Dean Milton Dellinger
  • 85 years old
  • Date of birth: Feb 12, 1929
  • Place of birth:
    DeKalb, Illinois, United States
  • Date of passing: May 30, 2014
  • Place of passing:
    Rialto, California, United States
Let the memories of Dean the musician, Dean the teacher, and Dean the father, grandfather, great-grandfather, husband, and friend be with us all forever

This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved father, Dean Dellinger, born on   February 12, 1929 and passed away at 85, on May 30, 2014. We will love and treasure him forever.

Memorial Service for DEAN MILTON DELLINGER was held on
July 12, 2014 at Grace Evangelical Lutheran Church, in Rialto, CA.

In honor of Dean's numerous years of teaching music from elementary school to college level, there was a mini-concert of a brass quartet with the memorial service immediately following. A reception followed with a light lunch.

Inurnment and committal service for
BARBARA LOU & DEAN MILTON DELLINGER was held on July 13, 2014 at 
Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church, Lake Arrowhead, CA.

Barbara and Dean are together again for their eternal heavenly life.

The Family thanks all of the friends and family who attended the services, your presence made them both wonderful, joyous, touching and memorable events. It is so fitting that both Mom and Dad's  journey has ended where they spent so much of their love and life!

In lieu of flowers the family requests that all donations be directed to Grace Lutheran Church - Dellinger Memorial

Sister Denice created the following "PhotoShow" of Dad's Life, you can view
by clicking on this link==>

Sister Denice joined mom & dad in paradise yesterday 12/19/2014, after a long, valiant, and courageous fight with lung cancer.

The Family requests that you please share your special photo memories of Dean in your lives! Kindly compress the photos for "Web Page" to maximize the web sites interactive speed. Also please add your thoughts and memories for all to share and enjoy!

As you visit this site please enjoy some of the music Dean made possible all his life!

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Becky Huskey on 31st May 2017

"I can't believe it's been 3 years since you have been gone from us. I love you so Daddy and think of you so often fondly. Once again, thanks for the love and guidance you always gave us. Hugs! Miss you so. Bec"

This tribute was added by Allan Dellinger on 31st May 2017

"Dad we sure do miss you and Love you more every day. Just had some good times reminiscing with Sally, grand daughter Alissa and Julie Friday evening! Thanks for the memories!"

This tribute was added by Barbara Dellinger on 30th May 2017

"Think of you often, miss you always.
Love you, Barb"

This tribute was added by Becky Huskey on 12th February 2017

"Oh how I miss you Daddy. We miss you all;  Momma, Jon, Ken, Denice and your smiling face. Thank you for your years of love and guidance. You're always in my heart!"

This tribute was added by Joanne Varino on 30th May 2016

"I still remember Dean as my mother Jean Varino played bass and he played the piano. She worked with him for many years and I miss my mother dearly as you miss your father. My mother Jean Varino passed away in 1992. My mother and Dean made wonderful music together and I was lucky to see them perform once. God bless your family. Sincerely Joanne Varino"

This tribute was added by Becky Huskey on 13th February 2016

"Dear Daddy
Miss you so much. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I miss our walks, holding hands, through your park. I miss being able to talk "shop"-"teaching music stories" and complaining about the politics involved. Hee Hee. You were the best Daddy and such a mentor for so many. Love you always!"

This tribute was added by Barbara Dellinger on 13th February 2016

"Happy heavenly birthday, Dad."

This tribute was added by James Newman on 19th July 2015

"Mr. Dellinger was a bright light and made students comfortable
I am saddened to know about his passing
Jim Newman, Rim High Class of 1966"

This tribute was added by Dolores Smith on 6th June 2015

"Memories are forever & I know your family & everyone cherish each and every memory - you are missed"

This tribute was added by Becky Huskey on 2nd June 2015

"How proud we are of our Daddy. This Memorial Scholarship is truly special and just another way to keep Dad's love of music and dedication alive. How wonderful his memory will help train more young musicians."

This tribute was added by Penny Mercer on 31st May 2015

"What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful man!  He would be so happy to have this memorial scholarship in his name as  his love for music was so evident his whole life!  A degree in Music and then teaching music to all ages from kids to adults for over 30 years.  He dedicated his life to music by singing and playing for so many groups whether it was recitals, gigs, or just for family and friends.  He had a true passion for his music.  Now this scholarship will enable another person to learn to love it as much as he did.  Love and Miss  you Uncle Dean"

This tribute was added by Allan Dellinger on 31st May 2015

"Dear Dad, this has been the toughest year of my life, without you being here in body. I miss your laugh, your smile, your care and the love you always gave in so many ways!

Tomorrow we have another Big Band concert, the last this year, at Mt. San Jacinto college.
Well Dad, I guess you are just going to keep "living and giving" on in a way, because they have established and are announcing the "Dean Dellinger Memorial Scholarship"!

I know you would have been deeply humbled and very honored! WE ARE ALSO!"

This tribute was added by Kim Franzen on 30th May 2015


This tribute was added by Cindy Castellano on 30th May 2015

"Your Dad & Mom were so sweet & loving people to me and my family. I miss and love them"

This tribute was added by Debbie Schwartz on 30th May 2015

"He was such a sweet and very talented man!  Loved your dad!  Will always remember the great concerts he did at Mt. San Jacinto. Miss him very much!"

This tribute was added by Barbara Dellinger on 30th May 2015

"Can't believe it's already been one year, Dad.  Still see your smiling face.  Miss you and Mom and Denice so much."

This tribute was added by Lillian T Schlentz on 15th February 2015

"Dean will always be remembered here at Lake Park Soboba Springs.  He was a special, kind man and could sing up a storm entertaining all of us.  Barbara, his wife played bridge with many of us and she is missed as well.  Losing someone is difficult but at least they are together and will be waiting for many of us when we go  Thanks so much for sharing with so many of us.  Lots of LOVE too."

This tribute was added by Barbara Dellinger on 13th February 2015

"With much love, Dad, Happy Birthday.  We miss you so."

This tribute was added by Penny Mercer on 12th February 2015

"Thinking of you everyday and especially on this day.  You were such a fun, loving and inspiring uncle.  The whole Mercer Family misses you.  I know you are singing with the angels in heaven and wife Barb and daughter Denice.  Love you"

This tribute was added by Becky Huskey on 12th February 2015

"Happy Birthday Dear Daddy. I miss you so. I hope you and Momma and Nicee are all serenading the heavens together. Love you so.

This tribute was added by Kim Franzen on 12th February 2015


This tribute was added by Angela Fuller on 12th February 2015

"Thinking of you today Mr. Dillinger! Celebrate your heavenly birthday!"

This tribute was added by Don Peterson on 12th February 2015

"I grew up with Dean from grade school thru high school.  He was one of my best friends and we played together in band and dance bands.  He was a fine musician.  We knew what true friendship was."

This tribute was added by David Parrott on 12th February 2015

"Happy Birthday to a dear friend.  He is so missed..."

This tribute was added by Dean Michael on 3rd January 2015

"I came across this memorial by accident and was sad to learn of Mr. D's passing.  I was in his 6th, 7th and 8th grade band class at Mary P. Henk Intermediate School 1974 through 1976.  He was one of my all-time favorite teachers and contributed to my life-long love of music. He taught me trumpet, baritone, and french horn.  I will always remember him very fondly."

This tribute was added by Ira Pasternack on 4th August 2014

"We lost a very kind and gentle man with Mr. D's passing and I feel very blessed to have had the opportunity to have known him as a band student, friend and surrogate son. The memories are a little fuzzy now, 50 years later, but I still remember the thrill of receiving a tonette (my first musical instrument) in one of Mr. D's fourth grade music classes at Lake Arrowhead Elementary. I remember the ear training and testing Mr. D gave us later and his encouragement for me to take on the French Horn because he said I had a good ear for music. Music is still a very, very important part of my life today, though I gave up the French Horn in high school so I could play football at Rim. Junior and Senior years the Rim football team held "Father and Sons" games and Mr. D and Grandpa Bretzer were kind enough to accept the role of my "Father" on the sideline as my own Father couldn't make it to those games. After Rim, I needed a place to stay for awhile and Mr. and Mrs. D were kind enough to open their home to me as long as I needed until I found a place of my own. A couple of years ago when Big Al, Barb and Mr. D stopped to visit us in Denver while enroute to see family in Nebraska, Jill and I were delighted to see that Mr. D still maintained his dry sense of humor and were very happy to share a few laughs--and he had a wonderful laugh--with him. Thank you for all of your encouragement as a teacher and all of your kindness over the years, Mr. D. May God rest your and Mrs. D's souls.  Ira"

This tribute was added by Kathleen Holm on 26th July 2014

"I knew Dean through my Grace Lutheran Church friends, Barb and Allan Dellinger, his son.  I remember Dean's wonderful smile and fun-loving personality.  We were blessed to hear him play trumpet solos and duets for our church each Easter Season and sometimes for Reformation Sunday.  I also enjoyed watching and listening to him direct and play the trumpet for The Golden Eagles Big Band.  His enthusiasm for music was contagious! As his health waned, Dean still smiled joyously and engaged in humorous conversation with anyone who was nearby.  He always was a delight to be around.  I know he's up in heaven as one of God's trumpeting angels and upon entering the pearly gates, probably lead the band in "When the Saints Go Marching In!""

This tribute was added by Kathy Ward on 15th July 2014

"I had the opportunity to have Mr. Dellinger as a teacher in a college course offered in Lake Arrowhead.  We were an adult jazz ensemble and did we have fun!   One time he had us sing at Patton Hospital in San Bernardino and we all wore dresses!  (We had a good laugh afterwards about that.)   But we sure did sing well and we all enjoyed our time together.  It was a great experience.

What a great man and I'm glad I had the opportunity to be around this man, his talent and creativity, for a time."

This tribute was added by jeannette vasilakis on 13th July 2014

"Dear Family,
I want to thank you for sharing your  wonderful Dad. He was a very important person in my life.  His class was the high light of my day. I wish I could be with you all today but I am sitting with family and they will be joining your dad soon.  I will never forget  what your Dad taught me and a lot of what he taught I have passed down to my kids.  I am so sorry for your loss it's hard to lose a parent . Your dad lives on in you and I know it will be standing room only today because he lives on in very student that he taught. I was so blessed to say my teacher was Mr. Dean Dellinger."

This tribute was added by Don Peterson on 12th July 2014

"Dean and I started together in the 4th grade in DeKalb, IL  We were close friends and did a lot of things together as teenagers.  We played together in our first dance band experience for valentines day in 1946 also the year we graduated together.  We kept in constant contact over the years and shared many memories.  Don Peterson, Oklahoma City."

This tribute was added by Bruce Rubio on 12th July 2014

"Dean Dellinger (Mr. D), was a great and inspiring music teacher and I am forever grateful to have been one of his students. When I was in 8th grade, Mr. D issued me the school's new Buffet tenor sax and well, I liked it.... a lot (tears). 30 years later, I'm teaching band in the room where Mr. D taught me and music/saxophone is my passion. On occasion he would bring his trumpet to MPH and play in my band class; full circle! Thank you Mr. D! Forever remembered, Bruce Rubio"

This tribute was added by Dorinda Moore on 12th July 2014

"My brother and I were never in band while at Rim, but we all knew Mr. D. He was always a gentlemen and kind person. I know all of the classmates who were in band, loved him dearly. They always seemed to have fun in his classes.

From our family, Lillian, Perry and Dorinda Moore, our deepest sympathy goes out to your family."

This tribute was added by Christian Eaton on 11th July 2014

"It's not easy to know just how to summarize in words what Dean's life meant to so many people. If richness is exemplified by living for the glory of God, Dean & Barb are examples of just that. Our families began together in Lake Arrowhead. They lived on Dolly Varden in a rental house and we lived in a rental just up from Arrowhead Village. Dean taught music at Rim High and my Dad had just begun as the school's football coach and a biology teacher. We shared a winter together as they welcomed us to Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church, our lives intertwined in many ways from then on.

Over the years we had many adventures together, perhaps the favorite of which was a summer at Lake Powell in Arizona with the Eaton's "Taco Boat," billowing tents that we could hardly keep staked down, and then later, on another summer there with a newer boat and more adventures. Dean taught all the Eaton kids instrumental music, and even facilitated the purchase of a great silver Olds Trumpet through a friend of his who played in his "seniors" band in Hemet. This one was for my own son, Justin, who then passed it onto our grand-daughter who now plays it.

I worked for Barb, along with Alan, for several years at the old Arrowhead Village Market. She was the manager who managed to keep Mr. Spafford out of bankruptcy, and kept the store going strong for a number of years, until the old village was finally burned down to make way for the current Alpine Village.

And did the Dellinger kids and Eaton kids grow up together? It would fill a book to share all the episodes. The Christmas children's programs at Mt. Calvary nearly did Barb in, and the many evenings together sharing school activities, family adventures and mis-adventures over dinners or deserts would bring us to tears with laughter and joys, as well as those shed for one another. Dean and Ed Eaton served as Elders together for many years at Mt. Calvary, and the spiritual heritage they and our moms passed onto us has been the foundation for our lives as well. Suffice it to say, Dean had a profound influence on all our lives. Yes, he is greatly missed, but the joy of knowing we will be reunited around God's throne one day gives us the hope to lift our hearts and sing God's praise (hopefully in tune together :)) for his life and what he brought to us all. Many thanks, Dean.  You too, Barb.  -Chris"

This tribute was added by Lillian T Schlentz on 11th July 2014

"I missed your Dad before he passed away.  Hewas such a gentle man and your Mom playedd bridge with us each week when she felt well.  They are both missed by a community who carred deeply for both of them.  Dad was a wonderful musician and so kind.  He brought his group to sing for us and then he himself sang.  /god be good to all of you and many blessings.  I am so sorry I can not be there.  I have had surgery this spring and it forbids a lengthy drive.  I ws hoping wome one would say they were going.  I have told some and it will be in our paper this next month.  Thank you for letting me know about it.  Much Love coming your way."

This tribute was added by Claudia Simmons on 11th July 2014

"What a warm generous man Dean was. He treated me so kindly from the date I met him. When I think of him, I find that I am smiling. May he meet his lovely soul mate Barbara and live in eternity happily together."

This tribute was added by Allan Dellinger on 11th July 2014

"Sent by Cindy Kellogg White for Gloria and Lester Dement.

Lester was Rim of the World Unified School District Superintendent for many years while Dean taught.

Cyndi, honey...Please pass this message on to Denice, Allan and all the Dellinger family. I am inept when it comes to computers and don't know how to reach them.  Thank you...

Dear Dellinger family,

We are saddened to hear that Dean has passed on.  He and Barb were outstanding human beings, full of kindness and goodness in addition to their fine talents.  As Lester struggles with his Alzheimer's Disease, he remains in the world of the Rim of the World school years and never forgot Dean whose contribution to the education of youngsters was a mighty one.  Dean was a really good man and will be missed by many.  I tried to explain the loss to Lester who remembers him remarkably well.  He remarked sadly that Dean was such a good friend to students and staff in his music teaching career.  

Our sympathy and prayerful wishes to all from

Gloria and Lester DeMent and family."

This tribute was added by Heather Gonzalez-Leaton on 10th July 2014

"I really enjoyed having Mr. Dellinger as my music teacher in 6 and 7. I have really fond memories of him as a really great teacher. It was a privilege to learn music from him. He will be greatly missed."

This tribute was added by Angela Fuller on 10th July 2014

"Mr Dellinger was a great mentor to me and began to teach me to play the alto-sax in the 4th grade. I was following after my sister Michelle Bacon. Bobby Beglau, Dawn Moore, Brenda Nelson...many others, we had great times playing in the band. I got to enjoy seeing Dean at the Big Band concerts as well and see my sister play. He will be forever missed!
Angela Bacon"

This tribute was added by Shelly Wearing on 10th July 2014

"I met Dean "Mr. Dellinger" when I was 12 years old, only a short 36 years ago. Mr.; Dellinger was my first introduction to music and inspired me to continue on as I learned how to play music on my saxophone. My life from that beginning was forever changed. I had the greatest honor in playing under his direction in the Golden Eagles Big Band when our relationship was rekindled back in 2000 when I moved to Hemet, CA. I have been in the Golden Eagles Big Band since and have felt honored in being a part of Dean's life. Dean, "Mr. Dellinger", you will be forever missed. I will see you again someday to play music with you and all the angels in heaven. Til we meet again. Michelle "Shelly" Wearing."

This tribute was added by sam goepp on 10th July 2014

"I had the distinct pleassure of knowing Dean for over 20 years--He was the inspiration of the senior band that rehearsed weekly at Valley-Wide Recreation and Park Districts Sports Center--A positive soul and kind heart--rest in peace--"

This tribute was added by Martha Lingo on 10th July 2014

"We have fond memories of Dean & Barbara... brief as they were.  They lived as our neighbors, 2 doors down on Fulton St., Hemet.  Our brief encounter ended when they moved, but we always kept up while they were living in town.  Barbara for her china painting and Dean for his music!  Very nice people!  Jack & Martha Lingo"

This tribute was added by Don Grambusch on 9th July 2014

"Just a note about a very nice man that touched many lives as he lived his. My 3 brothers and myself all had Mr. Dellinger for our band teacher. Always fun to be around and I can remember the great times we had on Boy Scout camping trips. Memories run very deep and Mr. Dellinger you were a part of many and will be missed. Very fortunate to see you at the class of 1970 reunion. RIP from the Grambusch family."

This tribute was added by Jerry Waidner on 8th July 2014

"As a graduate of ROTWUJSHS, ’64-’70, I knew and respected ‘Mr. D’, just like everyone else in the place. I was frightened at an early age by a violin, so I missed the opportunity [much to my later regret] to be taught by this gifted educator, but I had many friends who were, and to a wo/man, they loved this man.

I am pretty certain that we had a uniformly excellent faculty at Rim, yet even so, he stuck out as a superior being. I recall an episode during one of the four minute segments we had between classes, right outside the band room.

A mouse had gotten stuck in an empty trashcan, and surrounded by shouting boys and girls, was terrified; squeaking, leaping, running and banging into the can’s sides. The commotion brought Mr. D to the hall, where he shooed everyone away and carried the can outside to release the mouse from it’s Rubbermaid prison. Awaiting the return of Mrs. Garrison to her English class down the hall, I was still in the hallway when he returned. He saw me there and said: “I know you’re a good kid, Jerry, but that’s one of the cruelest things I’ve ever seen at this school. What were you thinking?” I replied that I hadn’t put the mouse in the garbage. He replied, “Maybe not, but you didn’t take him out, either.” He wasn’t angry, but clearly disappointed. “Humans are often the only thing standing between an innocent animal and it’s mistreatment by others.” I immediately began to tear up, confronted with my callousness, and he patted me on the shoulder and said: “It’s okay, I don’t think any harm was done, but maybe next time you’ll see something like this and stop it, in case I’m not nearby.”

From that moment on, I would’ve attempted to learn the violin if he had asked me to. Now THAT’s a teacher!

Rest in Peace, Alan M. Dellinger, I’m not sure If I’ll make the pearly gates, but I think St. Peter will offer you a signing bonus. Hold out for the biggest harp on cloud No. 9! I don't think Harpo will mind."

This tribute was added by Denice Caouette on 8th July 2014

"My Dearest Daddy,
How can I ever thank you for all of the love and support you gave me over the years? I was often not an easy child to raise, but you and Mommy were always there for me with love and a hug and more support than anyone ever could ask for me. Thank you for teaching me about life and for all the music you put in my life, although it was many years before I learned to appreciate all of these gifts. There is a huge hole in my heart now that you and mommy have gone, but I know that you are now together with our Lord in Heaven, and I thank you both for the gift of teaching me to have faith. I love you always, and you will stay in my heart forever. Your Loving Daughter, Denice"

This tribute was added by Diane Kline on 8th July 2014

"Jim and I have been a part of the Dellinger “extended family” for many years.   We celebrated birthdays, anniversaries, confirmations, graduations, etc. - giving us the opportunity to know and love their whole family.  Dean always greeted  me  with open arms and a loving smile.  He was so tender-hearted.  While Dean was living at Leisure Point, I had the pleasure of assisting him with tasks he was unable to do by himself in his last years.   You would not be able to find another man so appreciative of anything you did for him.   His love was in his heart and eyes.  I would do anything for that man.   A greater representative of love (with the exception of our dear Lord, whom Dean knew and loved, and my husband) I do not know.  I will truly miss that smile of his."

This tribute was added by Cindy Ferguson on 6th July 2014

"He was the best teacher that anyone can ask for... He taught us the music the way it was written. . HE WILL BE SURELY MISSED"

This tribute was added by Donna Pringle on 6th July 2014

"Dean taught three of my children at MPH in the early 70s.  Kevin, Terri, and Traci Velarde learned to love music while playing in the band.  Later when he retired, he lived here in Hemet, where I have resided for 31 years.  We connected again through his music with The Golden Eagles at MSJC.  I also purchased a retirement plan from him.  He was a very kind and gentle soul.  The heavens are filled with his glorious music now.  May he and your mom rest in peace.  He will be forever missed."

This tribute was added by Patrick Weiand on 6th July 2014

' Thanks for the Memories ' and for always sharing the smile and laugh with me over the years @ MSJC. Take care on your Journey !

This tribute was added by Kawai Kaelberer on 6th July 2014

"When our family first arrived to the Inland Empire, we knew we were in for some blessings... but we had  no idea how deeply our hearts would be touched and how our family would expand.  Dean, you became a part of our family.  When we were first invited to watch you at San Jacinto Community College, we knew we were in for a treat... what we didn't know until now is that you welcomed us into a part of your passion and heart.  You came to life on that stage and you inspired others to do the same.  Our experiences with you and this love for music continued, as you would often play with Allan at church.  What a blessing you were to our entire church family.  I will never forget "Jesus Christ is Risen Today" and the other triumphant Easter hymns that you would bring to life.  My oldest daughter is in education and we often talk about time with students as being a "faith walk" because you never really know how you affect your students.  As I think about you, I can't help me know that you impacted so many people through your teaching and passion.  Although we weren't your formal students, you certainly did impact our lives.  Thank you for being a father to all, teacher to all, and friend to all.  Although you will be missed, we will always take a part of you with us-- whether it is in Big Band Music or the Easter Services that we are fortunate to experience each year... Dean, you will always be with us.

Love always-  Kawaipiolani Kaelberer (and Pastor Eric, too!)"

This tribute was added by Joanne Varino on 6th July 2014

"I remember Dean because my mother, Jean Varino played bass with him for years along with piano player Jack Rodgers and drummer Glenn Waller in the mountain communities. When I was 18 years old I was able to see them play live at the Monte Carlo in the mountains. We got to stay for one set because we were underage. I remember meeting Deans daughter Becky when I was 13 because I went with mom and stayed with Becky that night while they worked. Their music was so great and I am sure they will be making beautiful music in heaven. To the family, I am so sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you. Sincerely, Joanne"

This tribute was added by Eric Kaelberer on 6th July 2014

"Dean left so many different gifts for so many.  As one who was privileged first to know him as a friend and the father of one of my dear church members, and then, in his last days, to serve him as his pastor it is the incredible gift of Christ in Dean that I want to lift up.  In those later days, Dean knew what he wanted to say, but had a growing difficulty in getting the words to come out.  What quieted his heart is that he knew the Lord knew what he meant, and that was enough. This contentment in the Lord was not learned at this later date, only expressed in a tender new way.  Dean was a man of deep faith in his Savior, Jesus.  He loved other as he was first loved.  He gave to others so freely and fully because he knew the Lord was his all sufficiency and his joy.  This is what allowed Dean the peace and contentment to face those later days with grace and honor.  He went home to his Savior in peace.  God bless you, and thank you for reflecting His great love.  We know you are resting in His peace."

This tribute was added by cathy kelly on 5th July 2014

"Uncle Dean was one of the bestest...He always cared about our family and whatever we were doing. He even played his trumpet with my son who had just started to play. We listened to them jam all night. It was such fun and such great memories of him and aunt Barb. We would visit in the mountains and they always made us feel so will be missed...Cathy Kelly"

This tribute was added by Adrea Nairne-Barrera on 4th July 2014

"Dean always had such a bright smile and was happy to see you! When Mike and I would visit and Dean & Barbara were at Denice & Kenny's house, he and Mike would say "So glad you got to see me" in chorus and they would let out a big laugh. So many are gone now and I sure hope they're getting to see each other again. We miss you all."

This tribute was added by Amanda Downing on 4th July 2014

"Dean was a great man.I love to see him at church. He is an angel with a big heart . May Dean rest in peace in the arms our lord and savior Jesus Christ."

This tribute was added by Katherine Slusser on 3rd July 2014

"Mr. Dellinger was a precious gift of a  teacher and a Godly man of integrity in my life. His care and joy was wonderfully reassuring and encouraging, from my first time picking up a flute in 6th grade at MPH, to managing my first IRA when I began to teach English at Rim High. What a treat to see all the pictures of that wonderful smile I remember so well! May God's peace comfort the hearts of all who loved him, and I can't wait to hear him making music in Heaven!"

This tribute was added by Joseph Lewis on 3rd July 2014

"I was never going to be a musician but I loved music and do still. Mr. Dillinger taught me to play the drums. I don't play today but I remember almost everything he taught me. He made me feel like I was good and it made an impression on me. We only get so many great people people in our life and Mr.Dillinger is one of those for me."

This tribute was added by Dolores Smith on 3rd July 2014

"What a joy to remember Dean especially with his music. Sharing with us at Grace his talent for the trumpet and to have Allan at his side - father and son - playing together. What a blessing! I'll miss your wonderful smile and your friendliness. But you are home and with loved ones that have gone before. You are at peace. Say "hi" to Gary for me."

This tribute was added by Sterling & Cleola Sterling on 3rd July 2014

"43 years ago when Cleola and I purchased a mountain cabin in Twin Peaks, CA, Dean and Barbara became our next door neighbors.  During the ensuring years, we enjoyed their friendship as we played bridge and Dean's "Big Band' music."

This tribute was added by Carrie Kirk on 3rd July 2014

"Mr. D was such an amazing teacher.  Going to choir at MPH was my favorite part of the day.  I still think of him whenever I hear "I'll be you candle on the water."  He made every single one of his students feel as if they were his favorite.  May God bless his family and bring them peace."

This tribute was added by John Scharlemann on 3rd July 2014

"Sandra and I add our thoughts and prayers to the many which have been lifted to God in thanksgiving for the life of your father, Allan.  I know the difficulties of caring for the aged, but I also know what a privilege it was for you to give back some of the love and care shown over the years to you by your father.  I will always remember your father's musical talent, and the time the three of us golfed together.  Most of all, I thank the Lord that your father raised such a wonderful son who was blessed with a remarkable family whose friendship we will always cherish.  God grant you peace, Allan and Barb.
Christ is risen, and we too will rise to be with Him."

This tribute was added by Jill Holliday on 3rd July 2014

"As a student that came to Mr. Dellinger band class as a Freshman, I had already had the early training. Mr. Dellinger was the "icing on the cake" He supported me in my music and I think all band members enjoyed the time we spent in the classroom, the sporting events and our senior recitals and solos. I will always remember the days in band class! As I still do, when speaking to friends and family and remembering what music gave me and continues to give me. Thank you for everything you generously gave!"

This tribute was added by Sharon Brush on 3rd July 2014

"I have such great and fond memories of Mr Dellinger. From the day I arrived at Rim in 1963 to the day I graduated in 1969. He was so very kind to me and always had a smile to greet everyone.
Thank you for touching so many lives and leaving behind so much music and knowledge of the arts! With fondness and love.. Sharon Pretzinger Brush"

This tribute was added by Kim Pickinpaugh on 2nd July 2014

"Thank you Dean for sharing your musical talents with so many!  It was a gift to be able to watch you and Allan play your trumpets together at the many concerts and church services.  What a wonderful thing to share with your son!  We miss your smile and the twinkle in your eye!
Dear Lord, thank you for letting Dean's light shine!"

This tribute was added by ron pickinpaugh on 2nd July 2014

"Dean's love of his family was evident to all. I thoroughly enjoyed his music and will be missed."

This tribute was added by Marilyn Windham on 28th June 2014

"I have so many fond memories of Dean and Barbara, I don't know where to start.  Some of the best years started when Chuck met Dean in the  Golden Eagles Big Band at Mt. San Jacinto College, Our friend ship grew, they played together in other Bands in the area.  I took my first Tole painting classes with Barb and we became fast friends. We had so many wonderful visits from them in Ocean Park, Wa. in the our place. Watched their Grand kids grow into adults, together. We shared a mutual love of God and family."

This tribute was added by Nancy Telizyn on 27th June 2014

"Dean you were such a joy and treasure to have around in your latter years.  We so enjoyed your visits to Grace to play trumpet with your son for special services and share some laughs.  I also feel honored to have gone to one of your concerts to 'hear and see you blow that trumpet'.  
You will be missed by your Grace Family!"

This tribute was added by Kim Franzen on 27th June 2014


This tribute was added by Carl Strand on 26th June 2014

"Dean or Dad has I call him after to talking Allan. I met Mom and Dad a along time ago. Whenever they would to Grace I be happy both. Dad you took the place of my Dad and Mom death. I love going to the College to hear Dad blow his horn. Sometime we go for dinner that very special to me, just to be around Barbara and Dean, or Mom and Dad for short. Thank You Allan for my for my friendship with Dellinger or Mom or Dad. They will never leave my heart, In His Peace and Love  Carl"

This tribute was added by JoAnne & Roger Miller on 26th June 2014

"We knew Dean for such a short time.  We found Dean to be a humble and loving person.  We especially admired his testimony before church services each Sunday.  He was also a great personage to add to our choir in the very short time he was around.  We love you Dean, and we miss you very very much. It might be that the good Lord loves some sweet sounds. Sing out Dean!"

This tribute was added by Donna POP Hemet on 26th June 2014

"Such fond memories of Dean.  One of my favorites was when I took my 5 year old granddaughter to one of his concerts.  At the end Dean would pay tribute to the Armed Forces by playing their "song", he always ask the audience to stand when their "song" was played..well my granddaughter stood each time!  The older man behind us said. "She is so young to have been in all those military services."  Such a good memory as she is 17 now!  Allan our sympathy to you and your family."

This tribute was added by Joanie Klopfenstein McGill on 26th June 2014

"Mr. D was a wonderful man! I always enjoyed being in his band classes, from early elementary school through Jr. High. I remember how proud he was of our Jr. High Band winning a Superior rating! Always personable, approachable, and kind! My condolences to the entire Dellinger Family at the loss of your patriarch! Blessings to you all!"

This tribute was added by Alma Rich on 26th June 2014

"I'm grateful for the happy memories you mined through your music.
Vi Pope, June Beach and I had a wonderful time sharing our memories after listening to you and your band. What a wonderful gift. Thank you."

This tribute was added by Susan Asaro on 26th June 2014

"Mr. "D" as we affectionately all knew him, was as Donald DeCuir said, not only a teacher, but a mentor to many. Our family was lucky to have known him and the family for many years. My first memory was when I was in first grade at Lake Arrowhead. He would come and teach us about the different musical instruments and the tones they made. We needed to associate the instrument with the tone. My mother, Betty Mercer, always enjoyed singing with his music combo on the mountain. Brother, Brad, who played trombone from grade school and through high school also said he was so much more than a teacher to him. Our family enjoyed the one Christmas holiday with the Dellingers in the late 60s, and were so honored when Dean and Barbara came to our father, Jim Mercer's Memorial, then continued to come and support our music efforts here in the desert. I am so honored that we had the Dellinger family apart of our growing up and adult years. Our blessings to the family."

This tribute was added by Chuck Stringham on 26th June 2014

"Dean was a part of the Stringham family's lives for a long time.  We cherished the time spent with him and always enjoyed the interaction with him.  His loving smile and generous heart alway left us feeling loved and cared about.  We will miss him, but never forget him!!!"

This tribute was added by Jean Sorensen on 26th June 2014

"Papa Dean… That’s what Scott and Renee always called you…..  You made a great impression with my kiddo’s way back then.  I remember my “Uncle”, my “Aunt” and my 3 very fun cousins.  We might not have been related by blood, but you were our family while growing up in California.   I feel blessed that I did get to see you in the past few years.  I will always cherish the memories I have of you… mostly how you made most sentences into a song.  How joyful that was for me.  You have touched so many lives and will be sorely missed…."

This tribute was added by Patti Guerra on 26th June 2014

"I was so happy to get to know Dean in his later years as he joined us at Grace Lutheran Church, Rialto.  His joy and humor were infectious and he was generous with his musical gifts, singing in the choir and playing trumpet.  God welcomed home an honorable and decent son."

This tribute was added by Lindsey Jacobs on 26th June 2014

"Uncle Al and Auntie Barbara- sorry to hear about Dean. Thinking of you guys. Love, Lindsey, Andy, Mason and Luke"

This tribute was added by Donald DeCuir on 26th June 2014

""Mr. D" as we affectionately knew him was loved by many Lake Arrowhead, CA students over many years. To me, he was more than a teacher, he was a mentor! During my time at Rim High and especially in the band, he was a constant source of help, encouragement and support. As an awkward teen, he gave encouragement to me as a person, a student and a musician. I knew he was always for me and helping me to learn and grow. His love for music was contagious! I went on to play music in college and played professionally for a dozen or so years. I always carried his encouragements to practice and especially to have fun. I still play music today and can't imagine my life without the joy I receive from playing with other musicians. Thanks, Mr. D. for helping me find a direction in my life that I may have missed. You made a difference in my life!"

This tribute was added by Ann&Bryan Cooper on 24th June 2014

""Uncle" Dean.  My absolute favorite uncle while growing up in California.  Although, just great friends with my parents, Uncle Dean and the entire Dellinger family, were always like close family to me.  In fact, it took me a long time to accept that he wasn't a brother to my mom or dad :-)  Uncle Dean was always so joyful and fun to be around!  May you rest in peace with my Auntie Barb."

This tribute was added by Becky Huskey on 24th June 2014

"My Dearest Daddy,
I'll always love you and cherish the memories we've shared together. Thank you for your love and guidance all these years. So proud to call you my Daddy. I left you a long tribute in "STORIES". I miss you so!"

This tribute was added by Sally LaVoie on 22nd June 2014

"I met Dean when I was 15 years old because I was the girl trumpet player in his high school band in Tecumseh, Nebraska.  I soon became a baby sitter for the Dellingers and I practically lived with them after Barb had polio.  He was a great mentor to me then and later a super friend to my husband (a music teacher), my children and myself.  We became like family and he was Uncle Dean to my children.  We had many happy hours playing bridge, camping and having deep discussions sharing our faith.  I loved to hear him laugh and play his trumpet.  It makes me sad to know he is not here, but I know he is in heaven.  I will miss him!"

This tribute was added by Penny Mercer on 21st June 2014

"Uncle Dean is my mother's (Glendora) brother and only sibling.  Kind, Personable, Caring and Loving.  A good listener as well as a good talker.  Great husband, father, brother and uncle who was a fantastic trumpeteer, teacher, music director and Master of Ceremony for his wonderful Concerts.  And he sure loved his "Gigs" as he fondly called them.  He was the happiest guy I ever knew and I and Tim will miss him so much!  Uncle Dean will never be forgotten!  Penny and Tim Mercer"

This tribute was added by Beth Curry on 21st June 2014

"Uncle Dean was such a pleasure to be with. He always made us laugh! I will remember how loving he was, his tight hugs and big kisses! He was always happy and had the biggest smile every time we were with him! We will miss him so much!"

This tribute was added by Eric Kaelberer on 21st June 2014

"Your father lived God's love to others so effortlessly and freely.  We are so blessed to have known him.  He received God's grace with all joy!"

This tribute was added by Allan Dellinger on 11th June 2014

"As I had the privilege and honor of telling you so recently, you were the best father I could have ever asked for or even dreamed of. You were always there for me and all of our family, and it was an honor to be with you at the end. I will forever cherish so many of the times, events, and memories we shared together.  Although our time together was abundant, a fact that I am and know that you were also so grateful to the Lord for,  I still so wish that I had just a few more days, weeks, years. God has blessed me so much. I will never forget you Dad!

Your Loving Son"

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