Softly the leaves of memory fall ...
Gently we gather and treasure them all.
  • 51 years old
  • Born on November 2, 1958 in Springfield, Vermont, United States.
  • Passed away on September 20, 2010 in Claremont, New Hampshire, United States.

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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life of our beloved, Dar.

Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.

We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor,
the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation,
her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life,
then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

 Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery,
read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted so far.

This is a "work in progress" so please visit again soon.
(You can even subscribe to receive email notifications when the site has been updated) 

Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.

You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.

Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on June 11, 2019
Hey girl, oh man, not sure what's goin on with me but WOW what an emotional day!!! I miss you so much!!! My life is crazy, I feel crazy!!! I can't wait for our next get together at your house, I'm hoping that will help me feel connected again!! I feel so disconnected from everything and everybody and I don't know how to fix it because I know it's me. So, keep lookin out for me okay???? You are still remembered and missed each and every day!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH XOXO Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on April 12, 2019
I "talk with you" every day, but I'm hoping to "connect with you" tonight. Fingers crossed. You have a way of letting me know you're around with little signs here and there, but the fiasco with my Dar Ring was epic! I had only lost it for a few hours but was totally heartbroken. So glad to have you back! XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on February 21, 2019
Hey there!!! Sometimes I feel like I'm CRAZY!!! I will be happy and then BAM I'll hear a song .... sometimes it will remind me of you and I'll be even happier and sometimes... Oh, it makes me miss you so bad I can barely breathe!! You know the saying that says.. It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? Yeah, I know it's true but sometimes when the sadness of missing you is so intense... I question that! I don't know what the problem is today, but I'm close to tears all day thinking of you. I hope I'm not in this frame of mind on Saturday!!! So, you hanging with Uncle George? :) I just needed to come say "Hi" and listen to your music for a bit. The kiddos will be here soon. Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 24, 2019
Listening to Paul Simon on Vermont PBS and it just overwhelms me with memories of you...of us...of days gone by...and oh, so many good times. Miss you "Al" XOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 24, 2019
Ahhhh, your music REALLY hit the spot this morning!!! THANKS BARB!!! :) :)
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 24, 2019
Hey girl, I MISS YOU!!!!! Not much time to "chat" the kids will be showing up SOON but I wanted to say Hi and GOD I MISS YOU!!!!! Uh oh here comes the first kid. Gotta go... Luv & Miss Ya MUCH!!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 19, 2019
Hey girl, I know it's been a long time since I've "chatted" with you here but we "talk" every day in my heart. I couldn't write anything down because I really was afraid I couldn't write anything that would be okay to be on here. As you know I've had a rough time this past year and I know other people read this so I didn't want anyone to know how truly bad I was feeling. But I think I may be okay. I know I'll still have bad/sad days but I feel like I just might make it! Kim is starting to have some get togethers and I was kind of nervous about going back to your house and being around everyone but I think it might really be good for me to be with them. Anyway, I just wanted to come by and say hi and that I LUV & MISS YOU MUCH!! you are NEVER forgotten xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 2, 2018
So, you and Blanche will be together once again. She passed away Saturday you know. I have no doubt that you will run towards her with open arms. She has wondered where you've been ~ she missed you. You two have some catching up to do!
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 22, 2018
I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty excited to be going to your house for Thanksgiving this year... I hope you like your new background music. I miss you so much it hurts sometimes...hence, this song seemed to hit home when I first heard it. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 2, 2018
Happy birthday mom! I love you and miss you daily xoxo
Posted by Vanda Bubear on November 2, 2018
Hello Darlene. I'm sending all our love to you and your family from Wales, UK. I hope you have a wonderful birthday over on that side of life. Give my children a hug if you run into them xxx we think of you and your little 'gang' all the time - our beloved children, sisters and brothers in Spirit. Leave us lots of signs xxx
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2018
Happy BIrthday, Dar! Today you'd be 60. To celebrate, me and Nanni are going to a comedy show tonight at REMIX...of course, it will be nothing like your 40-something in Boston, now, THAT was EPIC! No purple hooter shooters and certainly no sailors! (haha) still, it will be a good time. So, Cheers!
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on October 23, 2018
Hey girl, BLAH!! Winter is on it's way!! You KNOW how I feel about that!! I am already dreading, stressing and freaking out about it!! I don't really know how to organize my thoughts and feelings right now so I really don't know what to say but I wanted to come "visit" and hang with you for a bit. Just needed some "DAR" time :) Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Kristel Davis on September 20, 2018
Dearest Dar, you will always be in my thoughts ❤❤❤ Kris
Posted by Kimmy Deline on September 20, 2018
I miss you mom... I love you and think about you daily. I recently had a friend died tragically and unexpectedly. I wanted to tell you about it, about her. She has a daughter who just started high school. She’ll never have her at her wedding or when she has her babies and my friend will never be there for it either. I’m so grateful that you got to experience all those things with me. Please give “my Jenny” Reed a hug and kiss for me - she’s great, have fun with her, she’s one of the good ones. I love you mom and miss you!
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2018
Hey girl, Well, of course you know what's going on with my life!!! All I can say is that Chuck is lucky you are not still here cuz I KNOW you would have a few choice words for him!! HA HA. Anyway, I survived and am on my way to my next and new chapter. I miss you more than I know how to put into words! I know I don't "visit" here as much as I should or even want to but you are NEVER forgotten and you are remembered each and every day!! Send a butterfly to us this weekend!! Luv & miss ya MUCH xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 20, 2018
Dearest Dar, in a few minutes it will have been 8 years since we said Good-bye. A lot has happened - hopefully, you've been able to view it all from wherever one hangs out between here and Heaven. The Six in the City: 10K Memorial Walk is this Saturday. I doubt we'll have as many turn out this year. Everyone seems to be doing Run/Walk events. I miss you more than words can say. Not a day has gone by that I don't think of you. Hailey and Tyler "know" you and ask about you. It is because of you that I have been able to answer their questions about death, dying, and Heaven. Who better? I Love you and, if you're ever in the neighborhood, you are welcome to visit me in my dreams. xoxo "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on June 11, 2018
Hey, Dar. So, we're gearing up for this year's Memorial Walk. Changing things up a bit and using REMIX as our home base. How cool is that! Hailey and Tyler talk about you a lot as they are being exposed more and more to death and dying. You are the reason they are comfortable talking about it, asking questions, and trying to understand...who better? I miss you always and haven't for one day forgotten you. I wear my necklace and "Dar ring" every day. The kids say "Hi Dar" when they notice and both of them are competing for who gets them when I die (lol). Butterflies are EVERYWHERE this year...and, again, the kids know that it's your way of participating in our lives. Sorry I haven't shared picks as they've grown - but they grow so fast! Have you seen Nat and Curt? WOW! Adults now! But, of course, I'm sure you've been watching. Well, I need to get back to work, but I needed a few minutes with you. XOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on June 5, 2018
Hey girl, PLEASE give my neighbor and friend Teresa a BIG hug for me!! Sometimes I feel like the whole world is going crazy. Every time I turn around either someone is doing something REALLY stupid and cruel or someone else is being diagnosed with some type of cancer. :( On a brighter note.... Natalie is graduating next week!! I'm SURE you're watching from your beautiful spot up there! And..... drum roll please... I am going to my 40th high school reunion!! I am so excited!! Gotta tell you, this get together came at the perfect time, I really need to connect with some of my old friends for a bit. Anyways, I just wanted to stop in and say hi and "chat" for a bit but kids are showing up so I'll say bye for now and I'll talk to you soon. Luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanci
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on April 3, 2018
Hey there!! Yup, I'm still hanging in there!! I just wanted to pop in and say "Hi" before the kiddos get here. Altho I "talk" to you every day, I wanted to "hang out" with you here for a minute. My life is CRAZY right now, as I'm sure you know, so keep looking out for me, K? I luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on March 24, 2018
Hey, Dar. Boy, am I glad to be able to "chat" with you tonight. I'm sure you've been watching me deal with internet struggles trying to access the Reg's website. I was thinking that maybe my computer was headed for big trouble, but since I'm able to visit with you, I'm thinking that it's the Reg's website afterall. Sure hope they fix it "toot sweet"...I got work to do! I Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY xoxoxo "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on March 8, 2018
Hey girl, I know it has been quite a while since I've written to you and I'm sorry about that but as we both know I "talk" to you every day, so it's all good!!! :) I don't even know what to write I just wanted to be here with you. So, I'm gonna sit here and browse and listen to your music for a bit. Sure do miss hanging out with you "for real" and in person. Thanks for letting me hang out with you! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 27, 2017
Merry Christmas, Dar. How the holidays have changed since you left. We tried getting together the way we used to, but it was hard on everyone...the heartache, scheduling get togethers with in-laws and extended families... One thing that has never changed is how much I love and miss you and wish you were still here. I watched Long Island Medium the other night and the gal said that the spirits of our loved ones never really leave...I truly believe that. Maybe it IS true that we don't immediately go to Heaven. It certainly warms my heart to know that you and Dad are able to watch our lives continue...see the kids grow up...share the good times as well as comfort us in our sorrow. Would love another visit when you get around to it (*wink*wink*) Love You Always, "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on December 25, 2017
Merry Christmas Dar! I have so much to say but can't find the words. You know my heart and how much I miss you so I'll leave it at that for now. Love and hugs to you on this Christmas morning. Xoxo nanc
Posted by Richard Snell on November 2, 2017
Hi Dar. Uncle Dick will always miss and love you.
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2017
Missing you today as I do every day... When I discovered that little note from you in my keepsakes, it brought a flood of questions: when was this written? did I respond? how did I respond? BUT, it also brought me an answer: I finally know EXACTLY what tattoo tribute I want. Regardless of my failures and shortcomings, I keep reminding myself that you DO know that I have always loved you with all my heart. Happy BIrthday, Dar, "Love You Always" "B
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 2, 2017
Happy birthday to you... Happy birthday to you... Happy birthday dearest mommy... Happy birthday to you... Love and miss you every day ❤️Dolly
Posted by Kristel Davis on November 2, 2017
Happy Birthday Dar!! We love and miss you so much! ❤ Kris, Hailey and Tyler
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2017
Hi Dar, I talked to the kids here at Kids With Spirit about you and what today is and all about the walk. It still amazes me how sensitive some kids can be. They truly were empathetic and caring yet excited for me and the walk. I miss you more than I could EVER express so I just believe that just like God can hear and understand unspoken prayers, you can understand the depth and intensity of my missing you. You are NOT forgotten and NEVER will be!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xo Nanc
Posted by Kimmy Deline on September 20, 2017
7 years, mom. I think about you every day and miss you every day. I love you❤️
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 20, 2017
Dearest Dar, 7 long years and not one day has gone by that I didn't think of you. There's a saying that the hardest part of losing someone is not saying good-bye, but learning to live without them...always trying to fill the emptiness that's left inside our hearts after they have gone. Well, now, THAT pretty much sums it up. I try and I try...but nothing and no one will ever fill that emptiness. I know you're in a Good Place and that brings me comfort. Sharing who you are and what you mean to me with Hailey Darlene and Tyler warms my heart...they feel like they know you. And, of course, I never tire of reminiscing about the times we had when you were here with anyone who will indulge me. I Loved You Then and I Love You Still ~ Always Have and Always Will. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 15, 2017
Hey Dar. I made Grapenut pudding the other night...ate a big bowl and thought of you the while. We're gearing up for this year's Walk. It doesn't look like we have as many participants, but we do have some new faces...sharing the love and support. Still trying to put together my pre-walk talk...anything in particular you'd like me to say? Send me a sign... Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. xoxoxoxo "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on August 2, 2017
Happy Sister's Day, Dar! You've always been my BFF. I miss you so. I love that Hailey Darlene and Tyler ask about you and want to know about you ~ it gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling ~ they know you hold a special place in my heart....and you always will.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on July 28, 2017
Hey girl, Missing you like crazy!! I plan on going to REMIX next Friday for a comedy show and of course that just made me remember the show we went to and the AMAZING memories that brought back! What can I say except I miss you terribly but you know that you will NEVER be forgotten!! You are so special to so many people and I hope you know that! You are missed by MANY!!! We love you LOTS!!! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on May 26, 2017
While it may seem a while since I've left you a note, you KNOW I think about you every single day. Yesterday I had to go to Cheshire probate to check on a file. Not having a plan for dinner, I decided to stop by Panera and get a bowl of broccoli/cheddar soup and an asiago cheese bagel. Thought of you with every bite. (No, I didn't get it in the bread bowl...I poured it over a bowl of fresh-cooked broccoli instead). Nanni and I will be visiting the cemetery this weekend to honor Dad and spruce the space up a bit.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on April 4, 2017
Hey girl, Ahhh what can I say?? besides I miss you. There are so many times that something will happen and I just think, Oh Dar would know how to deal with that "toot sweet" or I will just imagine your sassy remark that you'd give in a certain situation and I just smile. I know some people don't believe that you go to Heaven right off, and that's okay but I truly believe that that's what happens and that you are there, happy, pain free and loving every minute of it. I know you're lookin out for me but I sure would love a visit too :) Just know even tho I don't get here as often as I'd like, you are NEVER forgotten... EVER!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Alicia Gordon on March 9, 2017
Hey Dar, I'm really having a hard time today missing my Sister. I know that you and Gram and Gramp are there to watch out for her. You were always the mother hen. As the years go on you forget things. And as I was getting on here to write you, I realized I am older than you were when you left us. And that makes me very sad to realize how young you really were. And scares me how fast our lives can change. Or fast time goes by. Because it doesn't seem like it has been that long ago since you left us. I love you Dar. Give Gram, Gramp, and Jennifer a hug and kiss for me. And keep one for yourself.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 27, 2017
Hey girl, Let me just start out by saying I MISS YOU!! I don't know what is going on, it seems like every time I turn around more people have passed. They all seem to be about our age, it's crazy to me!! Anyway, I keep trudging on day after day but I can feel I've lost my spark. I can't figure out how to get it back. I KNOW you'd want me to, I just can't seem to find it! I miss my silly carefree self that I use to be! I won't give up tho, I WILL keep trying to find it because I DO know you'd want that!! Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 1, 2017
Happy New Year, Dar.
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 25, 2016
Merry Christmas, Dar. Missing you today and every are never forgotten. I hope you Heavenly Christmas is beautiful in every way. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 23, 2016
Dar, I'm sure you've been watching and I feel you smiling. Your Foundation was able to show some compassion this week to two families who are lovingly caring for a family member in their final journey. I tried to follow your lead...discreet, no fanfare...and offering to help in any way we can to relieve some of the strain on their resources. One request I couldn't fulfill: the wife asked if I could find a gift card for some sleep...
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 23, 2016
Dar, two ladies I know have just passed recently. Joi Woodman was a classmate and a tireless go-getter...a lot like you. Deb Clark was one of my tax collector friends. Outspoken yet loving...she fought cancer for many years. Please give them a warm greeting up there. And, as always, I still miss you each and every day. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on December 21, 2016
Hey girl, I know it has been a while since I've been here to talk to you but me being me, I wanted to find just the "right" thing to put on here so I kept looking and waiting. Of course I "talk" to you in my head and thoughts EVERY day but I wanted something SOOO special to put on here for you but I still haven't found that one thing that POPS out at me!! :( Anyway, I think about you ALWAYS and like I've said before, sometimes the memories make me smile and laugh and sometimes they make me so sad because I miss you so very much!!! Who knew things would be so unbelievable different without you here!! I mean seriously EVERYTHING has changed! Anyway, I haven't given up looking for that something special for you but I just couldn't wait any longer to come here and listen to your tunes and say HI. Just know that you are not forgotten and never will be!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! XOXO Nanc :)
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 18, 2016
Hi mom...I may not post here very often but, I post thoughts, memories, and what's happening to my internal "momory" page in my head and heart daily, sometimes multiple times. Today, I had to post here because our lil Natalie Peanut got her drivers license today. All I wanted to do was to tell you. Of course, I text dad the good news, along with B and Kristel, but I wanted YOU to know most. I love you mom and miss you to where I can't even put it into words cuz I get a lump in my throat and can't speak. I love you mom Love, your dolly
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 9, 2016
Hey girl, are things CRAZY down here or what??? I just don't understand why people have to be so mean and rude and insulting! We teach our kids good sportsmanship (or at least I hope people do). and then they don't show any respect or ANY smidgeon of good sportsmanship or kindness! I had a good talk with the kiddos today about how to handle yourself (win or lose) and that team work, working together and being kind is so important. I just wished the adults would realize the kids are watching and listening to the way they are acting and speaking! Ok, end rant! Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv and miss ya MUCH! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2016
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dar. Still miss you each and every day. It's nice that both Hailey and Tyler "know" you. Hailey has a lot of questions about Heaven, God, Jesus, death... it isn't scary to her because when I answer her questions, you are a big part of explaining it to her.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 2, 2016
Happy Birthday!! The kids here at Kids With Spirit asked about you today and I told them it was your birthday so they all said... "Happy Birthday!" I am not sure why they asked about you TODAY, but I've learned to just go with the flow of these mysterious happenings. Makes me think we are more connected still than I even realized. :) I didn't know the youth pastor from Claremont but LOTS of people did and loved him, sometimes I wonder how it all happens .... do you ALL know when someone new arrives? or just the people you know? Or once someone arrives you all instinctively know one another. I guess it doesn't really matter, right? WOW, I miss talking to you! and seeing you! and hearing your voice and sass! I MISS YOU!! Anyway, Happy Heavenly Birthday, sending big hugs to you!! Luv ya! Nanc
Posted by Pauline Barton on November 2, 2016
I've thought of you many, many times. When your mom is visiting us we reminisce about you a LOT! My prayer is that Freeman and I will join countless others in reuniting with you when our LORD returns.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2016
Hey girl, I know it's been a while since I've "chatted" with you here but we both know I "chat" with you each and every day in my car. I still miss you and ALWAYS will but I'm happy to say that I can think of you and smile more often now instead of crying. There will always be a missing piece in my heart and in our family where you belong and sometimes it is obvious but other times it is SO heart-wrenching because I can just hear a "comeback" that you would have said and it's just not said. Oh yea!! I miss your sass and attitude so much, no one has the same "tude" as you, fer sure!! :) The Walk was great again this year and we even made it into the paper!! I hope you can see us as we do the walk and know that this all started because of YOU!! We miss you and love you more than words can say!! And even if I don't make it here as often as I'd like, just know; you are NEVER far from my thoughts and you will NEVER be forgotten!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2016
Oh yea, forgot to say we went to the cemetery after church and Mom got to see your spot and what we've done lately. We're gonna get over and "winterize" you and Dad soon. :) xoxo Nanc

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