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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, David Whittemore, 58 years old, born on February 5, 1957, and passed away on August 12, 2015. We will remember him forever.
August 12, 2019
August 12, 2019
David, today marks the 4 year anniversary of your tragic and unfortunate passing. With each and every one of these years, the pain and sorrow that I feel remains constant, if not amplified. No person should ever have to endure the suffering you dealt with on a daily basis without support, love and encouragement. I wish we all would have known what you were experiencing so we could have acted accordingly. Tragically, you were no longer capable of expressing the adverse effects you were experiencing and the constant acceleration of these confusing symptoms. I know I personally misinterpreted these signs rather than delving into the actual cause in an effort to help you. Hopefully, this is a lesson learned (albeit catastrophic) and one that each of us can draw upon as we continue to live our lives. As I pen this tribute today, I am thankful that you'll have another family member alongside you in Uncle Clarence. I will rest easier knowing that you'll be surrounded by loving, supportive members of your family. David, rest in peace and may God be with you. Love, your brother.   
February 5, 2019
February 5, 2019
Happy 62nd Birthday David. You are missed and thought of often.
With the dawning of each new year, I find myself missing you, my only sibling, on a daily basis. Everyday I live with the regret of not being present during your time of need. In retrospect, I can only hope that my prayers would have been answered allowing me to protect you from the myriad evils you encountered on a daily basis. Although there were many people that loved you and were extremely concerned with your well being, they were unable to shield you from the ones that would do you harm. This should have been my responsibility and for this transgression, I must live my life in sorrow and shame for which I am eternally sorry.
David, may God bless you while allowing you to live a happy and stress free existence.
Happy Birthday. I love you.
February 10, 2017
February 10, 2017
Just got a chance to post remembering Dave. This is a nice website to keep a memory alive. David and John and their mom and dad were such great neighbors. It is such an honor to know this family. Now in 2017 I think of so many people like David who have passed before us. 
Trust in Jesus for the forgiveness of sins and look forward to what will come.
February 5, 2017
February 5, 2017
Today, February 5th, would have been my brother's 60th birthday. For most of us, as the years continue to pass, memories tend to fade away. However, for me personally, the memory of my younger brother burns even more intensely. I will forever reflect on the days of our youth and the bond we shared. Having a sibling, regardless of age, can be a challenge, yet it can also be one of life's true blessings. I miss my brother.

David, rest in peace and may God bless you.
August 9, 2016
August 9, 2016
Wow! It's been one year. I have enjoyed reading the tributes about David and all the lives that intertwined with his. He is fondly remembered.
August 4, 2016
August 4, 2016
August the 4th. Been a year. One year. It's still painful for me to think that Dave is no longer with us. Pain that's a bit less pointed and sharp, dulled a bit by the passing of time but pain nonetheless. He will forever remain in my thoughts and will be remembered always.
 I often reflect on the times Dave an I had. All those spaghetti dinners with Uncle. Playing Frisbee in the mall parking lot. Restaurants on Saturdays. The Red Tavern in Methuen and the Backstreets in Andover were among his favorites. Playing pinball at the Dream Machine in the Methuen Mall. Hopping in the Pinto and getting lost afterward. We would get lost all over eastern New England. On one occasion we were riding around eastern Massachusetts. We arrived at the ocean. We stopped and asked a young lady "Is this Salisbury beach?" She pointed north and said "Way over there. This is Cape Ann.". (Q. How do you get to Cape Ann? A. You take a left in Bradford....). The hours jammin' out tunes on the Nikko. The chess games we played when he visited us in New Jersey. All those times have slipped into the past. So many memories... too many to list and certainly none to be forgotten.
 I never had a brother, but if I did I like to think he'd be a lot like Dave. I am confident that Dave and I will meet again one day.
 I'll bring the Frisbee and Dave will bring the music. We'll have a dish of spaghetti, put on some old T. Rex and maybe raise a glass... to wind and cars and people of the past.
   Rest in peace Dave. Rest in peace.
February 6, 2016
February 6, 2016
In memory of my brother on what would have been his 59th birthday, May you experience all the love, blessings and eternal life you so richly deserve. You are missed. God bless you.
February 5, 2016
February 5, 2016
Remembering David on his birthday. His is sorely missed and may all of you who hold such dear memories of him be greatly blessed by Jesus.
September 19, 2015
September 19, 2015
I am the New Jersey cousin!  I remember growing up with David in Mass. When the Blodgetts visited the Whittemores, I was the only girl. I spent most visits in Auntie Pauline's brown and orange kitchen helping to make baked beans and chocolate chip cookies. The boys played war with little plastic men and tanks that they shot with small paper wads from homemade sling shots!
One day, I got to play!! Turns out that I was pretty good at that and the boys wished that I would stay in the kitchen!
We moved to NJ when I was 9 years old. I met up with David at family gatherings over the years and stayed in touch through the single guys in the family .
My brother, John, and Uncle Clar hung out with David often. They would think of me and call routinely. David was always upbeat and laughing . He loved his son and was so proud of him!
We grieve his death but know that he is in a better place with those that have gone before him! We know that he is enjoying the beauty and peace that is heaven!
God bless the Whittemore family and give you peace that passes understanding at this difficult time!
Love to all,
Cathy Edson
September 19, 2015
September 19, 2015
On behalf of my brother David, I want to thank everyone for your kind words and prayers. I was deeply humbled by the number of you that invested your time to attend David's memorial service yesterday. I know I speak for my brother when I say he would have been immensely proud and overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and affection. It meant a great deal to me and to the rest of his extended family. Thank you.

I also want to express my sincere gratitude to all of you that have left tributes and stories on this site. The thoughtfulness of your comments and remembrances will afford his family an opportunity to revisit David's life and reflect on his many friendships cultivated over the years.

Lastly, I want to extend my thanks for the beautiful flowers that were brought to the cemetery to adorn my brother's grave. I wish I had an opportunity to thank each one of you individually as words cannot convey my true appreciation.

Please accept my heartfelt thanks, I will be eternally grateful.

God Bless You David. I love you.
September 18, 2015
September 18, 2015
We were also shocked to hear of your passing Dave. It seems so unreal to know your no longer next door. We appreciate all the help you gave us, the conversations, and your friendship, and for playing the good old rock & roll. Thank you for putting up with Cookie and Milo, Milo will miss the treats and talks from you. Thank You Dave for sharing your families stories of one of your family members being in the Marine Corps you knowing my daughter was a Marine it really helped me trying to adjust to it. Dave I really wish I could attend your memorial tomorrow unfortunate for me I have to work Like your Mom Dave I have to be up bright and early to cook for the children at school. Dave your a great man and will always be forever in bedded in my memories Thank You for your kindness. Our thought prayers are with your family Dave as well as you. Thank you Dave, God Bless
September 16, 2015
September 16, 2015
My cousin David was five years older than me so he was the first one to get a stereo for his bedroom and then a stereo in his first car. This had a profound effect on me when it was my turn to choose both. Born of the anticipation of being my own sound technician and collecting my own vinyl library of bliss. This is what David taught me…

The stereo must be a Pioneer.
The equalizer is the MOST important feature.
The balance of treble and bass create the ultimate experience.
The lights on the stereo created by the sound waves should be the only light in the room.
NO distractions.

Great metaphor for life!

David was Pink Floyd, Rush, and The Who. I was Led Zeppelin, Van Halen, and Aerosmith but our passion was the same as was our desire to share that passion with all who would listen.
I remember David as always being happy, always ready to engage in conversation, kind, and wanting to befriend everyone. We should all be so generous.

Spin your favorite vinyl.
Drop the needle slowly in the groove.
Place your headphones securely until you hear your beating heart.
Turn up the volume!

This is where David lives.
September 16, 2015
September 16, 2015
Reading the story about your life really crushed my heart. Now, everything that didn't make sense before makes sense and all those questions have been answered.
I wish I knew...It's useless to say this now, but I could have been more patient, more understanding and more supportive to you. With you trying your best to live a "normal" life, taking care of Mom, our separation and trying so hardly to spend quality time with your son Keith, this was quite a challenge. Keith Evan and I are so proud of you! I know it's too late but I want to salute you, David, for doing a great job in spite of everything. You are a great man! You will always be in my heart because in there...you're still alive. I will always remember the great times we shared together. You will greatly missed!

Rest in peace Dave! I am glad you're HOME. Till we meet again...

We love you Dad.

See You Again- Wiz Khalifa ( Keith played this song in the car last week)
September 15, 2015
September 15, 2015
Dear John. I am so sad and sorry to hear about your brother David. I have so many fond memories of the Whittemore family growing up. David was such a gentle and kind person and he took great care of your mom. I hope you can take some measure of comfort that he is at peace and with her once again. Love to you and your family and to Keith during this difficult time
September 15, 2015
September 15, 2015
I am so sorry to hear of David's passing. I just saw it today in the Eagle Tribune. He grew up near my family. In recent years he use to go to church with my wife and children. I would pick him up at his house and he would show me pictures of his son that he was so proud of. He talked a lot about his brother John and memories of his mom and dad. He will be sorely missed.
September 15, 2015
September 15, 2015
David was my cousin, he spent many Sunday's and Holiday's with us. He was always very kind and appreciative. We had a lot of happy memories of David at my sons birthday parties. He especially loved when we had rented horses and he got to ride them. He loved going to Europe with Uncle Clar and also traveled with us to Cananda for my brothers wedding. He spent many Saturdays in Boston with Uncle Clar and John Blodgett, and enjoyed many lunches out with Uncle Clar. He always had a picture of Keith, his son, to show anyone who asked. When he smiled, he reminded me of His dad ,Uncle Al, they had the same smile and laugh.
Rest in Peace David.
Love,
Larry, Cheryl, Larry IV and Rob Stahley
September 15, 2015
September 15, 2015
I was very much saddened to read of David's passing. I grew up nearby and was always welcome at Whittemore household. David was kind hearted and always treated me with much respect and friendliness. He was a very proud person and excited to talk about what was going on (especially regarding his job at Arlington Trust, his son, his car, and his brother and Mom). I surely wish I had stopped by in recent years to just say Hi.  He's now at peace in heaven. God Bless you David, you will always be remembered fondly.
September 15, 2015
September 15, 2015
David, I remember you as always smiling. You had a great sense of humor and your laughter was infectious. When I think of you I think of how friendly you always were when we came to your house (every Sunday!) and how happy you always seemed to see us. You were so welcoming. We had a lot of fun together, all of us as kids - playing pranks on the adults and making tape recordings.

I'm sorry you are no longer here but I'm sure that your spirit is safe with family and friends and that you are still smiling. With love, Nancy
September 14, 2015
September 14, 2015
Rest in peace my old friend Dave!!! To the old times playing frisbee and travelling around in your Pinto with my best friend and your cousin John! You will be greatly missed and remembered for your kind heart and the several times you came to my home for dinner. Wish we could have got together more often!
September 14, 2015
September 14, 2015
Thanks for all the memories, Dave.
We had a lot of good times together.

Thanks for being there when I needed it most.
Above all, thanks for being a wonderful Cousin.



You are greatly missed.
September 14, 2015
September 14, 2015
Dad, you will always be remembered forever in my heart. And you always truly be missed. I will always remember the day when you slightly taught me how to drive.
September 13, 2015
September 13, 2015
Dear John,

Although we have never met, I was quite shocked to hear of Dave's passing. He has been my neighbor for the last 14 years and will be greatly missed.
 
He was always very kind to me and my family....always offering to help. On several occasions he had pruned & trimmed bushes and helped with clean up.  He also introduced me to his son whose name escapes me now. I offered him & his son the use of the pool, however, he never took me up on it.

I was looking forward to meeting you, It is with regret that I will not be able to attend the service on the 18th as I do work full time and have several meetings on that day.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. 

May God Bless you.
Desiree
September 13, 2015
September 13, 2015
Those we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
September 11, 2015
September 11, 2015
I've known David since he was a very little boy with red hair. I lived nearby and when my husband was called into the service Dave's mother (my sister) Pauline graciously let me sleep there on the nights I didn't want to be alone.

David was a sweet and happy child growing up. Later on he became the sole caretaker of his mother and life became more difficult. He did the best he could in difficult times.

David and I shared a love of music enjoying favorite popular groups of musicians. He enjoyed a lot of music not typical of his age group proving he reached far beyond the "top ten." Les Elgart was an orchestra we both enjoyed which showed his wide interest of musical tastes.

These a re the memories that will keep him close in thought.
September 10, 2015
September 10, 2015
We will be holding a brief memorial for David at the Elmwood Cemetery in Methuen on Friday, September 18th at 11:00 A.M. All are welcome.

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August 12, 2019
August 12, 2019
David, today marks the 4 year anniversary of your tragic and unfortunate passing. With each and every one of these years, the pain and sorrow that I feel remains constant, if not amplified. No person should ever have to endure the suffering you dealt with on a daily basis without support, love and encouragement. I wish we all would have known what you were experiencing so we could have acted accordingly. Tragically, you were no longer capable of expressing the adverse effects you were experiencing and the constant acceleration of these confusing symptoms. I know I personally misinterpreted these signs rather than delving into the actual cause in an effort to help you. Hopefully, this is a lesson learned (albeit catastrophic) and one that each of us can draw upon as we continue to live our lives. As I pen this tribute today, I am thankful that you'll have another family member alongside you in Uncle Clarence. I will rest easier knowing that you'll be surrounded by loving, supportive members of your family. David, rest in peace and may God be with you. Love, your brother.   
February 5, 2019
February 5, 2019
Happy 62nd Birthday David. You are missed and thought of often.
With the dawning of each new year, I find myself missing you, my only sibling, on a daily basis. Everyday I live with the regret of not being present during your time of need. In retrospect, I can only hope that my prayers would have been answered allowing me to protect you from the myriad evils you encountered on a daily basis. Although there were many people that loved you and were extremely concerned with your well being, they were unable to shield you from the ones that would do you harm. This should have been my responsibility and for this transgression, I must live my life in sorrow and shame for which I am eternally sorry.
David, may God bless you while allowing you to live a happy and stress free existence.
Happy Birthday. I love you.
February 10, 2017
February 10, 2017
Just got a chance to post remembering Dave. This is a nice website to keep a memory alive. David and John and their mom and dad were such great neighbors. It is such an honor to know this family. Now in 2017 I think of so many people like David who have passed before us. 
Trust in Jesus for the forgiveness of sins and look forward to what will come.
Recent stories
September 18, 2015

I have know David for many years.  We had many fun times with him, his Mom Pauline, our friend Mary and her 4 children and then latter my husband Brian.
We went to Benson's Animal Farm one time.  We had many laughs playing Trivial Pursuit with other friends, the Naylors.  David had many versions of this game.
Brian and David went to a number of Patriots football games at the courtesy of his brother who gave him the tickets. Yes, he did love music very much.  It was an escape for him.  We went to an Eric Clapton concert with him.  Brian and he went to a Jethro Tull concert as well.  He had been attending the church we belong to: it was very nice to see him there. He brought his cousin John and once he brought his son to church.  We were very surprised to hear of his passing.  Our sympathy goes out to the family.

Brian & Lillian McGinty

In Remembrance of My Brother

September 10, 2015

My brother, David Evan Whittemore, five years my junior, was a kind and compassionate person. Unfortunately, life was not nearly as gracious to him. David, for myriad reasons, was always misunderstood. His life was wrought with challenges. Yet, as his brother I knew and appreciated his love and kindness.

David was a lifelong resident of Methuen; it was the only home he ever knew. He married and had a son, one he dearly loved and who provided him with a sense of immense pride. Meanwhile, I had moved to California, married and had two children of my own. Regrettably, my children never had the opportunity to know David as their uncle.

As David proceeded down his life's path, it began to become apparent to those who interacted with him that there was something terribly amiss. His personality, vibrant and gregarious as a child, had suddenly become volatile and caused him to lash out at those trying to support and comfort him. None of us realized the extent to which he was struggling. It was not until very late in his life, unbeknownst to us and far too late, that he, like many others, was suffering from mental health related issues. This ailment/disease afflicts millions, yet for those of us fortunate enough to escape its hold, we lack the knowledge and, in many cases, the courage to address the issue head-on. As such, my brother was forced to face this harsh reality and its associated repercussions by himself. I cannot begin to imagine the courage and fortitude it required on his part to deal with these challenges on a daily basis while also trying to live a "normal" life. I, for one, would not have been able to endure the pain. In acknowledging my own inability to persevere and adapt, I have no doubt that David was attacking these challenges to the best of his ability and far more effectively than most. This has become evident as I begin to tend to his personal affairs. In as much, I am amazed at his strength and immense desire to succeed.

As I pay tribute to my brother, I'd like us all to reflect on his many positive traits and passions. One that immediately comes to mind is his love of music and its cathartic affect helping him through troubled times. Let us pause for a moment of reflection to recall a song that touches our hearts and represents a meaningful moment in our respective lives. While replaying the melody and lyrics in our minds, please allow a smile to crease your lips and wish my brother a fond farewell.

In closing, I pray to God that David takes his rightful place in Heaven and that he will realize the comfort and peace he was denied in life, but so richly deserves now. I know that our mother is anxiously awaiting his arrival and will greet him with open arms and undying love.

God Bless You David. 

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