This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Catherine Ashcraft. We will remember her forever.
Mom, its been 9 years and 13 days since you left us. I just told this lady I love about that time you called me Giddlewidget in class. Love you Mom, miss you.
I have a lifetime of memories in the short time I was blessed with the love and affection of the Ashcraft family.
Happy Birthday Mom.
She was the best friend I ever had.
Sorry Dad, I know that you are an empirical rationalist, but she is out there and she is looking over us.
Gideon
Thank you Helen and Dan, she was a wonderful lady and she lives on in all of us.
BTW, Gid the Kid is going to be 48 in 4 days.
She was the best friend I ever had.
Sorry Dad, I know that you are an empirical rationalist, but she is out there and she is looking over us.
Gideon
Thank you Helen and Dan, she was a wonderful lady and she lives on in all of us.
BTW, Gid the Kid is going to be 48 in 4 days.
Thinking of Kitti on the 2nd anniversary of her death. Can't believe it's been that long. She was an original, and much loved by Dan & Harriet.
Although my Dad is probably the most interesting person on this planet, he is nothing compared to Mom. She has a depth of spirit and intrigue that no one I have ever met has. She still lives on in my dreams.
in about 6 1/4 hours it will be 47 years since she brought me into this world. I was not happy about that and promptly pissed on the Doctor. But, she was not only an amazing Mom, but she was a dear friend to me. She and I are both Libra's and we understood each other. We would argue for hours before we realized that we were both playing "Devil's Advocate" and we agreed with each other.
Happy Birthday! Mom was blessed with many amazing adventures in her life that she shared with pop, her 4 wonderful sons, daughter-in-laws, grandchildren, great grandchildren family and friends. Our memories of her will help make this day easier to get through. You are forever in my heart, I miss and love you. I was blessed to have a mother-in-law as great as you.
I don't know about a life time of love, but I had a short time with Mom. But, I left 21 years ago and lived an amazing life.
You have no idea how hard it was to be away from her. Dad and I still talk, but...
You have no idea how hard it was to be away from her. Dad and I still talk, but...
Dad, you were an amazingly lucky dude to have found this lady. Also, she did a very good job ensnaring you. I could not have had two better parents. You were always about the details, mom was always about what else?
i miss her, and I still cannot believe that she is gone. In the time I have been away from the family I have be
i miss her, and I still cannot believe that she is gone. In the time I have been away from the family I have be
We were school mates and then went to The University of Cincinnati together. We rarely saw each other over the years, but when we did, it was special. Seeing her was like coming home. Just thinking about her brings great memories. She will always be held in high regard and never be forgotten. Thinking of her makes me feel young again. I'm proud to call her my friend. Judy
By the way, all of the pictures of Iris' and African Violets were her creation (as well as the goofball with a goatee)
Grief is like a wave (Dad, don't start with Particle Wave Theory). At first I was taken under the waves (like when you taught me how to swim by throwing me into the ocean (I came back)).
Afterwards, I tried to compartmentalize my grief and pretend like it didn't happen. But it comes back
Afterwards, I tried to compartmentalize my grief and pretend like it didn't happen. But it comes back
I miss Kitti and think of her frequently. We spent so much time together when our children were small, I think of her like a sister. When we do see each other it's as if we were never apart. I will cherish her memory. Much love.
Thank you for allowing me the privledge of becoming your daughter-in-law. I will always cherish the memories that I have shared with her. She was my 2nd mom. We loved playing scrabble (it became a competition), window shopping, gardening and great conversations as well as our love for nicknacks and our doll collections. She was a terrific grandmother and mother-in-law. I love & miss you.
She had a strange and wonderful heart that only 5 Ashcrafts could appreciate.
Dad, Potzer, Dede, Jonathan and me.
Dad, Potzer, Dede, Jonathan and me.
It's hardest for me because our birthdays are so close. We thought alike, we would argue for hours about things without realizing that we both were playing the Devil's Advocate to each other and eventually we realized that we agreed with each other on the original premise, but I miss arguing with her.
OK, the dam has finally broken on my tear ducts.
Sorry Dad, that I couldn't be there to say goodbye to a wonderful lady.
Giddlewidgit
Sorry Dad, that I couldn't be there to say goodbye to a wonderful lady.
Giddlewidgit
OK, she was the only Mom I knew in my life. When I was a kid, she was my best friend during the most difficult times of my life. I am so sorry that I wasn't there for her in her last years. But the thing I remember most about her is the Iris's she bred in her garden (actually more than that but, she had a wonderful artistry about her). I've tried to remember her when she was younger...
Grandma kitti is my special grandma! I love the way she laughs and smiles at you! I remember always wanting to be like her and dress like
her. Thank you for all the amazing memories of childhood that I will cherish for a lifetime!
"In my heart and in my mind forever and always"
her. Thank you for all the amazing memories of childhood that I will cherish for a lifetime!
"In my heart and in my mind forever and always"
My friend for over 50 years...Kitti, you always be in my thoughts and in my heart.
"There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning." ~~Thornton Wilder
"There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning." ~~Thornton Wilder
I enjoyed Kitti's smarts and wit and telling it like it is. We were both at the NJ State Dept of Health for 5 overlapping years, but in different divisions within the public health sphere. We knew many of the same "characters" and discussed them at length. She livened up our concert tour of England. I was going to add the photo of you both in the Weavers' Inn, one of my favorites.
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Astromeria bouquet. I can't bring her flowers anymore...

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Gid jammin with dad

I took a walk today

A little smile

Kitti with my class ring

Kitti and Donna 11 30 07

Kitti in my pocket

Kitti in Jackson Park listening to Jazz at the French Quarter Festival

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It wasn't easy being a little gay white boy hillbilly Hindu in central New Jersey in the late 70s and early 80s. I think if it weren't for Mrs A being such a good friend I wouldn't be here today. She respected me when I didn't deserve it and showed me a path out of the negativity of my own head. She was an amazing, cultured, positive person and one of the few humans on earth whose presence made it a better place.
Still thinking of you
Going into the 4th year of missing you....how time fly's, it seems to escape your grasp. You close your eyes to sleep at night and you wake up and it's another year gone.
I am lucky enough to have the memories from my childhood when I was 16 and was 1st blessed to have become a member of the Ashcraft family. Boy if you all could hear some of the stories I could write a book.
I will always treasure every moment I had with mom and pop as well as all the other family members and friends.
Love and miss you always mom.