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We are always COLLECTING MEMORIES of Bryce 
Even if your contact with our beloved, quiet, and unobtrusive son was fleeting or small, we appreciate any and all Tributes, Stories, or memories of any kind. And if you've already posted, please consider posting here again (and again).

OR... If your memory of Bryce is a more private one, and you would like to share it with only Trina and Mike, please send an email to: TheCostawongs@gmail.com.

For local people, please consider visiting Bryce's bench at the corner of our property, and leaving a painted rock with 'Bryce' on one side, and your name on the other. Bryce put the bench there for everyone.

Also for local people, there are Bryce's Trees at Lake Mohegan. Details for how to get there are in the Life section of this website.

There is now a 2nd bench to visit: Bryce's Trail Bench on an unmarked trail on Aspetuck Land Trust preserved land. Details for how to get there are in the Life section of this website. 

Thank you for helping mend our broken hearts.
February 1
February 1
I didn't know Bryce very well. Since his passing, I have often thought about sharing my memory of him, but didn't feel it was my place. But, I do think of Bryce often, and everyone who had the privilege to interact with him should remind the world of how blessed it was to know him.

I was in Bryce's homeroom, with Ms.Baumeister, for all four years of high school and in Ms.B's English class with him for our senior year. Our homeroom really was a family, Ms.B created that feeling, no matter who we were friends with or what classes we took, in homeroom everyday we were there for each other. From the beginning, and it is the thing I remember most about Bryce, I absolutely marveled at his intelligence. I remember sitting, listening to him talk about absolutely anything, and hanging onto every word. I remember thinking after any time he spoke, that I was sure he was going to lead the world when we were older, changing everyone and everything. Making discoveries and innovations that we never could've imagined. He only ever furthered this image I had of him. In senior year English, we did a unit on existentialism and at the end, we had to create a project related to the idea. It could be absolutely anything, and that was what made it difficult! I will never forget, when it was time for Bryce to present his project, he went up to the whiteboard and announced that he had created a mathematical formula for existentialism. If you couldn't already guess, I was absolutely floored, as was our entire class. Everyone erupted into conversation and questions, asking Bryce to explain it and how in the world he created such a thing. And as he told us about his equation and answered our questions, the room was silent, everyone leaning in and hooked onto what Bryce was saying. Everyone was speechless at such genius.

When we began committing to college, Ms.B had us decorate her door with where we were going. I remember looking at Bryce's name proudly written over Northeastern University, and of course, I paused to think about how amazing that was, but how fitting, and how much he would go on to do there, how he would change that place and those people as he had at Warde. Most recently, Warde Class of 2018 had our 5 year high school reunion on November 25th. It was really nice, everyone was happy to be together and proud of each other. About halfway into the event, I was looking around the room, taking it all in, feeling grateful to have gone to school with all of these people, when Bryce popped into my mind. I took a minute for myself to let him know I was thinking of him, that he was missed by those he might not even have realized would miss him, and that I was so grateful to have crossed paths with him, to have had the chance to experience his greatness. Bryce was brilliant, kind, thoughtful, inspirational, open to the world, authentic, and well beyond his years. I think of him often. I hope he is at peace. I hope he knows the immense impact he left on this world. I hope he knows I am eternally grateful to have known him. I know he is somewhere, making another world and more people better than they were before.
Jerusha Vogel
January 9
January 9
I was driving in the car singing along to Christmas Carols and as I started to sing this came to mind: "Fa La La La La La dot dot dot" I absolutely loved Bryce's memorial service. It was so personal and I learned a lot about him that I had never known before. Anyway, now I will never be able to hear and sing that song without thinking of Bryce and all three of you. Thank you!
- Jerusha (For some reason I have lost my login to this, so I am using Ken's)
December 21, 2023
December 21, 2023
Even if you didn’t know Bryce, but you heard him sing, his voice would stay with you forever. At Christmas time I will miss hearing him sing in our choir on Christmas Eve. He had a voice of an angel. The memories of you will live on in our congregation forever. Your voice sings on. Rest in peace.
December 11, 2023
December 11, 2023
In my mind’s eye, I see Bryce with his Elf hat, singing Pia Jesu. Since I didn’t know him personally, I get to imagine him with this wonderful blend of silliness and seriousness.
November 5, 2023
November 5, 2023
It's been 4 years but I will never forget the day Bryce missed a chorus rehearsal because he was sick. He had always looked forward to Tuesday at 6 pm so it was rare for him. I would always notice the littlest things, like why he is only eating a salad, maybe sometimes a bowl of cereal. The activity he enjoyed the most was putting on his headphones and immersing himself in the piano that faced our window. We also liked looking at the snow fall in December together. He had a book called "Metamorphosis" by Philip Glass and the 3rd piece never seemed to settle- it kept changing keys. That's how I imagine Bryce felt, neither happy or sad but content. He smiled when I was playing and singing Britten from the last year's concert before he joined chorus. I think the song was "Wolcum Yole". Bryce, I miss you every day and every time I play the keyboard and I think of that moment we shared together.
November 1, 2023
November 1, 2023
I remember Bryce’s pure presence as well as his voice.
May 30, 2023
May 30, 2023
Bryce- sending you some light this week. We share the same birthday. I’ll think of you especially on May 28.
May 29, 2023
May 29, 2023
On Saturday, I brought some flowers to Trina and Mike, as it is my occasional wont to do. Trina, as it turns out, has the 'Rona and could only hang for a half hour. Meanwhile, Mike came out and we were able to have a nice chat as well. All the while, I had forgotten that Sunday was Bryce's birthday. My apologies, T & M. I should have been more mindful. You are bearing up under the unconsolable. Your friends, and Bryce's, will there for you as long as you need us--and beyond.
May 28, 2023
May 28, 2023
Thinking of Bryce on his birthday! Love to you Mike and Trina❤️
May 28, 2023
May 28, 2023
Thinking of and remembering Bryce on his birthday today... Reminiscing about fun times had during those younger years - from back yard birthday sleepovers (esp those yummy roasted marshmallow peeps I learned about!), to paintball and fort building in the woods around our yard with our Connor and the two Andrews. In my role as Tiger Scout Den Leader, I also had a front row seat to Bryce's observant, curious, contemplative approach to so many of our Scout activities & projects. He was always such a pleasure to instruct and to watch as he engaged in any activity or event - be it painting, cooking, hiking at Lake Mohegan or Weir Farm, going on other interesting "go see it" field trips, doing overnighters, marching in the parade, etc. etc. Bryce, you are deeply missed & loved.
May 28, 2023
May 28, 2023
Thinking of you on your birthday Bryce. Wherever you are, you are surrounded by love, and you are love.
May 28, 2023
May 28, 2023
Happy Birthday Bryce. The more I learn about the warmth and joy you brought to others, the more I am inspired to do what I can to do the same.
May 22, 2023
May 22, 2023
Trina/Mike/Bryce,

The remembrance service on Saturday was the most beautiful service I have ever been a part of. The rain made it so much more beautiful. How perfectly timed this was. The trees and plants were certainly singing, as they will continue to sing in all of our imaginations, because of the gift of your beautiful words that you shared with us. I will think of all of you, whenever I hear the trees and plants singing. With love, Amy
May 22, 2023
May 22, 2023
Bryce,
In our youth group, you were the quiet one yet when you spoke it was magical! You always added a unique and often whimsical touch to whatever it was we were talking about. I think of you often.
Your light shines through still and always will.
You are a star now; you know that one that always catches us by surprise with it's twinkle.
I'll be looking for you and your burst of light.
With Love,
Arnela Ten Meer
May 21, 2023
May 21, 2023
Trina and Mike, thank you for the powerful gift of Bryce's tribute. You brought us all into the honoring of his unique spirit, and gave us a chance to re-experience the extraordinary, brilliant, and eternal spark of light that was kindled through his presence in this world. 
May 20, 2023
May 20, 2023
What a powerful service, so filled with love and loss being woven together to create a way forward. How fitting, since Bryce was uber-creative. What an honor to be there today.
May 20, 2023
May 20, 2023
I only "met" Bryce this year through working with Mike. After a dinner with coworkers, Mike shared a little of Bryce's story with me, which I deeply appreciated. On the train ride home, I opened the book Mike just lent me and there was a bookmark with this website. I read each tribute and looked at so many wonderful photos during that long ride back to Delaware. Reading all these stories, so lovingly written, created such a vivid picture of Bryce in my mind. I felt truly gifted to have been able to meet him in this way and continue to see the gifts he left behind in my wonderful colleague. I still haven't read that book, but I continue to read these stories. My heart is with you today and I hope people will continue to share their memories with each other.
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
Bryce was a Scout, a hiker, a singer, and a scholar. We were friendly but not particularly close. Quiet in my experience. My kids loved Bryce and Bryce loved them. This I know. Tim will be there tomorrow to help in any way they can. Heather/Andy has a non-negotiable recording commitment in Philly but sends a ton of love for Bryce and Bryce's memory. As do we all. Peace be with you, Trina and Mike. ♥ ♥ ♥ And with Bryce as well. ♥ No words suffice. ♥ ♥ ♥
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
As little as I knew Bryce, I will never forget that purest of pure sounds of his beautiful boy soprano voice and his quick smile when I would run into him at the church. Thinking of him with love.
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
I will always remember Bryce. Singing in front of the sanctuary with youth. Gliding into Christmas Eve rehearsals with his sweet smile. Always willing to say hello when I caught his eye.
May 19, 2023
May 19, 2023
Bryce's smile always lit me up, especially in and around the Christmas concert and rehearsals. Such a beautiful boy with a beautiful voice! I think of you all often Trina and Michael. Much love, Stephen
May 12, 2023
May 12, 2023
Bryce's bangs! I was just thinking about him the other day and I remember his bangs so fondly.
May 9, 2023
May 9, 2023
I have often thought of the hike we took 3 years ago- Mike, Bryce, Andrew, and me. It was so great listening to Bryce and Andrew just talking about elementary school, college, things they did. It was a beautiful day walking through the woods and so relaxed. The conversation they had about playing cello was hysterical! They both started with the school orchestra in 4th grade and Bryce kept moving up until he was 1st or 2nd chair (I can’t remember anymore) in HS. Meanwhile Andrew was still in the back. He was so proud of Bryce and his musical abilities and encouraged him to keep going forward! They laughed how Andrew was in the back and possibly getting put further back. It was a very cute and heartwarming listening to their reminiscence.
May 8, 2023
May 8, 2023
Trina, Mike & Bryce we are always thinking of you all!
Sending you much love.
xo, Didi & Michael
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
Thinking of you especially today and sending so much love!! ~ Adele
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
Bryce, I think of you every time I walk or run in our neighborhood. This means I think of you nearly every day and send love to your parents nearly every day. I met you a couple months after you turned two years old. Sophie had just turned one. Murray was about to turn one. You were all in the same La Leche League toddlers group.
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
Wrapping you in prayers and hugs today Trina and Mike. Bryce is forever etched in my heart. Think about him everyday.
May 7, 2023
May 7, 2023
On the 3rd anniversary of Bryce's passing Trina asked for thoughts or memories. The first thing that came to mind was the detailed map Bryce drew of Devil's Den which Mike posted. He was just 6 years old! I'm still in awe.
March 10, 2023
March 10, 2023
Bryce was always so good with directions. He found the shortcut down an alley while we were walking back to our dorm after chorus rehearsal. I wish we could've gone on a road trip together.
March 9, 2023
March 9, 2023
I didn’t know Bryce personally but can certainly picture him in our church community where his presence was certainly felt by so many here. It’s lovely to see these tributes and pictures and to know him through his impact on others.
January 26, 2023
January 26, 2023
Still and forever posted on the bulletin board in my work room, "The greatest injustice you can do to yourself is to not live life like you mean it" - Bryce Costawong

August 22, 2022
August 22, 2022
Thanks for sharing that wonderful story Mike. How nice that this platform gives all of us a chance to "remember" special times with that special boy!
August 21, 2022
August 21, 2022
I love your stories Michael. I didn’t know Bryce, though through your memories I relish feeling the infinite love you shared. This is the very best of what it means to be human.
May 30, 2022
May 30, 2022
I have only happy memories of Bryce. Things that make me smile.Of Olivia excitedly reporting how cool Bryce's costume was every year at Jennings. Of the girls in the car on the way to choir only wanting to play Taylor Swift and Bryce remaining neutral. Of my inability to remember the fastest way back to his house for 6 years and him always laughing about it. About how he always wanted the Myrrh part in the There Kings song in the Christmas pageant. .About Olivia complaining about a teacher in high school and Bryce laughing out loud. We have our last bridging ceremony this Sunday, and I think of them all singing Rivers and Roads four years ago.I hold onto these happy moments like film reels I run over and over. I'm so grateful for them, and having this wonderful person and his family in our lives.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of Bryce today. For me he’ll always have an elf (jester) hat on - ready for fun any time of year!
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Wonderful memories of the shared family birthday parties you and Christine held. I am trying to find one of my favorite photos of you two, in our backyard where you held up “rabbit ears” behind her head as the two of you took your birthday photo.
Love you Bryce ❤️ And you, Mike and Trina❤️
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Happy Birthday Bryce. Glad to know we share the same birthday. Will always remember you and your family on this day.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of you all on Bryce's birthday and sending much love.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of you both today and of course, Bryce. So many memories of your sweet boy as he grew that are flooding me today. Holding you both in my thoughts.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of Bryce on his birthday and feeling so fortunate to have known him and to have had him in our lives. We miss that beautiful boy.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of Bryce and both of you, Trina and Mike, on his heavenly birthday! Sending love.
May 9, 2022
May 9, 2022
Though I didn't get to know Bryce well, I'll always remember him as the sweet young boy milling about during Beachers/Blues performances. Holding all of you in my heart and thinking of you often.
May 8, 2022
May 8, 2022
Remembering Bryce with love and holding Mike & Trina in my heart this weekend and always.
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Dear Bryce,
I'll always remember when we spotted each other in the huge crowd at the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear on the Mall in Washington, DC. You led me to your parents and our families found each other. The MythBusters were there and wanted us to create a human earthquake. It was so fun to do the simultaneous seismic jump together.

I think of you everyday. You would love the view from my school library picture window. Your mom gifted me a beautiful plant with purple leaves. I named him Prince, and he sits on the sill of the picture window. Everyday, the morning sunlight illuminates the leaves so brilliantly. I like to imagine that you think so, too.

Warm best,
Aimee
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Holding Trina and Mike in my thoughts and in my heart. Hoping that the memories are a little sweeter and the sorrow a little lessened with each passing day. Love to you all! xxx Annie
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Went up to the Farmington River to release the salmon we’ve hatched at school. It was so peaceful in the rainy woods by the roaring river. Bryce would love watching the salmon swim away out into the wild. Thinking you, Bryce, Trina, and Mike - today and everyday! Love to you all always.
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February 1
February 1
I didn't know Bryce very well. Since his passing, I have often thought about sharing my memory of him, but didn't feel it was my place. But, I do think of Bryce often, and everyone who had the privilege to interact with him should remind the world of how blessed it was to know him.

I was in Bryce's homeroom, with Ms.Baumeister, for all four years of high school and in Ms.B's English class with him for our senior year. Our homeroom really was a family, Ms.B created that feeling, no matter who we were friends with or what classes we took, in homeroom everyday we were there for each other. From the beginning, and it is the thing I remember most about Bryce, I absolutely marveled at his intelligence. I remember sitting, listening to him talk about absolutely anything, and hanging onto every word. I remember thinking after any time he spoke, that I was sure he was going to lead the world when we were older, changing everyone and everything. Making discoveries and innovations that we never could've imagined. He only ever furthered this image I had of him. In senior year English, we did a unit on existentialism and at the end, we had to create a project related to the idea. It could be absolutely anything, and that was what made it difficult! I will never forget, when it was time for Bryce to present his project, he went up to the whiteboard and announced that he had created a mathematical formula for existentialism. If you couldn't already guess, I was absolutely floored, as was our entire class. Everyone erupted into conversation and questions, asking Bryce to explain it and how in the world he created such a thing. And as he told us about his equation and answered our questions, the room was silent, everyone leaning in and hooked onto what Bryce was saying. Everyone was speechless at such genius.

When we began committing to college, Ms.B had us decorate her door with where we were going. I remember looking at Bryce's name proudly written over Northeastern University, and of course, I paused to think about how amazing that was, but how fitting, and how much he would go on to do there, how he would change that place and those people as he had at Warde. Most recently, Warde Class of 2018 had our 5 year high school reunion on November 25th. It was really nice, everyone was happy to be together and proud of each other. About halfway into the event, I was looking around the room, taking it all in, feeling grateful to have gone to school with all of these people, when Bryce popped into my mind. I took a minute for myself to let him know I was thinking of him, that he was missed by those he might not even have realized would miss him, and that I was so grateful to have crossed paths with him, to have had the chance to experience his greatness. Bryce was brilliant, kind, thoughtful, inspirational, open to the world, authentic, and well beyond his years. I think of him often. I hope he is at peace. I hope he knows the immense impact he left on this world. I hope he knows I am eternally grateful to have known him. I know he is somewhere, making another world and more people better than they were before.
Jerusha Vogel
January 9
January 9
I was driving in the car singing along to Christmas Carols and as I started to sing this came to mind: "Fa La La La La La dot dot dot" I absolutely loved Bryce's memorial service. It was so personal and I learned a lot about him that I had never known before. Anyway, now I will never be able to hear and sing that song without thinking of Bryce and all three of you. Thank you!
- Jerusha (For some reason I have lost my login to this, so I am using Ken's)
December 21, 2023
December 21, 2023
Even if you didn’t know Bryce, but you heard him sing, his voice would stay with you forever. At Christmas time I will miss hearing him sing in our choir on Christmas Eve. He had a voice of an angel. The memories of you will live on in our congregation forever. Your voice sings on. Rest in peace.
His Life

The Electoral College

February 5
Feb. 5, 2024

Dear Bryce,

I remember it was 2006 when I first got really interested in national politics. I had a hard time listening to any political news on the radio on my drive home when I worked in Stamford. The news would tell me things that I felt like I had no control over, so I avoided it.

But in 2007, it was a different story. I printed out brief descriptions of each Democratic primary candidate and started watching the debates. I liked Joe Biden because he was not an actor. He was earnest, and he knew a lot about foreign policy. He seemed to really want to do better for our country. 

And you were more amazing than ever.

Fast forward to election night, and we wanted Barack Obama to win so intensely. So I printed out a map of the US, got one of each – a red crayon and a blue crayon... and a pencil. We learned about the electoral college, and how each state’s results would add up either blue or red. I am no teacher, but I didn’t need to be. You learned so quickly. You would write in the electoral college numbers in each state, and soon were doing the math on the side of the electoral college map you had made like a pro. As the results started to come in, my heart swelled with love and gratitude as I watched you color in the states. It almost didn’t matter who won because there you were… just being you – excited, and cheering together with me when a state went ‘blue.’ You were too sleepy to stay awake for the last state to announce its results. You brushed your teeth with Dad, and we exchanged good nights, the short version of “I love you, good night, sweet dreams” – “Love, night, beans.” 

I take it back. It didn’t matter who won, because there was you. 

Love always, forever, with all of me, everywhere, Mom *heart*
Recent stories

Ham Sandwich

March 17
Quoting from Bryce's typing on my old school typewriter.

"Oh, by the way, the awesome machine I was talking about is a typewriter. Christine is my cousin. I learned to the smiley face from her, which is this:  :)  The date is Saturday November 29/30, 2008. It is not usual to have a typewriter these days."

Then there is some more writing, and the ink runs out, then some more, then I picked up a new ribbon.

Bryce continues:

"Boy, you should really see this typewriter. This is how it works:

There are bottons that make levers fling up... I need to go to the bathroom... that hit a strip of ink. The level and the paper are the bread and the ink is the ham. I love ham sandwiches!"

Love you, kid… Dad

Things Bryce and I have in common

March 16
(In no particular order, he was one of my best friends in college in the barely 6 months I knew him for)

1. Eating sandwiches without the bun
2. Wearing pajama pants even when it's not bed time
3. Talking to each other while studying yet still managing to study
4. Staying up late but not wanting to disturb the other guys in the house (night owls)
5. Trying new things, playing on the computer, learning interesting fun facts

A Giant Nest

January 8
One day, when I was driving Bryce to high school, we saw a giant nest in a tree on Fairfield Woods Road… hanging over the street.
It was a “giant bees’ nest”.
But when you say it out loud, without any visual reference, we reckoned it could be one of several things.
  1. A Giant Bees’ Nest - a gigantic nest of many regular-sized bees
  2. A Giant Bee’s Nest - a regular-sized nest for a single gigantic bee
  3. A Giant “B”s’ Nest - a gigantic nest of many regular-sized “letters B”
  4. A Giant “B”’s Nest - a regular-sized nest for a single gigantic “letter B”
  5. A Giant “B”s’ Nest - a gigantic nest of several regular-sized Bryce-folk
  6. A Giant “B”’s Nest - a regular-sized nest for a single gigantic Bryce
Play with words. Play with meaning.
We sure had fun this way.

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