ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Clark Reed 85. He lived his life with intention and authenticity.  We have provided this space to connect with one another and celebrate his life. 

Posted by Jay Moore on April 14, 2020
It's been one year since Clark left us. Among all my memories, I will hold the loving and joyful ones closest today and as long as I live.
Jay Moore, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
Companion since 1976
Posted by Sharron Dean on April 13, 2020
It doesnt take a special day to remember Clark...
He is part of our family. Everyone here loves to hear the stories and to learn his teachings. He is hardwired in my head when I am dealing with difficult situations or find myself making similar mistakes. Clark was steadfast , authentic, and non judgmental. Lessons that I constantly work to absorb as part of me. His honesty was biting at times but for me that was needed. Whenever I was with Clark I knew that at that moment there was only the two of us even though I knew that I shared him with thousands of people......and so he taught me to be present in the moment.
The picture I posted was sent to me by Gwen and I incorporated the last card he sent me about a year before he passed. Every time we met he would stop me short and say "do you realize how amazing you are" .....what he meant was do you realize how far you've come and how much you have healed since we first met.
And so today as I pass your picture I will say......love you dear man, so glad you're part of our family.
Sharron, Ken, Ann & Scott
Posted by Louis Solnicki on May 7, 2019
I was very sorry to hear about Clark's passing. Clark was a Master Therapist. I watched him work in Group with many people over the years and I was always fascinated with the way he had an individual and loving rapport with each person. He had the gift of intuitive insight to know exactly the right moment when to lead the person to their next moment of growth. As a result of their work with Clark, I watched many people change, organize their lives in a new way and create a happy and fulfilling life for themselves. I am very fortunate to be one of these people. The greatest gift that Clark gave me was how to show love for other people -- give them lots and lots of strokes, and, of course, lots of hugs! For this, and much much more, I have much gratitude for Clark. Clark, now your work is done. May you rest in peace in the bosom of the Creator!
Posted by Jim Hoffman on April 30, 2019
A memorial gathering will take place on June 1st, 2:00 to 6:00 p.m. at Neighbourhood Unitarian Universalist Congregation, 79 Hiawatha, Toronto, Ontario. Indications of attendance would be appreciated and can be sent to clarkreedmemorial@gmail.com.
Posted by JOHN WRIGHT on April 13, 2019
I met Clark when I moved to Ft. Lauderdale in 1955. We were in junior high school and Clark became my friend when I really needed one. Over the years distance kept us apart. When I think of Clark I think of someone who was highly motivated to help others. I was saddened to learn of his passing, but I will revisit him in my memories.
Posted by Jay Moore on April 8, 2019
I feel a lot of sorrow about Clark's passing. He was one of the most important people in my life since the seventies. In the last six years before he left Canada and returned to Florida, we had lunch weekly. We shared so much of the details of our lives. I doubt that I will ever have such a relationship again. I will treasure all the good memories. My sincerest sympathies to all his family who will miss him greatly.
Posted by Gregory Boyce on April 8, 2019
After several other therapists, I met Clark in 1984. We "clicked" immediately and for 8 years he skillfully invited me to change my script in profound ways. In 1994 I asked him to take me on as an apprentice psychotherapist. We wrote a contract, and I began my training. Eighteen months later we agreed that process was complete and I opened my practice. Then our relationship began to morph into a friendship. So we went from therapist and reparenting father figure, to mentor, to friend and colleague. We spent many fine weeks at TA conferences in Mexico, Canmore, and Montreal. Clark was quite a social person and delighted in introducing me to the TA 'old-timers'. I will treasure those memories.
What I will remember most about Clark is how he trained me to be a therapist, and specifically a Transactional Analyst: the worldview he held and how it informed his work with people. Most vividly I remember a special moment with him in the condo we were using for group work in St. Petersburgh Beach, New Years in 95. We had just completed a couple of intense hours with sexual abuse survivors, work that the clients used as redecision pivot points. Clark and I were by ourselves, quietly standing on the balcony, reflective, looking over the Gulf. I was moved by what had taken place. I said something like "Their lives will never be the same after this morning." And Clark said "It's spiritual man, it's spiritual."
Clark asked me onetime to draw my personal power diagram. It's a flowchart or an organizational chart of sorts, showing one's power lineage. Mine has changed since then to include other mentors and shamen, but at the time it included my father, several of his friends, therapists like Berne, Jung, and Freud. Clark however was right there at the sharp end beside me, nudging, inviting, sometimes pushing and pulling, always cheering me into my becoming.
Clark and I share a spiritual orientation that rests on the idea of a spiritual life that envelopes our human physical life. You may have heard him say "We are not our body." While I miss him and cry for that empty space in my life, I take some solace in our future reunion, perhaps with a glass of Turkey. In the meantime, Hafiz helps. Clark liked this one:
A Hard Decree
Last night, God posted on the tavern wall
A hard decree for all of love's inmates
Which read:
If your heart cannot find a joyful work
The jaws of this world
Will probably
Grab hold
of your sweet ass.

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Posted by Jay Moore on April 14, 2020
It's been one year since Clark left us. Among all my memories, I will hold the loving and joyful ones closest today and as long as I live.
Jay Moore, Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
Companion since 1976
Posted by Sharron Dean on April 13, 2020
It doesnt take a special day to remember Clark...
He is part of our family. Everyone here loves to hear the stories and to learn his teachings. He is hardwired in my head when I am dealing with difficult situations or find myself making similar mistakes. Clark was steadfast , authentic, and non judgmental. Lessons that I constantly work to absorb as part of me. His honesty was biting at times but for me that was needed. Whenever I was with Clark I knew that at that moment there was only the two of us even though I knew that I shared him with thousands of people......and so he taught me to be present in the moment.
The picture I posted was sent to me by Gwen and I incorporated the last card he sent me about a year before he passed. Every time we met he would stop me short and say "do you realize how amazing you are" .....what he meant was do you realize how far you've come and how much you have healed since we first met.
And so today as I pass your picture I will say......love you dear man, so glad you're part of our family.
Sharron, Ken, Ann & Scott
Posted by Louis Solnicki on May 7, 2019
I was very sorry to hear about Clark's passing. Clark was a Master Therapist. I watched him work in Group with many people over the years and I was always fascinated with the way he had an individual and loving rapport with each person. He had the gift of intuitive insight to know exactly the right moment when to lead the person to their next moment of growth. As a result of their work with Clark, I watched many people change, organize their lives in a new way and create a happy and fulfilling life for themselves. I am very fortunate to be one of these people. The greatest gift that Clark gave me was how to show love for other people -- give them lots and lots of strokes, and, of course, lots of hugs! For this, and much much more, I have much gratitude for Clark. Clark, now your work is done. May you rest in peace in the bosom of the Creator!
his Life

A Daughter's Perspective

I am truly blessed that God chose me to be Dad's daughter. It certainly took me down unconventional paths and challenged me to grow and learn. He taught me about the importance of being authentic. He always wanted me to reach my full potential and nudged me along the way.

He has a an influence over the person I am today. I will do my best to carry on his legacy by living my life intentionally and authentically. He will forever hold the "my dad" spot in my heart.



Recent stories

Legacy

Shared by William Peck on June 1, 2019

one of the measures of a significant legacy is the generation that follows.In Clark's case

he can say that the Son Austin and daughter Nancy are living examples of independent 

individuals who have closen to live in a Christ centered lifestyle setting an example for their 

children. They are both very caring people who are not self centered but always most

concerned for others. One could not expect much more in ones life. RIP Clark Reed.

Birthday Celebration

Shared by Gwenne Becker on April 14, 2019

A group of former clients met in Guelph yesterday to remember Clark and toast him on his birthday (no martinis, though). Many stories of lives changed, listening to a tape of his "Intentionality" lecture, and remembering Clark's words that we carry in our heads.

An important person in my life for 35 years. Farewell, Beautiful man!




Happy Birthday Daddy

Shared by Nancy Peck on April 13, 2019

Ron and I are celebrating your life and Birthday today at one of your favs, Return of the Sailor. We miss you and love you!