Happy 64th heavenly birthday dad…

In honor of your bday, we’re celebrating as usual.

Here is a poem :

My Fathers Eyes
In my eyes you will find my fathers eyes.
Where he lives on in me and will never die.

Capable of seeing deeply into people, patient, loving and kind.

Stubborn, direct and doing it your way you will also find.

As a little girl I remember the fun around our house.
At 5 my dreams were shattered as you broke the vows.

Flying through a car window, three heart attacks and more you beat death so many times before.

Birthday shopping sprees at toys r us, Henry’s icecream trips and when with you I always felt secure.

Even when you didn’t have alot, I recall you trying your best.
No cable, entertaining us with Bob Ross’s best.

You lost your legs at age 35 and I saw you facing all your hardest times.
This only fueled you to show everyone what you could do, that you weren’t a victim and you were going to be fine.

I admired you, gardening, snowplowing and finding a way.
Even teaching me how to change a tire, camping and enjoying life in your ways to play.

You would pick up every call, showed up at the times I needed you the most.

Even at my graduation when I had to give a speech, you were scared of what others would think. I was proud of my dad even wheelchair bound. You started contemplating life and all the choices that made you rethink.

As you aged I saw you humbling, and reflecting on life. Your mind often thinking big, even when you didn’t speak on your opinions you called and talked to people who made you feel safe to discuss thoughts larger than life.

I’ll always appreciate the way you helped me with Angie and treated her like a delicate doll.
Only trusting her with gram, Debbie and holl.

I always knew your time would be cut short.
So mending our connection was a must on my heart.

Giving me advice, guidance and your views helped me grow so much.
Our time together at the end was the missing hugs and touch.

I learned life through your eyes.
Your struggles, fun and internal cries.

You live on inside of me and I carry on your legacy.

In my fathers eyes.

I love you dad. I’ll keep making you proud. You keep protecting and guiding me and the kids.

We love you!!!!
-Your family-

Happy heavenly 63rd birthday, your soul is eternal. Thankful for our connection bond and communication from spirit. Proud to call you my dad.

Dad, 5 years ago today at this time I was blessed enough to be by your side. You haven’t left my side since. Thank you for your eternal protection, blessings and unconditional love.

Continue to guide me in the lords plans for me as I surrendered years ago. The peace you made with life and all our nightly talks have not been forgotten. I keep you alive and see the signs daily.

Your first love as a child and your only daughter,

Ashlee Adele Arberger

Steven, Angelina & Isabella love you unconditionally

Happy 62nd birthday Dad!

Thank you for always being with me each day. For all the protection and things you have done for me from the heavens above.

Boy you were right on some of your last words to me.

Not a day goes by when I don’t feel you with me. Enjoy the beauty and peace, heaven has to offer. Give mom a hug and a kiss from me.

Ps- the dream you brought me was a good heads up and yes I will continue to call Steven when I’m unsure of how to cook something. He’s the pro!

Happy 61st Birthday Dad. I am so blessed to be able to connect with you daily. Angie and I miss your physical loss, but knowing our souls will reunite in beautiful heaven keeps me going.
We love you, keep shining down your love onto all that love you and miss you. Thanks for the wake up at 3:33 to remind me you are here with me everyday.

Your third year memorial service was PERFECT✨
Your pear tree is growing beautiful and the plaque is AMAZING. The people I had with me and on from long distance watching were the people you would have wanted there.

I am blessed to be able to communicate and feel you with me so often. I hope the others you loved are able to feel and sense that as well.
I know your beyond happy about your get together yesterday. I know you wished more of the people you loved could just get along and come together.

I love you dad and thanks for watching over protecting your family, Steven, Angelina, Isabella, Steven and I.

Happy Birthday Dad.... to a humble man it was just another day. I’m sure you will be enjoying Red lobster with Aunt Cathy, George and I ❣️Love ya

Happy Birthday Dad just another day to you. With all this snow you would have snow plowed 4 times by now to have every inch of snow out of the drive way perfectly done. You didn’t let anything stop you despite your amputations. When things get hard I will find a way because you did with everything♥️ I love you and keep watching over your family.

Even though it’s been 365 days I relive every moment month to month that you went away
At this time I had just arrived at work for my shift they say it gets better but is that just a myth?
2:00 in the morning I received my last call from you, it was then I realized by your voice that may be the day I never see those eyes so blue
Night shift finished and off of work to change my clothes and come take care of my priority patient
Nervous that each day might be our last I had to face it
You told me you didn’t feel good as I reached for my stomach that felt so bad
With a turn of my head and within seconds I was screaming Dad!
The nurse in me knew what was happening but the daughter was so saddened
I held your hand until it turned cold and pale throughout it all I was always there, I couldn’t bail
A favor you never asked, but like you were always there for others I in return had to have your back
I worried you were in pain wanting to know that you didn’t suffer
Now your with uncle Eddie and Raymond along with your mother
I know heaven is a much better place with no evil and angels that dance with grace
It doesn’t make it easier or better if only I could call you or write you a letter.....

Happy Birthday Dad! Even though your birthday was always just another day to you, I miss you a little more this day. You know they were a big deal to me so I will celebrate in honor of you. Keep shining over us with your presence. I am so thankful to have my Aunts and Nancy to help me through these hard days. I love ya dad ..... Happy Birthday :(

Reliving minute to minute details of this day never goes away..... Please continue to watch over all of us who miss you so much. Love ya Dad...

If there is one thing that never fails me is that, time passes far to quick.... 30 days a month I havnt talked to you

Sitting here at work on my birthday missing you more then ever. I cant pick up the phone and call you whenever I want anymore. Every night at work at 3am I reminisce to when you called me last..... Even though you are not physically with me on my birthday, I know you are with me... keep sending me the signs. XoXo

Every morning I start out bravely with a gallant smile. But I grieve and
shed wild tears on you passing away. I know you would want us to live
on and do all things the same. I know you would want us to fill each
waking hour in a useful ways. You would want us to reach out our hands
to comfort someone. I will never, never be afraid to die because I know
you are waiting for me in the sky. I will hold you near and dear to my
heart always. Your loving sister, Deborah

Happy Fathers Day DAD! wearing your shirt me and the kids got you today. Going to that beautiful park we talked about and eating the oxtails and collard greens you wanted but didnt get to eat :) (yes my father enjoyed soul food as much as I do)

Thousand of kisses to the sky today!

you were one of my best friends i just we seen each other more. you were always there for me and my kids I love you xoxo rest in peace

I love you so much Dad. I hope I made you proud and took care of things the way you wanted them! I am grateful and blessed for the time that I had with you. Being by your side was a blessing and the hardest thing I've had to do. ..."There was no true good bye because I will see you later!" I love you!!!! XoXoX

Theres so much i didnt get to say thank you for. But i know that you know how much you meant to this family...you kept as all a little saner. Thank you for being my mothers best friends and always putting her in her place and telling her the truth. Thank you for the many childhood camping memories and getting me that first job. Thank you for my best friend.