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12/05/2019 - The First Year Update

December 5, 2019
It’s been so hard to lose my soul-mate ... the person who was by my side to help me through all my other battles with grief over the years. But you left me in a good place ... surrounded by a great support group of family and friends both near and far to help me through my most painful loss of all - YOU.
I just keep putting one foot in front of the other with good days and bad days — just keep moving forward trying to stay positive. It has truly tested my faith believing that you are in a better place where we will all be together once again. I must confess that often I sense your spirit and guidance — particularly while I worked on completing some of the projects we had to put ‘on hold’. These tasks were my greatest therapy of all! 
Yes, I finally finished building the porch. I used your tools,  materials, and techniques you taught me as your self-proclaimed title of ‘Wood Butcher’ — and I believe I lived up to it too! Often I had to pull from the Dan Gooding playbook of shortcuts and fix-it’s ... and for whatever I didn’t remember I consulted with YouTube! But for that awkward area that you tried to resolve — I got your message from beyond (because I know in my soul that this idea did not originate with me). I built a sliding gate! I think you would be happy with the tesults.. and the dogs are loving the enclosed section.
The next project was to set-up a backup generator. Turns out that we’ve been experiencing a lot of scheduled power outages here in California due to the high winds (fire prevention). So I remember what you taught me about the generators (setup and maintenance) and was able to position one of them in a good spot and get it working to help me through. In case you didn’t hear me every time I fired it up ... THANK YOU DAN!!!
Other than dozens of misc small projects and maintenance around the property the final big project we had put on holdwas ...
Organizing the two cargo trailers. This took a bigger effort than anticipated mainly because of the weather factors of high winds, cold weather and recently... snow. In order to do this job right I had to completely empty both units and then reload in an organized fashion. I reorganized one of them as a workshop and dedicated the other to storage. I just completed all this the day before the snow arrived and now I am recuperating!
And even better news ... I was able to locate many possible sources of old photos and videos. As I get time over the winter months I can begin sorting through these and add more posts to your site — because I have so many recollections of pics that I am hoping to find.
Finally ... creating, maintaining and visiting this site has also been my therapy. It seems that most of your family and friends preferred to contact me directly either by phone, text, or email - and continue to check in with me from time to time. I thank them as well as those who have contributed directly here on your memorial ... you all have helped me through this tough time. 

Dan —

Thank you for giving me such a wonderful life to remember!

Thank you for giving me the knowledge to be self-sufficient!

Thank you for giving me Anchor & Bernie who give me great companionship and comfort every day!

You are always with me.

Love, Nancy

Ride Along with Dan ...

January 5, 2019

The Sprinkler Project

January 5, 2019
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When we retired from the road Dan volunteered his labor to repair and redesign his friend's sprinkler system.

This project turned out to be very challenging— to fix an already existing installation that was no longer operational. But Dan was persistent and methodically located all the buried piping and sprinkler heads — replacing what was practical and adding new where needed. 

He even designed and welded the tool he is holding in the video to make it easier for his friend to make adjustments— and then sent him short videos for instruction. This is a sample.

Our Wedding story

December 16, 2018

It was December 1978. Dan and I had been engaged for several months and living in a nice apartment just a few blocks from his parents house. We got news that his Mom’s health had taken a turn for the worse and Dan knew we had to act quickly if she was going to witness us getting married.

We looked ahead at the calendar and he said “pick a date”. I remember analyzing that since the 23rd was my birthday - and of course Christmas the 25th - that getting married on Christmas Eve the 24th would make a nice three day event to celebrate for future years to come. He sure would not have an excuse to forget (and he never did).

We next determined that because his Mom was somewhat bedridden that the venue would need to be in his parents home - which in turn meant a small number of attendees. I asked my sister Audrey to be my maid of honor and Dan asked his friend Carl to be his best man. We then invited immediate local family and friends.

His Mom ordered and contributed the wedding cake - I’ve saved the topper to this day. She also gave us a bottle of champagne with the caveat that we must open it on our 25th anniversary and say a toast to her (we did).

I then handled the paperwork for the license and Dan set out to schedule a preacher. Then just a few days before the wedding we were told that the preacher became ill and could not conduct the service after all. Dan scurried and was able to get the town mayor instead.

Then the day before the service we started to prepare some meals for our guests. Understand that on such short notice we decided to pass on the traditional bachelor and bachelorette parties — and instead conducted our own joint celebration with a bottle of Jack and some Galliano liqueur  he kept on tap — and let’s just say we started the festivities early.

By nightfall when it was time to start cooking we realized that neither of us had remembered to defrost the turkey. It was much too big for the microwave so Dan quickly put it in the roasting pan and placed it in our tub under running hot water. I prepared the stuffing and Dan volunteered to do the lasagne - after all it was his specialty.

Finally when all was complete we headed for bed - or so we thought! That is when all our festivities caught up with Dan and he began to get sick — spending the rest of the night in the bathroom. Poor Dan. At one point I went back to the kitchen - probably to get something more soothing for him to drink. I spotted a full pot of pasta sauce on the stove. Hmmm? I became suspicious and double-checked the lasagne - sure enough - he had forgotten to add any layers of sauce. I quickly made the fix and all was well.

The next day was rough on Dan — not only suffering a wicked hangover but also so hoarse from all the heaving that he could only speak in a raspy voice. He barely made it through the vows  - but he did - the trooper he was. 

Best of all I can still picture his Mom standing at the edge of the doorway watching. She had dressed up in a pretty pink outfit and was leaning against the wall -  just quietly smiling. Mission accomplished. 

She would pass away less than 3 months later. 


High School Year Book photo

December 16, 2018

For those of us who knew him best we can all agree that he lived the lifestyle he wanted --- to eat, drink, and be with a girl!

As for owning G.M. -- I think he did even better with J.D.M. -- J. Daniel Marine. 

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