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This memorial site has been created in memory of D. Barrett Anding, who was lost to us so suddenly on Monday, October 7, 2013.  We hope to grow the site as a way of remembering Barrett; a loving Father, Husband, Son, Brother and Friend.  We encourage you to post not only a short tribute below, but please take the time to share any stories, photos or videos that you have of Barrett by clicking the "Stories" tab above.  In addition to being a way for us all to remember Barrett, these will be saved for his daughter Jacqueline to reflect on as she gets older.  Cards and letters can be mailed to Jaqueline and Dayna at 4003 1st Street SW, Vero Beach South, FL 32968.

In lieu of flowers, the family has requested that donations be made to the education account that has been set up for Barrett & Dayna's daughter, Jacqueline.  Checks should be made out to "Jacqueline Anding" and can be mailed to Joe or Leslie Anding, 291 Ferry Landing, Sanibel FL 33957.   The memo field on the check should ONLY SAY "Jacqueline" on it.

Additionally, donations can now be made via credit card or PayPal account and processed securely through PayPal (you do not have to have a PayPal account to contribute).  We are trying to resolve a technical issue that is preventing us from adding the the PayPal "Donate Button" to this page.  In the mean time, you can still make credit card and PayPal donations by clicking on the link below.  If you choose to make a contribution via credit card, you will receive an error if that same card is associated with an existing PayPal account.

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We truly appreciate all of the kind Tributes, Stories and Photos that have been added to this site.

PLEASE WATCH THE VIDEO SLIDESHOW OF BARRETT BY CLICKING THE "GALLERY" LINK ABOVE  

October 7, 2023
October 7, 2023
Barrett and I shared barrels of laughs playing football together at St. Joseph’s prep in the mid-1990s. I didn’t know him for very long, but I clearly remember us constantly laughing and smiling at practice together (he was a grade above me). See you on the field, Barrett!
October 7, 2023
October 7, 2023
Barrett, miss the poker nights! Time flies, still sucks. Barrett's Chowder lives on even though the East End Deli is hibernating.
Gretchen from Sundial raises a glass as well.
To your family, I hope time has acted like sandpaper and eased the edges Remembered fondly.
October 4, 2023
October 4, 2023
It is hard to believe that 10 years have lapsed since your life’s journey irrevocably changed ours. You are missed every day, loved every day.
Some day we will all be reunited. Your family has the love and support of so many. Peter and I are glad to have been your friend, and continue to love Leslie, Joe, Devan, Brian, Dayna and Jacqueline. Your daughter is amazing!
June 29, 2023
June 29, 2023
Thinking of the Anding family with love and comfort. XO- Elizabeth
June 28, 2023
June 28, 2023
It’s hard to believe that it’s been 10 years since we all lost Barrett. All of our lives have changed so much during this time. Many of us have moved, and we have tried to keep in touch. Unfortunately, with my family health I have not been in touch with the Anding family for several years. They were allways such an important part of my life, and I miss them very much. I would love to know how they are. Its daughter is doing. I’m sure she’s quite a beautiful young lady now. I live in Chattanooga now and I am under hospice care. I send my best to the entire Anding family, and pray for them over their loss of such an important part of your family. We never get over it, we just hold them in our hearts.
June 22, 2021
June 22, 2021
Always thinking about you! Happy Heavenly Birthday
June 22, 2021
June 22, 2021
Hello Joe & Leslie- Thinking of you two. Always. It was so lovely to see you two again in May. All our love - Elizabeth, Jon & Jax
October 7, 2020
October 7, 2020
Thinking of you !!!!   how proud you would be of your wife and child....!2.....WOW....BLACK BELT.....Beautiful with all the charm and beauty you would expect from her mom....both such wisdom, gentle and caring....
   Another year....you are missed
    .
   
October 7, 2020
October 7, 2020
Barrett another year has passed and we still think about you!  I guess we always will RIP!
June 23, 2020
June 23, 2020
Barrett you will always be forever missed!
October 8, 2019
October 8, 2019
Been thinking about you all day today.  Seems like yesterday when I saw the smile on your face and in your eyes ! RIP dear Barrett!
June 24, 2019
June 24, 2019
Always so sorry for your loss Joe and Leslie. And also so sorry I missed you in Sanibel. Hope to see you next year. All the best.- Elizabeth
June 20, 2019
June 20, 2019
Seems like yesterday we watched you playing baseball as a young boy in Berlin. Meeting your family in Germany was one of the highlites of our next 20+ years. We miss you! Happy Birthday tomorrow Barrett!
June 21, 2017
June 21, 2017
Wishing Barrett a Happy 40th Birthday way up there in heaven. When I think about Barrett I see his smiling face and his beautiful blue eyes and his baseball uniform he wore in Berlin. RIP dear Barrett we miss you!
October 7, 2016
October 7, 2016
Dayna, Jacqueline, Leslie, Joe, and Devon, I hope our warm thoughts for Barrett and your whole family help on this difficult day. Thankful for knowing him and think of him every time I make or serve his "Chowder" at the East End Deli. Miss playing poker with him as well. Take Care.
October 7, 2016
October 7, 2016
Allan and I share your sadness on this day of memory in Barrett's honor.
Elise and Allan Hall
October 7, 2016
October 7, 2016
Dear Joe, Leslie, Devan, Brian and Jacqueline,
   You have all been in my heart and on my mind these last few weeks. I miss you all so much and especially Barrett. He was such a shining star and he is shining much brighter in Heaven.
October 7, 2015
October 7, 2015
Dayna, Jacqueline, Leslie, Joe, and Devon my thoughts and prayers are with you all today. Peter S.
October 7, 2015
October 7, 2015
Like most days I remember Barrett today. Today I remember him for giving the best bear hugs, or as we called them, Barrett hugs. So, a great big Barrett hug today for everyone as we remember one of the best. Always in our hearts. Love u B
October 7, 2015
October 7, 2015
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of the Andings on this sad anniversary date.
June 21, 2015
June 21, 2015
Thinking about Barrett today on his birthday!!!!!!!!!!! June 21,2015
October 7, 2014
October 7, 2014
I didn't know until this summer that Barrett had a favorite flower! It is the sunflower and I think that is fitting since the first time Brrett came to visit our family state side was when we lived in Kansas and the Kansas State Flower is the Sunflower. It reminds me of his smile always sunny and bright. I don't know what we would have done without the Anding family when we moved to Berlin Germany! That is where we all met and became immediate friends. Barrett and sister Devan where a breathe of fresh air not to mention Leslie and Joe! We will miss him forever!
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
I know today is a tough one for you all! It is Barretts birthday and we all miss him! Happy Birthday to Barrett!
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
Thinking of you today on your birthday Barrett! I'll never forget it, the summer solstice. Miss and love you!
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
I will always remember Barrett"s infectious smile and the way he always made me feel that I was an important part of his life. He had the ability to make everyone that he knew feel special.
April 30, 2014
April 30, 2014
Dear Joe and Leslie, 

Joe, I am an old friend of yours -- Carole Walters - and I came across Leslie's FACEBOOK quite by accident and learned that you lost your beloved son Barrett last year. I just want to say how very sorry I am. We lost our beloved son Keith over 25 years ago when he was 21 years old, so I KNOW the grief and suffering you are going through. I can only tell you that as the years go by the suffering does get less; and most importantly, you will see the Lord use the loss of your son in many different ways in your lives -- I know that sounds impossible at this point of your loss, but it is true. The most important thing of all is to KNOW that Barrett is with the Lord and you WILL see him again.
I also lost my husband Johnny last year after a long illness. His passing was a blessing as he had suffered for many years. I'm so happy that he's now with the Lord and no longer in pain.  Maybe one day we can get together as I live in Ormond Beach -- just south of Port Orange where your daughter lives, if my information is correct.

God bless you both,

Carole Edwards
March 27, 2014
March 27, 2014
Just signed up to run my first marathon through your back yard in Bucks County this November. I am dedicating my run to you, Devan and your parents!
October 23, 2013
October 23, 2013
I am so sad to hear the news of Barrett's passing. I have so many fond memories of him in my class at Sol Feinstone. He had an infectious smile and made me smile so much with his wonderful sense of humor! I am sure he is smiling down on all of us now. Love, Darlyne
October 21, 2013
October 21, 2013
I'm so sorry to hear the shocking news of Barrett's passing. I knew Barrett from summers spent on Fire Island. My deepest condolences to his Family.
October 17, 2013
October 17, 2013
Your sad story begins with Barretts' passing in the prime of his life.
Leaving a wonderful small family, mom, dad and a sister. Why? We earthlings don't have the answer.Out thoughts are with you, much love Margaretha Wexler, NJ WWI Chapter
October 16, 2013
October 16, 2013
My deepest condolences to Leslie, Joe, Dynea, & Jacqueline on such
a devestating loss. May You go forth with strength and determination
and many happy memories.
October 15, 2013
October 15, 2013
I saw the notice of Barrett's passing on the Prep website. My son graduated in '97. Leslie, I remember your passion for Second Hand Joe's and the story you told of Barrett starting out in a size 14 Boy's jacket as a freshman and ending up as a senior in a 2XX.
There are no words to express my sorrow for you and your family...my deepest condolences. God Bless you all.
October 14, 2013
October 14, 2013
Dear Leslie and Joe, our deepest sympathies to you and your family.We are thinking of you all.Pete and Anne Lyon
October 14, 2013
October 14, 2013
Joe & Leslie - so very sorry to hear about your loss. We can only imagine how difficult this is. We are thinking of you.
Rich and Ann
October 13, 2013
October 13, 2013
The pictures of your family show the deep love you have for each other. Our prayers are for you and Dayna and Jacqueline. We pray that you can feel all the prayers and thoughts coming to you from so many people.
October 12, 2013
October 12, 2013
I'm deeply sorry and saddened by the loss of your dear son. Another bright star illuminates the heavenly universe and shines down on those he loved so dearly. Treasure the good times and memories, and know he will live on through the little daughter he loved so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
October 12, 2013
October 12, 2013
We are grieved to hear of your loss and extend to you our most sincere sympathy on Barrett’s death. This is--and will be--so hard. We hope all the years of love and memories will be a comfort to you. “Memory is the only the only friend of grief”--Rumer Godden. 
Sanibel Shellcrafter Friends
October 12, 2013
October 12, 2013
What a beautiful tribute to Barrett this morning at the Mass at St. Isabel's. Such an outpouring of love by so many shows how much Barrett meant to so many. May that memory be a comfort to you in days to come. God bless you all.
October 12, 2013
October 12, 2013
"With every friend I love who has been taken into the brown bosom of the earth, a part of me is buried there; but their contribution to my being of happiness, strength and understanding remains to sustain me in an altered world." 
~ Helen Keller
October 11, 2013
October 11, 2013
Barrett... what a good friend! Always looking out for those he cared about, full of spunk, a hot head at times, but only because he was so passionate! Some of my memories.. Not letting me drink cherry bombs any more, because he knew how toxic they were, always asking me how my life was going, introducing me to Dayna and Jacqueline. A genuine person with a big heart. RIP my friend.
October 11, 2013
October 11, 2013
Barrett, ich werde Dich aufrichtig vermissen! Deine Gradlinigkeit, Aufrichtigkeit und Deinen Humor werde ich für ewig in meinem Herzen tragen - "Alles klar, keiner weiß bescheid"

Dein Freund Philipp.
October 11, 2013
October 11, 2013
I am so deeply saddened by Barrett’s passing. We loved and cared for him so much. His joy, his radiant energy, his bear hugs... 
My heart breaks for you all, and the pain you are enduring. It is incomprehensible to me. I will pray for peace and comfort for your family and all who loved Barrett. He will forever be in my thoughts and heart.
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October 7, 2023
October 7, 2023
Barrett and I shared barrels of laughs playing football together at St. Joseph’s prep in the mid-1990s. I didn’t know him for very long, but I clearly remember us constantly laughing and smiling at practice together (he was a grade above me). See you on the field, Barrett!
October 7, 2023
October 7, 2023
Barrett, miss the poker nights! Time flies, still sucks. Barrett's Chowder lives on even though the East End Deli is hibernating.
Gretchen from Sundial raises a glass as well.
To your family, I hope time has acted like sandpaper and eased the edges Remembered fondly.
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October 12, 2013

I started working for Dayna and Barrett about 8 months ago as Jacqueline's nanny. When I met Dayna for coffee in February for my interview, I had no idea I was meeting a family that would change my life forever. Over the course of my time with them, I have seen first hand just how incredible these people are. I couldn't believe how cool they were; they just seemed to figure out the flow, the flow of being parents, but still being totally awesome. 

Barrett, of course, was a huge reason for that. Right off the bat, he was one of the nicest people I had ever met. He told me, "just be yourself, and you will be Jacqueline's best friend in no time", and he was right. The more time I spent the Jacqueline, the more I began to realize that she is, hands down, the coolest kid I've ever met. The more time I spent with Dayna and Barrett, the more I realized exactly why Jacqueline is that way.

Some of my favorite memories of Barrett were spent late at night. Barrett would come home from work, exhausted from working a 12 hour day, but so happy to be home. He would offer me a Heineken, and then we would talk. One of my favorite talks with Barrett took place outside on the front porch at the table. Dayna was working late that night and Jacqueline was fast asleep. 

Barrett started to tell me about Dayna, and how they met. He said, "I remember when I first met her, I saw her and she was SMOKIN HOT.. of course, she's beautiful now, but back then.. Dayna was smokin". He went on to tell me that Dayna was kind of dating one of his friends, but that wasn't going to work for him. He said he remembered having talks with her about what she did for a living - and she told him, this is what I do, the restautant biz. Barrett was blown away becuase he felt the same way about his work. It was not a seasonal job, or an in between thing, but what he did - what they did. They shared this passion. He said he knew he had to have her. 

He went on to tell me, "right before I found out Dayna was pregnant, I had saved up almost $30,000. It was the most money I had ever saved, I was going to buy a boat. Instead, I got Jacqeuline". He said, "who needs a boat when you have her?". He told me he asked Dayna to marry him at least 5 times before she finally agreed. I never asked Dayna if this was true, but it makes me laugh to think of him asking her time and time over to be his wife, she's a smart one :) 

Barrett loved to tell me stories about life, he was so genuinely interested in me and where my life was going - and he used his experience to help me figure out my own path. As a 24 year old girl, I am often confused about where life is going to take me, but I remember what Barrett said to me: "Don't worry Carly, your 20's are awesome, but your 30's are so much better". I know he felt this way because of his family - because of Dayna and Jacqueline, and because of the infitite love they had, and will continue to share.

I know now that fate brought me to the Anding's, and that I was destined to know Dayna, Barrett, and Jacqueline. I feel so lucky to have been such an integral part of their family, and to see first hand just how wonderful they are. No little girl is as lucky as you, Jacqueline, because you're half Barrett, and half Dayna. You really hit the jackpot! (and so did I, meeting all of you). I love you, Barrett. Your energy and spirit are eternal, and we will all carry you with us forever. Thank you for welcoming me to your family, I plan on hanging out with them indefinitely.

PS - The last time I saw you, you were blasting Snoop Dogg from a speaker when you came into the house - for some reason, this makes me think you're kickin it with Bob Marley... I have a feeling you are. 

Batting Practice

October 11, 2013

Barrett was always a character.  Truly an unforgettable guy with a free spirit.  I have nothing but fond memories of him.  Funny how you remember very specific things about people when they leave us. 

During batting practice in the multi-purpose room at the Prep one spring, Barrett bunted a ball directly off of his nose.  I'll never forget the expression on his face after he did that.  He shrugged it off as if he did it all the time and kept on hitting.  I think that is what I'll remember best about him.. he just kept moving forward.

My heart aches for his family but I am sure Barrett is going to be just fine...

October 11, 2013

I met Barrett in the summer of ’03 at Oak Beach.  It was my first introduction to my now my in-laws (Mandelman’s), and to the rich history of Oak Beach.  I was nervous.  The two people who made me feel immediately welcome and included were Barrett and Walt.  I feel like they took me under their wing so to speak;)  I realized then, and ever since, that Barrett was an incredibly compassionate and sincere person.  He loved a good talk.  He was so open minded and loving to everyone around him.  He shared, listened, and asked meaningful questions about life, our children, and the struggles we all face.  Even if Barrett only had 5 minutes before he needed to catch the ferry back over to Fire Island, he always made the time for a quick hug and kiss to our entire family scattered around the beach house.  We would swap a quick milestone about each of our little girls who are the same age.  I was in awe of the father that Barrett had become.  He adored his Jacqueline. And was so proud of her.  I am grateful that she will carry on his spirit, and that of Barrett’s beloved grandmother, Jacqui.

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