It seems strange that my late husband, you, and a dear friend all have the same birthday...will never forget you.
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Clark Reed 85. He lived his life with intention and authenticity. We have provided this space to connect with one another and celebrate his life.
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Leave a tributeIt seems strange that my late husband, you, and a dear friend all have the same birthday...will never forget you.
Jay Moore, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
Companion since 1976
He is part of our family. Everyone here loves to hear the stories and to learn his teachings. He is hardwired in my head when I am dealing with difficult situations or find myself making similar mistakes. Clark was steadfast , authentic, and non judgmental. Lessons that I constantly work to absorb as part of me. His honesty was biting at times but for me that was needed. Whenever I was with Clark I knew that at that moment there was only the two of us even though I knew that I shared him with thousands of people......and so he taught me to be present in the moment.
The picture I posted was sent to me by Gwen and I incorporated the last card he sent me about a year before he passed. Every time we met he would stop me short and say "do you realize how amazing you are" .....what he meant was do you realize how far you've come and how much you have healed since we first met.
And so today as I pass your picture I will say......love you dear man, so glad you're part of our family.
Sharron, Ken, Ann & Scott
What I will remember most about Clark is how he trained me to be a therapist, and specifically a Transactional Analyst: the worldview he held and how it informed his work with people. Most vividly I remember a special moment with him in the condo we were using for group work in St. Petersburgh Beach, New Years in 95. We had just completed a couple of intense hours with sexual abuse survivors, work that the clients used as redecision pivot points. Clark and I were by ourselves, quietly standing on the balcony, reflective, looking over the Gulf. I was moved by what had taken place. I said something like "Their lives will never be the same after this morning." And Clark said "It's spiritual man, it's spiritual."
Clark asked me onetime to draw my personal power diagram. It's a flowchart or an organizational chart of sorts, showing one's power lineage. Mine has changed since then to include other mentors and shamen, but at the time it included my father, several of his friends, therapists like Berne, Jung, and Freud. Clark however was right there at the sharp end beside me, nudging, inviting, sometimes pushing and pulling, always cheering me into my becoming.
Clark and I share a spiritual orientation that rests on the idea of a spiritual life that envelopes our human physical life. You may have heard him say "We are not our body." While I miss him and cry for that empty space in my life, I take some solace in our future reunion, perhaps with a glass of Turkey. In the meantime, Hafiz helps. Clark liked this one:
A Hard Decree
Last night, God posted on the tavern wall
A hard decree for all of love's inmates
Which read:
If your heart cannot find a joyful work
The jaws of this world
Will probably
Grab hold
of your sweet ass.
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It seems strange that my late husband, you, and a dear friend all have the same birthday...will never forget you.
Legacy
one of the measures of a significant legacy is the generation that follows.In Clark's case
he can say that the Son Austin and daughter Nancy are living examples of independent
individuals who have closen to live in a Christ centered lifestyle setting an example for their
children. They are both very caring people who are not self centered but always most
concerned for others. One could not expect much more in ones life. RIP Clark Reed.
Birthday Celebration
A group of former clients met in Guelph yesterday to remember Clark and toast him on his birthday (no martinis, though). Many stories of lives changed, listening to a tape of his "Intentionality" lecture, and remembering Clark's words that we carry in our heads.
An important person in my life for 35 years. Farewell, Beautiful man!