Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette
  • 51 years old
  • Date of birth: Nov 2, 1958
  • Place of birth:
    Springfield, Vermont, United States
  • Date of passing: Sep 20, 2010
  • Place of passing:
    Claremont, New Hampshire, United States
Softly the leaves of memory fall ... Gently we gather and treasure them all.

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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life of our beloved, Dar.

Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.

We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor,
the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation,
her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life,
then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

 Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery,
read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted so far.

This is a "work in progress" so please come back for a visit soon.

(You can even subscribe to receive email notifications when the site has been updated) 

Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.

You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 20th September 2017

"Dearest Dar, 7 long years and not one day has gone by that I didn't think of you. There's a saying that the hardest part of losing someone is not saying good-bye, but learning to live without them...always trying to fill the emptiness that's left inside our hearts after they have gone. Well, now, THAT pretty much sums it up. I try and I try...but nothing and no one will ever fill that emptiness. I know you're in a Good Place and that brings me comfort. Sharing who you are and what you mean to me with Hailey Darlene and Tyler warms my heart...they feel like they know you. And, of course, I never tire of reminiscing about the times we had when you were here with anyone who will indulge me.  I Loved You Then and I Love You Still ~ Always Have and Always Will.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Kimmy Deline on 20th September 2017

"7 years, mom. I think about you every day and miss you every day. I love you❤️"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th September 2017

"Hi Dar,  I talked to the kids here at Kids With Spirit about you and what today is and all about the walk.  It still amazes me how sensitive some kids can be.  They truly were empathetic and caring yet excited for me and the walk.  I miss you more than I could EVER express so I just believe that just like God can hear and understand unspoken prayers, you can understand the depth and intensity of my missing you.  You are NOT forgotten and NEVER will be!!  Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 15th September 2017

"Hey Dar. I made Grapenut pudding the other night...ate a big bowl and thought of you the while.  We're gearing up for this year's Walk.  It doesn't look like we have as many participants, but we do have some new faces...sharing the love and support.  Still trying to put together my pre-walk talk...anything in particular you'd like me to say? Send me a sign... Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. xoxoxoxo "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 2nd August 2017

"Happy Sister's Day, Dar! You've always been my BFF. I miss you so.
I love that Hailey Darlene and Tyler ask about you and want to know about you ~ it gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling ~ they know you hold a special place in my heart....and you always will."

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 28th July 2017

"Hey girl,  Missing you like crazy!!  I plan on going to REMIX next Friday for a comedy show and of course that just made me remember the show we went to and the AMAZING memories that brought back!  What can I say except I miss you terribly but you know that you will NEVER be forgotten!!  You are so special to so many people and I hope you know that!  You are missed by MANY!!!  We love you LOTS!!! Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 26th May 2017

"While it may seem a while since I've left you a note, you KNOW I think about you every single day. Yesterday I had to go to Cheshire probate to check on a file. Not having a plan for dinner, I decided to stop by Panera and get a bowl of broccoli/cheddar soup and an asiago cheese bagel.  Thought of you with every bite.  (No, I didn't get it in the bread bowl...I poured it over a bowl of fresh-cooked broccoli instead).  Nanni and I will be visiting the cemetery this weekend to honor Dad and spruce the space up a bit."

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 4th April 2017

"Hey girl, Ahhh what can I say??  besides I miss you.  There are so many times that something will happen and I just think, Oh Dar would know how to deal with that "toot sweet" or I will just imagine your sassy remark that you'd give in a certain situation and I just smile.  I know some people don't believe that you go to Heaven right off, and that's okay but I truly believe that that's what happens and that you are there, happy, pain free and loving every minute of it.  I know you're lookin out for me but I sure would love a visit too :)  Just know even tho I don't get here as often as I'd like, you are NEVER forgotten... EVER!!!  Luv & miss ya MUCH!!!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Alicia Gordon on 9th March 2017

"Hey Dar,
I'm really having a hard time today missing my Sister.  I know that you and Gram and Gramp are there to watch out for her.  You were always the mother hen.  As the years go on you forget things.  And as I was getting on here to write you, I realized I am older than you were when you left us.  And that makes me very sad to realize how young you really were.  And scares me how fast our lives can change.  Or fast time goes by.  Because it doesn't seem like it has been that long ago since you left us.  I love you Dar.  Give Gram, Gramp, and Jennifer a hug and kiss for me.  And keep one for yourself."

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 27th January 2017

"Hey girl,  Let me just start out by saying I MISS YOU!!  I don't know what is going on, it seems like every time I turn around more people have passed.  They all seem to be about our age, it's crazy to me!!  Anyway, I keep trudging on day after day but I can feel I've lost my spark.  I can't figure out how to get it back. I KNOW you'd want me to, I just can't seem to find it!  I miss my silly carefree self that I use to be!  I won't give up tho, I WILL keep trying to find it because I DO know you'd want that!!  Keep lookin out for me, K?  Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 1st January 2017

"Happy New Year, Dar."

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 25th December 2016

"Merry Christmas, Dar. Missing you today and every day...you are never forgotten. I hope you Heavenly Christmas is beautiful in every way. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 23rd December 2016

"Dar, two ladies I know have just passed recently. Joi Woodman was a classmate and a tireless go-getter...a lot like you.  Deb Clark was one of my tax collector friends. Outspoken yet loving...she fought cancer for many years.  Please give them a warm greeting up there. And, as always, I still miss you each and every day. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 23rd December 2016

"Dar, I'm sure you've been watching and I feel you smiling. Your Foundation was able to show some compassion this week to two families who are lovingly caring for a family member in their final journey. I tried to follow your lead...discreet, no fanfare...and offering to help in any way we can to relieve some of the strain on their resources. One request I couldn't fulfill: the wife asked if I could find a gift card for some sleep..."

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 21st December 2016

"Hey girl, I know it has been a while since I've been here to talk to you but me being me, I wanted to find just the "right" thing to put on here so I kept looking and waiting.  Of course I "talk" to you in my head and thoughts EVERY day but I wanted something SOOO special to put on here for you but I still haven't found that one thing that POPS out at me!!   :(    Anyway, I think about you ALWAYS and like I've said before, sometimes the memories make me smile and laugh and sometimes they make me so sad because I miss you so very much!!!   Who knew things would be so unbelievable different without you here!!  I mean seriously EVERYTHING has changed!   Anyway, I haven't given up looking for that something special for you but I just couldn't wait any longer to come here and listen to your tunes and say HI.  Just know that you are not forgotten and never will be!!   Luv & miss ya MUCH!! XOXO  Nanc  :)"

This tribute was added by Kimmy Deline on 18th November 2016

"Hi mom...I may not post here very often but, I post thoughts, memories, and what's happening to my internal "momory" page in my head and heart daily, sometimes multiple times. Today, I had to post here because our lil Natalie Peanut got her drivers license today. All I wanted to do was to tell you. Of course, I text dad the good news, along with B and Kristel, but I wanted YOU to know most. I love you mom and miss you to where I can't even put it into words cuz I get a lump in my throat and can't speak. I love you mom
Love, your dolly"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 9th November 2016

"Hey girl,  are things CRAZY down here or what???  I just don't understand why people have to be so mean and rude and insulting!   We teach our kids good sportsmanship (or at least I hope people do). and then they don't show any respect or ANY smidgeon of good sportsmanship or kindness!  I had a good talk with the kiddos today about how to handle yourself (win or lose) and that team work, working together and being kind is so important.  I just wished the adults would  realize the kids are watching and listening to the way they are acting and speaking!  Ok, end rant! Keep lookin out for me, K?  Luv and miss ya MUCH!  Nanc"

This tribute was added by Pauline Barton on 2nd November 2016

"I've thought of you many, many times.  When your mom is visiting us we reminisce about you a LOT!  My prayer is that Freeman and I will join countless others in reuniting with you when our LORD returns."

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 2nd November 2016

"Happy Birthday!!  The kids here at Kids With Spirit asked about you today and I told them it was your birthday so they all said... "Happy Birthday!"  I am not sure why they asked about you TODAY, but I've learned to just go with the flow of these mysterious happenings.  Makes me think we are more connected still than I even realized. :)       I didn't know the youth pastor from Claremont but LOTS of people did and loved him, sometimes I wonder how it all happens .... do you ALL know when someone new arrives? or just the people you know? Or once someone arrives you all instinctively know one another.  I guess it doesn't really matter, right? WOW, I miss talking to you! and seeing you! and hearing your voice and sass! I MISS YOU!!  Anyway, Happy Heavenly Birthday, sending big hugs to you!! Luv ya! Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 2nd November 2016

"Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dar. Still miss you each and every day.  It's nice that both Hailey and Tyler "know" you.  Hailey has a lot of questions about Heaven, God, Jesus, death... it isn't scary to her because when I answer her questions, you are a big part of explaining it to her."

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 20th September 2016

"YESSSSS! Ta-Da! I did it! I finally was able to upload Bruce singing to your Gallery of videos.  Enjoy!  I just LOVE it and I know you will too! XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th September 2016

"Oh yea, forgot to say we went to the cemetery after church and Mom got to see your spot and what we've done lately.  We're gonna get over and "winterize" you and Dad soon. :) xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th September 2016

"Hey girl, I know it's been a while since I've "chatted" with you here but we both know I "chat" with you each and every day in my car.  I still miss you and ALWAYS will but I'm happy to say that I can think of you and smile more often now instead of crying.  There will always be a missing piece in my heart and in our family where you belong and sometimes it is obvious but other times it is SO heart-wrenching because I can just hear a "comeback" that you would have said and it's just not said. Oh yea!! I miss your sass and attitude so much, no one has the same "tude" as you, fer sure!! :)  The Walk was great again this year and we even made it into the paper!!  I hope you can see us as we do the walk and know that this all started because of YOU!!  We miss you and love you more than words can say!! And even if I don't make it here as often as I'd like, just know; you are NEVER far from my thoughts and you will NEVER be forgotten!! xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by lauri bessey on 20th September 2016

"Hello Darlene, Just thought  I would stop by and leave you a note.  Your sisters did another fantastic job with your memorial walk this year.  I can tell they miss you so much.  It was a perfect day for the walk and so many people came out.  I still think of you everyday too, the glass heart paperweight you gave me one Christmas still sits on my desk.  It's so hard to believe it's been 6 years.    xo"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 19th September 2016

"Well Dar, we had the Walk Saturday. We had a really good turn-out...a lot of new folks this year...Chaunee's sisters, daughters and grandsons and a few other families who had recently lost someone. Me and Nanni went to church in Springfield Sunday and got to hear Bruce sing. Oh, just you wait! One way or another, I'm gonna upload that solo for ya. Well, tomorrow will be six years since you went away. I can't say it gets easier, because I still miss you and think of you every single day. But, I am proud to say that Hailey Darlene and Tyler James know who you are and how special you are to me...and they think you're pretty darn special themselves. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 21st August 2016

"Hey, Dar. I know it's been awhile since I've been on here, but don't think that for one minute you've been forgotten. Oh, contrare! In fact, we've been working on your Memorial Walk. It gets bigger every year and even though I got off to a late start this year, we may still have the biggest turnout yet. I sure hope so. You are always on my mind and not forgotten for a minute. I miss you so. XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 11th July 2016

"Dar, I stumbled upon this instrumental the other day and just fell in love...I couldn't wait to share it with you.  I hope you like it.  Still missing you each and every day... XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 10th July 2016

"Hey Girl,  I miss you!  I can't believe how VERY much I still miss you!  There are certain times that I feel your absence so very deeply and intensley that it breaks my heart all over again!  I would love to hear your voice and see your beautiful face again, so here is an official invitation to my dreams! Xoxo nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 28th May 2016

"Hey, Dar. Sorry I didn't get to check out the crocuses and other flowers Nanni and I planted last year...we got busy fixing the tarp on Pauline and Freeman's camper and forgot... Today was WAY too hot to go over, but I'll be there tomorrow. I got you a new decoration - it's beautiful! By the way, now I TOTALLY get why you had so many reading glasses stashed everywhere... I really miss hanging out with you. You are certainly welcome to visit me in my dreams, though. XOXOXO "B""

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 10th May 2016

"Hey girl,  So, I haven't sat and "talked" to you here lately but you know I am ALWAYS thinking of you and we "talk" in the car ALOT, so it's all good, right???!!!  Sometimes I think it's our "conversations" that keep me going when I'm driving late at night.  :)  I keep looking for a really special poem or picture or something to put on here for you but something always happens... the internet goes wacky, the kiddos show up, someone comes into the office, etc.. and so it hasn't happened yet.  I know you don't care but I just wanted to share something with you for Mothers Day, anyway... I WAS thinking of you and missing you (as always).  Now I'm trying to wrap my head around our end of the year program for KWS.  So, Happy be-lated Mothers Day!!! I luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 6th April 2016

"Hey girl, I've been looking for something "special" to put on your page and I haven't found "it" yet but I decided I'd still "talk" to you even tho I don't have my special poem yet. Been busy with lots of different stuff lately and haven't spent a lot of time here but I am ALWAYS thinking of you. I miss you like crazy!   Pretty soon I'm gonna go pretty up yours and Dads spot ; if it ever gets nice out again!  Anyway ..... Just want you to know you are not forgotten and I love you!  Xoxo nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 12th March 2016

"Dar, "It is Well With My Soul" is my new favorite "oldie done new"... I just HAD to share it with you!  Enjoy!  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 7th March 2016

"Good Mornin'!  Well, it's that time of year again...tax lien season.  Nanni has taken over your duties as the official "label sticker oner-er" and she's an outstanding proofreader, too!  We're thinking of changing things up a bit for your memorial walk this year.  Today is Abhijeet's 24th birthday...give him a hug, okay?  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 17th February 2016

"Hi,  I am soooo sad right now and since I know you know how I feel.....
I am just gonna sit here with you and cry!   Well, now I look like hell!  
Gotta pull myself together now, Thanks for lettin me hang with you, and I'll be back to chat soon!!   I miss you!!   You are NEVER forgotten!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 26th January 2016

"Hey Dar, today I was able to deliver the very first act of kindness as part of your foundation's "Good Deeds Project". We funded a couple gas cards to help a patient in palliative care get to and from their chemo treatments up at DHMC. Your old friends from hospice are gonna help us reach out with more Good Deeds. I love that they all remember you and want to help us carry out this mission in your honor. So exciting! We're doing our best to keep your memory alive because we love you and we miss you. You were the one and only Dar and your life mattered to us SO MUCH....it STILL does! XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 19th January 2016

"Hey girl,  I keep waiting to write until I have something funny, happy or profound and that's so NOT happening.... so here I am just saying  "HI!" and I miss you!!  Seems like a lot of people are leaving us and joining you lately.  "B" and I did some talking this weekend about your foundation and I think I need to get more involved with it so I feel like I have a purpose again.  :)   Well, I gotta jet, I just wanted to pop in and say "hey" and I luv & miss ya MUCH!! talk again soon   xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 14th January 2016

"Well, Dar, this morning Dorine Cobb let go of her suffering and pain.  Please welcome her with open arms.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 13th January 2016

"Well Dar, one of our friends has come to join you. Chaunee decided to let go yesterday. Like you, she fought the good fight - long and hard. Like you, she was feisty and determined to make the best of her last few months on earth. I'm sure you two have a lot of catching up to do. Show her the ropes...help her get used to her wings... XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 1st January 2016

"Happy  New Year! !  I  miss you more than I thought was even possible!  Just know that you will NEVER be forgotten!!  I luv ya MUCH!!! Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 25th December 2015

"Hey girl,  Merry Christmas!!!   Everything is so different now and I know it's natural and it's okay but sometimes it makes your absence so much more heartbreaking.  (as if that's possible)  Anyway....  I just wanted to say Merry Christmas.... I love you .... and I miss you!!  xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 25th December 2015

"Merry Christmas, Dar!  We didn't gather at your house last night...first time in 35 years, or so... but that's okay. New traditions are coming along, but you'll never be forgotten. Thanks for being a part of my dream last night...must have been my Christmas present. So cool to see the same ol' Dar.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 20th December 2015

"Merry Christmas, Dar.  I uploaded a clip from our 2007 Christmas video for Mom.  It's in the Video Gallery.  I couldn't wait until Christmas to share it with you, though.  I know you're gonna love it.  XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 17th December 2015

"Oh Dar, the time's - they are a changing...makes me miss you more and more...  
One thing that will never change is how much I miss you and how relieved I am that God took you peacefully...   XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 16th December 2015

"Christmas is coming...although it doesn't look or feel like it... I was gonna wait until next week to change your background music, but I thought you (and Nanni) would like this surprise. Besides, I have a surprise for you (and Nanni) for Christmas, so I thought the timing was right. It won't be long before some of our earthly friends are going to join you...Chaunee Baker, Dorine Cobb, Debbie Corcoran... but I know you'll head the welcoming committee and greet them with open arms. I miss you so much ~ you have no idea. Glad you're at peace. Always remembering you ~ Always missing you ~ Never forgettiing you... XOXO XO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 15th December 2015

"Hey girl,  Well, Christmas is just around the corner and it sure doesn't feel like it or look it!  There's no snow and there's no YOU!!  There are so many people that I wish I could just scoop up and make everything all better for them. I hate to see people sad and upset. It makes me feel so sad to see it!!  I miss talking to you and hearing your voice and your "tude".  :)   I wish I could give you a great big hug right now!!  but since I can't, I would really love a visit!!  Please keep lookin out for me and remember..... you are NEVER forgotten!!!   Luv & miss ya MUCH!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Barbara Paronto on 27th November 2015

"Dar, thought I'd change up your background music to my absolute favorite...Yanni's "In the Morning Light"...I pirated it from one of your CD's. I played it all the way to and from your house when I used to go hang with you that last summer. I've got a surprise for you for Christmas...I'm so excited I can hardly stand it. Still thinking of you always...You are welcome to pay me a visit in my dreams...(just sayin') XOXOXO "B"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 26th November 2015

"Hey there!!  Happy Thanksgiving!!!   I thought of you today but of course I do every day but today as I was basting the turkey I could just picture you peeling the crunchy skin off and eating it!  Made me stop and smile as I pictured it. :)
Just wanted to pop in and say Hi and let you know I'm thinking of you!  
Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 20th November 2015

"Hey girl,  Missing you like CRAZY!!!  No eloquent words ...... just ....
  I MISS YOU!!!  You are NEVER forgotten    EVER!!!  xoxoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Nanci Neilsen-Young on 13th November 2015

"Hey Dar,  Blah, just blah!  That's how I feel lately!  This is gonna be a looooong winter if I don't find some enthusiasm!  I can't seem to muster up any excitement.  Keep lookin out for me, K?  Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! Xoxo Nanc"

This tribute was added by Kristel Davis on 2nd November 2015

"Happy Birthday Dar, you are always in my thoughts and heart ♡"

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