This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Carolyn Scheideman.  She was born on May 6, 1983 and passed away suddenly on January 22, 2020. She was 36. We will remember her beautiful soul and keep her in our hearts always.  Please add your own photos, stories and tributes so that we may all share the love and light she brought into our lives.
Funeral Arrangements:
A reception will be held for Carolyn on Friday, February 7 from 5-7pm at St. Paul's Episcopal Cathedral in downtown Buffalo (address below).  All are welcome.  On Saturday morning, February 8, Carolyn's funeral will be held at 10:30am, also at St. Paul's.  There will be an additional reception following the funeral from 12-3pm, at Pearl Street Grill and Brewery (address below).
At the family's request, in lieu of flowers, please consider a contribution to either of the following organizations.
National Eating Disorders Association is an organization whose mission is to help those struggling with eating disorders.  Donations can be made by clicking on the following link:  National Eating Disorders Association
Carolyn loved music and singing and was heavily involved in her high school music program, the Iroquois Central High School Vocal Music Department.  If you would like to donate, checks can be made out to "Iroquois Central Schools", and can be mailed ℅ Timothy Gastle, Iroquois High School, Box 32, Elma, NY 14059.  Please include a return address.
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Posted by Catherine Farrell on February 17, 2020
Carrie, I will never forget meeting you and how well we clicked from day one! I knew you were safe and would care for and love my favorite cousin! I was so sad that I got sick on your wedding day. I knew I had to brave through the ceremony because I would never forgive myself if I missed it and I'm so glad I pushed through it to see how beautiful the two of you were that day. Forever memorialized in my mind! Fly with the Angels on eagles wings. Until we meet again in God's great kingdom on judgement day! We will be sure to love Ben as much as we can. He will carry on just like he always has but I know he is a better person to be able to hold you in his heart forever. Your family will always be in my prayers.
Posted by Becca Riopelle on February 17, 2020
I’ve been listening to Love on Fire. Thinking of you, and missing you ♥️
Posted by Colleen Simms on February 7, 2020
Carolyn, I really don’t know what to say. I was supposed to get up to Buffalo today for the service but Mother Nature was not allowing me. It breaks my heart that you are gone way too soon. I wish I got to see you more but life gets crazy sometimes. I am praying for strength for your family and Ben’s. I can’t imagine how difficult this is for them. I look back at our crazy times in college and they bring back so many fun memories. I’ll miss you so much. Rest In Peace my friend.

Love,
Colleen Simms
Posted by Amanda King on February 4, 2020
C, I put a new song up for you today, I know you would've loved it. You probably would go immediately to look up the chords so you could learn it on one of your ukuleles. The harmony and simple beauty of it remind of you so much. I miss you! I miss sharing music, pictures, and laughter every day. I love you Mavis.
Posted by Barry Bradfield on February 4, 2020
How sad Carrie and you will always be remembered here. And for Ben what can I say,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,you will always have "Irish Cousins"
Posted by Jan Watson on January 30, 2020
Carrie and I met while working at the hospital. We were not only coworkers we became friends. Your smile and energy always lit up the room. Among all the memories I have, my fondest is how we would spin in our chairs to release the stressors of the day away. What a great coping skill!
My heart broke the moment I heard you were gone. It's so hard to believe.
Your rehab family has cried and laughed together as we shared stories of you.
Know you will be greatly missed. Until we meet again my dear friend.
Ben, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care, Jan
Posted by Bonnie Witt on January 29, 2020
Carolyn rest in peace. My memories of you are from Junior and Senior High Camps....May your soul and all of the souls of the departed ...rest in peace. God Bless.
Posted by Bing Zhivago on January 29, 2020
Carrie,

It is a total disbelief to know that you are gone. Sadness filled our hearts for a long while. Thank you for the sharing your laughter for the brief moment I got to know you. Your energy is just contagious. Your friendship is so sincere. That's how I/we will remember you. I feel you are in a good place now. Don't worry about Ben too much, he will be taken cared of by many around him. Rest in peace. You will be remembered in our hearts forever.
Posted by John Argabrite on January 29, 2020
Carrie made me promise to tell everyone that she received her Master's Degree first. So I have. She was so funny, and always worried that everyone else was taken care of. A selfless, funny human being that I only knew for a very short time. I wish I could find the picture of her on our Commanding Officer's shoulders. Just a fun, fun person. The world is a little darker today with her passing. I received the news via text while on vacation, and my wife and I still can't believe it. Lisa loved her too. Carry on Ben, I know that's what she would've wanted. She will be missed.
Posted by Becca Riopelle on January 30, 2020
I sent this to Carrie on Sunday and wanted to share it with all the people she loves here. I feel so lucky I got to be touched by her the short time I knew her. I don’t feel like you’re gone yet Carrie. I want to send you my 2am poems and watch Freya Riding music videos. You’re in my heart.



I’ll let you go
Knowing I will find you

Don’t be afraid
I won’t be far
It’s for the best
Like the waves
That swell
And rush
And get lost in the great big ocean

I hold you in my heart
And I won’t lose you

But right now
Right now I need to let you go
And trust that you’ll come back to me
Because I’m holding on too tight
I have to let you breathe
So you’re not suffocated

I won’t forget you
The imprint you’ve made
Don’t forget me either okay?

You are ever on my mind
You fill up my head and my heart
You light up the world
But my world wasn’t the one you were made to light up
Or were you?
Maybe He made you to play a part
Maybe a part I have yet to discern

I carry you with me everywhere
You are a part of me
Part of that
Inner part of me
And I cherish every thought I have of you
Go well, love
Posted by Mayra Mya Peña Ruiz on January 30, 2020
Hello everyone, my name is Mayra Pena-Ruiz. I'm the neighbor next to Carrie and Ben here in Japan. I have no photos with Carrie to share. The truth is that we didn't share moments together and this is something I regret. But from what I see here, Carrie never lacked the love and company of beautiful people. How wonderful is that. My interaction with her was fleeting and short every time we saw each other. My life is so busy and full of work that I lose the perspective of life itself and how it happens in front of me without realizing that I’m missing moments and people that can bring beautiful memories to my life. Seeing her photos and anecdotes with all of you makes me feel incredible jealousy. How is it that a person so full of life, love and joy did not become part of my little world. However, I can say that every time we talked, she always made me laugh. I always told her that I had a crush with Buster (her pug). Since we couldn't have a puppy in our house. That made her laugh and gave me the chance to pet him even if it were a few seconds. In the backyard we only talked about, Buster, plants and flowers and making fun of how we couldn’t keep the alive. I am glad to know that the Carrie I met was always cheerful and always with a big smile on her face. I want to tell Ben that me and my husband feel tremendously your loss. It seems unreal and although we are still in shock and it hurts us for what you are going through, we want you to know that you have always had our respect and sympathy and now our support. Thanks for sharing with us the Carrie you loved so much through these pictures and letting me know a little more about her beautiful life surrounding by so much love and care. Please receive love, respect and support from us, The Baez-Pena family (Emilio, Mayra and Tristan)
Posted by Gayle Sommers on January 29, 2020
I met Carrie in July of 2017 when I began occupational and physical therapy at St. Mary's Hospital following a stroke. She captured my heart from the very start, and the laughter and sunshine she generated became my best therapy. She loved you, Ben, and talked about you and Buster all the time. Carrie's move to Japan and the end of my therapy occurred at the same time, and I knew then that I was so much better for the blessing of knowing her and the loving light she spread all around her. I will forever hold that in my heart.
Posted by Russ Langford on January 29, 2020
I still cannot believe you're gone. I was so excited to discover the similar way in which we appreciated musical skill and your talent. Mio was overjoyed that she was able to make her ramen for you in a slurp-free environment and it was great to see you so happy. Iwakuni was lit up by your spark like no other.
Posted by Bob Coniglio on January 28, 2020
I was fortunate to have met Carrie when I became a teacher. She was in the first 6th grade class I taught. She was not only a joy to teach, but when I transitioned to become a high school administrator within the district, I got to know her even better throughout her HS career. She had a spark in her that you do not often see & I enjoyed watching her perform with our music department. She was the first student to ever sign one of my yearbooks (which has now become somewhat of a tradition). I was even luckier to connect with her later through Facebook & see the adventures she experienced. What an incredible loss to the world and my heart goes out to her family & friends.
Posted by Devin Miller on January 28, 2020
Carrie and I worked together at St. Mary's Hospital. Well, it was a healthy mix of work and play :) I've never met anyone that could make me agree to do something more than Carrie, she was hard to say no to. Sometimes all she had to do was send me a pic of her swinging with Buster in a Hammock with a glass of wine and "COMEOVER" and I'd be there. Maybe it's because I was also afraid she would smother me w/affection if I said no; which she knew was a struggle for me haha.

I'm not the best at opening up to someone but with Carrie it poured out pretty easily and, was met with no judgment. She was the best at making you laugh but also making you feel loved. She loved sharing her home videos of her and her family, and had a way of making you feel like you've known her forever. Definitely in my heart forever!

Ben and Family, know her Rehab Medicine Family at St. Mary's Hospital are with you and haven't stopped thinking about you since we found out.

Amanda, Thank you for making this page. It helps being so far away, to still feel close. Hugs
Posted by Nicole Spadavecchia on January 27, 2020
I've been blessed to work by your side and even luckier to have a friend like you. You gave me awesome advice and had so much positive energy to share. My boys will miss you too. I feel so heartbroken and this world has an empty spot. I think though, you would want us to celebrate your life rather then mourn your passing. So we have been sharing great stories about you. Still miss you. Ben, my prayers are with you and the family.

"It is not length of life, but depth of life" Ralph Waldo Emerson

...and Carrie you've touched so many lives!
Posted by Jenna Holmes on January 27, 2020
I met Carrie at the hospital, where her energy and smile was contagious. We really connected over learning and I had the pleasure of taking a couple of continuing education classes with her. One of my favorite memories from the courses was Carrie rapping while we were stuck in DC traffic. She was brilliant and totally silly, which made everything more fun. I’ll miss getting update pictures of her adventures in Japan, her nieces, her nephew and Buster. One day we will meet again dear friend.
Posted by Rachel Mackiewicz on January 27, 2020
My dear sweet friend who left this world too soon. I will never forget all of our memories together from girls nights, working together, working out together, taking our personal training course together, sleepovers, and both of our weddings. My favorite time with you was when I stayed with you in San Diego and we laid on the beach all day and then walked the board walk for hours just talking and laughing. We then explored the San Diego zoo together and tried a few new restaurants. I pray that you Rest In Peace sweet friend. I Miss you.
Posted by Jen Jones on January 26, 2020
Carrie and I worked together at our local hospital, and within weeks of meeting her we became close friends. Carrie had a way of making every situation a fun one. You couldn't go 5 minutes without her making you laugh. I'll never forget the little things like us having her favorite cherry coke zero, her wearing her full cold gear ( coat and gloves) while sitting at her computer, her great laugh, our adventures with Buster, her lovely singing skills... ( I could go on). She was an amazing person, and friend. I will miss her dearly.


Ben, I can't imagine your hurt. We are here for you.

Everyone is in my prayers.
Posted by Amanda King on January 26, 2020
Carrie, I can't believe I'll never see your smile again. The fun times we had playing MarioCart on your Nintendo 64 will forever hold a special place in my heart. I will miss those moments where you brightened up my day with your laugh. You were always there for me. I will miss your voice and cheery disposition. I will remember the times we had together forever.
I'll miss you,
Harrison King, age 11
Posted by Adrienne O'Connor on January 26, 2020
Dearest Dollface...
I can’t believe you are gone. I will always cherish our trip with you and Ben last summer in Japan. You had serious tourist skills. Your laugh was infectious. Your love was deep and caring was your middle name. I loved you as if you were my own. What a life...what a love.
Posted by Linda Bennett on January 25, 2020
Ed and I were truly shocked to hear of Carrie's death. We enjoyed celebrating the holidays with Carrie and Ben while visiting Jake and Manda and learned to really appreciate Carrie when she was such a help to Amanda while Jake was away.We will always remember, and miss,her great sense of humor and generosity of heart.
Rest well Carrie!

Linda and Ed Bennett
Posted by Cassandra Brasher on January 25, 2020
I've sat here for awhile trying to find the right words to say or where to even start. When I think of you all the fun times we had come flooding to my mind. I knew the moment I met you a year ago we would have a friendship like no other. I never had someone touch my heart the way you did and honestly don't think I will again. I could sit here and go on and on about all the crazy fun times we had and there was never a dull moment between us. I still want to pick my phone up and message you hey girl hey or send you pictures of Pete. I will always love you and cherish every second I got to spend with you because even though we were only friends for a year it felt like a life time. I feel honored I got to meet you and have you in my life even if it was cut short. You are one of a kind and I will miss you dearly. You made time here in Japan fun and not so lonely. I will try my hardest to enjoy the rest of my time here because I know you would want me to. So rest easy my friend and I will see you again one day and we will have one hell of a party. I love you Carrie <3
Posted by Amanda King on January 24, 2020
We've been sharing photos and videos of you. Laughing and crying. Can't believe you're gone. You brought so much laughter to our lives. Missing you.
Posted by Ben Scheideman on January 24, 2020
Carrie,

You are the light of my life. You gave me 19 wonderful years together that I am incredibly grateful for. You loved without limit, and I was lucky enough to share in that. It still is not real to me that we will not have any more adventures in this life, that I won't hear your laugh that would light up a room, or your sneeze that would wake up half the neighborhood, again. I will forever carry you in my heart as I try to find a way through this world without you.

You and me against the world,
B

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Posted by Catherine Farrell on February 17, 2020
Carrie, I will never forget meeting you and how well we clicked from day one! I knew you were safe and would care for and love my favorite cousin! I was so sad that I got sick on your wedding day. I knew I had to brave through the ceremony because I would never forgive myself if I missed it and I'm so glad I pushed through it to see how beautiful the two of you were that day. Forever memorialized in my mind! Fly with the Angels on eagles wings. Until we meet again in God's great kingdom on judgement day! We will be sure to love Ben as much as we can. He will carry on just like he always has but I know he is a better person to be able to hold you in his heart forever. Your family will always be in my prayers.
Posted by Becca Riopelle on February 17, 2020
I’ve been listening to Love on Fire. Thinking of you, and missing you ♥️
Posted by Colleen Simms on February 7, 2020
Carolyn, I really don’t know what to say. I was supposed to get up to Buffalo today for the service but Mother Nature was not allowing me. It breaks my heart that you are gone way too soon. I wish I got to see you more but life gets crazy sometimes. I am praying for strength for your family and Ben’s. I can’t imagine how difficult this is for them. I look back at our crazy times in college and they bring back so many fun memories. I’ll miss you so much. Rest In Peace my friend.

Love,
Colleen Simms
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Shared by Alicia Petrinec on February 7, 2020
This is always how I will remember my dear friend Carolyn. Her silliness and fun personality. She was always full of life and positive energy. She always knew how to make her friends and love ones laugh. You will forever be in our hearts and thoughts Carolyn. We will live on for you and celebrate your life with kindness and love. Thankful everyday for  your sincere friendship Carolyn. May you be at peace in Heaven and doing what you love most- running and singing. It gives us all comfort to know that you are in the arms of your loving father.

Funeral Bulletin

Shared by Amanda King on February 7, 2020
For those in the Buffalo area please join us tomorrow to celebrate the life of Carolyn Guinn Scheideman.

The Perfect Storm on a Perfect Day

Shared by Sarah Roberts on January 29, 2020
One time Caro came to visit me when I lived in Baltimore. We had a great day of walking around the city and laughing endlessly—we cracked each other up! That evening, we were out on my porch and there was tremendous wind. We could tell a storm was coming and we just both had a feeling we should watch it. All of the sudden, the sky turned a vibrant pink, and purple lightning began splicing through every few minutes. We were both amazed! Caro turned to me at one point, a huge smile on her face, and said, “This is the perfect storm on a perfect day!” I said, “Omg, it is!” And we hugged and giggled. 

I still think about that day and smile. I cannot believe you’re gone. I cannot believe I’ll never get a chance to send silly Snaps to you again. I’ll love you always. Remember the sugar cookie, Caro. Remember the sugar cookie.