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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life of our beloved, Dar.
Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.
We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.
We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor, the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation, her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.
If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!
If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.
Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery, read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted.
This is always a "work in progress" so please visit again soon.
(You can even subscribe to receive email notifications when the site has been updated)
Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.
You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.
If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!
If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.
Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery, read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted.
This is always a "work in progress" so please visit again soon.
(You can even subscribe to receive email notifications when the site has been updated)
Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.
You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.
Hey girl, I think about you always!!! I was floating around and swimming yesterday and I kept playing back in my head ALL the times at your pool. What fun we had!!!!! I miss you!!!!! I don't know what is happening with your walk this year but trust me......I WILL WALK FOR YOU!!!!! Even if we can't have a public one...ill be walking and i'll get a shirt made, I CANNOT let a year pass where you are not honored!!! I'm thinking I may go to the cemetery today and check things out. Just wanted to say Hi and hang with you for a bit. And to remind you that you are NOT forgotten!!!! I luv & miss ya MUCH!!!! XOXOXO Nanc
Hey Dar, what can I say??? I miss you more than I can express!! I miss Dad too!!! I'm glad you guys are together!! it is so crazy down here, I don't know if you can see, watch, whatever.... But it's not good here!!! I can't figure people out!! I guess that's why I stick to my own little world. Anyway, I needed to come here and say Hi to you and say Happy Birthday to Dad. You have to know that you are always remembered and missed and never will you be forgotten!!! Xoxo Nanc
Happy Mothers Day, mom ❤️ I love you and think about you all the time, especially lately with everything going on. I wish you were here with me to talk to and get a hug from. I’ve needed it so much in the last year. I realize now that I fractured when you died; each day, month, and year, since has just caused that break to get bigger and widen and now I feel completely broken. I’m not the same without you. Sending you love and hugs and kisses from hell on earth.
Hey girl, Happy Easter!! I wrote to you yesterday but apparently it didn't go through. I can only imagine the celebration that goes on in Heaven!! Definitely a different kind of Easter here but the reason for the day was the same even if the day itself was different. Just wanted to pop in and say Hi and I luv & miss ya MUCH!!!! XOXOXO Nanc
Hey girl, just wanted to say Hi and hang with you for a while. It's really weird around here. Streets are bare, no school, no work, no gatherings, it's crazy weird!! I can just imagine what kind of jokes and sassy comments you would come up with to lighten the mood. Haha, I can only imagine!! Thank God for "B" or I would go crazy and I'd be 200 pounds by now with another month to go!! we miss you!!!!! Like CRAZY!!!! keep lookin out for us!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! XOXOXO nanc
Hey girl, sometimes I still can't believe what's happening here. It's so crazy!!! I am trying to find the peace and purpose in all this. Some days I can see a lot of good coming out of all this chaos and other times I see people losing their lives and it's just so sad!!! I just needed to sit here with you for a bit!!! I luv and miss ya much!!!! Xoxo nanc
Oh man!!! I wonder.... Can you see us all down here? We are in crazy times right now!!! My heart hurts for you!!!! I would love to hear your voice . .. telling a joke and just being you!!! I miss you and all your sassy attitude!!! I just know you would scoop us all up and take charge. Please keep looking out for us!!! Luv and miss ya MUCH!!!! XOXOXO nanc
When I was little, there were a few times that I remember going to spend the night at Barb’s with Kristel; and for whatever reason, maybe just missing you, I would call you and you would say “Kimmy, do I need to come get you?” And without saying “yes or no” you would just show up and take me home with you...
I wish you could just come and get me and take me home with you.
I wish you could just come and get me and take me home with you.
Oh My Dearest Dar, how many times in the course of the day I think and talk about you to the kids, to friends, to people who notice my necklace, to those who benefit from the Good Deeds Project... you have become immortalized in my world. Hailey and Tyler have grown to "know" you from a name and picture of someone so very important to me, to realizing that you are my sister, Kimmy, John and Amy's Mom, a Dear Aunt to Kristel, and Curt and Natalie's Nana. They've grown up learning about the whole concept of death and what happens to your earthly body after you pass... It makes my heart smile when they shout out "There's Dar!" every time they see a butterfly... Oh My Dear, not only have you not been forgotten, YOU ARE A LEGEND... and I would want nothing less for your memory.
Hey girl, So, Barb and I have gone to the gym a few times and it's been so much fun!! I REALLY wish all three of us had gotten together and done things while you were here. Just know that as we are doing things together we are thinking of you ..... ALWAYS!!!! Wish you were here!!! You are remembered!!! and loved!!!! xoxoxo Nanc
I am standing upon a seashore.
A ship, at my side, spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and sets out for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck of white cloud where the sea and the sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says “there, she is gone”.
Gone where?
Gone from my sight.
That is all.
Her diminished size is within me - not in her.
And just at the moment when someone says “there, she is gone” there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the shout...
“Here she comes!”
And that is dying...
-Henry Van Dyke
I’m sure you were welcomed with cheers and open arms, mom! This poem is just perfect, I hope B and Nan like it too ❤️You mom, miss you SO much!
A ship, at my side, spreads her white sails to the moving breeze and sets out for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
I stand and watch her until, at length, she hangs like a speck of white cloud where the sea and the sky come to mingle with each other.
Then, someone at my side says “there, she is gone”.
Gone where?
Gone from my sight.
That is all.
Her diminished size is within me - not in her.
And just at the moment when someone says “there, she is gone” there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the shout...
“Here she comes!”
And that is dying...
-Henry Van Dyke
I’m sure you were welcomed with cheers and open arms, mom! This poem is just perfect, I hope B and Nan like it too ❤️You mom, miss you SO much!
Hey there!!! HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!! :) Just sitting here listening to your tunes and thinking about you.... yet again or still :) Missing you and just wanted to say Hi!!! The kiddos will be here soon but I needed to visit for a minute and hang with you!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!!!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Hey girl, I've been thinking about you a lot lately. I'm always thinking about you and how things would be if you were still here but i've been thinking about how long you've been gone. Almost 10 years!!!! I miss you so much and when I say that it doesn't feel like it covers my feelings nearly as deep as they are!!! I'm still missing that piece of me that I lost when I lost you!!! I miss you and the me I was when you were here!!! I need another visit PLEASE!!!!! You are ALWAYS remembered and ALWAYS missed!!! Xoxo Nanc
Hey girl, Well, today is New Year's Eve day and another year has come and gone and I'm still missing you as much as ever!! I'm learning to be okay by myself and actually enjoying it (most of the time) but I DO miss our talks, our breakfasts, our dance parties, our car trips, well.... I miss just being with you!!! I'll probably check in with you later tonight.... Just know you are loved and missed!!! Xoxo. Nanc
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!! I'm missing you!!! I have no words right now..... so I'm Just gonna sit here and "be with you" and listen to your tunes. Xoxoxo Nanc
Good morning!! Hanging out with you and listening to tunes with you again!!! I love that I can do this!! I watched the video of us singing to Mom that Christmas and it makes me smile, laugh and miss you even more!!! Wow, I am a hot mess emotionally!! If you only knew how much you are missed!!! Words can't even begin to describe it. I try to focus on the good times and memories but sometimes I just feel so sad that you are not here. We ALL miss you soooo much!!! You are definitely remembered!!!xoxoxo Nanc
Hey girl, I miss you!!!! WOW!! There is so much going on!!! Sometimes I feel like I'm drowning in everything. I really cant even think right now so I'm just going to listen to your tunes and hang with you for a bit! Luv & miss ya much!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Hey Dar, B here...REALLY missing you more tonight than usual, which is strange because I miss you every single day. I guess it's because tonight has a more melancholy vibe. I love when someone comments on my "Dar" necklace or my "Dar" ring and I tell them about you... or when I'm doing something for the "Good Deeds Project" and get to tell people about the Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette Memorial Foundation. I tried to upload a video to share with you, but I'm going to have to pirate it onto my phone and go that route so, stay tuned... XOXOXO "B
Good morning!! Just wanted to hang with you and listen to some tunes with you this morning. I absolutely LOVE that I can do this!!! I think of you ALL the time but somehow when I'm on here listening to the music, scrolling through the pictures and poems, stories, etc... makes me feel so close to you in a special way, I gotta remember to thank Barb for setting this up, it's been a mental life saver for me!!! Of course I have different Dar tunes I listen to in my car, so yeah... you get the picture... I'm always thinking of you!!! And you thought you might be forgotten!!! You couldn't have been more wrong!!! You are remembered and missed by ALL of us!!!! Uh oh... kids are arriving... gotta go... Luv & miss ya MUCH!!!! xoxo Nanc
Hey girl..... I'm back!!! :) Oh wow, life just seems so different now. I don't know if it's because you're not here or if it's just that the world is crazy and I'm noticing it more. Probably a bit of both!! We all miss you so much!! You were/ are so much to so many and we feel your absence in our lives. Kimmy was right.... you were the glue... Elmer!! :) That's so funny to me!! But true. Barb is awesome, she is there for everyone that needs help. I wish I could help more and I think I need to be more verbal about wanting to be helpful but I'm just so far away and I'm trying to keep Mom happy, comfortable and peaceful until her time comes. We miss you so much!!! Barb and I celebrated your birthday together and it was good, I enjoy hanging with Barb. I wish we all had hung out together more... Well I guess we'll have to do that in Heaven!!!! I went to church in Wilton and lit a candle for you and Dad and John. It was a nice service. My first kid just arrived... gotta go.... Luv & miss ya MUCH!!!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Hey, Birthday Girl! So, our options are to Light a Candle, Lay a Flower, or Leave a Note...hmmm, and I wanted to give you birthday balloons! Ah, well, you know what's in my heart, and that's what counts. Visions of German Chocolate Cake danced in my head off and on all day in celebration of your birthday. On another note, I'm glad you "visited" Nanni the other night...she REALLY needed it! But I am saddened by all the turmoil, sadness, and other things going on. I pray that cool heads and kind hearts prevail...in time. In the meantime, feel free to sprinkle a little love over us all. Loving you Always and Missing you Forever... Mu-ah! "B
Happy birthday mom! I miss you today and everyday. My heart hopes you’re watching what’s happening down here and that YOU ARE PISSED! With your righteous anger and need to set things right, I hope you will send us ALL some winds of change (not literal wind tho cuz who actually likes wind ) that blow in some much needed happiness and relief.
I love you always and think of you daily, especially lately cuz I think about what you’d be saying and doing to change this epic “shit show”
Love you always,
Dolly
I love you always and think of you daily, especially lately cuz I think about what you’d be saying and doing to change this epic “shit show”
Love you always,
Dolly
Hey girl, Happy Birthday!!!! I will write more later, right now I'm off to celebrate your birthday!!! I'll be back......
Luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!
Xoxoxo Nanc
Luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!
Xoxoxo Nanc
Hey there, yup me again. Just wanted to "stop by" and hang with you and listen to some tunes with you again. WOW, sometimes, HELL, all the time actually.... I wonder how things would be different if you were still here. So many things would not be the same. You know how we're all struggling, PLEASE keep looking out for us, we need it!!! I miss you and think of you each and every day!!! That will NEVER change!!! xoxo Nanc
Life without you has shifted massively. I know if you were still here it would be different - good, bad, or indifferent. Our family is unrecognizable from what you would remember and it’s truly sad. Regardless of how loud, boisterous, and overbearing you could be at times, you still were the glue that held us all together; maybe I’ll just refer to you as Elmer from now on. I miss you and love you, especially during all the hard times. Love, dolly
Dar
I know how loved you must be feeling what with all the love being poured by all your loved ones . I too wish you all the love that this cosmos can contain and some more .
I know how loved you must be feeling what with all the love being poured by all your loved ones . I too wish you all the love that this cosmos can contain and some more .
Hey girl, what can I say??? Life is not the same without you! If only you knew how very much you are loved and missed!!! (well hopefully you do,) I think of you EVERY day but today is the day that I have a hard time remembering the good times, I just remember this is the day you left and I didn't get to be with you!!!! I would LOVE a visit!!!! I need to see you again!!!
Just know you are loved and missed each and every day!!!! Xoxo Nanc
Just know you are loved and missed each and every day!!!! Xoxo Nanc
Hey girl, I've tried to write and add a tribute twice and you keep messing with me!!! Not sure why but.... Gotta love your sass!!! You know I'm thinking of you and you know why! Keep lookin out for me!! Luv & miss ya MUCH. XOXO Nanc
Hey Dar, B here. I promised you that I would look after your family as best I could. I'm trying. While we are seeing some dark times right now, this morning I saw a flicker of light. With God's grace and a lot of hard work, I KNOW that this will all be behind us one day and life will be better. In the meantime, I will continue to keep my promise. I love you with all my heart...always have...always will. Love, "B
Mom, I know if you were still here that life would be different, for everyone! Sometimes I feel like everything bad that’s happened to each of us since you left us wouldn’t be happening if you were still here. PLEASE, for the love of ALL of us, send us some light and take away all this dark.
Miss you so much right now...love Dolly
Miss you so much right now...love Dolly
Hey girl, God I miss you!!!!! I need you so bad right now!!! What I wouldn't give to be able to talk to you again and hang with you!!!! Please, keep looking out for me!!!
I luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!! XOXO Nanc
I luv and miss ya MUCH!!!!! XOXO Nanc
Hey girl, I miss you!!! There is so much I wish I could still be sharing with you and all the crazy times we had together that I wish we could still be having!! I just keep reminding myself that you can see me and see what's going on in my life and that you are smiling at me with that sassy smirking smile! We are getting ready for this year's walk and for some reason I feel like it is going to be extremely special this year. I have met some people and spent time with new people recently that I think you would love and of course they would love you!!!!! I really wish they could have known you, trying to describe you to them... Well, it just doesn't cut it!!! Anyway, I just wanted to say hi and I love you and I miss you so much!!! Even though I don't get here as often as I want.... You are still remembered each and every day!! I luv & miss ya MUCH!!!
xoxo Nanc
xoxo Nanc
Hey girl, oh man, not sure what's goin on with me but WOW what an emotional day!!! I miss you so much!!! My life is crazy, I feel crazy!!! I can't wait for our next get together at your house, I'm hoping that will help me feel connected again!! I feel so disconnected from everything and everybody and I don't know how to fix it because I know it's me. So, keep lookin out for me okay???? You are still remembered and missed each and every day!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH XOXO Nanc
I "talk with you" every day, but I'm hoping to "connect with you" tonight. Fingers crossed. You have a way of letting me know you're around with little signs here and there, but the fiasco with my Dar Ring was epic! I had only lost it for a few hours but was totally heartbroken. So glad to have you back! XOXOXO "B
Hey there!!! Sometimes I feel like I'm CRAZY!!! I will be happy and then BAM I'll hear a song .... sometimes it will remind me of you and I'll be even happier and sometimes... Oh, it makes me miss you so bad I can barely breathe!! You know the saying that says.. It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? Yeah, I know it's true but sometimes when the sadness of missing you is so intense... I question that! I don't know what the problem is today, but I'm close to tears all day thinking of you. I hope I'm not in this frame of mind on Saturday!!! So, you hanging with Uncle George? :) I just needed to come say "Hi" and listen to your music for a bit. The kiddos will be here soon. Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Listening to Paul Simon on Vermont PBS and it just overwhelms me with memories of you...of us...of days gone by...and oh, so many good times. Miss you "Al" XOXO "B
Hey girl, I MISS YOU!!!!! Not much time to "chat" the kids will be showing up SOON but I wanted to say Hi and GOD I MISS YOU!!!!! Uh oh here comes the first kid. Gotta go... Luv & Miss Ya MUCH!!!! xoxo Nanc
Hey girl, I know it's been a long time since I've "chatted" with you here but we "talk" every day in my heart. I couldn't write anything down because I really was afraid I couldn't write anything that would be okay to be on here. As you know I've had a rough time this past year and I know other people read this so I didn't want anyone to know how truly bad I was feeling. But I think I may be okay. I know I'll still have bad/sad days but I feel like I just might make it! Kim is starting to have some get togethers and I was kind of nervous about going back to your house and being around everyone but I think it might really be good for me to be with them. Anyway, I just wanted to come by and say hi and that I LUV & MISS YOU MUCH!! you are NEVER forgotten xoxo Nanc
So, you and Blanche will be together once again. She passed away Saturday morning...as you know. I have no doubt that you will run towards her with open arms. She has wondered where you've been ~ she missed you. You two have some catching up to do!
I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty excited to be going to your house for Thanksgiving this year... I hope you like your new background music. I miss you so much it hurts sometimes...hence, this song seemed to hit home when I first heard it. XOXOXO "B
Hello Darlene. I'm sending all our love to you and your family from Wales, UK. I hope you have a wonderful birthday over on that side of life. Give my children a hug if you run into them xxx we think of you and your little 'gang' all the time - our beloved children, sisters and brothers in Spirit. Leave us lots of signs xxx
Happy BIrthday, Dar! Today you'd be 60. To celebrate, me and Nanni are going to a comedy show tonight at REMIX...of course, it will be nothing like your 40-something in Boston, now, THAT was EPIC! No purple hooter shooters and certainly no sailors! (haha) still, it will be a good time. So, Cheers!
Hey girl, BLAH!! Winter is on it's way!! You KNOW how I feel about that!! I am already dreading, stressing and freaking out about it!! I don't really know how to organize my thoughts and feelings right now so I really don't know what to say but I wanted to come "visit" and hang with you for a bit. Just needed some "DAR" time :) Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc
I miss you mom... I love you and think about you daily. I recently had a friend died tragically and unexpectedly. I wanted to tell you about it, about her. She has a daughter who just started high school. She’ll never have her at her wedding or when she has her babies and my friend will never be there for it either. I’m so grateful that you got to experience all those things with me. Please give “my Jenny” Reed a hug and kiss for me - she’s great, have fun with her, she’s one of the good ones. I love you mom and miss you!
Hey girl, Well, of course you know what's going on with my life!!! All I can say is that Chuck is lucky you are not still here cuz I KNOW you would have a few choice words for him!! HA HA. Anyway, I survived and am on my way to my next and new chapter. I miss you more than I know how to put into words! I know I don't "visit" here as much as I should or even want to but you are NEVER forgotten and you are remembered each and every day!! Send a butterfly to us this weekend!! Luv & miss ya MUCH xoxo Nanc
Dearest Dar, in a few minutes it will have been 8 years since we said Good-bye. A lot has happened - hopefully, you've been able to view it all from wherever one hangs out between here and Heaven. The Six in the City: 10K Memorial Walk is this Saturday. I doubt we'll have as many turn out this year. Everyone seems to be doing Run/Walk events. I miss you more than words can say. Not a day has gone by that I don't think of you. Hailey and Tyler "know" you and ask about you. It is because of you that I have been able to answer their questions about death, dying, and Heaven. Who better? I Love you and, if you're ever in the neighborhood, you are welcome to visit me in my dreams. xoxo "B
Hey, Dar. So, we're gearing up for this year's Memorial Walk. Changing things up a bit and using REMIX as our home base. How cool is that! Hailey and Tyler talk about you a lot as they are being exposed more and more to death and dying. You are the reason they are comfortable talking about it, asking questions, and trying to understand...who better? I miss you always and haven't for one day forgotten you. I wear my necklace and "Dar ring" every day. The kids say "Hi Dar" when they notice and both of them are competing for who gets them when I die (lol). Butterflies are EVERYWHERE this year...and, again, the kids know that it's your way of participating in our lives. Sorry I haven't shared picks as they've grown - but they grow so fast! Have you seen Nat and Curt? WOW! Adults now! But, of course, I'm sure you've been watching. Well, I need to get back to work, but I needed a few minutes with you. XOXO "B
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Hey girl, I think about you always!!! I was floating around and swimming yesterday and I kept playing back in my head ALL the times at your pool. What fun we had!!!!! I miss you!!!!! I don't know what is happening with your walk this year but trust me......I WILL WALK FOR YOU!!!!! Even if we can't have a public one...ill be walking and i'll get a shirt made, I CANNOT let a year pass where you are not honored!!! I'm thinking I may go to the cemetery today and check things out. Just wanted to say Hi and hang with you for a bit. And to remind you that you are NOT forgotten!!!! I luv & miss ya MUCH!!!! XOXOXO Nanc
Hey Dar, what can I say??? I miss you more than I can express!! I miss Dad too!!! I'm glad you guys are together!! it is so crazy down here, I don't know if you can see, watch, whatever.... But it's not good here!!! I can't figure people out!! I guess that's why I stick to my own little world. Anyway, I needed to come here and say Hi to you and say Happy Birthday to Dad. You have to know that you are always remembered and missed and never will you be forgotten!!! Xoxo Nanc
Happy Mothers Day, mom ❤️ I love you and think about you all the time, especially lately with everything going on. I wish you were here with me to talk to and get a hug from. I’ve needed it so much in the last year. I realize now that I fractured when you died; each day, month, and year, since has just caused that break to get bigger and widen and now I feel completely broken. I’m not the same without you. Sending you love and hugs and kisses from hell on earth.
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A Yellow Christmas ~ for you, Dar. XOXOXO
I changed your background music to Yanni's "In the Morning Light"...
Dar, it seems to me that you were watching over this year's Memorial Walk....
Dar, looks like you paid a visit to Ms. Marlee on your birthday...
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I'll Always Remember Us This Way
ALWAYS REMEMBER US THIS WAY
by Lady Gaga
That Arizona sky burning in your eyes
You look at me and, babe, I wanna catch on fire
It's buried in my soul like California gold
You found the light in me that I couldn't find
So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way
Lovers in the night Poets trying to write
We don't know how to rhyme but, damn, we try
But all I really know - you're where I wanna go
The part of me that's you will never die
So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way
Oh, yeah
I don't wanna be just a memory, baby, yeah
Oooh……
When I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way, oh, yeah
When you look at me and the whole world fades
I'll always remember us this way.
