ForeverMissed
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Bruce Baraw, 64 years old, born on June 21, 1956, and passed away on March 10, 2021. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Cecelia Trimble on June 21, 2022
Bruce was one of the kindest, most loving people I knew, meeting him through his wife, Dee Roberts Baraw. He will always be a shining light in my life
Vicki Trimble
Posted by Evelyn Bernard on June 21, 2022
I can't believe it has been more than a year now. I am just thinking about Bruce today on his birthday. He is on my mind almost every day though. He is missed!
Posted by Reid Hutchinson on March 10, 2022
Well, it's been one year and the thought that you are no longer with us physically still hurts. Bruce, you were a great friend and brought many good times through our High School years (1971-1974).
We are celebrating our 48th Reunion from NCU this year in Newport, I will share a drink with you, and honor you.
Posted by Ryan Starling on January 6, 2022
From youth meetings at church to pool parties, I don't think I ever saw you with anything other than a smile on your face. Truly, I can't recall ever seeing a bad mood on your face or hearing it in your voice. You had such a wonderful light around you.
Posted by Lori Kane on May 30, 2021
Bruce was 1 in a million. Small in stature but bigger than life in his love of others, his devotion to people he cared about. He was my protector, my friend and my fraternity brother, he made a huge difference in my life. You could feel his strength in everything he said and did. We had some amazing discussions, a lot of laughs. He was at my wedding and smiled at me and told me “ no matter what, be happy”. I hope he knew how highly I thought of him, how much I cared for him. RIP Bruce, thank you for everything. Thank you for all you gave to so many others, love ya
Posted by Tom Vitale on May 17, 2021
Bruce was a senior at NHC and I was new there as an incoming sophomore. I lived in an apartment with Bruce, Mountain & Stu. Stu and and I got introduced to the fraternity by Bruce & Mountain. Bruce was the man and everyone loved him. Rest In Peace brother.
Posted by Suzanne Richard on May 16, 2021
His wit and wisdom will not be missed...because we all carry it with us. He was loved and he loved hand made the world better. I miss you, Bruce.
Posted by Nicole Daniels on May 16, 2021
Bruce was my uncle and though I only met him in person once, he made a spot in my heart. We talked online and he was one of the few who I could count on for a laugh or a good cheesy movie or tv show. Twilight Zone, Monty Python, Scooby Doo, Three Stooges - we would laugh at these moments of time that we appreciated and could chat about. He touched so many lives and I know I am proud to call him uncle and to carry on that ever open spirit and heart.
Posted by Virginia Billings on May 16, 2021
Bruce was & always will be my youngest brother. He taught me not to give up when I wanted something to go after it. He amazed me with his determination! I will miss Bruce in this mortal life but Some day I will see him again. 
Posted by Peter Perich on May 16, 2021
I want to thank Bruce for all the wonderful college fraternity memories. He was a very special brother with a golden heart. God bless little Brucie. Rest In Peace brother of phi delta psi. 
Posted by Steven Flack on May 16, 2021
Bruce was my neighbor & a Great neighbor he was- he was also my friend and the nicest man i know, we shared the love of oddball cars & his passion led him to love the tri-five ( 55' to 57' ) chevys like myself. So many happy times we spent chatting ( saving the world one conv. at a time ) as we called it - i miss my friend dearly but i know he's in gods hands & hopefully he saves me a seat in the front row, cause thats where all " the greats " go to sit.
Posted by Dee Baraw on May 16, 2021
From Bruce's fraternity bro and friend to the end, Scott Forbes
   A testament for the smallest Big Man I will ever know of.
   Bruce and I met Spring, 1976, at New Hampshire College where we both attended.
Bruce was a sophomore then and was already a Phi Delta Psi Brother. He was given the task of monitoring me, a lowlife pledge to his Fraternity, and a transplanted Junior to a 4 year degree there.
   He was the Big brother, I was his little brother. No Guarantees expressed or implied.

   Back then, I saw Bruce as a guy that always had to look up. I found sitting near him, and nose to nose, was the natural thing to do.
   An adaptation, if you will, to level the physical playing field. He didn’t talk much, but dispatched “the look” quite effectively.
I grew up in a household such as this, with few words coupled with those like and kind "Looks”.
So, we had an immediate connection source I’d say was quite unique.
   We were both pretty shy guys, and most kids then had to guess what we were thinkin’ because we didn’t talk much.
   
   Bruce loved cars, completely. Always noticed them, who drove what, and how they drove them.

   We started a tradition at this school and in the fraternity as well. “ Hell Rides”
I always had noticeable factory muscle cars, for the greater Northeast school parking lots anyways. One in particular had a grab bar on the dash face. With Bruce's chair jump seat placed correctly in the front bucket seat, he could reach it and witness all the sideways corners, power slides, outrunning the local cops, everything. The yells and yee haws coming out of his mouth just egged me on even more. Just this last visit with him in La Mesa, he reminded me of one such event we barely got out of so many years ago.
    We stayed it touch over the years, East and West coasts alike. When he told me he was getting married, out West, I said, “Why”. He told me how he met Dee and how all that grew into something he really wanted to keep going. I said OK, what are we doin’?
    His response, “you’re in the wedding bro.”
    The rest is in the archives, lots of photos for all the years that followed.

    I always looked up to Bruce, since the day we met, even If I had to sit on the floor to do it.

    We spoke softly, as we made decisions and did things together. Me flying in for his wedding and renting the fastest car Hertz had for one last hell ride, or Bruce jumping in his van to drive over to Tucson for a Grand National Antique Auto show I was in.
   All in a days thoughts for two guys that never had to talk much.
   Few Men make and live through their own legacy, daily. Bruce just took that for granted, as he did just that.

  BDB has moved on, and out of our sight, but that’s all.
   Rest in well earned peace my Brother, Scott

     
Posted by Deb Dagit on May 16, 2021
I hung out with Bruce and Dee a few times at Shirley Roberts home and OI events. I appreciated his wry humor, love of life, and warmth to make others feel welcome and included. I am sad that he did not get to enjoy being retired and his kitchen renovations so he could enjoy making meals. Bruce will be missed by many. RIP friend.
Posted by Reid Hutchinson on May 15, 2021
Bruce and I were in the same year at NCUHS, Class of 74. I had known Bruce since 1970. Last fond memory of Bruce was the last day for Seniors in 1974. Bruce motoring down the hallways, his cassette player blaring Alice Cooper’s “School’s Out!”
I joined the Navy in the Summer of 74, and our paths never crossed again, until enter FB 2015-2016, we reconnected. Enjoyed leaving and receiving jokes and memes, for and from Bruce. Rest In Peace my friend.
Posted by Arline Pettengill on May 15, 2021
Our mom married Bruce's Dad while Bruce was in college. This gave us the opportunity to know an exceptional person. He continued to be a huge part of his dad's life and my mom's. They were so proud of him. Bruce's Dad passed and my mom lived in the family home which belonged to Bruce. When finances for the home got difficult for her, he maintained the home until she passed. He also communicated with her frequently which made her happy. Always grateful to him.
Thank you Bruce. Amy Gray, Florence Verge and Arline Pettengill. 
Posted by Ann Tarvin on May 15, 2021
This is a portion of an article that appeared at work in 2012, rewritten to be past tense.

Bruce worked in the comptroller's working capital fund Branch at SPAWAR (now NAVWAR) from 1997 until retirement, providing financial oversight and guidance of an annual total business base that exceeds $6.5 billion.

Bruce was a supervisory budget analyst and branch head of the Navy Working Capital Fund and winner of the 2012 Defense of the Navy/Department of Defense Outstanding Employee with a Disability Award.

Baraw was recognized throughout the Navy as an expert in the Navy Working Capital Fund. He joined SPAWAR from the Naval Sea Systems Command in 1996 relocating from Virginia to San Diego.

"Bruce continually performed his work at an extremely high level, which demonstrates to people every day that a disabled person can perform at the highest levels with grace, courage and a positive outlook," said Stephen Dunn, his supervisor. "He continued his professional development throughout a full career by building skills on top of skills and adding to his extensive complement of accounting and budget knowledge. He was certainly a valuable member of the finance team here."

Baraw worked from a motorized wheelchair and had the help of a portable oxygen tank. Despite severe health challenges resulting from his condition, including broken bones, breathing difficulties and hearing loss, he remained upbeat.

Bruce was known to say "There's an old saying that a closed mouth won't get fed, so, my advice to others with disabilities is be persistent; make your needs known. You'll find that people really want to help and that most organizations are required to accommodate your requests."
Posted by Hope Anderson on May 15, 2021
Bruce and Dee have been wonderful friends, helping me several times when I needed a temporary place to stay. They filled their house with friends. I'll miss Bruce's intelligent humor. Too bad he won't be able to enjoy the remodeled kitchen, but then I imagine he enjoyed the anticipation of said kitchen very much. And now he's in a place where he won't need it. Goodbye, beloved friend!
Posted by Cecelia Trimble on May 15, 2021
I FIRST met Bruce at Pacific Beach United Methodist church and would do a gentle fist bump during greeting time.
He was also very involved in inclusive ministries, and I ADORED his theme of DRAW THE CIRCLE WIDER.
Posted by Dee Baraw on April 10, 2021
Bruce and I met at an Osteogenesis Imperfecta Conference in CA in 1988. We hit it off and had our first date (went to the movies to see Who Framed Roger Rabbit). At that time he lived in Portsmouth, NH and I lived in CA. We kept in touch through letters and then (thankfully) e-mail.  March 1995, we planned to see each other in person again. Bruce had relocated to North Virginia, so I went there to visit since I had never been to Washington, DC. We both still felt romantic sparks, so I packed up and moved to VA that June. We were engaged in the Fall and got married March 9, 1996.
I am very thankful that I got to be his partner in life for 25 years!
I am going to miss you husband.

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Posted by Cecelia Trimble on June 21, 2022
Bruce was one of the kindest, most loving people I knew, meeting him through his wife, Dee Roberts Baraw. He will always be a shining light in my life
Vicki Trimble
Posted by Evelyn Bernard on June 21, 2022
I can't believe it has been more than a year now. I am just thinking about Bruce today on his birthday. He is on my mind almost every day though. He is missed!
Posted by Reid Hutchinson on March 10, 2022
Well, it's been one year and the thought that you are no longer with us physically still hurts. Bruce, you were a great friend and brought many good times through our High School years (1971-1974).
We are celebrating our 48th Reunion from NCU this year in Newport, I will share a drink with you, and honor you.
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     Bruce D Baraw was born June 21, 1956.  He was raised in North Troy, VT. Bruce was the youngest of five children.  
     Bruce was born with Osteogensis Imperfecta.  He used a wheelchair for mobility but did not let that stop him.  He was taught at home by a visiting teacher through Jr High, but was able to advocate for himself to attend high school in person and graduate with his peers.  
He attended New Hampshire College (Southern New Hampshire University). He lived on campus, joined the Phi Delta Psi Fraternity and graduated in May 1978 with his BS in Accounting.
     Bruce was hired out of college as a civilian employee of the Navy at the shipyard in Portsmouth, NH.  He continued to work for Naval Sea Systems command transferring to Alexandria, VA.  In 1997 he transferred to Space and Naval Warfare Systems (SPAWAR) in order to transfer to San Diego.  Bruce worked for the Navy for 37 years before retiring in 2014.
     Bruce and Dee were married March 9, 1996 and were able to celebrate 25 years of marriage (33 years of friendship)!  

Bruce passed away on March 10, 2021, just a day after celebrating his 25th wedding anniversary with his wife, Dee.  Bruce passed from an intracranial hemorrhage.  His death was sudden and unexpected despite his slow decline in health and increase use of oxygen over the last few years.
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Shared by Sherry Baraw on May 15, 2021
I first met Bruce as ateenager going out with his brother Roger. He checked me out for sure as brothers do, he always had a fierce desire to be more independent. thus when we got our home and he was a teenager we said come on out and visit., not knowing the life of his battery . he wanted to go downstreet and away he went,Didn't make it back up the hill to the house but Bruce mever was without friends and Roger worked for the city. he was home when we got there, This was only one of the adventures from our house and our secret until much later years Memories are precious
Shared by Michelle Duprey on May 9, 2021
I met Bruce nearly 40 years ago through the New England Osteogenesis Imperfecta Society where he and my dad became friends.  I was just a teen with OI and Bruce was 10 years my senior.  He was educated, working and trying to get his drivers license and a car.  Achieving normal things for someone that age, but not so normal for someone living with severe OI.  The impact on me to see those successes be normalized by Bruce, at a time when they were far from normal had a huge impact on me.  And me seeing those successes as achievable, at a time when the rest of the world did not, was invaluable.  It had a huge impact on me. I’m not sure if Bruce ever realized it.  I hope he did.

Many years later we were able to reconnect via the magic of Facebook and at an OI national conference.  We shared not only a bone disorder, but a similar quirky sense of humor and perspective on the world.  I enjoyed his commentary on my posts.  We often exchanged messages about birds, cartoons (particularly Looney Tunes) and Ben & Jerry’s.  On his last day with us, we exchanged messages about the serious world topic ofPepe Le Pew.  

I enjoyed the quiet but thoughtful way he moved about the world.  I’ll always remember the smiles he brought to my day via Facebook.  I’ll think of him every time I open a pint of Ben & Jerry’s.  His gifts were innumerable to so many.  Bruce’s gift to me was to show me how to blaze my own trail 40 years ago.   Thank you Bruce, for all of that and so much more.  You will be missed

Shared by Evelyn Bernard on May 7, 2021
I remember when my parents brought Bruce home from the hospital.  He was 5 weeks old if I remember correctly.  Both his legs were in traction because they  broken at birth.  My mom couldn't hold him to feed him.  She placed his crib in front of the TV to keep him occupied.  He was a sweet baby.  As kids, we all tried to entertain him and keep him busy.  And he absorbed everything we taught him.  My dad made sure he was always learning something..he devoted his life to Bruce.  My first husband had bought me a parakeet on a trip to Newport with my parents.  When he saw how Bruce loved the bird on the trip home, he asked me if I would mind if he let Bruce keep the bird.  I think that was Bruce's first love of birds. When our stepmother died in a car accident, he was 14..and she had been very protective of him.  I was newly divorced, so I moved in to help out my dad and Bruce in exchange for a home for myself and 3 kids.   I spent a lot of time with Bruce..not just caring for him but spending time with him.  He was not just my little brother.  He was a  friend as well.  I enjoyed his company.  I always looked up to him, though I was 7 years older.  He never complained about his life.  He was always optimistic and looking toward to the future.  I am so glad He and Dee found each other.  She truly made his life complete.  He was, and always will be, my hero.  And he will be missed by me for as long as I live.