Dear Chris：  我们的宝贝孙子！
你好吗？今天是您的22岁生日，祝你生日快乐！奶奶因为今天要上班，所以我们三人（您的爸爸妈妈和我）在前天就去您那里探望太婆婆和您，我给你准备的是白色康乃馨，给太婆婆带去的是粉红色康乃馨，我和公公征得您父母的同意，邀请您和我们同住我们的“新家”，现在您先入住，公公奶奶日后就来陪你，您的父母就在我们隔壁，所以将来我们会团聚一起，而由我们的Eric来照顾我们大家，你看如此安排可好？你知道我们有多么的想念您，每时每刻的想念，奶奶总觉得您一直就在我们身边，在公公病重住院时，奶奶每天来往于医院，诊所，家中，但是在忙中特别感觉到，您就在我们身边，在给我们加添力量，谢谢您！我们的宝贝！回想22年前的今天，您出生在纽约的Beth Israel Medical Center，是Dr Betty Iu 把你平安的带到这个世界，当时在Lab-Deliver Room有Dr Iu的得力助手Mrs Mak 在侧帮忙，她参与和见证了您和Eric的出生，并且给了极大的帮助，在您出生的那一刻，还有您父母的好友，Aunt Margaret 和Uncle Michael在产房外，等待您的到来，Dr Iu是纽约有名的华裔OB-GYN女医生，她是香港医科大学毕业，英国留学，美国考牌的著名妇产科女医生，在纽约华裔医务界很有名气，奶奶有幸就在她的诊所工作，一直到她退休，这次她得知您意外离开，她并同家人一同前往参加您的告别仪式，亲爱的Chris，再次祝你生日快乐！我们下次再谈！

永远爱您的
公公，奶奶， 

You are 22 today!  How time flies.  We miss you so very much everyday.  Hope you are doing great up there.

So many tragedies this past year.  Your childhood friend Miles lost his life in a car accident.  Eric's friend Paul Kim has also left us.  So young and so sudden.  Our prayers and thoughts are with their families.

Eric is doing great at school.  He got elected as the Treasurer of his fraternity.  One more year and he will be graduated.

Gon Gon's health is not we would liked to see.  Neinei is working so hard to take care of him.  We hope he gets better soon.

Jonathan will be going to college next year.  He grew so big and tall. 

Mom and I are doing well.  We spent half a year apart but things are going well.  I hope she can come visit me in Shanghai next year.

I am still staying at Room 908, where I got the news and spent the absolute worst day in my life there.  My office is still there so I can feel your presence all the time.

Minx is doing well too.  He misses you very much also.

Happy birthday, our boy!  We will light a candle next Saturday.  Rest in peace!

As much as we all miss Chris' presence we are comforted knowing that he must be surrounded now by Angels holding lit-up candles and singing Happy Birthday while God and Jesus are nodding and smiling at him fondly.

Chris is a privileged young man whose schoolmates, friends and relatives not only miss him but will always retain abundant love for him. 

We gathered some of Chris' friends and had a small gathering today.  He would have turned 21 today. 

Besides cancelling birthday parties, once when we had waiter brought out the cake and candle, he hid himself in the bathroom of the restaurant (Chili's, I remember) and we were very embarrased when everybody was singing but he wasn't there at the table.

We miss you so much, Chris and hope you are doing well up there.

Today, Chris would have turned 21. We would have taken him and his friends to dinner to celebrate this grand day but he did not like to celebrate his birthday.

When Chris was about 5 he asked me to cancel his birthday party. He was very serious about cancelling his birthday party. We had invited all of his school mates, friends and family to Chuck E. Cheese. Chris decided that he did not want a birthday party - I asked him many times are you sure you want me to cancel the party? It should be a great time. Think of all the fun you will have and the gifts you will receive. He told me I have thought about it and I want you to cancel. I told him I would cancel.

The morning of his birthday he asked me are we still having my birthday party? I told him I thought you told me to cancel - he told me I thought you would not cancel. I told you are right I did not cancel. He said great lets go.

It became a running joke that Chris would be cancelling his birthday parties. Love you so much and miss you Chris!

Two years have gone by, we all miss you so very much.

Eric just finished his first year at Rutgers. We are so proud of him. He is going to Montreal with Robert Blanco today. I guess this will be his first time going out of country without us. He will be coming to Shanghai with Mom later on this month. This year is 25th anniversary of Mom and I. Time really flies.  I am working a lot in Shanghai these days.

Gon Gon had a little scare this year. He has just returned home from hospital and rehab center. He is doing great but this has put so much pressure on Nei Nei. We wish Gon Gon a speedy recovery.

We are keeping touch with Ant. I wanted to take him to the range but we have a nationwide ammo shortage so we will have to wait and see.

Thank you for being in our lives. You certainly made a great impact on all of us. Hope you are doing great, we know you are. Love you and miss you so much, my buddy!

Dad

It has been almost a year alraedy.  Every minute of that awful night has been played in my mind everyday.  Just imagine the horror Mom and Eric had to go through and the selfishless decision Mom had to make, it just breaks my heart to pieces.  We will never recover from this tragedy.  We don't know how to express our feelings of missing you every minute, every day...

Took Ant to Cherry Ridge yesterday and it was such a beautiful day.  I could almost see you there in distance.  I remember every trip we took and the cold we had to endure...

Eric is going to Rutgers and he will soon graduate from Cliffside Park High as the class president.  We are all so proud of him and hope he will continue to grow up and become a successful and good person.

Mom and Eric will visit Shanghai this summer and I will make sure they visit all your favorite spots and tell them all the little tails.  I am so glad that you had a chance to visit there and as you called it, "a trip of a lifetime."

I am still at the same office where I can be close to you.  I feel your presence all the time and hope you are doing OK in heaven.  I know you are in a better place but we all rather you are here with us.  We will all pray for you everyday and bless us all...

This believed to be the last photo of Chris taken by us.  It was taken on April 20, 2011 at a local restaurant celebrating his mother's birthday.

We donated Chris' organs and tissue - as a donor family we were asked to write a tribute - below is our tribute to Chris...

Our son, Christopher Yang, was born on December 1, 1992. To show God our thanks for our lovely, healthy son we named him Christopher, which means bearer of Christ. He was a happy baby and he was the delight of his parents, brother, grandparents, great grandmothers, cousins, aunts and uncles.

Christopher was our first child, an older brother, a first grandchild, nephew, godchild, all knowing cousin, a self-taught swimmer, a so-so student, lover of gadgets, animal lover, friend and defender of all underdogs in the world, loved to travel, loved Anmie, reader of graphic novels but his life was interrupted,on May 17, 2011, it seems God had bigger plans for him… We miss him so verymuch.

We love you Chris… Mom, Dad and Eric

我要写一个故事 ，是有关我的宝贝孙子Chris，在他出生大约8个月左右，他的祖父在一次体格检查，查出有“早期前列腺癌症”，医生说要动手术，但是这位公公说什么都不肯，（因为没有症状），结果是DR，IU说：（姚医生，是把Chris带到这个世界来的医生）“您要不要参加Chris的大学毕业典礼，和参加他的结婚典礼？如果要，就去动手术”，公公二话不说，立即同意手术治疗，谢谢您Chris，公公一直活到现在，但是Chris您确离开了我们，让我们参加是您的丧礼，真是让公公，奶奶伤心到极点，我们无法面对，无法接受，总是盼望你会突然出现在我们面前，您离开我们已经50天了，我们还是不断的思念您，我们的宝贝孙子，希望早日和你相见天家！

They rarely ever fought with each other and always played together.  Chris loved his brother so much almost squeezed the life out of Eric.  This photo was taken on 09-21-1996.

Family portrait at his Grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary. 

Birthday dinner at Cheese Cake Factory at Nyack Palisade Mall.

Big snow storm in November, 2001.

In August of 2009, his uncle Ernesto brought Eric and cousin Justin to Wisconsin for the summer and they had a rare chance to fly with the help of a great friend, Danielle.  This is of course, just show off.  They flew a single engin Cessna, not this jet.

In June of 2005, Epiphany School finally closed due to budget issues.  Chris started here in Kindergarden and moved on to Christ the Teacher School in Fort Lee for his early middle school years.  It was a rather sad chapter the school had to close but this day was the last day before summer vacation and you can see he was very happy in anticipation of video games and no assignments.

Father and son were like Siamese twins and two peas in a pot.  It was the rare kind of closeness that one seldom see.  Chris was not only his parents' pride and joy but he has also brought so much happiness and satisfaction to his grandparents Jay and Marjorie who "lived" on their Saturday's visits rain or shine.  He will be greatly missed by all. 

I remember gathering the Yang's old family friends for lunch at a restaurant to welcome both David and Chris (his very first visit to Shanghai).  Everyone took a liking to this gentle and handsome youngman.  I was thrilled to learn that he "fell in love" with Shanghai and had every intention to go back to explore more as well as to seek his future endeavor there.  I am sad that he wasn't able to fulfill his dream but we have to accept that it's God's calling for His angel who left us with abundant love and precious memories.

Christopher was a very happy baby. He loved to eat and tripled his birth weight by the time he was three months old. (The doctor was not happy with this.)

Chris loved trains and moving parts. He would also want to sit near the washing machine to see it fill up with water and the dryer was his favorite.

Chris walked at 7 months. The only problem was he fell down and decided not to try that again until he was about 11 months old. He decided to show off his walking skills in the china department of Bloomingdales. There he was walking among very expensive vases, dinner plates and wine glasses.

His first word was "shit". You can imagine how horrified we were that our little angel's first word was "sssshhhhiiittttt". We blamed my Dad... who thought his grandson was the best.

At Newark Airport having breakfast, just before boarding his first flight to China on September 2, 2010.

Dining at Yu Garden, after standing on line for an hour.  Slightly disappointed because of the great anticipation.  However, it was almost everything he had hoped for.

In September of 2010, Chris and I visited Shanghai, my birth place.  He was so excited about the visit and experienced so much about our heritage, food, people, the city and even the long plane ride.  Chris matured a lot from that trip and started to plan his future.  With the help of my cousin Gary, we planned to send him to Switzerland for school and training and become a professional mechanical engineer.  He started to learn Chinese at Bergen Community College in preparation of his future.

In downtown Shanghai.  国泰电影院