- 41 years old
- Date of birth: Dec 26, 1967
- Date of passing: Aug 10, 2009
David was born December 26, 1967, in Monmouth County, NJ. He was a United States Army and National Guard veteran and was employed by the N.C. Department of Transportation. The greatest joy of his life was his family, especially his two sons. He believed in his country and was proud to serve in the military.
He is survived by sons, Taylor James Van Lew and David Alex Van Lew; mother and step-father, Jane F. McKenney Shinn of Ohio and Nelson Shinn of Alabama; father, David Allan Van Lew, Sr. of New Jersey.; brothers, Christopher J. Lomauro of New York, Sean P. Van Lew of New Jersey and Theodore N. Shinn, III, of Alabama; and sister, Natalie F. Shinn Dubeansky, of Ohio.
A LETTER FROM HEAVEN"
My Dearest Family,
Some things I'd like to say
but first of all to let you know
that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from Heaven
where I dwell with God above
where there's no more tears or
sadness, there is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy
just because I'm out of sight,
remember that I'm with you
every morning, noon and night.
That night I had to leave you
when my life on Earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me
and He said "I welcome you.
"It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
as for your loving family
they'll join you later on."
Then God gave me a list of things
He wished for me to do,
and foremost on that list of mine
is to watch and care for you.
And I will be beside you
every day and week and year,
and when you're sad,
I'm standing there
to wipe away the tear.
And when you lie in bed at night,
the days chores all put right,
God and I are closest to you
in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on Earth
and all those loving years,
because you're only human
they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry,
it does relieve the pain,
and remember there would be no flowers,
unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you
of all that God has planned,
but if I were to tell you,
you wouldn't understand.
And one thing is for certain,
though my life on Earth is o'er.
I feel as close to you now
as I always was before.
To all my many friends,
trust God knows what is best.
I'm still not far away from you,
I'm just beyond the crest.
When you are walking
down the street
and you've got me on your mind,
I'm walking in your footsteps
only half a step behind.
And when you feel the gentle breeze
or the wind upon your face,
that's me giving you a great big hug
or just a soft embrace.
And when it's time for you to go
from that body to be free,
remember you're not going,
you are coming here to me.
And I will always love you
in that land way up above.
I'll be in touch again soon.
P.S. God sends His Love
"Lisa and I were just reminiscing the other day about when we were all teenagers. I couldn't help but smile. We all had some great times together. We all miss you and think of you often. You touched our hearts and will forever have a piece of them. God bless."
"Love you so much Dave! 7 years today. I miss you, and love you. Came across the picture recently of us taken outside the Armory in Freehold. "The 3rd Herd" You always looked good in your uniform bro. .
Lol, let someone mess around and scuff the spit shine and see what happened. I remember you got so mad at me on drill that weekend, cause you and Gresh were sleeping inside the 113, and I opened up on you guys from the back ramp with the M60. OMG How loud was that? You chasing me through the woods in your socks...cursing up a storm. Lol....I miss you man. Love you forever, and a day big brother....Until we meet again in Valhalla."
"I love you bro. This life is so full of twists and turns, and peaks and valleys. Situations that I am not smart enough to understand, and those that I've created. I don't believe in regrets, as they are a waste of time and energy. "It is, what it is.." Is a phrase that has become my mantra. My one and only regret, is that I did not answer the phone that day you called. One day, we are going to have that conversation. I love you Diamond Dave. I miss you brother."
I miss you so......"
"5 Years... I love you man. I miss you.
I often think about the woman you were living with and what she is doing now. I often think about how as a licensed medical professional in the state of North Carolina, she would be more concerned with changing your shirt before the paramedics arrived, rather than perform basic life saving measures. She told me it was because your shirt was wet, and she didn't want you to catch cold....In August...in North Carolina?? it didn't make sense to the paramedics either... Unfortunately whatever evidence was on your shirt that she changed, was long gone. Sure wish the Sheriffs deputy's would have been able to collect that shirt and process it for evidence.. Karma.... I truly believe that we reap what we sow,,,,, I am holding fast to that. I love you brother."
"Happy Birthday Dave. You'd be 46, with a big ole hole in your natural! I love you. Steelers won, but missed the playoffs. Refs blew 2 huge calls in the KC game that would have gotten us in. I can hear you complaining about the calls now....
Not many days go by where I do not think about you. If one does, I feel horrible that I could forget to think about you....does that make sense? Kids are getting big bro. I know you see them... Every time Sean Jr. smiles, I see you...I love you..I miss you."
"I miss you David Alan VanLew. When I look at my sons I see you. I see your smile, I see your curious look in my youngest. I see your determined look in my oldest. I see your happiness in both of them. I miss your smile. You weren't perfect Dave, but you were the most real , loving person I know. You loved completely. Steelers are on tonight."
"3 years. I am waiting for the call Dave. I promise Ill answer the phone. I promise."
"I miss you Dave...No matter where you were, and no matter what you were doing , if someone in your family needed you, you were always there. I love you."
"I miss you bro. We had so many good times growing up. We always laugh when we talk about you. you were a funny guy! If i can take one thing from you, Its that "god has a plan for us all". You always told me that and you always believed it. Peace be with you"
"Struggling immensely this holiday season without you Dave......."
"Happy Birthday Dave..........."
"I remember when we were in the flag football league, and our new jerseys came and on the back they all read Lomauro, I apologized to you guys (David & Sean), and David replied in front of ther whole team "Bro, its ok we are Lomauro's too. Brother I miss you."
"Dear Sweet "Jane" ... sitting here w/mom looking at old pics when mom found David's memorial program. I'm thankful I was able to spend time w/him ... what a fun guy! And a great smile! He is truly missed!"
"The passing of time is so inadequate as a comfort, but all we have. I miss you so much brother. It is ironic that the little things remind me of you. I smelled the ocean on the wind today, and it reminded me of the time that we got so sunburned at point pleasant as kids. I lov"
"My dear David...how my heart weeps with missing you.. I know you are now experiencing what you have always longed for...absolute, complete, honest and pure love.That knowing is the only thing that makes your absence bearable. I love you son and long to be with you again."
Can't believe two years have gone by since you went to be with the Lord. You are truly missed!!"
I love and miss you. I would do anything to bring you back."
"I close my eyes late at night and its like your there Dave. Remembering things we done together as brothers. The precious special memories that only we have, and that nobody can take away.I hope I will see you again up yonder, cuz I know your there."
"You would have turned 43 on the 26th...Happy Birthday brother! Time softens the pain some, but the hole in our lives can never be filled. I love you Diamond Dave."
"Happy Birthday Dave...luv u 0:)"
"Happy Birthday David...I love and miss you very much! You are so special to me. Love, Aunt Jennie"
"Dave, You were and always will be remembered as a wonderful man. And for those of you who don't concur, you knew him not, and can kiss my ass!"
"Mom called Tyler a peanut head yesterday...i had a visual of you gritting your teeth, taking his head in your hands and saying, 'look at this little peanut head'....God gave us the gift of memory not so we would be sad, but to keep our loved ones who passed on, alive in our hearts and to remember how precious are our souls and the life we bring to them. Now, if I could only stop being sad."
"Still in denial Dave, I miss you so very much. My best friend is gone........"
"I love you brother! I heard Counting Crows "Rain King" the other day and it reminded me of you. I miss you, and have not forgotten...."
"I love you dad I miss you so much and i think about you every day"
"My dearest David....Today is yesterday and yesterday is today.I may not be able to feel your face, but I feel your love and you now know the extent of mine for you! Thank you son for the joy you have given"
"I love you and miss you Dave. Nobody can hurt you anymore Brother."
"Exactly 365 days has passed. Not one of them has gone gone by without the hole in my heart seeping at the recollection of what was, what is, and what could have been. I love you brother."
"I love you bro, I miss you so much."
"Remember when we talked about getting a bass boat and naming it "three busters"...... how we laughed."
"How can it be that you are not here with us?? God...I miss you man! Love, Sheen"
"I miss you Diamond Dave. I love you!"
"Came to see you in the photos again today Dave. Don't want to feel sad anymore but can't help it. Words can't describe how much I miss you. We all do."
"Dave, You would have called me today and said "What up Seth, It's your Birfday It's your Birfday"
"In omnia paratus (IN ALL THINGS PREPARED)"
"I love you bro. I miss you so much."
"I miss you brother. I love you."
"Thought I saw you today...sometimes reality really sucks!"
No one could ever take your place. My heart is so heavy today. I miss you Brother."
"Happy Belated Easter bro! I love you!
"I miss you Brother.....I thought it would get easier but its not, seems like its getting harder. I miss us taliking, hanging out...everything about you Dave I miss."
"I was thinking of you today. I love you David."
"Not sure exactly why, but the last few days have been extremely tough. Hoping this will make me feel better. I miss you brother. Chris and I have lost our wingman. Fly high brother!"
"My deepest condolences to David's family."
"I don't come here often,because I do not want to be reminded of the pain that my heart feels. The void in my heart can never be filled. I love you brother."
"Happy Birthday cuz, luv you! 0:)"
Merry Xmas and Happy Birthday! This is probably one of the hardest day for your family! Being without you, you will be always be missed!"
"Dave thanks for always encouraging me and loving me.I wanted to let you know today I got the job!Dave you are a big reason why I did. You always believed in me, even when I didn't."
"You had one of the biggest hearts and brightest smiles. You will forever be loved and missed cuz. Love u! 0:)"
"A large piece of my heart has forever been ripped out because you were taken. My David I miss you so, and though i will never understand why you left, instead of me, I await our being together."
"Dave, you were a wonderful brother and I miss you so very much. A piece of my heart has been left empty and dark, where it once was filled with you shining bright."
"My life has been forever changed. My heart is broken, I miss you Brother. I love you, and I am sorry if I didnt tell you enough."
"May God be with you! You are truly missed!"
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