July 26, 2021
July 26, 2021
Robert Guido remarks at memorial mass for Aunt Emma
Our Lady of Fatima Church, Manorhaven, NY July 24, 2021
Good morning everyone. Thank you for being here to honor and celebrate the life of our beloved Aunt Emma. Sincere thanks also to Monsignor Clerkin for extending me the privilege of offering these brief remarks. My intention is to build upon the remarks I previously made about Aunt Emma at her gravesite at the time of her burial last year. Those remarks were essentially a reflection on how Aunt Emma lived her life in a manner that was devoted to keeping God’s two greatest commandments. The first, that you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength. And the second, that you shall love your neighbor as yourself. As to Aunt’s love of God, I recounted the evidence reflecting her unshakeable devotion to her Catholic faith that was ingrained in her by her mother, our beloved Grandma Guido. As to love of neighbor, my remarks recounted how her life, both personally and professionally, was one spent almost entirely in the love and service of others. In short, she was simply a totally selfless person, committed to serving the needs of others, generous to all: family, friends and strangers alike. I suspect there is not a person among us here today who did not experience or witness the measure of Aunt Emma’s help or generosity. Anyone interested in reading my complete remarks made at the burial , as well as more extensive accounts of Aunt Emma’s life and other tributes, may find them by accessing our memorial website at forevermissed.com.
With those previous remarks in mind, it occurred to me that there is another one of God’s commandments that relates to Aunt Emma which seems appropriate to reflect on this morning, especially because it is the subject of the Gospel reading that Monsignor will present to us shortly. The reading is from the Gospel of John in a section that is referred to in scripture as the “Last Supper Discourses” in which Jesus, during the night before his Crucifixion, offered his final teachings and commandments to his Apostles. John tells us that just before the end of the of the Last Supper, Jesus gave the Apostles this final commandment: “Love one another as I love you.” The reason those words struck a chord within me when planning this mass is because I believe that if Aunt Emma could speak with us today and offer her own last piece of advice to all of us, and especially her family, she might have said essentially say the same thing, “Love one another as I have loved you.” Why? Because nothing was more important to Aunt Emma than her family and their happiness, which is why she spent her entire life showering us with unconditional love, striving always to improve our lives, and to and strengthen and permeate the bonds of love between all of us. There can be no doubt that she would want us to preserve and enhance those bonds and impart those same values to our children and to our children’s children and beyond. And this message about family love seems to me to be an especially important reminder for all of us during these crazy times. We all know that every family has issues and suffers through disagreements, resentments, and petty jealousies that can arise from time to time. So did the Apostles! They, like each one of us, were possessed of their own individual faults and challenges as finite human beings. But in today’s polarized climate and culture the differences between us seem to be intensified, especially given our ability to widely and easily share our every thought and opinion through social media and the like, and this makes families even more susceptible to internal division and dissension. I believe Aunt Emma would want us to rise above that. Yes we can have differences of opinion, different beliefs, and advocate for different paths and outcomes. But I think her hope and her message to us today, in the light of today’s Gospel, would be that when we do engage in these exchanges that we temper them in way that always bears in mind that in the end we are family raised in love for each other, and despite our differences and the crazy world around us, we have to find a way to persevere as a family, and always, always stick together.
In closing, I can’t help observing that it is now almost 25 years since I last stood at this very pulpit and had the privilege of offering the eulogy at the funeral mass for Grandma Guido who had died at the age of 95. During the course of that eulogy I made the following promise to Aunt Emma on behalf of the family: that while it was unlikely we could ever do for Aunt Emma what she did for us in terms of matching her financial generosity, we promised to do for her what she did for Grandma Guido in terms of looking after her, and being there to love and support her in whatever ways we could as time went on, and that she would never be alone. I think each of us in our own way has been faithful to that promise. Perhaps today we can collectively make a new pledge, for the sake of Aunt Emma and preserving her legacy, that we will never forget her and always strive to love one another as she loved us. Thank you for everything Aunt, rest in peace. We love you always.
Our Lady of Fatima Church, Manorhaven, NY July 24, 2021
Good morning everyone. Thank you for being here to honor and celebrate the life of our beloved Aunt Emma. Sincere thanks also to Monsignor Clerkin for extending me the privilege of offering these brief remarks. My intention is to build upon the remarks I previously made about Aunt Emma at her gravesite at the time of her burial last year. Those remarks were essentially a reflection on how Aunt Emma lived her life in a manner that was devoted to keeping God’s two greatest commandments. The first, that you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength. And the second, that you shall love your neighbor as yourself. As to Aunt’s love of God, I recounted the evidence reflecting her unshakeable devotion to her Catholic faith that was ingrained in her by her mother, our beloved Grandma Guido. As to love of neighbor, my remarks recounted how her life, both personally and professionally, was one spent almost entirely in the love and service of others. In short, she was simply a totally selfless person, committed to serving the needs of others, generous to all: family, friends and strangers alike. I suspect there is not a person among us here today who did not experience or witness the measure of Aunt Emma’s help or generosity. Anyone interested in reading my complete remarks made at the burial , as well as more extensive accounts of Aunt Emma’s life and other tributes, may find them by accessing our memorial website at forevermissed.com.
With those previous remarks in mind, it occurred to me that there is another one of God’s commandments that relates to Aunt Emma which seems appropriate to reflect on this morning, especially because it is the subject of the Gospel reading that Monsignor will present to us shortly. The reading is from the Gospel of John in a section that is referred to in scripture as the “Last Supper Discourses” in which Jesus, during the night before his Crucifixion, offered his final teachings and commandments to his Apostles. John tells us that just before the end of the of the Last Supper, Jesus gave the Apostles this final commandment: “Love one another as I love you.” The reason those words struck a chord within me when planning this mass is because I believe that if Aunt Emma could speak with us today and offer her own last piece of advice to all of us, and especially her family, she might have said essentially say the same thing, “Love one another as I have loved you.” Why? Because nothing was more important to Aunt Emma than her family and their happiness, which is why she spent her entire life showering us with unconditional love, striving always to improve our lives, and to and strengthen and permeate the bonds of love between all of us. There can be no doubt that she would want us to preserve and enhance those bonds and impart those same values to our children and to our children’s children and beyond. And this message about family love seems to me to be an especially important reminder for all of us during these crazy times. We all know that every family has issues and suffers through disagreements, resentments, and petty jealousies that can arise from time to time. So did the Apostles! They, like each one of us, were possessed of their own individual faults and challenges as finite human beings. But in today’s polarized climate and culture the differences between us seem to be intensified, especially given our ability to widely and easily share our every thought and opinion through social media and the like, and this makes families even more susceptible to internal division and dissension. I believe Aunt Emma would want us to rise above that. Yes we can have differences of opinion, different beliefs, and advocate for different paths and outcomes. But I think her hope and her message to us today, in the light of today’s Gospel, would be that when we do engage in these exchanges that we temper them in way that always bears in mind that in the end we are family raised in love for each other, and despite our differences and the crazy world around us, we have to find a way to persevere as a family, and always, always stick together.
In closing, I can’t help observing that it is now almost 25 years since I last stood at this very pulpit and had the privilege of offering the eulogy at the funeral mass for Grandma Guido who had died at the age of 95. During the course of that eulogy I made the following promise to Aunt Emma on behalf of the family: that while it was unlikely we could ever do for Aunt Emma what she did for us in terms of matching her financial generosity, we promised to do for her what she did for Grandma Guido in terms of looking after her, and being there to love and support her in whatever ways we could as time went on, and that she would never be alone. I think each of us in our own way has been faithful to that promise. Perhaps today we can collectively make a new pledge, for the sake of Aunt Emma and preserving her legacy, that we will never forget her and always strive to love one another as she loved us. Thank you for everything Aunt, rest in peace. We love you always.