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We are always COLLECTING MEMORIES of Bryce 
Even if your contact with our beloved, quiet, and unobtrusive son was fleeting or small, we appreciate any and all Tributes, Stories, or memories of any kind. And if you've already posted, please consider posting here again (and again).

OR... If your memory of Bryce is a more private one, and you would like to share it with only Trina and Mike, please send an email to: TheCostawongs@gmail.com.

For local people, please consider visiting Bryce's bench at the corner of our property, and leaving a painted rock with 'Bryce' on one side, and your name on the other. Bryce put the bench there for everyone.

Also for local people, there are Bryce's Trees at Lake Mohegan. Details for how to get there are in the Life section of this website.

There is now a 2nd bench to visit: Bryce's Trail Bench on an unmarked trail on Aspetuck Land Trust preserved land. Details for how to get there are in the Life section of this website. 

Thank you for helping mend our broken hearts.
January 26, 2023
January 26, 2023
Still and forever posted on the bulletin board in my work room, "The greatest injustice you can do to yourself is to not live life like you mean it" - Bryce Costawong

August 22, 2022
August 22, 2022
Thanks for sharing that wonderful story Mike. How nice that this platform gives all of us a chance to "remember" special times with that special boy!
August 21, 2022
August 21, 2022
I love your stories Michael. I didn’t know Bryce, though through your memories I relish feeling the infinite love you shared. This is the very best of what it means to be human.
May 30, 2022
May 30, 2022
I have only happy memories of Bryce. Things that make me smile.Of Olivia excitedly reporting how cool Bryce's costume was every year at Jennings. Of the girls in the car on the way to choir only wanting to play Taylor Swift and Bryce remaining neutral. Of my inability to remember the fastest way back to his house for 6 years and him always laughing about it. About how he always wanted the Myrrh part in the There Kings song in the Christmas pageant. .About Olivia complaining about a teacher in high school and Bryce laughing out loud. We have our last bridging ceremony this Sunday, and I think of them all singing Rivers and Roads four years ago.I hold onto these happy moments like film reels I run over and over. I'm so grateful for them, and having this wonderful person and his family in our lives.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of Bryce today. For me he’ll always have an elf (jester) hat on - ready for fun any time of year!
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Wonderful memories of the shared family birthday parties you and Christine held. I am trying to find one of my favorite photos of you two, in our backyard where you held up “rabbit ears” behind her head as the two of you took your birthday photo.
Love you Bryce ❤️ And you, Mike and Trina❤️
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Happy Birthday Bryce. Glad to know we share the same birthday. Will always remember you and your family on this day.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of you all on Bryce's birthday and sending much love.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of you both today and of course, Bryce. So many memories of your sweet boy as he grew that are flooding me today. Holding you both in my thoughts.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of Bryce on his birthday and feeling so fortunate to have known him and to have had him in our lives. We miss that beautiful boy.
May 28, 2022
May 28, 2022
Thinking of Bryce and both of you, Trina and Mike, on his heavenly birthday! Sending love.
May 9, 2022
May 9, 2022
Though I didn't get to know Bryce well, I'll always remember him as the sweet young boy milling about during Beachers/Blues performances. Holding all of you in my heart and thinking of you often.
May 8, 2022
May 8, 2022
Remembering Bryce with love and holding Mike & Trina in my heart this weekend and always.
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Dear Bryce,
I'll always remember when we spotted each other in the huge crowd at the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear on the Mall in Washington, DC. You led me to your parents and our families found each other. The MythBusters were there and wanted us to create a human earthquake. It was so fun to do the simultaneous seismic jump together.

I think of you everyday. You would love the view from my school library picture window. Your mom gifted me a beautiful plant with purple leaves. I named him Prince, and he sits on the sill of the picture window. Everyday, the morning sunlight illuminates the leaves so brilliantly. I like to imagine that you think so, too.

Warm best,
Aimee
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Holding Trina and Mike in my thoughts and in my heart. Hoping that the memories are a little sweeter and the sorrow a little lessened with each passing day. Love to you all! xxx Annie
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Went up to the Farmington River to release the salmon we’ve hatched at school. It was so peaceful in the rainy woods by the roaring river. Bryce would love watching the salmon swim away out into the wild. Thinking you, Bryce, Trina, and Mike - today and everyday! Love to you all always.
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Today is grey and rainy with a chilly breeze blowing making the beautiful dogwood and lilac blossoms dance. So it is with my memories of Bryce which are both sad and joyous at the same time. Abiding love to you Michael, Trina and Bryce.
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Today the landscape is awash in beauty. The lushness of spring startles me anew each year. I imagine the essence of this beauty infusing every molecule of the cosmos and enfolding Bryce, Trina, and Mike in an embrace of infinite love.
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
Sending SO MUCH love to you today and always, Trina and Mike. Bryce was an amazing amalgamation of you both--sooooo much of each of you in him! SO smart, so kind, so talented, so gentle.  Love you, love you, love you!! ~ Adele
May 7, 2022
May 7, 2022
My memories of Bryce....singing with Mike and Trina in the Christmas concert, hanging out with friends in youth group, etc....are now blended with images from the posts from Mike. I see him hiking in the woods and joyously splashing in puddles!
April 28, 2022
April 28, 2022
Bryce-It's almost May.
May.
Thinking about you-special soul-especially in May.
This earthly human hopes that you would be proud of how they are walking through this, sometimes overwhelming, realm of existence. I feel your struggle with the sometimes insanity of this consciousness. Holding the uniqueness that was, and is, you. Remembering always with love...eg
March 22, 2022
March 22, 2022
   My memories of Bryce are filled with the joy and pleasure of hearing him sing, especially from long ago before his voice changed. When I realized he was your son, Michael, I was not surprised at his talent and skill. It was always a thrill when he participated in our Special Projects concerts at church...such a sweet and beautiful voice.
   I do believe Bryce's light will never be gone from any of our lives. He was an amazing young man and an inspiration to so many. I sincerely hope countless warm and wonderful memories will bring you some peace and comfort.

March 15, 2022
March 15, 2022
Hi Bryce- I remember the time we spent together in Cub Scouts especially the Pinewood Derby. That would be You, me, your awesome Dad, and RJ. Of course your Mom would be close by supporting all that we did together. Your Dad was such an amazing technician with those cars. (and he also was a scary storyteller with the story of the "chicken heart beating under the floor boards")  I remember the races and overnight trips were so much fun and really brought a lot of the Fairfield families together. Looking back, those were great times. 

Bryce, I'm not sure how you would know this, but we share the same birthday. Its a good birthday and I'm glad to know that I share that day with you. 
February 3, 2022
February 3, 2022
Oh how I love the video of Bryce posted by Thomas Hearne. In Bryce's voice and his movements and expressions, I see Mike...and in his pensiveness, I see so much of Trina - how beautiful to watch. Thank you for posting.
February 3, 2022
February 3, 2022
I want to thank Thomas Hearne-fellow UU-for the beautiful video you posted today of Bryce at the UU Cabaret in 2017. Getting to listen to him play-and see/watch his face for the extended period of time-and then his smile-What a gift! Thank you Tom!
February 3, 2022
February 3, 2022
I agree with Ellie - Thank you for sharing that video Tom. I wasn't there when he played at the cabaret, so it was nice to see it for the first time.
February 3, 2022
February 3, 2022
Today I found a video of Bryce at the January 2017 Cabaret at TUCW. Just as I remembered Bryce: totally present, comfortable on stage. I still miss his unique transparency with those he barely knew...like me. The video has been added to this site...
January 20, 2022
January 20, 2022
I remember parties with Bryce and all my cousins, running and playing in the backyard, and Bryce always being such a gentle and quiet person. Thinking of you both, and sending my love
-Finnea
January 20, 2022
January 20, 2022
Bryce,

I’ll always remember your love for trains, your quiet and gentle demeanor and your kindness. When I picture you in my mind, your hair stands out to me the most. You always had the shiniest, most perfect hair, shaped into an adorable bowl cut. I think of you, Mike and Trina all of the time. You’re with us in our hearts ♥️

Sending lots and lots of love.

-Aymara
January 20, 2022
January 20, 2022
I have so many memories of seeing Bryce at birthday parties growing up. I remember what a gentle and adorable kid he was, running around the yard, swinging on the swings, or playing frisbee or legos with his cousins, always with a smile on his face. I think of you all often. Sending love, Maggie
January 20, 2022
January 20, 2022
I had the pleasure of knowing Bryce when we were younger and have the most vivid memories of celebrating birthdays and playing games with him and the cousins we shared. What will always stand out in my memory was his love of trains, something that will make me remember him every time I see one. You’re all continuously in our thoughts. Love, Atticus
January 11, 2022
January 11, 2022
Love hearing Bryce's laugh in the recently posted video of him breaking the ice. 
December 7, 2021
December 7, 2021
Bryce had a beautiful singing voice and I will treasure it always in my memories. A gift that he shared freely, as he was shown. 
November 4, 2021
November 4, 2021
We just started up Quiz Bowl club at my school, which is a competitive team-based trivia contest. There was a larger crowd the first day, but some students got discouraged by the difficulty of the trivia. As we've continued to meet, the group has gotten to a smaller, regular group. As I read many of the questions this week, I kept thinking about Bryce, especially when a question about grand strategy games made by Paradox came up. Thinking of all three of you lovingly- Bryce, Aunt Trina, and Uncle Mike- as well as the cats.
November 4, 2021
November 4, 2021
I'm teaching computer science this year, and I think of Bryce whenever my students start a new digital project. I have fond memories of visiting & seeing him boot up his Minecraft world to show off, or presenting a new card/board game that he'd created. His attention to detail made each of his designs look like a masterpiece! The enthusiasm and energy that Bryce had was truly infectious, and you couldn't help but smile while watching him present his newest project to everyone :)

Thinking of you all - Uncle Mike, Aunt Trina, Bryce, KrisKringle, & FishStick - and sending my love 
November 4, 2021
November 4, 2021
About two years ago, I was for some reason studying and fell asleep on the couch. He was there and I will always remember him calmly waking me up and telling me to go back to my room. By the way, I learned a fun fact that there was a study in mice that if you're sleep deprived you could get delta waves in the brain even while you're awake. You always liked sleeping high up in the bed so I hope you are resting well.
November 4, 2021
November 4, 2021
I always remember Bryce as the most adorable little boy, quiet and observant and always with a train or lego creation in his hand. We think of him and you, Mike and Trina often.
XOXO,
Didi & Michael O’B-P
November 4, 2021
November 4, 2021
I posted a picture in Bryce’s album just now that showed iup in my memory feed. I love how you, Treen and Bryce would fit perfectly into a heart shape.❤️
Such love between you three.
November 1, 2021
November 1, 2021
I work with a family who lives near the Danbury Railway Museum. I drive by once a week, and every time I do, I think about Bryce. I remember how much he loved trains when he was little, and how much he knew about them at such a young age. I had no idea that the thing that connected two train cars actually had a name, and was NOT called, "the thingy that connects two train cars", but Bryce did! I'll be smiling and thinking of Bryce every Tuesday at 4:00...driving by the Danbury Railway Museum, heading to my client's house. 
October 31, 2021
October 31, 2021
Halloween can not squeak by without a shout out to my nephew Bryce and the awesome costumes he wore every year! I had a rice crispy treat tonight in your honor! ❤️
October 31, 2021
October 31, 2021
Thinking of Bryce today, on his (and Mike's) favorite holiday of all time. I hope that Bryce is putting the finishing touches on his costume right now, thinking and smiling about all of the happy memories that he and his family shared on this holiday...imagining, gathering, building, and creating epic Halloween costumes for the whole neighborhood to enjoy. Our family always anticipated the arrival of Bryce and Mike and Trina as each year's costume was sure to top the year before...we will forever miss that smiling face - tonight, always, and forever. xoxo
October 29, 2021
October 29, 2021
I sang in the choir with Bryce back in middle and high school. He was such a positive spirit, always lifting the mood of the entire choir and bringing a smile every day. He was smart and kind-spirited, and he was a friend I always looked forward to seeing.
October 21, 2021
October 21, 2021
I didn't know Bryce well, but I have a lovely memory of playing Frisbee with Mike, Bryce and my son Duncan after Duncan and Bryce took a chemistry exam at a local college. It was a beautiful, sunny day I won't forget. I hadn't played frisbee with my boys much before that, but not long after I started playing frisbee golf at Cranbury Park with Duncan and Matt, especially on Father's Day. It's lovely reading the memories of Bryce below, he touched so many lives. Thank you for the invitation to share.
October 19, 2021
October 19, 2021
Bryce and Duncan grew up together at the church. I remember them in RE together - particularly in the pagent. One year they were two of the "Three Wise Kings" I have a photo of the two of them about 9 years old looking so excited for the pagent. They continued to do things together at church including youth group and choir. Choir was very important to both of them. While Duncan's low voice moved him into the teen choir when he was only 12, Ed was able to keep Bryce in the youth choir longer allowing him to be a leader and role model for the younger kids. 

Duncan and Bryce went to the same college. I remember running into the three of you (Bryce, Trina and Michael) at orientation. It was great seeing familiar faces!

Everytime I talked with Bryce I found him to be a sweet, caring young man. I am so sad that he left this world so early.
October 4, 2021
October 4, 2021
It's taken me a long time to write this for many reasons. It's been hard to think about Bryce and Process what happened. I regret not writing earlier and adding on my own stories about my beloved friend who is now no longer with us. it's just been hard thinking about him. anytime I think about the stuff we enjoyed together it's painful at any time, I think about experiences we had together it's painful, it's not that I don't try and think about them, but here we go. There is no end of things that I could say about Bryce. He was brilliantly funny and one of the best people I've ever met. He introduced me to so much I had never known before and I would not be the man I am today with out him. I miss him beyond measure and hope he is at peace.
June 21, 2021
June 21, 2021
Mike is an amazing, involved dad. Few parents are as engaged as he is. Thanks Mike for being an inspiration and Happy Father's Day.
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May 28
May 28
Dear Bryce,
I think about you every day, and today I am remembering your beautiful voice. I feel so grateful to have gotten to sing alongside you, to witness not only your angelic singing, but also your clever way of changing the lyrics in the hymns to make us all laugh. Your laugh is one I will never forget.
May 28
May 28
On this birthday, thoughts about Bryce and Mike and Trina, about post church ultimate frisbee, about the time Mike was going for a long pass from Bryce and ran into our Subaru roof rack, and about how we were all shocked and then laughing, (possibly too hard). And always about how Bryce modern day owned the word myrrh.
May 28
May 28
Bryce, thinking of you today. Remembering your smile and laugh bring joy to us all. Love to you, Trina, and Mike.
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The Electoral College

February 5
Feb. 5, 2024

Dear Bryce,

I remember it was 2006 when I first got really interested in national politics. I had a hard time listening to any political news on the radio on my drive home when I worked in Stamford. The news would tell me things that I felt like I had no control over, so I avoided it.

But in 2007, it was a different story. I printed out brief descriptions of each Democratic primary candidate and started watching the debates. I liked Joe Biden because he was not an actor. He was earnest, and he knew a lot about foreign policy. He seemed to really want to do better for our country. 

And you were more amazing than ever.

Fast forward to election night, and we wanted Barack Obama to win so intensely. So I printed out a map of the US, got one of each – a red crayon and a blue crayon... and a pencil. We learned about the electoral college, and how each state’s results would add up either blue or red. I am no teacher, but I didn’t need to be. You learned so quickly. You would write in the electoral college numbers in each state, and soon were doing the math on the side of the electoral college map you had made like a pro. As the results started to come in, my heart swelled with love and gratitude as I watched you color in the states. It almost didn’t matter who won because there you were… just being you – excited, and cheering together with me when a state went ‘blue.’ You were too sleepy to stay awake for the last state to announce its results. You brushed your teeth with Dad, and we exchanged good nights, the short version of “I love you, good night, sweet dreams” – “Love, night, beans.” 

I take it back. It didn’t matter who won, because there was you. 

Love always, forever, with all of me, everywhere, Mom *heart*
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Curiosity and Imagination

June 29
I witnessed firsthand how Michael and Bryce interacted and shared a beautiful intellectual curiosity. We were talking about building a 1980’s style arcade. I watched as they were seemingly building one together in their collective imagination. I’ll never forget it.
May 11
On April 13, 2019, Donna, Trina and I had traveled by car to Northeastern University in Boston to attend a concert by a choral group to which Bryce belonged. Finding ourselves with time for a bite to eat, Bryce, who was scheduled for a pre-performance rehearsal, therefore unable to join us, suggested that we try one of his favorite close by Mediterranean restaurants.

Not surprisingly, the rather small place was packed with students engaging in the kind of energetic and animated conversations so common to institutions of higher learning. One can not help but sense the energy exuding from those future movers and shakers of society.

As the busy proprietor of the place appeared to have things in control, we knowingly asked the rhetorical question as to whether he was familiar with a regular customer named Bryce Costawong, to which he replied with a shrug as if to say, “Are you kidding, do you have any idea as to how many hundreds of students who pass trough here every day?”; and just at that very second, who but Bryce appeared at the door, dressed in a spotless tuxedo and with big smile on his face.

I remember to this day the symbolism of that fleeting moment, when all eyes turned to the entrance of the restaurant and there stood the framed appearance of someone who, in sharp contrast to those of the crowd, was dressed in the ultimate symbol of achievement. However, judging by the quick resumption of the interrupted conversations, was the confident group message that just around the corner, with just a bit more effort, was the status soon to be reached by everyone there. On my part, I was never more proud that my grandson Bryce had already proven by his academic achievements that he was destined to have an august effect on our troubled society. 

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