Danny, it's been 6 years and 1 week since hospice called me and your grandma to tell us you had taken your last breath. I went to grandma as soon as she told me she couldn't wake you. Well, first I told her to call 911 and made flight arrangements. I got there the next morning. You had not regained consciousness. After 4 days, the doctors suggested I sign papers removing life-support. I asked them to wake you so that I could see if you 'were still in there somewhere'. You opened your eyes and growled inhumanly, screaming in pain. There was no glimmer of recognition - only terror and rage. They assured me that you could not regain cognition. I called your dad and we agreed that I should sign the papers. I signed myself to years of guilt and unquenchable grief.
I couldn't face creating a memorial service for you then, honey; I couldn't face your transition from this life so abruptly, so unfairly... And now I need to memorialize your precious life. I want everyone to know what a smart, funny, talented, loving man you were. And what a zany ride through life you took!
I believe you can see this website; after all, you were such a techie addict, always on the computer! :- ) I want you to see your beautiful daughter and son, how they've grown up, how much they miss you.
Your children were the proudest achievements of your life. I want them to know how much you missed them, how much you loved them. They'll never understand why you stayed out of their lives, and why I honored that. I don't either. It was a huge mistake, wasn't it? I have to hope it served a higher purpose... At least that we can open our hearts to each other now.
When you heard that Bryan died, you lost a chunk of your spirit. You knew he could make a good life for himself in spite of his birth defect. He was so smart, so eager. Now I know how hard it was for you to lose your eldest child... I hope you and Bryan are together somewhere now. God help my faith...
I put Stairway to Heaven on this story because you used to play it for me on your guitar. Usually you played heavy metal, but you knew it was hard for me to understand, and you said, "Here's a song you'll like mom." I sure did! Of course, I don't understand it either, but I googled it, and no one else does either. :-) I made up my own meaning...
I miss you, Danny. Please forgive me. For all of it. Thank you. I love you sweetheart. mom