see spring again.

When you will be home, bright and beautiful.

For I miss you so very much, like a blue bird without a son.

All my life I have wanted the strength, the power, and the will to tell you that you and you alone are as bright as the sun.

I look up to you with envy.

Your are rainbows, the leaves, the dancing flames of fire, and the sweet soft scent of a rose.

You bring tears to my eyes and a smile to my face.

You are the one I care for, the brother I love, and the one I long to see once more grow bright and beautiful.
“The Changing Season”….by Jennifer L. Booth

 

            I met Brian, my brother, for the first time in the summer of 1993.  He was a 16 year old, boy then.   I am not sure how often we visited each other in Wisconsin, from that first time until the last time we saw each other in 2001, but each visit was a tremendous joy! 

             Each visit I saw Brian flourishing into a man.  Brian was kind, he was happy, he was comical, he had a satisfaction of life.  His smile was bright, his smirk was devilish, he had a sparkle in his eyes. 

            I did not experience life with Brian as many family members and friends. Sometimes circumstances just cause things to not happen.  Brian was to have many more years, so many more chances were to come.          

            I will never again have the opportunity to know Brian.  He was much too young. I miss him. 

            Brian, I will think of you often and you will bring a smile to my face.  Your brother, Tom.

"Kirks"

Shared by Brian Kuka on July 28, 2016

I met "Kirks" for the first time on a  Saturday in the spring time approximately 3 years or so ago. He was helping to move some furniture. I knew right off the bat this guy was a cool dude. We began to hang out drinking Stella's and blasting tunes like Guns and Roses and Aerosmith.  He stayed with my girlfriend and I many nights during the summer drinking us out of house and home (LOL).  Many nights of grilling out and frozen pizzas and of course "cold Brew-ha's" and those of you who knew him, knew he wasn't too picky as long as the Brews were cold so they went down the hatch better..
Anyway, Kirks had a great sense of humor and told some very funny stories; like the time he decided to make a pizza in the middle of the night (while sleep walking) and almost burned the flipping house down.  Betty (his mom) had to take the knobs off the stove at night so the Fire Dept. wouldn't have to show up in the middle of the night.  He helped my dad with some projects including.....building a fence.  I would pull up and they would be in the garage sitting on a couple of 5 gallon buckets laughing and swapping stories.  The other day I looked out the window and saw my dad standing by the fence.  Later that day he said he was thinking about Brian and really missed him and wanted to put a memorial plaque on the fence in memory of him.  Since then, my dad's health has taken a bit of a turn.  I hope some day he can do that for Brian.
But that was the kind of guy Kirks was.  He just had that charisma about himself.  You couldn't help but like the guy.  Although he left us way too soon, I truly believe if a person is blessed to have a friend like Brian Kirkland, even if it's just one true friend in your entire life, then God has truly blessed you!  The only sadness I have in my heart is I wish I could have spent more time with him cause the dude was frickin' awesome!!
                                                -Kuk's  (Brian's nickname for me)
 

Strange Brew

Shared by Ryan Magyar on June 29, 2016

Brian and I always had a special bond with the classic movie Strange Brew. I’m pretty sure he’s the one who had me watch it for the first time…and then I was hooked. We would spend half our days at school quoting stupid parts of the movie and reenacting scenes. Our teachers probably thought we were insane. Over the years I think I’ve forgotten a lot of the quotes but the one that I remember is probably best described as our rallying cry in high school: “Take off, you hoser!”…said of course in a fake, thick Canadian accent. I probably watched that movie over 50 times during high school…and I think Brian may have seen it even more times than me. I think my mom still has the VHS version somewhere in my old room but I haven’t watched it since graduation. That movie will forever remind me of Brian and the fun times we had.