Brandi K. New friend
I myself had just recently met Carl, just in August, while I was visiting in his building. When I arrived, Carl was in the backyard enjoying the sun, and some palm bays. He welcomed my company immediately and offered me a drink. After maybe 1/2 hour, my friend had to run out for a few minutes, so I stayed with Carl and kept him company.
Over the next 3 hours we talked about, family, friends, finances, futures, our pasts, our adventures, our struggles and most importantly we talked about his cancer. We talked about how to deal with it, how he should spend the rest of his days and who he should spend them with and what they should do together.
Although I'm sure Carl had most of these plans already in order, I think that hearing an outsiders opinion on his thoughts maybe helped him verify that his choices, were in fact, exactly what his next moves were to be for him and his loved ones.
I sat, watching and listening, when this big beautiful smile came across the face of this gentle giant of a man, this stranger I've just met, this "life is shit at the moment, but I'm gonna live it like any king would".
And on that day, I witnessed Carl have this Epiphany, This moment of AH-HA I get it. This moment of peace as things came together in his mind for him.
To witness that, was one of the most amazing things I've ever experienced. I even had my own epiphany's that night and probably had one of the most in depth conversations I've ever had in my life that evening.
I had attempted a few times to head home that evening but Carl wouldn't let me leave. He wanted to talk, he wanted the company. At first I felt a little awkward, not knowing him from the next guy, but the longer I sat, the more welcome I felt being there. And the more welcome I felt, the more I chose to stay put and lend my ear and my opinion.
Carl opened his heart, his hand, his home, and his family to me in a matter of a few hours. All I had to do was listen and be a friend. And that is what I became that day.
The next couple months I was invited for dinner and drinks a few times. I stopped in a few times just to say hi, see how everyone was doing. I don't think Carl's smile left his face since that day we met in August.
My biggest regrets...getting up from that table in the backyard after almost four hours of chit chat, and leaving Carl to be alone. I should of stayed, I should have hung in longer with him that night. I wish that I had gotten to know more about Carl, I wish I had the time with him that some of you have had. But I can't have that. So I'm going to remember the short time I did have with him, and the impact he's made on my life, the impact Carl made on the life of the man who introduced me to Carl, and now I can look at the impact that Carl had amongst this community and the good things he's done over his years, for anyone he could.
Thank you Carl, for just being you!! You will be sadly missed by many, near and far. Most of all I just wanna say, God damn Carl, my palm bay tastes like mosquito repellent, you missed my back. Those buggers were the reason I got up to leave that night, as they were extremely thirsty, right Carl?? Haha cheers from below my friend!!