This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Charles Butera 80 years old, born on October 14, 1929 and passed away on December 24, 2009. We will remember him forever.
2019 and it still seems like yesterday when we all surrounded your hospital bed waiting for you to leave us. That was the worst Christmas ever. How I prayed for God to heal you so that you could be home with us.. 10 yrs ago today. Did you see us all Dad surrounding your bedside? Were you afraid to leave us and are you with us still in spirit. In 10 years, you have become a grandfather 2 more times and a great grandfather 2 more times and of course dad 3 girls to 1 more boy. You would have been in your glory. Anyway I love you and miss you so much
Another year has passed dad and 2018 is still no different than the day you passed away. I miss you so very very much and I would give anything to talk to you again. ( Well almost anything) .. I'll be thinking of you today and tonight as we celebrate your favorite holiday
I'd like to say it's easier now, and I guess in someways it is because thankfully every day is not Christmas day but on Christmas Eve and Christmas day I feel like I am holding my breath trying to get through it in the same way you always did, with love, laughter, joy. It is only when I get home and everyone has gone to bed do I allow myself to feel those feelings and it aches Dad, it aches so bad not to have you with us. Love you so very much. Until we meet again...xxxx0000
You would have liked the day Dad. It's warm and a little humid but not hot. We would have planned brunch at Golden Ponds and celebrated by coming to your house afterwards or had a picnic at your house. The year you died we had celebrated your birthday 2 months before never expecting it was our last. I think of you all the time Daddy and missing sharing my life, feelings, concerns with you and listening to you guide me through life. If I could just hug you and never let you go... You have 2 new granddaughters. Mina is 3 and Paige is 2 weeks. You would have been so thrilled by them. You will always be the first love of my life and I miss you so much. Happy Birthday Daddy.
So much has happened in these 7 years how I have needed you..your wisdom..your warmth..your love...your silliness...your hugs. I try to think what you would say..close my eyes and feel you holding my hands. Oh dad how much my heart still aches without you. I love you...do you know how much?
Happy Birthday Daddy. I cannot tell you how many times I thought of you, how many times I wished I could talk to you, how many times I wish I could just see your face and feel your hugs. Almost 7 years and I can't say the ache in my heart is better or thinking of you no longer brings a tear to my eye. I love and miss you so very much. Do you know how much we love you Dad?
Happy Birthday Dad ! I miss you so very much. I wish i could talk to you again and hear your voice. So much has changed since you've been gone and i wish you were here to see your beautiful grandchild Mina! How i know you would just enjoy and love her to pieces like we all do. Then on the other hand I am glad you are not here to see that Luke, Jake and Aria are no longer living in Rochester but in Michigan, Adam is now in Maryland and Joshua is in state prison. This I know would have made you sad cause family closeness meant everything to you. . I'm here on your birthday in the mountains visiting Josh. He remembered your birthday without me reminding him. Just goes to show you that you meant everything to him too. After all i don't remember my grandparents birthdays. I love you Dad forever and always.
Happy Birthday Dad...there are no words for how I feel, lost without you, missing you, and I talk to you inside my head all the time. I love you, so much to share with you, so much love still in my heart for you...
This is so not the memory I want to have so I struggle to remember not your death but your love for Christmas. I miss you so much Dad that it takes my breath away. If only we could have had you a little longer it just happened to fast. I love you with my heart and soul. Merry Christmas Dad.
Happy Birthday Dad! I miss you like crazy Dad and would give anything for you to still be with us. I can't stop crying knowing today is your birthday and you are not here with us. Ugh. Love you
My heart remains broken without you. I miss and love you so much Dad. I wish you were here so that I may talk with you, receive hugs from you, and wait while you pass the phone to Bonnie because you want to watch TV. How I miss you.
Dad can it be possible that it's been 4 years? It seems like yesterday and from Thanksgiving to that horrid moment that we lost you my heart continues to break like yesterday. The other days Dad I am remembering your smile your advice, your opinions, and all the things that made you so much a part of my heart. I remember sitting on your bed and saying Dad do you know how much we love you? and you said yes, I said no Dad, do you really know how much we love you and you said yes, as much as I love you all. I had to make sure you knew..Oh how we cried, the day you left us, gathered around your bed to grieve, Wish I could see the angels faces as they heard your sweet voice sing...I love you Daddy, Merry Christmas...
I truly believe you reminded me this year and showed us that you are always around, that you have never really left us. I love you and miss you so much! ♡
Its been three years since I held your hand while you left this earth. I miss you calling things whichamacallit and finding you at the doughnut shop sneaking a treat. You will never leave my heart. I thank God for the push for a last minute visit hours before you could no longer speak. I looked at you as I walked out of your room and I will never forget your smile.
Dad, I can not believe just how much I miss you.... I would give anything to have you with us again. You are forever missed and life has not been the same since you left us. I love you Dad
Happy Birthday Dad how I wish you were here to celebrate your life again with your family. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you and miss you. Your pictures offer me comfort when I am lost and sad you had a gentle way of making us feel stronger, showing us you care. I would give anything to go in to reverse and stop that train from taking you...
2 years, somedays it's seems like yesterday and we are reliving that day all over again. Most days though Dad I think of all the moments spent with you and all the beautiful warm and loving memories I have with you and I thank God for giving me those. I miss you, and love you so much and I am sad not to have you here anymore. Do you know Dad how much we love you? You whispered yes...
I would give anything to celebrate another year of your life. I have no words, it's your birthday, I miss you and my heart is broken...
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2019 and it still seems like yesterday when we all surrounded your hospital bed waiting for you to leave us. That was the worst Christmas ever. How I prayed for God to heal you so that you could be home with us.. 10 yrs ago today. Did you see us all Dad surrounding your bedside? Were you afraid to leave us and are you with us still in spirit. In 10 years, you have become a grandfather 2 more times and a great grandfather 2 more times and of course dad 3 girls to 1 more boy. You would have been in your glory. Anyway I love you and miss you so much
Another year has passed dad and 2018 is still no different than the day you passed away. I miss you so very very much and I would give anything to talk to you again. ( Well almost anything) .. I'll be thinking of you today and tonight as we celebrate your favorite holiday
I'd like to say it's easier now, and I guess in someways it is because thankfully every day is not Christmas day but on Christmas Eve and Christmas day I feel like I am holding my breath trying to get through it in the same way you always did, with love, laughter, joy. It is only when I get home and everyone has gone to bed do I allow myself to feel those feelings and it aches Dad, it aches so bad not to have you with us. Love you so very much. Until we meet again...xxxx0000
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