Softly the leaves of memory fall ...
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  • 51 years old
  • Born on November 2, 1958 in Springfield, Vermont, United States.
  • Passed away on September 20, 2010 in Claremont, New Hampshire, United States.
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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life of our beloved, Dar.

Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts.

We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.
Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor, the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation, her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery, read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted.

This is always a "work in progress" so please visit again soon.
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Please feel free to light a memorial candle as a tribute to Dar.

You can also upload a photo and/or share a story of your own memory.

Posted by Alicia Gordon on March 9, 2017
Hey Dar,
I'm really having a hard time today missing my Sister. I know that you and Gram and Gramp are there to watch out for her. You were always the mother hen. As the years go on you forget things. And as I was getting on here to write you, I realized I am older than you were when you left us. And that makes me very sad to realize how young you really were. And scares me how fast our lives can change. Or fast time goes by. Because it doesn't seem like it has been that long ago since you left us. I love you Dar. Give Gram, Gramp, and Jennifer a hug and kiss for me. And keep one for yourself.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 27, 2017
Hey girl, Let me just start out by saying I MISS YOU!! I don't know what is going on, it seems like every time I turn around more people have passed. They all seem to be about our age, it's crazy to me!! Anyway, I keep trudging on day after day but I can feel I've lost my spark. I can't figure out how to get it back. I KNOW you'd want me to, I just can't seem to find it! I miss my silly carefree self that I use to be! I won't give up tho, I WILL keep trying to find it because I DO know you'd want that!! Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 1, 2017
Happy New Year, Dar.
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 25, 2016
Merry Christmas, Dar. Missing you today and every are never forgotten. I hope you Heavenly Christmas is beautiful in every way. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 23, 2016
Dar, I'm sure you've been watching and I feel you smiling. Your Foundation was able to show some compassion this week to two families who are lovingly caring for a family member in their final journey. I tried to follow your lead...discreet, no fanfare...and offering to help in any way we can to relieve some of the strain on their resources. One request I couldn't fulfill: the wife asked if I could find a gift card for some sleep...
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 23, 2016
Dar, two ladies I know have just passed recently. Joi Woodman was a classmate and a tireless go-getter...a lot like you. Deb Clark was one of my tax collector friends. Outspoken yet loving...she fought cancer for many years. Please give them a warm greeting up there. And, as always, I still miss you each and every day. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on December 21, 2016
Hey girl, I know it has been a while since I've been here to talk to you but me being me, I wanted to find just the "right" thing to put on here so I kept looking and waiting. Of course I "talk" to you in my head and thoughts EVERY day but I wanted something SOOO special to put on here for you but I still haven't found that one thing that POPS out at me!!  :(  Anyway, I think about you ALWAYS and like I've said before, sometimes the memories make me smile and laugh and sometimes they make me so sad because I miss you so very much!!!  Who knew things would be so unbelievable different without you here!! I mean seriously EVERYTHING has changed!  Anyway, I haven't given up looking for that something special for you but I just couldn't wait any longer to come here and listen to your tunes and say HI. Just know that you are not forgotten and never will be!!  Luv & miss ya MUCH!! XOXO Nanc :)
Posted by Kimmy Deline on November 18, 2016
Hi mom...I may not post here very often but, I post thoughts, memories, and what's happening to my internal "momory" page in my head and heart daily, sometimes multiple times. Today, I had to post here because our lil Natalie Peanut got her drivers license today. All I wanted to do was to tell you. Of course, I text dad the good news, along with B and Kristel, but I wanted YOU to know most. I love you mom and miss you to where I can't even put it into words cuz I get a lump in my throat and can't speak. I love you mom
Love, your dolly
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 9, 2016
Hey girl, are things CRAZY down here or what??? I just don't understand why people have to be so mean and rude and insulting!  We teach our kids good sportsmanship (or at least I hope people do). and then they don't show any respect or ANY smidgeon of good sportsmanship or kindness! I had a good talk with the kiddos today about how to handle yourself (win or lose) and that team work, working together and being kind is so important. I just wished the adults would realize the kids are watching and listening to the way they are acting and speaking! Ok, end rant! Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv and miss ya MUCH! Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2016
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dar. Still miss you each and every day. It's nice that both Hailey and Tyler "know" you. Hailey has a lot of questions about Heaven, God, Jesus, death... it isn't scary to her because when I answer her questions, you are a big part of explaining it to her.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 2, 2016
Happy Birthday!! The kids here at Kids With Spirit asked about you today and I told them it was your birthday so they all said... "Happy Birthday!" I am not sure why they asked about you TODAY, but I've learned to just go with the flow of these mysterious happenings. Makes me think we are more connected still than I even realized. :)    I didn't know the youth pastor from Claremont but LOTS of people did and loved him, sometimes I wonder how it all happens .... do you ALL know when someone new arrives? or just the people you know? Or once someone arrives you all instinctively know one another. I guess it doesn't really matter, right? WOW, I miss talking to you! and seeing you! and hearing your voice and sass! I MISS YOU!! Anyway, Happy Heavenly Birthday, sending big hugs to you!! Luv ya! Nanc
Posted by Pauline Barton on November 2, 2016
I've thought of you many, many times. When your mom is visiting us we reminisce about you a LOT! My prayer is that Freeman and I will join countless others in reuniting with you when our LORD returns.
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2016
Hey girl, I know it's been a while since I've "chatted" with you here but we both know I "chat" with you each and every day in my car. I still miss you and ALWAYS will but I'm happy to say that I can think of you and smile more often now instead of crying. There will always be a missing piece in my heart and in our family where you belong and sometimes it is obvious but other times it is SO heart-wrenching because I can just hear a "comeback" that you would have said and it's just not said. Oh yea!! I miss your sass and attitude so much, no one has the same "tude" as you, fer sure!! :) The Walk was great again this year and we even made it into the paper!! I hope you can see us as we do the walk and know that this all started because of YOU!! We miss you and love you more than words can say!! And even if I don't make it here as often as I'd like, just know; you are NEVER far from my thoughts and you will NEVER be forgotten!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on September 20, 2016
Oh yea, forgot to say we went to the cemetery after church and Mom got to see your spot and what we've done lately. We're gonna get over and "winterize" you and Dad soon. :) xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 20, 2016
YESSSSS! Ta-Da! I did it! I finally was able to upload Bruce singing to your Gallery of videos. Enjoy! I just LOVE it and I know you will too! XOXOXO "B
Posted by Lauri Bessey on September 20, 2016
Hello Darlene, Just thought I would stop by and leave you a note. Your sisters did another fantastic job with your memorial walk this year. I can tell they miss you so much. It was a perfect day for the walk and so many people came out. I still think of you everyday too, the glass heart paperweight you gave me one Christmas still sits on my desk. It's so hard to believe it's been 6 years.  xo
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 19, 2016
Well Dar, we had the Walk Saturday. We had a really good turn-out...a lot of new folks this year...Chaunee's sisters, daughters and grandsons and a few other families who had recently lost someone. Me and Nanni went to church in Springfield Sunday and got to hear Bruce sing. Oh, just you wait! One way or another, I'm gonna upload that solo for ya. Well, tomorrow will be six years since you went away. I can't say it gets easier, because I still miss you and think of you every single day. But, I am proud to say that Hailey Darlene and Tyler James know who you are and how special you are to me...and they think you're pretty darn special themselves. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on August 21, 2016
Hey, Dar. I know it's been awhile since I've been on here, but don't think that for one minute you've been forgotten. Oh, contrare! In fact, we've been working on your Memorial Walk. It gets bigger every year and even though I got off to a late start this year, we may still have the biggest turnout yet. I sure hope so. You are always on my mind and not forgotten for a minute. I miss you so. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on July 11, 2016
Dar, I stumbled upon this instrumental the other day and just fell in love...I couldn't wait to share it with you. I hope you like it. Still missing you each and every day... XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on July 10, 2016
Hey Girl, I miss you! I can't believe how VERY much I still miss you! There are certain times that I feel your absence so very deeply and intensley that it breaks my heart all over again! I would love to hear your voice and see your beautiful face again, so here is an official invitation to my dreams! Xoxo nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on May 28, 2016
Hey, Dar. Sorry I didn't get to check out the crocuses and other flowers Nanni and I planted last year...we got busy fixing the tarp on Pauline and Freeman's camper and forgot... Today was WAY too hot to go over, but I'll be there tomorrow. I got you a new decoration - it's beautiful! By the way, now I TOTALLY get why you had so many reading glasses stashed everywhere... I really miss hanging out with you. You are certainly welcome to visit me in my dreams, though. XOXOXO "B"
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on May 10, 2016
Hey girl, So, I haven't sat and "talked" to you here lately but you know I am ALWAYS thinking of you and we "talk" in the car ALOT, so it's all good, right???!!! Sometimes I think it's our "conversations" that keep me going when I'm driving late at night. :) I keep looking for a really special poem or picture or something to put on here for you but something always happens... the internet goes wacky, the kiddos show up, someone comes into the office, etc.. and so it hasn't happened yet. I know you don't care but I just wanted to share something with you for Mothers Day, anyway... I WAS thinking of you and missing you (as always). Now I'm trying to wrap my head around our end of the year program for KWS. So, Happy be-lated Mothers Day!!! I luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on April 6, 2016
Hey girl, I've been looking for something "special" to put on your page and I haven't found "it" yet but I decided I'd still "talk" to you even tho I don't have my special poem yet. Been busy with lots of different stuff lately and haven't spent a lot of time here but I am ALWAYS thinking of you. I miss you like crazy!  Pretty soon I'm gonna go pretty up yours and Dads spot ; if it ever gets nice out again! Anyway ..... Just want you to know you are not forgotten and I love you! Xoxo nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on March 12, 2016
Dar, "It is Well With My Soul" is my new favorite "oldie done new"... I just HAD to share it with you! Enjoy! XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on March 7, 2016
Good Mornin'! Well, it's that time of year lien season. Nanni has taken over your duties as the official "label sticker oner-er" and she's an outstanding proofreader, too! We're thinking of changing things up a bit for your memorial walk this year. Today is Abhijeet's 24th birthday...give him a hug, okay? XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on February 17, 2016
Hi, I am soooo sad right now and since I know you know how I feel.....
I am just gonna sit here with you and cry!  Well, now I look like hell! 
Gotta pull myself together now, Thanks for lettin me hang with you, and I'll be back to chat soon!!  I miss you!!  You are NEVER forgotten! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 26, 2016
Hey Dar, today I was able to deliver the very first act of kindness as part of your foundation's "Good Deeds Project". We funded a couple gas cards to help a patient in palliative care get to and from their chemo treatments up at DHMC. Your old friends from hospice are gonna help us reach out with more Good Deeds. I love that they all remember you and want to help us carry out this mission in your honor. So exciting! We're doing our best to keep your memory alive because we love you and we miss you. You were the one and only Dar and your life mattered to us SO STILL does! XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 19, 2016
Hey girl, I keep waiting to write until I have something funny, happy or profound and that's so NOT happening.... so here I am just saying "HI!" and I miss you!! Seems like a lot of people are leaving us and joining you lately. "B" and I did some talking this weekend about your foundation and I think I need to get more involved with it so I feel like I have a purpose again. :)  Well, I gotta jet, I just wanted to pop in and say "hey" and I luv & miss ya MUCH!! talk again soon  xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 14, 2016
Well, Dar, this morning Dorine Cobb let go of her suffering and pain. Please welcome her with open arms. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on January 13, 2016
Well Dar, one of our friends has come to join you. Chaunee decided to let go yesterday. Like you, she fought the good fight - long and hard. Like you, she was feisty and determined to make the best of her last few months on earth. I'm sure you two have a lot of catching up to do. Show her the her get used to her wings... XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on January 1, 2016
Happy New Year! ! I miss you more than I thought was even possible! Just know that you will NEVER be forgotten!! I luv ya MUCH!!! Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on December 25, 2015
Hey girl, Merry Christmas!!!  Everything is so different now and I know it's natural and it's okay but sometimes it makes your absence so much more heartbreaking. (as if that's possible) Anyway.... I just wanted to say Merry Christmas.... I love you .... and I miss you!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 25, 2015
Merry Christmas, Dar! We didn't gather at your house last night...first time in 35 years, or so... but that's okay. New traditions are coming along, but you'll never be forgotten. Thanks for being a part of my dream last night...must have been my Christmas present. So cool to see the same ol' Dar. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 20, 2015
Merry Christmas, Dar. I uploaded a clip from our 2007 Christmas video for Mom. It's in the Video Gallery. I couldn't wait until Christmas to share it with you, though. I know you're gonna love it. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 17, 2015
Oh Dar, the time's - they are a changing...makes me miss you more and more... 
One thing that will never change is how much I miss you and how relieved I am that God took you peacefully...  XOXOXO "B
Posted by Barbara Paronto on December 16, 2015
Christmas is coming...although it doesn't look or feel like it... I was gonna wait until next week to change your background music, but I thought you (and Nanni) would like this surprise. Besides, I have a surprise for you (and Nanni) for Christmas, so I thought the timing was right. It won't be long before some of our earthly friends are going to join you...Chaunee Baker, Dorine Cobb, Debbie Corcoran... but I know you'll head the welcoming committee and greet them with open arms. I miss you so much ~ you have no idea. Glad you're at peace. Always remembering you ~ Always missing you ~ Never forgettiing you... XOXO XO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on December 15, 2015
Hey girl, Well, Christmas is just around the corner and it sure doesn't feel like it or look it! There's no snow and there's no YOU!! There are so many people that I wish I could just scoop up and make everything all better for them. I hate to see people sad and upset. It makes me feel so sad to see it!! I miss talking to you and hearing your voice and your "tude". :)  I wish I could give you a great big hug right now!! but since I can't, I would really love a visit!! Please keep lookin out for me and remember..... you are NEVER forgotten!!!  Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 27, 2015
Dar, thought I'd change up your background music to my absolute favorite...Yanni's "In the Morning Light"...I pirated it from one of your CD's. I played it all the way to and from your house when I used to go hang with you that last summer. I've got a surprise for you for Christmas...I'm so excited I can hardly stand it. Still thinking of you always...You are welcome to pay me a visit in my dreams...(just sayin') XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 26, 2015
Hey there!! Happy Thanksgiving!!!  I thought of you today but of course I do every day but today as I was basting the turkey I could just picture you peeling the crunchy skin off and eating it! Made me stop and smile as I pictured it. :)
Just wanted to pop in and say Hi and let you know I'm thinking of you! 
Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 20, 2015
Hey girl, Missing you like CRAZY!!! No eloquent words ...... just ....
 I MISS YOU!!! You are NEVER forgotten  EVER!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 13, 2015
Hey Dar, Blah, just blah! That's how I feel lately! This is gonna be a looooong winter if I don't find some enthusiasm! I can't seem to muster up any excitement. Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! Xoxo Nanc
Posted by Kristel Davis on November 2, 2015
Happy Birthday Dar, you are always in my thoughts and heart ♡
Posted by Barbara Paronto on November 2, 2015
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dar! I wish you were here so we could do something special to celebrate. I'll have to do something later in your honor...make some grapenut pudding, upload a new song or pic for you...we'll see. You are in my heart and on my mind EVERY single day. I will never stop missing you. XOXOXO "B
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 2, 2015
Hey Dar, Happy Birthday!! I wanted to go to the cemetery yesterday and just sit and listen to your tunes but I got a chance to help Jess by taking the kids. I know you understand! I absolutely don't need to be there to be thinking of you, I am ALWAYS thinking of you!! I hope you are having a beautiful celebration in honor of your birthday! I think I may have eggs on toast for supper tonite!! :) I miss you but I'm glad you're happy and healthy now!!! Luv ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on November 2, 2015
Hey girl, so my tribute to you and for your birthday celebration, I watched a marathon of ...... Wait for it..... Yup! Touched by an Angel!!!  Wish you were here watching with me! Happy Birthday! And know you are NEVER forgotten! Xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on October 31, 2015
Good morning!! I was pretty bummed that there wasn't going to be a candle lighting ceremony at St. Mary's this year and then Pastor Kerry got a hold of me and said we were having a special candle lighting service to honor all the Saints in our lives!! How awesome is that, huh?!! Altho I don't need a special day or special ceremony to remember you, it's nice to do something special in honor of you and your life. You had so many special qualities about you that I miss terribly! As I sit here I just keep thinking how much I miss your calls. I really would LOVE a visit from you!! :) So, I'll be lighting a candle for you tomorrow and wishing you an early Happy Birthday!! I luv and miss ya MUCH!!!! xoxoxo Nanc
Posted by Nanci Neilsen-Young on October 20, 2015
Good morning!!! I'm sooo pissed right now!! I have been trying for 2 months now to put a new picture in your gallery and this STUPID computer won't let me get to your gallery!!! That shouldn't have stopped me from coming here and talking to you but you know how I am.... I was hell bent on THAT PICTURE!!! Well, yes, I've finally decided that I'd rather come talk to you without the picture than not talk to you at all. I know, I know, took me long enough right? Obviously I haven't given up but I did want to visit before I got too frustrated and just shut this thing off like has been happening lately. Anyway, HI!! I was SOOO sick this weekend and all I could think was... if this is what Dar felt like when she went through chemo, I don't know how she did it and kept her cheer, sass, and spunk up!! I miss you more than I can express and sometimes more than I feel like I can handle!! Right now is one of those times!! Just remember... You are NEVER forgotten and you are ALWAYS missed!! I LOVE YOU!! xoxo Nanc
Posted by Barbara Paronto on October 16, 2015
Naturally, your pic is the wallpaper on my computer...and when it goes into screensaver mode, a whole array of family photos come and go...the kids ALWAYS hollar out, "Dar!" or "Hi, Dar!" when your pics come on the screen. I just love it. The other day, I was polishing my chain and Hailey asked if she could hold the tear drop with your ashes in it while I did it...well, she asked if she could hold Dar...anyway, then she asked if she could have my Dar necklace and my Dar ring when I die and go to be with you in Heaven. I love that they know how special you are to me even if they never got to know you themselves. She's only 4 for crying out loud!
Posted by Kristel Davis on September 20, 2015
Missing you! Xoxo
Posted by Barbara Paronto on September 19, 2015
Dearest Dar, when Amy called me that day to tell me you would be leaving soon, I found myself not believing it could really be happening, yet I felt a sense of urgency to be by your side. It was a lot like the day you called to tell me that Dad had been in a car accident and "they had read him his last rites". I thank God a million times over that we were with you in your final hours to make sure you knew you were loved and that it was okay to go. I never wanted you to go, just wanted you to be at peace. I keep telling myself over and over that God might have let you stay longer, but would we have been there with you? Knowing you passed peacefully has been a saving grace for me. Still, I miss the silly, sassy, outspoken, loving, caring, tireless Dar ~ the one and only. A piece of me died with you that day...we were sidekicks for so many years. Nanni and I have become much closer as we struggle with our grief. I never shy away from talking about you, but it is refreshing to talk and reminisce with her because "we're on the same page". Some think we should be "over it" by now ~ but the ones who truly know what you meant to us "get it". I will never stop missing you and I certainly will never forget you... XOXOXO "B

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