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We are always COLLECTING MEMORIES of Bryce 
Even if your contact with our beloved, quiet, and unobtrusive son was fleeting or small, we appreciate any and all Tributes, Stories, or memories of any kind. And if you've already posted, please consider posting here again (and again).

OR... If your memory of Bryce is a more private one, and you would like to share it with only Trina and Mike, please send an email to: TheCostawongs@gmail.com.

For local people, please consider visiting Bryce's bench at the corner of our property, and leaving a painted rock with 'Bryce' on one side, and your name on the other. Bryce put the bench there for everyone.

Also for local people, there are Bryce's Trees at Lake Mohegan. Details for how to get there are in the Life section of this website.

There is now a 2nd bench to visit: Bryce's Trail Bench on an unmarked trail on Aspetuck Land Trust preserved land. Details for how to get there are in the Life section of this website. 

Thank you for helping mend our broken hearts.
May 28
May 28
Dear Bryce,
I think about you every day, and today I am remembering your beautiful voice. I feel so grateful to have gotten to sing alongside you, to witness not only your angelic singing, but also your clever way of changing the lyrics in the hymns to make us all laugh. Your laugh is one I will never forget.
May 28
May 28
On this birthday, thoughts about Bryce and Mike and Trina, about post church ultimate frisbee, about the time Mike was going for a long pass from Bryce and ran into our Subaru roof rack, and about how we were all shocked and then laughing, (possibly too hard). And always about how Bryce modern day owned the word myrrh.
May 28
May 28
Bryce, thinking of you today. Remembering your smile and laugh bring joy to us all. Love to you, Trina, and Mike.
May 28
Dear Bryce, I think of you every day. Sometimes it is about when our families first met at La Leche League when you and Sophie were toddlers. Sometimes it is about how you being a cub scout made it okay for Ben and Otto to be cub scouts, too. Sometimes it is remembering the great middle school concerts seeing you and Sophie in the cello section together. I have a vivid memory of you playing cello in the 2018 Townwide Orchestra Festival because Stephen and I sat behind your parents. The Pirates of the Caribbean theme song was sooo epic! Today, I thought of you all day. You will always be remembered and cherished.
May 28
May 28
I wasn't fortunate enough to meet Bryce, but knowing how intelligent, talented, funny and just wonderful his parents are helps me understand how special he must have been. I know he was always and will forever be loved completely and that the world has a hole in it where he should be. Trina and Mike, my heart breaks over and over again for you both and your family. You are strong and amazing and I know you do your best to go on living life every day, as I'm sure Bryce would want you to. I love you, my friends. 
May 28
May 28
Thinking of you today Bryce, on your birthday, and of Bryce-Trina-Michael because I will always think of you as a trio, bonded forever in love, laughter and and a wonderfully off-kilter way of seeing the world So glad you graced this world. A cliche to say “the world’s a better place . . .” though truly it is. You can see that from all you read here.
May 28
May 28
Remembering Bryce's gentle nature and kindness today. May his memory be a blessing.
May 28
I am remembering Bryce today.
I can see him in the back of my car while we drove to I believe it was Shelter Rock UU Congregation, squeezed in between two other companions, on our way to Youth Camping event
It's not much but it's what I have.
I think about Bryce often. And, I think about you Trina and Mike too.

Sending you love always
Arnela
May 28
Bryce - Today is both our birthdays. Happy Birthday. Peace to all who love you.
May 13
Dear Trina and Mike. A sweet funny memory from the Pinewood Derby era. One of the years Brian was involved in organizing Pinewood. It was a torrential storm, roads completely impassable. (I have a vivid memory of the weather bc I had fallen and broken my wrist and couldn't make it to the hospital so was in a brace). But we all COULD make it, of course, to Pizza Palace after for dinner. All the boys were at one table, Mike and Bryce, Brian and Owen and Nick, Eric and Alex Kempton. Happily discussing the day's races and drama, totally engrossed. And when the pizza came, it was delivered to my table. And they all sort of looked at me like "aren't you going to put it on plates for us?" (yes, Dads too) not even NOTICING I had a broken wrist. It was classic. And a great memory of how they could all get so totally absorbed, and be SUCH boys, bigs and littles. I hold on to that, and will remember Bryce with that joy. xo
May 11
May 11
To my beloved Grandson,
In my mind's eye I can clearly see your wonderful, kind, smiling face
Your words, laughter and beautiful songs resonate with me
Having heard you say my name will always be the sweetest sound

Sending you my love forever and always,
Mama Tibbals



May 9
Thinking of Bryce, and of course you, Trina and Mike. Bryce's smile pops into my mind when I'm sitting at a railroad crossing or passing the Train Museum in Danbury...I'll never forget that he know the name of the thingy that connects two train cars together! I love that he loved trains so much. Sending hugs.
May 8
Thinking of Bryce today and every day...
I saw a comment about the cats below and laughed because that is exactly what I do too. The cats are Bryce's cats when I'm watching them... It was always funny when we had a little handoff in school or before class of keys before/after cat watching. Throughout the years it was very fun to come in and see what DIY cat contraption the fam had built since my last visit + getting to see any other "in progress" Bryce projects throughout the house... and we can't forget about the Lego mailbox!
When I think of Bryce I always think of the most loving, happy, and joyful little boy. Sending so much love, he made a lasting impression on everyone! 
May 7
Hi Bryce, I love seeing all your photos of when you were a cub scout. You and your parents helped pave the way for our family to be a scouting family, too. You are forever missed. XO Aimee
May 7
May 7
Thinking of you Bryce & your trains & Trina & Mike ❤️
xo,
Didi
Thinking of Bryce today, as I do whenever I see a train. I didn’t know Bryce very well, but from the time I spent around him when we were children, I will always remember his love of trains. He will never be forgotten.
May 7
May 7
Bryce,

Still inspired by your life, and how your parents have walked through theirs since you left your earthly body.

You will never be forgotten.
eg
May 7
May 7
Andrew taking care of the cats, will say “I have to go take care of Bryce’s cats” ❤️ I love the way he says it. Thinking of you Trina and Mike, especially today. Today, legos come to mind. Oh so many legos and the elaborate structures made. I can’t really remember how old they were, but I will always treasure the creative ideas forged over those legos.
May 7
Thinking of Bryce today, and all the people who love and miss him. I enjoyed reading Mike’s post from earlier today about Bryce’s tshirts. What a lovely and vivid reminder of what truly special person he was.
May 7
The clear sky today reminds me of the day I first met Bryce and Trina at the park so many years ago. I recall both of them smiling and laughing as he toddled around exploring - such joy. He is missed today and everyday. His bright smile is forever in etched in my memory. Sending love. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
May 7
May 7
Remembering beautiful, brilliant Bryce today and always. Holding Mike & Treen in my thoughts and heart. Wishing you both peace, especially on such heart-wrenching days as this. ❤️‍
February 1
February 1
I didn't know Bryce very well. Since his passing, I have often thought about sharing my memory of him, but didn't feel it was my place. But, I do think of Bryce often, and everyone who had the privilege to interact with him should remind the world of how blessed it was to know him.

I was in Bryce's homeroom, with Ms.Baumeister, for all four years of high school and in Ms.B's English class with him for our senior year. Our homeroom really was a family, Ms.B created that feeling, no matter who we were friends with or what classes we took, in homeroom everyday we were there for each other. From the beginning, and it is the thing I remember most about Bryce, I absolutely marveled at his intelligence. I remember sitting, listening to him talk about absolutely anything, and hanging onto every word. I remember thinking after any time he spoke, that I was sure he was going to lead the world when we were older, changing everyone and everything. Making discoveries and innovations that we never could've imagined. He only ever furthered this image I had of him. In senior year English, we did a unit on existentialism and at the end, we had to create a project related to the idea. It could be absolutely anything, and that was what made it difficult! I will never forget, when it was time for Bryce to present his project, he went up to the whiteboard and announced that he had created a mathematical formula for existentialism. If you couldn't already guess, I was absolutely floored, as was our entire class. Everyone erupted into conversation and questions, asking Bryce to explain it and how in the world he created such a thing. And as he told us about his equation and answered our questions, the room was silent, everyone leaning in and hooked onto what Bryce was saying. Everyone was speechless at such genius.

When we began committing to college, Ms.B had us decorate her door with where we were going. I remember looking at Bryce's name proudly written over Northeastern University, and of course, I paused to think about how amazing that was, but how fitting, and how much he would go on to do there, how he would change that place and those people as he had at Warde. Most recently, Warde Class of 2018 had our 5 year high school reunion on November 25th. It was really nice, everyone was happy to be together and proud of each other. About halfway into the event, I was looking around the room, taking it all in, feeling grateful to have gone to school with all of these people, when Bryce popped into my mind. I took a minute for myself to let him know I was thinking of him, that he was missed by those he might not even have realized would miss him, and that I was so grateful to have crossed paths with him, to have had the chance to experience his greatness. Bryce was brilliant, kind, thoughtful, inspirational, open to the world, authentic, and well beyond his years. I think of him often. I hope he is at peace. I hope he knows the immense impact he left on this world. I hope he knows I am eternally grateful to have known him. I know he is somewhere, making another world and more people better than they were before.
Jerusha Vogel
January 9
January 9
I was driving in the car singing along to Christmas Carols and as I started to sing this came to mind: "Fa La La La La La dot dot dot" I absolutely loved Bryce's memorial service. It was so personal and I learned a lot about him that I had never known before. Anyway, now I will never be able to hear and sing that song without thinking of Bryce and all three of you. Thank you!
- Jerusha (For some reason I have lost my login to this, so I am using Ken's)
December 21, 2023
December 21, 2023
Even if you didn’t know Bryce, but you heard him sing, his voice would stay with you forever. At Christmas time I will miss hearing him sing in our choir on Christmas Eve. He had a voice of an angel. The memories of you will live on in our congregation forever. Your voice sings on. Rest in peace.
December 11, 2023
December 11, 2023
In my mind’s eye, I see Bryce with his Elf hat, singing Pia Jesu. Since I didn’t know him personally, I get to imagine him with this wonderful blend of silliness and seriousness.
November 5, 2023
November 5, 2023
It's been 4 years but I will never forget the day Bryce missed a chorus rehearsal because he was sick. He had always looked forward to Tuesday at 6 pm so it was rare for him. I would always notice the littlest things, like why he is only eating a salad, maybe sometimes a bowl of cereal. The activity he enjoyed the most was putting on his headphones and immersing himself in the piano that faced our window. We also liked looking at the snow fall in December together. He had a book called "Metamorphosis" by Philip Glass and the 3rd piece never seemed to settle- it kept changing keys. That's how I imagine Bryce felt, neither happy or sad but content. He smiled when I was playing and singing Britten from the last year's concert before he joined chorus. I think the song was "Wolcum Yole". Bryce, I miss you every day and every time I play the keyboard and I think of that moment we shared together.
November 1, 2023
November 1, 2023
I remember Bryce’s pure presence as well as his voice.
May 30, 2023
May 30, 2023
Bryce- sending you some light this week. We share the same birthday. I’ll think of you especially on May 28.
May 29, 2023
May 29, 2023
On Saturday, I brought some flowers to Trina and Mike, as it is my occasional wont to do. Trina, as it turns out, has the 'Rona and could only hang for a half hour. Meanwhile, Mike came out and we were able to have a nice chat as well. All the while, I had forgotten that Sunday was Bryce's birthday. My apologies, T & M. I should have been more mindful. You are bearing up under the unconsolable. Your friends, and Bryce's, will there for you as long as you need us--and beyond.
May 28, 2023
May 28, 2023
Thinking of and remembering Bryce on his birthday today... Reminiscing about fun times had during those younger years - from back yard birthday sleepovers (esp those yummy roasted marshmallow peeps I learned about!), to paintball and fort building in the woods around our yard with our Connor and the two Andrews. In my role as Tiger Scout Den Leader, I also had a front row seat to Bryce's observant, curious, contemplative approach to so many of our Scout activities & projects. He was always such a pleasure to instruct and to watch as he engaged in any activity or event - be it painting, cooking, hiking at Lake Mohegan or Weir Farm, going on other interesting "go see it" field trips, doing overnighters, marching in the parade, etc. etc. Bryce, you are deeply missed & loved.
May 22, 2023
May 22, 2023
Trina/Mike/Bryce,

The remembrance service on Saturday was the most beautiful service I have ever been a part of. The rain made it so much more beautiful. How perfectly timed this was. The trees and plants were certainly singing, as they will continue to sing in all of our imaginations, because of the gift of your beautiful words that you shared with us. I will think of all of you, whenever I hear the trees and plants singing. With love, Amy
May 22, 2023
May 22, 2023
Bryce,
In our youth group, you were the quiet one yet when you spoke it was magical! You always added a unique and often whimsical touch to whatever it was we were talking about. I think of you often.
Your light shines through still and always will.
You are a star now; you know that one that always catches us by surprise with it's twinkle.
I'll be looking for you and your burst of light.
With Love,
Arnela Ten Meer
May 20, 2023
May 20, 2023
What a powerful service, so filled with love and loss being woven together to create a way forward. How fitting, since Bryce was uber-creative. What an honor to be there today.
May 20, 2023
May 20, 2023
I only "met" Bryce this year through working with Mike. After a dinner with coworkers, Mike shared a little of Bryce's story with me, which I deeply appreciated. On the train ride home, I opened the book Mike just lent me and there was a bookmark with this website. I read each tribute and looked at so many wonderful photos during that long ride back to Delaware. Reading all these stories, so lovingly written, created such a vivid picture of Bryce in my mind. I felt truly gifted to have been able to meet him in this way and continue to see the gifts he left behind in my wonderful colleague. I still haven't read that book, but I continue to read these stories. My heart is with you today and I hope people will continue to share their memories with each other.
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
Bryce was a Scout, a hiker, a singer, and a scholar. We were friendly but not particularly close. Quiet in my experience. My kids loved Bryce and Bryce loved them. This I know. Tim will be there tomorrow to help in any way they can. Heather/Andy has a non-negotiable recording commitment in Philly but sends a ton of love for Bryce and Bryce's memory. As do we all. Peace be with you, Trina and Mike. ♥ ♥ ♥ And with Bryce as well. ♥ No words suffice. ♥ ♥ ♥
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
As little as I knew Bryce, I will never forget that purest of pure sounds of his beautiful boy soprano voice and his quick smile when I would run into him at the church. Thinking of him with love.
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
I will always remember Bryce. Singing in front of the sanctuary with youth. Gliding into Christmas Eve rehearsals with his sweet smile. Always willing to say hello when I caught his eye.
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
Bryce's smile always lit me up, especially in and around the Christmas concert and rehearsals. Such a beautiful boy with a beautiful voice! I think of you all often Trina and Michael. Much love, Stephen
May 12, 2023
May 12, 2023
Bryce's bangs! I was just thinking about him the other day and I remember his bangs so fondly.
May 9, 2023
May 9, 2023
I have often thought of the hike we took 3 years ago- Mike, Bryce, Andrew, and me. It was so great listening to Bryce and Andrew just talking about elementary school, college, things they did. It was a beautiful day walking through the woods and so relaxed. The conversation they had about playing cello was hysterical! They both started with the school orchestra in 4th grade and Bryce kept moving up until he was 1st or 2nd chair (I can’t remember anymore) in HS. Meanwhile Andrew was still in the back. He was so proud of Bryce and his musical abilities and encouraged him to keep going forward! They laughed how Andrew was in the back and possibly getting put further back. It was a very cute and heartwarming listening to their reminiscence.
May 8, 2023
May 8, 2023
Trina, Mike & Bryce we are always thinking of you all!
Sending you much love.
xo, Didi & Michael
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
Thinking of you especially today and sending so much love!! ~ Adele
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
Bryce, I think of you every time I walk or run in our neighborhood. This means I think of you nearly every day and send love to your parents nearly every day. I met you a couple months after you turned two years old. Sophie had just turned one. Murray was about to turn one. You were all in the same La Leche League toddlers group.
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
Wrapping you in prayers and hugs today Trina and Mike. Bryce is forever etched in my heart. Think about him everyday.
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
On the 3rd anniversary of Bryce's passing Trina asked for thoughts or memories. The first thing that came to mind was the detailed map Bryce drew of Devil's Den which Mike posted. He was just 6 years old! I'm still in awe.
March 10, 2023
March 10, 2023
Bryce was always so good with directions. He found the shortcut down an alley while we were walking back to our dorm after chorus rehearsal. I wish we could've gone on a road trip together.
March 9, 2023
March 9, 2023
I didn’t know Bryce personally but can certainly picture him in our church community where his presence was certainly felt by so many here. It’s lovely to see these tributes and pictures and to know him through his impact on others.
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May 28
May 28
Dear Bryce,
I think about you every day, and today I am remembering your beautiful voice. I feel so grateful to have gotten to sing alongside you, to witness not only your angelic singing, but also your clever way of changing the lyrics in the hymns to make us all laugh. Your laugh is one I will never forget.
May 28
May 28
On this birthday, thoughts about Bryce and Mike and Trina, about post church ultimate frisbee, about the time Mike was going for a long pass from Bryce and ran into our Subaru roof rack, and about how we were all shocked and then laughing, (possibly too hard). And always about how Bryce modern day owned the word myrrh.
May 28
May 28
Bryce, thinking of you today. Remembering your smile and laugh bring joy to us all. Love to you, Trina, and Mike.
His Life

The Electoral College

February 5
Feb. 5, 2024

Dear Bryce,

I remember it was 2006 when I first got really interested in national politics. I had a hard time listening to any political news on the radio on my drive home when I worked in Stamford. The news would tell me things that I felt like I had no control over, so I avoided it.

But in 2007, it was a different story. I printed out brief descriptions of each Democratic primary candidate and started watching the debates. I liked Joe Biden because he was not an actor. He was earnest, and he knew a lot about foreign policy. He seemed to really want to do better for our country. 

And you were more amazing than ever.

Fast forward to election night, and we wanted Barack Obama to win so intensely. So I printed out a map of the US, got one of each – a red crayon and a blue crayon... and a pencil. We learned about the electoral college, and how each state’s results would add up either blue or red. I am no teacher, but I didn’t need to be. You learned so quickly. You would write in the electoral college numbers in each state, and soon were doing the math on the side of the electoral college map you had made like a pro. As the results started to come in, my heart swelled with love and gratitude as I watched you color in the states. It almost didn’t matter who won because there you were… just being you – excited, and cheering together with me when a state went ‘blue.’ You were too sleepy to stay awake for the last state to announce its results. You brushed your teeth with Dad, and we exchanged good nights, the short version of “I love you, good night, sweet dreams” – “Love, night, beans.” 

I take it back. It didn’t matter who won, because there was you. 

Love always, forever, with all of me, everywhere, Mom *heart*
Recent stories

Curiosity and Imagination

June 29
I witnessed firsthand how Michael and Bryce interacted and shared a beautiful intellectual curiosity. We were talking about building a 1980’s style arcade. I watched as they were seemingly building one together in their collective imagination. I’ll never forget it.
May 11
On April 13, 2019, Donna, Trina and I had traveled by car to Northeastern University in Boston to attend a concert by a choral group to which Bryce belonged. Finding ourselves with time for a bite to eat, Bryce, who was scheduled for a pre-performance rehearsal, therefore unable to join us, suggested that we try one of his favorite close by Mediterranean restaurants.

Not surprisingly, the rather small place was packed with students engaging in the kind of energetic and animated conversations so common to institutions of higher learning. One can not help but sense the energy exuding from those future movers and shakers of society.

As the busy proprietor of the place appeared to have things in control, we knowingly asked the rhetorical question as to whether he was familiar with a regular customer named Bryce Costawong, to which he replied with a shrug as if to say, “Are you kidding, do you have any idea as to how many hundreds of students who pass trough here every day?”; and just at that very second, who but Bryce appeared at the door, dressed in a spotless tuxedo and with big smile on his face.

I remember to this day the symbolism of that fleeting moment, when all eyes turned to the entrance of the restaurant and there stood the framed appearance of someone who, in sharp contrast to those of the crowd, was dressed in the ultimate symbol of achievement. However, judging by the quick resumption of the interrupted conversations, was the confident group message that just around the corner, with just a bit more effort, was the status soon to be reached by everyone there. On my part, I was never more proud that my grandson Bryce had already proven by his academic achievements that he was destined to have an august effect on our troubled society. 

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