Softly the leaves of memory fall ...
Gently we gather and treasure them all.
  • 51 years old
  • Born on November 2, 1958 in Springfield, Vermont, United States.
  • Passed away on September 20, 2010 in Claremont, New Hampshire, United States.
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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life of our beloved, Dar.

Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.

We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor, the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation, her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery, read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted.

This is always a "work in progress" so please visit again soon.
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Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.

You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.

Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 8, 2019
Hey Dar, B here...REALLY missing you more tonight than usual, which is strange because I miss you every single day. I guess it's because tonight has a more melancholy vibe. I love when someone comments on my "Dar" necklace or my "Dar" ring and I tell them about you... or when I'm doing something for the "Good Deeds Project" and get to tell people about the Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette Memorial Foundation. I tried to upload a video to share with you, but I'm going to have to pirate it onto my phone and go that route so, stay tuned...  XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 7, 2019
Good morning!! Just wanted to hang with you and listen to some tunes with you this morning. I absolutely LOVE that I can do this!!! I think of you ALL the time but somehow when I'm on here listening to the music, scrolling through the pictures and poems, stories, etc... makes me feel so close to you in a special way, I gotta remember to thank Barb for setting this up, it's been a mental life saver for me!!! Of course I have different Dar tunes I listen to in my car, so yeah... you get the picture... I'm always thinking of you!!! And you thought you might be forgotten!!! You couldn't have been more wrong!!! You are remembered and missed by ALL of us!!!! Uh oh... kids are arriving... gotta go... Luv & miss ya MUCH!!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 4, 2019
Hey girl..... I'm back!!! :)  Oh wow, life just seems so different now. I don't know if it's because you're not here or if it's just that the world is crazy and I'm noticing it more. Probably a bit of both!! We all miss you so much!! You were/ are so much to so many and we feel your absence in our lives. Kimmy was right.... you were the glue... Elmer!! :) That's so funny to me!! But true. Barb is awesome, she is there for everyone that needs help. I wish I could help more and I think I need to be more verbal about wanting to be helpful but I'm just so far away and I'm trying to keep Mom happy, comfortable and peaceful until her time comes. We miss you so much!!! Barb and I celebrated your birthday together and it was good, I enjoy hanging with Barb. I wish we all had hung out together more... Well I guess we'll have to do that in Heaven!!!! I went to church in Wilton and lit a candle for you and Dad and John. It was a nice service. My first kid just arrived... gotta go.... Luv & miss ya MUCH!!!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2019
Hey, Birthday Girl! So, our options are to Light a Candle, Lay a Flower, or Leave a Note...hmmm, and I wanted to give you birthday balloons! Ah, well, you know what's in my heart, and that's what counts. Visions of German Chocolate Cake danced in my head off and on all day in celebration of your birthday. On another note, I'm glad you "visited" Nanni the other night...she REALLY needed it! But I am saddened by all the turmoil, sadness, and other things going on. I pray that cool heads and kind hearts time. In the meantime, feel free to sprinkle a little love over us all. Loving you Always and Missing you Forever... Mu-ah! "B
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 2, 2019
Happy birthday mom! I miss you today and everyday. My heart hopes you’re watching what’s happening down here and that YOU ARE PISSED! With your righteous anger and need to set things right, I hope you will send us ALL some winds of change (not literal wind tho cuz who actually likes wind ) that blow in some much needed happiness and relief.
I love you always and think of you daily, especially lately cuz I think about what you’d be saying and doing to change this epic “shit show”
Love you always,
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 2, 2019
Hey girl,  Happy Birthday!!!!  I will write more later, right now I'm off to celebrate your birthday!!! I'll be back......
Luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!
Xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on October 18, 2019
Hey there, yup me again. Just wanted to "stop by" and hang with you and listen to some tunes with you again. WOW, sometimes, HELL, all the time actually.... I wonder how things would be different if you were still here. So many things would not be the same. You know how we're all struggling, PLEASE keep looking out for us, we need it!!! I miss you and think of you each and every day!!! That will NEVER change!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Kimmy Deline on September 20, 2019
Life without you has shifted massively. I know if you were still here it would be different - good, bad, or indifferent. Our family is unrecognizable from what you would remember and it’s truly sad. Regardless of how loud, boisterous, and overbearing you could be at times, you still were the glue that held us all together; maybe I’ll just refer to you as Elmer from now on. I miss you and love you, especially during all the hard times. Love, dolly
Posted by ENU SINGH on September 20, 2019
I know how loved you must be feeling what with all the love being poured by all your loved ones . I too wish you all the love that this cosmos can contain and some more .
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2019
Hey girl, what can I say??? Life is not the same without you! If only you knew how very much you are loved and missed!!! (well hopefully you do,)  I think of you EVERY day but today is the day that I have a hard time remembering the good times, I just remember this is the day you left and I didn't get to be with you!!!! I would LOVE a visit!!!! I need to see you again!!!
Just know you are loved and missed each and every day!!!! Xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 19, 2019
Hey girl, I've tried to write and add a tribute twice and you keep messing with me!!! Not sure why but.... Gotta love your sass!!! You know I'm thinking of you and you know why! Keep lookin out for me!! Luv & miss ya MUCH. XOXO Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 4, 2019
Hey Dar, B here. I promised you that I would look after your family as best I could. I'm trying. While we are seeing some dark times right now, this morning I saw a flicker of light. With God's grace and a lot of hard work, I KNOW that this will all be behind us one day and life will be better. In the meantime, I will continue to keep my promise. I love you with all my heart...always have...always will. Love, "B
Posted by Kimmy Deline on September 4, 2019
Mom, I know if you were still here that life would be different, for everyone! Sometimes I feel like everything bad that’s happened to each of us since you left us wouldn’t be happening if you were still here. PLEASE, for the love of ALL of us, send us some light and take away all this dark.
Miss you so much right Dolly
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 4, 2019
Hey girl, God I miss you!!!!! I need you so bad right now!!! What I wouldn't give to be able to talk to you again and hang with you!!!! Please, keep looking out for me!!!
I luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!! XOXO Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on August 13, 2019
Hey girl, I miss you!!! There is so much I wish I could still be sharing with you and all the crazy times we had together that I wish we could still be having!! I just keep reminding myself that you can see me and see what's going on in my life and that you are smiling at me with that sassy smirking smile! We are getting ready for this year's walk and for some reason I feel like it is going to be extremely special this year. I have met some people and spent time with new people recently that I think you would love and of course they would love you!!!!!  I really wish they could have known you, trying to describe you to them... Well, it just doesn't cut it!!! Anyway, I just wanted to say hi and I love you and I miss you so much!!! Even though I don't get here as often as I want.... You are still remembered each and every day!! I luv & miss ya MUCH!!!
xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on June 11, 2019
Hey girl, oh man, not sure what's goin on with me but WOW what an emotional day!!! I miss you so much!!! My life is crazy, I feel crazy!!! I can't wait for our next get together at your house, I'm hoping that will help me feel connected again!!  I feel so disconnected from everything and everybody and I don't know how to fix it because I know it's me. So, keep lookin out for me okay???? You are still remembered and missed each and every day!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH XOXO Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on April 12, 2019
I "talk with you" every day, but I'm hoping to "connect with you" tonight. Fingers crossed. You have a way of letting me know you're around with little signs here and there, but the fiasco with my Dar Ring was epic! I had only lost it for a few hours but was totally heartbroken. So glad to have you back! XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on February 21, 2019
Hey there!!! Sometimes I feel like I'm CRAZY!!! I will be happy and then BAM I'll hear a song .... sometimes it will remind me of you and I'll be even happier and sometimes... Oh, it makes me miss you so bad I can barely breathe!! You know the saying that says.. It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? Yeah, I know it's true but sometimes when the sadness of missing you is so intense... I question that! I don't know what the problem is today, but I'm close to tears all day thinking of you. I hope I'm not in this frame of mind on Saturday!!! So, you hanging with Uncle George? :)  I just needed to come say "Hi" and listen to your music for a bit. The kiddos will be here soon. Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 24, 2019
Listening to Paul Simon on Vermont PBS and it just overwhelms me with memories of you...of us...of days gone by...and oh, so many good times. Miss you "Al"  XOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 24, 2019
your music REALLY hit the spot this morning!!! 
THANKS BARB!!!  :) :)
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 24, 2019
Hey girl, I MISS YOU!!!!! Not much time to "chat" the kids will be showing up SOON but I wanted to say Hi and GOD I MISS YOU!!!!! Uh oh here comes the first kid. Gotta go... Luv & Miss Ya MUCH!!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 19, 2019
Hey girl, I know it's been a long time since I've "chatted" with you here but we "talk" every day in my heart. I couldn't write anything down because I really was afraid I couldn't write anything that would be okay to be on here. As you know I've had a rough time this past year and I know other people read this so I didn't want anyone to know how truly bad I was feeling. But I think I may be okay. I know I'll still have bad/sad days but I feel like I just might make it!  Kim is starting to have some get togethers and I was kind of nervous about going back to your house and being around everyone but I think it might really be good for me to be with them. Anyway, I just wanted to come by and say hi and that I LUV & MISS YOU MUCH!! you are NEVER forgotten xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 2, 2018
So, you and Blanche will be together once again. She passed away Saturday you know. I have no doubt that you will run towards her with open arms. She has wondered where you've been ~ she missed you. You two have some catching up to do!
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 22, 2018
I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty excited to be going to your house for Thanksgiving this year... I hope you like your new background music. I miss you so much it hurts sometimes...hence, this song seemed to hit home when I first heard it. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 2, 2018
Happy birthday mom! I love you and miss you daily xoxo
Posted by Vanda Bubear on November 2, 2018
Hello Darlene. I'm sending all our love to you and your family from Wales, UK. I hope you have a wonderful birthday over on that side of life. Give my children a hug if you run into them xxx we think of you and your little 'gang' all the time - our beloved children, sisters and brothers in Spirit. Leave us lots of signs xxx
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2018
Happy BIrthday, Dar! Today you'd be 60. To celebrate, me and Nanni are going to a comedy show tonight at REMIX...of course, it will be nothing like your 40-something in Boston, now, THAT was EPIC! No purple hooter shooters and certainly no sailors! (haha) still, it will be a good time. So, Cheers!
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on October 23, 2018
Hey girl, BLAH!! Winter is on it's way!! You KNOW how I feel about that!! I am already dreading, stressing and freaking out about it!! I don't really know how to organize my thoughts and feelings right now so I really don't know what to say but I wanted to come "visit" and hang with you for a bit. Just needed some "DAR" time :) Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Kristel Davis on September 20, 2018
Dearest Dar, you will always be in my thoughts ❤❤❤ Kris
Posted by Kimmy Deline on September 20, 2018
I miss you mom... I love you and think about you daily. I recently had a friend died tragically and unexpectedly. I wanted to tell you about it, about her. She has a daughter who just started high school. She’ll never have her at her wedding or when she has her babies and my friend will never be there for it either. I’m so grateful that you got to experience all those things with me. Please give “my Jenny” Reed a hug and kiss for me - she’s great, have fun with her, she’s one of the good ones. I love you mom and miss you!
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2018
Hey girl, Well, of course you know what's going on with my life!!! All I can say is that Chuck is lucky you are not still here cuz I KNOW you would have a few choice words for him!! HA HA. Anyway, I survived and am on my way to my next and new chapter. I miss you more than I know how to put into words! I know I don't "visit" here as much as I should or even want to but you are NEVER forgotten and you are remembered each and every day!! Send a butterfly to us this weekend!! Luv & miss ya MUCH xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 20, 2018
Dearest Dar, in a few minutes it will have been 8 years since we said Good-bye. A lot has happened - hopefully, you've been able to view it all from wherever one hangs out between here and Heaven. The Six in the City: 10K Memorial Walk is this Saturday. I doubt we'll have as many turn out this year. Everyone seems to be doing Run/Walk events. I miss you more than words can say. Not a day has gone by that I don't think of you. Hailey and Tyler "know" you and ask about you. It is because of you that I have been able to answer their questions about death, dying, and Heaven. Who better? I Love you and, if you're ever in the neighborhood, you are welcome to visit me in my dreams. xoxo "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on June 11, 2018
Hey, Dar. So, we're gearing up for this year's Memorial Walk. Changing things up a bit and using REMIX as our home base. How cool is that! Hailey and Tyler talk about you a lot as they are being exposed more and more to death and dying. You are the reason they are comfortable talking about it, asking questions, and trying to understand...who better? I miss you always and haven't for one day forgotten you. I wear my necklace and "Dar ring" every day. The kids say "Hi Dar" when they notice and both of them are competing for who gets them when I die (lol). Butterflies are EVERYWHERE this year...and, again, the kids know that it's your way of participating in our lives. Sorry I haven't shared picks as they've grown - but they grow so fast! Have you seen Nat and Curt? WOW! Adults now! But, of course, I'm sure you've been watching. Well, I need to get back to work, but I needed a few minutes with you. XOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on June 5, 2018
Hey girl, PLEASE give my neighbor and friend Teresa a BIG hug for me!! Sometimes I feel like the whole world is going crazy. Every time I turn around either someone is doing something REALLY stupid and cruel or someone else is being diagnosed with some type of cancer. :(  On a brighter note.... Natalie is graduating next week!! I'm SURE you're watching from your beautiful spot up there! And..... drum roll please... I am going to my 40th high school reunion!! I am so excited!! Gotta tell you, this get together came at the perfect time, I really need to connect with some of my old friends for a bit. Anyways, I just wanted to stop in and say hi and "chat" for a bit but kids are showing up so I'll say bye for now and I'll talk to you soon. Luv and miss ya MUCH!!!  xoxo Nanci
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on April 3, 2018
Hey there!! Yup, I'm still hanging in there!! I just wanted to pop in and say "Hi" before the kiddos get here. Altho I "talk" to you every day, I wanted to "hang out" with you here for a minute. My life is CRAZY right now, as I'm sure you know, so keep looking out for me, K? I luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on March 24, 2018
Hey, Dar. Boy, am I glad to be able to "chat" with you tonight. I'm sure you've been watching me deal with internet struggles trying to access the Reg's website. I was thinking that maybe my computer was headed for big trouble, but since I'm able to visit with you, I'm thinking that it's the Reg's website afterall. Sure hope they fix it "toot sweet"...I got work to do! I Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY  xoxoxo "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on March 8, 2018
Hey girl, I know it has been quite a while since I've written to you and I'm sorry about that but as we both know I "talk" to you every day, so it's all good!!!  :)  I don't even know what to write I just wanted to be here with you. So, I'm gonna sit here and browse and listen to your music for a bit. Sure do miss hanging out with you "for real" and in person. Thanks for letting me hang out with you! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 27, 2017
Merry Christmas, Dar. How the holidays have changed since you left. We tried getting together the way we used to, but it was hard on everyone...the heartache, scheduling get togethers with in-laws and extended families... One thing that has never changed is how much I love and miss you and wish you were still here. I watched Long Island Medium the other night and the gal said that the spirits of our loved ones never really leave...I truly believe that. Maybe it IS true that we don't immediately go to Heaven. It certainly warms my heart to know that you and Dad are able to watch our lives continue...see the kids grow up...share the good times as well as comfort us in our sorrow. Would love another visit when you get around to it (*wink*wink*) Love You Always, "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on December 25, 2017
Merry Christmas Dar! I have so much to say but can't find the words. You know my heart and how much I miss you so I'll leave it at that for now. Love and hugs to you on this Christmas morning. Xoxo nanc
Posted by Richard Snell on November 2, 2017
Hi Dar. Uncle Dick will always miss and love you.
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2017
Missing you today as I do every day... When I discovered that little note from you in my keepsakes, it brought a flood of questions: when was this written? did I respond? how did I respond? BUT, it also brought me an answer: I finally know EXACTLY what tattoo tribute I want. Regardless of my failures and shortcomings, I keep reminding myself that you DO know that I have always loved you with all my heart. Happy BIrthday, Dar, "Love You Always" "B
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 2, 2017
Happy birthday to you...
Happy birthday to you...
Happy birthday dearest mommy...
Happy birthday to you...
Love and miss you every day
Posted by Kristel Davis on November 2, 2017
Happy Birthday Dar!! We love and miss you so much! ❤ Kris, Hailey and Tyler
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2017
Hi Dar, I talked to the kids here at Kids With Spirit about you and what today is and all about the walk. It still amazes me how sensitive some kids can be. They truly were empathetic and caring yet excited for me and the walk. I miss you more than I could EVER express so I just believe that just like God can hear and understand unspoken prayers, you can understand the depth and intensity of my missing you. You are NOT forgotten and NEVER will be!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xo Nanc
Posted by Kimmy Deline on September 20, 2017
7 years, mom. I think about you every day and miss you every day. I love you❤️
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 20, 2017
Dearest Dar, 7 long years and not one day has gone by that I didn't think of you. There's a saying that the hardest part of losing someone is not saying good-bye, but learning to live without them...always trying to fill the emptiness that's left inside our hearts after they have gone. Well, now, THAT pretty much sums it up. I try and I try...but nothing and no one will ever fill that emptiness. I know you're in a Good Place and that brings me comfort. Sharing who you are and what you mean to me with Hailey Darlene and Tyler warms my heart...they feel like they know you. And, of course, I never tire of reminiscing about the times we had when you were here with anyone who will indulge me. I Loved You Then and I Love You Still ~ Always Have and Always Will. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 15, 2017
Hey Dar. I made Grapenut pudding the other night...ate a big bowl and thought of you the while. We're gearing up for this year's Walk. It doesn't look like we have as many participants, but we do have some new faces...sharing the love and support. Still trying to put together my pre-walk talk...anything in particular you'd like me to say? Send me a sign... Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. xoxoxoxo "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on August 2, 2017
Happy Sister's Day, Dar! You've always been my BFF. I miss you so.
I love that Hailey Darlene and Tyler ask about you and want to know about you ~ it gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling ~ they know you hold a special place in my heart....and you always will.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on July 28, 2017
Hey girl, Missing you like crazy!! I plan on going to REMIX next Friday for a comedy show and of course that just made me remember the show we went to and the AMAZING memories that brought back! What can I say except I miss you terribly but you know that you will NEVER be forgotten!! You are so special to so many people and I hope you know that! You are missed by MANY!!! We love you LOTS!!! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on May 26, 2017
While it may seem a while since I've left you a note, you KNOW I think about you every single day. Yesterday I had to go to Cheshire probate to check on a file. Not having a plan for dinner, I decided to stop by Panera and get a bowl of broccoli/cheddar soup and an asiago cheese bagel. Thought of you with every bite. (No, I didn't get it in the bread bowl...I poured it over a bowl of fresh-cooked broccoli instead). Nanni and I will be visiting the cemetery this weekend to honor Dad and spruce the space up a bit.

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