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This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved father, Dean Dellinger, born on   February 12, 1929 and passed away at 85, on May 30, 2014. We will love and treasure him forever.

Memorial Service for DEAN MILTON DELLINGER was held on
July 12, 2014 at Grace Evangelical Lutheran Church, in Rialto, CA.

In honor of Dean's numerous years of teaching music from elementary school to college level, there was a mini-concert of a brass quartet with the memorial service immediately following. A reception followed with a light lunch.

Inurnment and committal service for
BARBARA LOU & DEAN MILTON DELLINGER was held on July 13, 2014 at 
Mt. Calvary Lutheran Church, Lake Arrowhead, CA.

Barbara and Dean are together again for their eternal heavenly life.

The Family thanks all of the friends and family who attended the services, your presence made them both wonderful, joyous, touching and memorable events. It is so fitting that both Mom and Dad's  journey has ended where they spent so much of their love and life!


Daughter Denice joined mom & dad in paradise on 12/19/2014, after a long, valiant, and courageous fight with lung cancer.

The Family requests that you please share your special photo memories of Dean in your lives! Kindly compress the photos for "Web Page" to maximize the web sites interactive speed. Also please add your thoughts and memories for all to share and enjoy!

As you visit this site please enjoy some of the music Dean made possible all his life!

July 10, 2014
July 10, 2014
I had the distinct pleassure of knowing Dean for over 20 years--He was the inspiration of the senior band that rehearsed weekly at Valley-Wide Recreation and Park Districts Sports Center--A positive soul and kind heart--rest in peace--
July 10, 2014
July 10, 2014
We have fond memories of Dean & Barbara... brief as they were. They lived as our neighbors, 2 doors down on Fulton St., Hemet. Our brief encounter ended when they moved, but we always kept up while they were living in town. Barbara for her china painting and Dean for his music! Very nice people! Jack & Martha Lingo
July 9, 2014
July 9, 2014
Just a note about a very nice man that touched many lives as he lived his. My 3 brothers and myself all had Mr. Dellinger for our band teacher. Always fun to be around and I can remember the great times we had on Boy Scout camping trips. Memories run very deep and Mr. Dellinger you were a part of many and will be missed. Very fortunate to see you at the class of 1970 reunion. RIP from the Grambusch family.
July 8, 2014
July 8, 2014
As a graduate of ROTWUJSHS, ’64-’70, I knew and respected ‘Mr. D’, just like everyone else in the place. I was frightened at an early age by a violin, so I missed the opportunity [much to my later regret] to be taught by this gifted educator, but I had many friends who were, and to a wo/man, they loved this man.

I am pretty certain that we had a uniformly excellent faculty at Rim, yet even so, he stuck out as a superior being. I recall an episode during one of the four minute segments we had between classes, right outside the band room.

A mouse had gotten stuck in an empty trashcan, and surrounded by shouting boys and girls, was terrified; squeaking, leaping, running and banging into the can’s sides. The commotion brought Mr. D to the hall, where he shooed everyone away and carried the can outside to release the mouse from it’s Rubbermaid prison. Awaiting the return of Mrs. Garrison to her English class down the hall, I was still in the hallway when he returned. He saw me there and said: “I know you’re a good kid, Jerry, but that’s one of the cruelest things I’ve ever seen at this school. What were you thinking?” I replied that I hadn’t put the mouse in the garbage. He replied, “Maybe not, but you didn’t take him out, either.” He wasn’t angry, but clearly disappointed. “Humans are often the only thing standing between an innocent animal and it’s mistreatment by others.” I immediately began to tear up, confronted with my callousness, and he patted me on the shoulder and said: “It’s okay, I don’t think any harm was done, but maybe next time you’ll see something like this and stop it, in case I’m not nearby.”

From that moment on, I would’ve attempted to learn the violin if he had asked me to. Now THAT’s a teacher!

Rest in Peace, Alan M. Dellinger, I’m not sure If I’ll make the pearly gates, but I think St. Peter will offer you a signing bonus. Hold out for the biggest harp on cloud No. 9! I don't think Harpo will mind.
July 8, 2014
July 8, 2014
My Dearest Daddy,
How can I ever thank you for all of the love and support you gave me over the years? I was often not an easy child to raise, but you and Mommy were always there for me with love and a hug and more support than anyone ever could ask for me. Thank you for teaching me about life and for all the music you put in my life, although it was many years before I learned to appreciate all of these gifts. There is a huge hole in my heart now that you and mommy have gone, but I know that you are now together with our Lord in Heaven, and I thank you both for the gift of teaching me to have faith. I love you always, and you will stay in my heart forever. Your Loving Daughter, Denice
July 8, 2014
July 8, 2014
Jim and I have been a part of the Dellinger “extended family” for many years.  We celebrated birthdays, anniversaries, confirmations, graduations, etc. - giving us the opportunity to know and love their whole family. Dean always greeted me with open arms and a loving smile. He was so tender-hearted. While Dean was living at Leisure Point, I had the pleasure of assisting him with tasks he was unable to do by himself in his last years.  You would not be able to find another man so appreciative of anything you did for him.  His love was in his heart and eyes. I would do anything for that man.  A greater representative of love (with the exception of our dear Lord, whom Dean knew and loved, and my husband) I do not know. I will truly miss that smile of his.
July 6, 2014
July 6, 2014
Dean taught three of my children at MPH in the early 70s. Kevin, Terri, and Traci Velarde learned to love music while playing in the band. Later when he retired, he lived here in Hemet, where I have resided for 31 years. We connected again through his music with The Golden Eagles at MSJC. I also purchased a retirement plan from him. He was a very kind and gentle soul. The heavens are filled with his glorious music now. May he and your mom rest in peace. He will be forever missed.
July 6, 2014
July 6, 2014
Dean left so many different gifts for so many. As one who was privileged first to know him as a friend and the father of one of my dear church members, and then, in his last days, to serve him as his pastor it is the incredible gift of Christ in Dean that I want to lift up. In those later days, Dean knew what he wanted to say, but had a growing difficulty in getting the words to come out. What quieted his heart is that he knew the Lord knew what he meant, and that was enough. This contentment in the Lord was not learned at this later date, only expressed in a tender new way. Dean was a man of deep faith in his Savior, Jesus. He loved other as he was first loved. He gave to others so freely and fully because he knew the Lord was his all sufficiency and his joy. This is what allowed Dean the peace and contentment to face those later days with grace and honor. He went home to his Savior in peace. God bless you, and thank you for reflecting His great love. We know you are resting in His peace.
July 6, 2014
July 6, 2014
I remember Dean because my mother, Jean Varino played bass with him for years along with piano player Jack Rodgers and drummer Glenn Waller in the mountain communities. When I was 18 years old I was able to see them play live at the Monte Carlo in the mountains. We got to stay for one set because we were underage. I remember meeting Deans daughter Becky when I was 13 because I went with mom and stayed with Becky that night while they worked. Their music was so great and I am sure they will be making beautiful music in heaven. To the family, I am so sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you. Sincerely, Joanne
July 6, 2014
July 6, 2014
When our family first arrived to the Inland Empire, we knew we were in for some blessings... but we had no idea how deeply our hearts would be touched and how our family would expand. Dean, you became a part of our family. When we were first invited to watch you at San Jacinto Community College, we knew we were in for a treat... what we didn't know until now is that you welcomed us into a part of your passion and heart. You came to life on that stage and you inspired others to do the same. Our experiences with you and this love for music continued, as you would often play with Allan at church. What a blessing you were to our entire church family. I will never forget "Jesus Christ is Risen Today" and the other triumphant Easter hymns that you would bring to life. My oldest daughter is in education and we often talk about time with students as being a "faith walk" because you never really know how you affect your students. As I think about you, I can't help me know that you impacted so many people through your teaching and passion. Although we weren't your formal students, you certainly did impact our lives. Thank you for being a father to all, teacher to all, and friend to all. Although you will be missed, we will always take a part of you with us-- whether it is in Big Band Music or the Easter Services that we are fortunate to experience each year... Dean, you will always be with us.

Love always- Kawaipiolani Kaelberer (and Pastor Eric, too!)
July 6, 2014
July 6, 2014
Dean,
' Thanks for the Memories ' and for always sharing the smile and laugh with me over the years @ MSJC. Take care on your Journey !
Pat..........
July 6, 2014
July 6, 2014
He was the best teacher that anyone can ask for... He taught us the music the way it was written. . HE WILL BE SURELY MISSED
July 5, 2014
July 5, 2014
Uncle Dean was one of the bestest...He always cared about our family and whatever we were doing. He even played his trumpet with my son who had just started to play. We listened to them jam all night. It was such fun and such great memories of him and aunt Barb. We would visit in the mountains and they always made us feel so welcomed.....you will be missed...Cathy Kelly
July 4, 2014
July 4, 2014
Dean always had such a bright smile and was happy to see you! When Mike and I would visit and Dean & Barbara were at Denice & Kenny's house, he and Mike would say "So glad you got to see me" in chorus and they would let out a big laugh. So many are gone now and I sure hope they're getting to see each other again. We miss you all.
July 4, 2014
July 4, 2014
Dean was a great man.I love to see him at church. He is an angel with a big heart . May Dean rest in peace in the arms our lord and savior Jesus Christ.
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
As a student that came to Mr. Dellinger band class as a Freshman, I had already had the early training. Mr. Dellinger was the "icing on the cake" He supported me in my music and I think all band members enjoyed the time we spent in the classroom, the sporting events and our senior recitals and solos. I will always remember the days in band class! As I still do, when speaking to friends and family and remembering what music gave me and continues to give me. Thank you for everything you generously gave!
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
I have such great and fond memories of Mr Dellinger. From the day I arrived at Rim in 1963 to the day I graduated in 1969. He was so very kind to me and always had a smile to greet everyone.
Thank you for touching so many lives and leaving behind so much music and knowledge of the arts! With fondness and love.. Sharon Pretzinger Brush
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
Sandra and I add our thoughts and prayers to the many which have been lifted to God in thanksgiving for the life of your father, Allan. I know the difficulties of caring for the aged, but I also know what a privilege it was for you to give back some of the love and care shown over the years to you by your father. I will always remember your father's musical talent, and the time the three of us golfed together. Most of all, I thank the Lord that your father raised such a wonderful son who was blessed with a remarkable family whose friendship we will always cherish. God grant you peace, Allan and Barb.
Christ is risen, and we too will rise to be with Him.
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
Mr. D was such an amazing teacher. Going to choir at MPH was my favorite part of the day. I still think of him whenever I hear "I'll be you candle on the water." He made every single one of his students feel as if they were his favorite. May God bless his family and bring them peace.
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
What a joy to remember Dean especially with his music. Sharing with us at Grace his talent for the trumpet and to have Allan at his side - father and son - playing together. What a blessing! I'll miss your wonderful smile and your friendliness. But you are home and with loved ones that have gone before. You are at peace. Say "hi" to Gary for me.
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
I was never going to be a musician but I loved music and do still. Mr. Dillinger taught me to play the drums. I don't play today but I remember almost everything he taught me. He made me feel like I was good and it made an impression on me. We only get so many great people people in our life and Mr.Dillinger is one of those for me.
July 3, 2014
July 3, 2014
Mr. Dellinger was a precious gift of a teacher and a Godly man of integrity in my life. His care and joy was wonderfully reassuring and encouraging, from my first time picking up a flute in 6th grade at MPH, to managing my first IRA when I began to teach English at Rim High. What a treat to see all the pictures of that wonderful smile I remember so well! May God's peace comfort the hearts of all who loved him, and I can't wait to hear him making music in Heaven!
July 3, 2014
43 years ago when Cleola and I purchased a mountain cabin in Twin Peaks, CA, Dean and Barbara became our next door neighbors. During the ensuring years, we enjoyed their friendship as we played bridge and Dean's "Big Band' music.
July 2, 2014
July 2, 2014
Thank you Dean for sharing your musical talents with so many! It was a gift to be able to watch you and Allan play your trumpets together at the many concerts and church services. What a wonderful thing to share with your son! We miss your smile and the twinkle in your eye!
Dear Lord, thank you for letting Dean's light shine!
July 2, 2014
July 2, 2014
Dean's love of his family was evident to all. I thoroughly enjoyed his music and will be missed.
June 28, 2014
June 28, 2014
I have so many fond memories of Dean and Barbara, I don't know where to start. Some of the best years started when Chuck met Dean in the Golden Eagles Big Band at Mt. San Jacinto College, Our friend ship grew, they played together in other Bands in the area. I took my first Tole painting classes with Barb and we became fast friends. We had so many wonderful visits from them in Ocean Park, Wa. in the Summers.at our place. Watched their Grand kids grow into adults, together. We shared a mutual love of God and family.
June 27, 2014
June 27, 2014
Dean you were such a joy and treasure to have around in your latter years. We so enjoyed your visits to Grace to play trumpet with your son for special services and share some laughs. I also feel honored to have gone to one of your concerts to 'hear and see you blow that trumpet'. 
You will be missed by your Grace Family!
June 27, 2014
June 27, 2014
WE DIDN'T KNOW DEAN WELL. BUT WE KNEW HIS SMILE! HE ALWAYS SEEMED HAPPY AND LOVED PEOPLE. EVERYONE WANTED TO BE NEAR HIM. I GET THE FEELING HE WAS A LOT LIKE ALLAN, AND THAT'S A VERY GOOD THING.
June 26, 2014
Mr. D was a wonderful man! I always enjoyed being in his band classes, from early elementary school through Jr. High. I remember how proud he was of our Jr. High Band winning a Superior rating! Always personable, approachable, and kind! My condolences to the entire Dellinger Family at the loss of your patriarch! Blessings to you all!
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
"Mr. D" as we affectionately knew him was loved by many Lake Arrowhead, CA students over many years. To me, he was more than a teacher, he was a mentor! During my time at Rim High and especially in the band, he was a constant source of help, encouragement and support. As an awkward teen, he gave encouragement to me as a person, a student and a musician. I knew he was always for me and helping me to learn and grow. His love for music was contagious! I went on to play music in college and played professionally for a dozen or so years. I always carried his encouragements to practice and especially to have fun. I still play music today and can't imagine my life without the joy I receive from playing with other musicians. Thanks, Mr. D. for helping me find a direction in my life that I may have missed. You made a difference in my life!
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Uncle Al and Auntie Barbara- sorry to hear about Dean. Thinking of you guys. Love, Lindsey, Andy, Mason and Luke
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
I was so happy to get to know Dean in his later years as he joined us at Grace Lutheran Church, Rialto. His joy and humor were infectious and he was generous with his musical gifts, singing in the choir and playing trumpet. God welcomed home an honorable and decent son.
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Papa Dean… That’s what Scott and Renee always called you….. You made a great impression with my kiddo’s way back then. I remember my “Uncle”, my “Aunt” and my 3 very fun cousins. We might not have been related by blood, but you were our family while growing up in California.  I feel blessed that I did get to see you in the past few years. I will always cherish the memories I have of you… mostly how you made most sentences into a song. How joyful that was for me. You have touched so many lives and will be sorely missed….
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Dean was a part of the Stringham family's lives for a long time. We cherished the time spent with him and always enjoyed the interaction with him. His loving smile and generous heart alway left us feeling loved and cared about. We will miss him, but never forget him!!!
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Mr. "D" as we affectionately all knew him, was as Donald DeCuir said, not only a teacher, but a mentor to many. Our family was lucky to have known him and the family for many years. My first memory was when I was in first grade at Lake Arrowhead. He would come and teach us about the different musical instruments and the tones they made. We needed to associate the instrument with the tone. My mother, Betty Mercer, always enjoyed singing with his music combo on the mountain. Brother, Brad, who played trombone from grade school and through high school also said he was so much more than a teacher to him. Our family enjoyed the one Christmas holiday with the Dellingers in the late 60s, and were so honored when Dean and Barbara came to our father, Jim Mercer's Memorial, then continued to come and support our music efforts here in the desert. I am so honored that we had the Dellinger family apart of our growing up and adult years. Our blessings to the family.
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
I'm grateful for the happy memories you mined through your music.
Vi Pope, June Beach and I had a wonderful time sharing our memories after listening to you and your band. What a wonderful gift. Thank you.
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Such fond memories of Dean. One of my favorites was when I took my 5 year old granddaughter to one of his concerts. At the end Dean would pay tribute to the Armed Forces by playing their "song", he always ask the audience to stand when their "song" was played..well my granddaughter stood each time! The older man behind us said. "She is so young to have been in all those military services." Such a good memory as she is 17 now! Allan our sympathy to you and your family.
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
We knew Dean for such a short time. We found Dean to be a humble and loving person. We especially admired his testimony before church services each Sunday. He was also a great personage to add to our choir in the very short time he was around. We love you Dean, and we miss you very very much. It might be that the good Lord loves some sweet sounds. Sing out Dean!
June 26, 2014
June 26, 2014
Dean or Dad has I call him after to talking Allan. I met Mom and Dad a along time ago. Whenever they would to Grace I be happy both. Dad you took the place of my Dad and Mom death. I love going to the College to hear Dad blow his horn. Sometime we go for dinner that very special to me, just to be around Barbara and Dean, or Mom and Dad for short. Thank You Allan for my for my friendship with Dellinger or Mom or Dad. They will never leave my heart, In His Peace and Love Carl
June 24, 2014
June 24, 2014
"Uncle" Dean. My absolute favorite uncle while growing up in California. Although, just great friends with my parents, Uncle Dean and the entire Dellinger family, were always like close family to me. In fact, it took me a long time to accept that he wasn't a brother to my mom or dad :-) Uncle Dean was always so joyful and fun to be around! May you rest in peace with my Auntie Barb.
June 24, 2014
June 24, 2014
My Dearest Daddy,
I'll always love you and cherish the memories we've shared together. Thank you for your love and guidance all these years. So proud to call you my Daddy. I left you a long tribute in "STORIES". I miss you so!
June 22, 2014
June 22, 2014
I met Dean when I was 15 years old because I was the girl trumpet player in his high school band in Tecumseh, Nebraska. I soon became a baby sitter for the Dellingers and I practically lived with them after Barb had polio. He was a great mentor to me then and later a super friend to my husband (a music teacher), my children and myself. We became like family and he was Uncle Dean to my children. We had many happy hours playing bridge, camping and having deep discussions sharing our faith. I loved to hear him laugh and play his trumpet. It makes me sad to know he is not here, but I know he is in heaven. I will miss him!
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
Uncle Dean is my mother's (Glendora) brother and only sibling. Kind, Personable, Caring and Loving. A good listener as well as a good talker. Great husband, father, brother and uncle who was a fantastic trumpeteer, teacher, music director and Master of Ceremony for his wonderful Concerts. And he sure loved his "Gigs" as he fondly called them. He was the happiest guy I ever knew and I and Tim will miss him so much! Uncle Dean will never be forgotten! Penny and Tim Mercer
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
Uncle Dean was such a pleasure to be with. He always made us laugh! I will remember how loving he was, his tight hugs and big kisses! He was always happy and had the biggest smile every time we were with him! We will miss him so much!
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
Your father lived God's love to others so effortlessly and freely. We are so blessed to have known him. He received God's grace with all joy!
June 11, 2014
June 11, 2014
As I had the privilege and honor of telling you so recently, you were the best father I could have ever asked for or even dreamed of. You were always there for me and all of our family, and it was an honor to be with you at the end. I will forever cherish so many of the times, events, and memories we shared together. Although our time together was abundant, a fact that I am and know that you were also so grateful to the Lord for, I still so wish that I had just a few more days, weeks, years. God has blessed me so much. I will never forget you Dad!

Your Loving Son
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May 30, 2023
May 30, 2023
Kawai and I were just talking about Dean the other day, not realizing it was so close to the anniversary of Dean's heavenly homecoming. Becky and Allan, you are in our prayers. We are all the richer having had your dad in our lives. We love you!
May 30, 2023
May 30, 2023
My name is Diane Uecker and I just found this and it brought tears to my eyes. I grew up in the San Bernadino Mts, at least till the age of 12 when my parents moved to Washington State. My family knew the Dellingers, Dean & Barb were a truly wonderful couple as were their 3 children, Allan, Denise & Becky. My brother Steve took music lessons from Denise and later trumpet from Dean, he thought so highly of both of them. I am the youngest but I remember Dean & Barb putting together the Christmas program at Mt. Calvery Lutheran Church. My mom & dad where very good friends with Dean & Barb we spent many great evenings & afternoons at their house and them at ours. Long story short I have nothing but great memories of Dean and his whole family. My parents Don & Arlene passed away, Dad in March of 2016 & Mom in Jan 2017, I miss them dearly , & I know they would have been saddened by Deans passing. I wish nothing but peace & God's love to the family & I pray that the kids are all well and enjoying life as grandparents. God's Blessings to you all!
May 30, 2023
May 30, 2023
His memory forever eternal my new office is next to band room every day listening to the students brings joy to my heart so blessed to have had such an amazing teacher
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Memorial Service Beginning of Service

July 18, 2014

Memories of My First Music Teacher

July 10, 2014

I registered for choir in 1978. Never been in a choir and no formal singing experience. It was the year that Mr. Dellinger stated was the largest class he has ever had to audition. There was no way to excuse all of those 12-14 year olds for a private auditionl. So in front of the entire class, Dean went from row by row, asking one person at a time to state their name and musical range. There were only 4 boys including me auditioning. All I heard from girl to girl was, "soprano,...soprano,...alto,...soprano, etc." So when it was my turn, I blurted out, "Soprano!" Mr. Dellinger didn't laugh or snicker. He just had this beaming smile on his face. In that distinct, commanding voice of his, he asked me to follow the piano while he played various major scales in various pitches. Eventually he figured out that I was in fact,...a baritone.

Although he was only 49 years old at the time (then he seemed 60's to me) he didn't put us down for the music style that we were interested in. He was always encouraging our musical development. In fact, he even allowed me to back up the choir playing guitar for the song, "Here Comes That Rainy Day Feeling Again" by The Fortunes. At least he let us sing a song from that same decade.

Due to this mutual respect for music, we sort of started appreciating Mr. Dellinger's  jazz background. One day, Dean decided to introduce us to improvisational singing, called "scat." As he played a standard jazz I-IV-V progression, he allowed anyone from class to come up and try to scat a solo. Like always, he was so encouraging. We all had fun and never felt like we were being judged or made fun of no matter how silly or nonsensical our phrasing was. 

About 4 years later, I saw Dean play in a jazz quartet with my then High School Jazz Band instructor, JIm Gibford. I didn't hone my jazz playing skills until college. But if I had that ability sooner, I would have loved to sit in with Dean just to play some Joe Pass riffs and Tommy Tedesco fills. 

I can only imagine how much Mr. Dellinger enriched those lives of those around him. He was a safe room in those insecure awkward years of middle school. He was such a positive roll model. I will always be able to hear his voice in my head. Nobody else could use that voice to command the attention of such a large class with a limited attention span. I am so proud to call him my first music teacher. And what a great first music teacher to have learned from.

 

"You Rat"

July 9, 2014

One of my fondest nicknames was unceremoniously bestowed upon me by Dean:  He called me "You Rat".  Though, by no means, does it seems like a name that ought to be cherished.... But it, and the the story behind it, is.  

I have been lucky enough to be employed at Mt. San Jacinto College in the Music Department for nearly 20 years.  Before I was employed there, I was a student... and Dean was my music instuctor.  As a trumpet player, Dean taught me the finer points of brass playing:  Saxes are always out of tune, so always blame them; clarinet players can't hold a beat to save their lives; trombone players are always "almost" as good as trumpet players (at least they're brass players); etc. etc... the finer points of being a musician.  I also played trumpet with Dean in the college's Golden Eagles Big Bands.  Thus, he and I formed a wonderful relationship.

While working at in the Music Department one morning, I decided I should go in to the orchestra room and say good morning to Dean before his first student of the day arrived.  When I walked in, Dean was nowhere to be seen... but there, sitting alone on its stand was his cherished Bach Stradivarius trumpet.  That horn was practically everything to him... and it called my name.  It said, "Dave... use me to play a joke on Dean."  Well, that's kind of a low-blow thing to do to a fellow (highly respected) trumpet player.  But, he broke rule number-one:  Never, ever leave your trumpet unattended (a sax player might think it's some type of vacuum... or something).  "Dean should know better", was my rational as I quickly went back to my office and grabbed a soda straw from my desk (why I had a straw in my desk, I can't remember... it may have been a plan to use it to protect myself from Ted Herman...).

Anyhow, I took that straw back to Dean's trumpet.  I removed his mouthpiece, stuck the straw into the end of the mouthpiece and fed it down into the trumpet’s lead-pipe.  From the outside, it looked like absolutely nothing was wrong… which was exactly how it should be! However, the next time that trumpet would be played, it would sound like a goat... with a nasty lung infection.

Now… what I expected to happen was this:  Dean would return from where-ever it was he went, grab his trumpet and blow a few notes through it, hear the horrible sound, pull out his mouthpiece and find the straw.  Knowing Dean, he’d know it was me and get a good chuckle out of it.

Here’s what happened instead:

Dean returned from the mailroom.  But, unfortunately for my plan, his first student (a trumpet player) had arrived early.  Thus, Dean did not pick up his horn right away.  Instead, he began the morning’s lesson with the student.  That particular morning’s lesson?  “Tone… How to Produce a Large Round Sound with Your Trumpet.”

About 10 minutes into the lesson, Dean was attempting to tell the student how to open up the mouth, lowering the lip’s armature, and using the lung’s diaphragm to push a large amount of air past the lips and through the horn to produce a fat sound.  His attempt to verbally explain to the student what he (Dean) was looking for didn’t go over well.  So, instead, Dean grabbed his horn, showed the student the placement of his lips on the mouthpiece and how to open the jaw for the fat sound he was looking for.  Dean took in a deep breath… and blew.  The sound that came out was anything but that nice round sound of a professional trumpet player.  Rather, it sounded much more like a goose in the midst of a cat fight. 

Surprised and embarrassed, Dean quickly said, “I’m sorry.  Let me try that again.”  He blew… and the cattle in the ranch across the road from the college began to answer back at him.

Flustered, Dean did what any good trumpet player would do in a situation like that:  he blamed the problem on the horn and began to disassemble the valves... while the student waited.  As each valve came out, he could see they were in their correct order and not turned around.  So, he put them back and gave it another blow, “Squaaaaaakkkthpthpthpthp….”  Out came the valves again.  Nope, everything is in order there.  It must be the slides.  So, he took out the tuning slide, the third-valve slide, the second valve slide and even the first.  All the while, this poor student was trying to figure out if Dean was actually a sax player incognito.

Upon examination, each slide showed there was nothing blocking the flow of air through the horn, so Dean put his trumpet back together.  One more try:  “haaaaaaooooooooaaaaaaaaaaaaammmm”.  Well, needless to say, Dean was now getting honestly upset and confused (which… from a sax player’s point-of-view, this is the state-of-mind of all trumpet players!).  Finally, he thought maybe the problem was within the mouthpiece.  So, he twisted the mouthpiece and slowly pulled it out of the lead pipe.  Much to his surprise, out came the straw!  He told me later it was at that moment as he was saying out loud, “What the heck?”,  a little bell went off inside his head:  Dave Parrott.  What the student heard was, “What the hhhh… ooohhh that Rat!”

Dean removed the straw, replaced the mouthpiece, puckered up and blew:  A warm melodious tone filled the room.  In the end, 10 of the 20 minutes of the poor young trumpet student’s lesson time had been used to figure out that Dean had been pranked.  Later, when the lesson was over, Dean grabbed an index card, wrote “You Rat” with a red felt-tip pen on it, and tape that straw to  the card.  He left the card and straw on my desk while I was out running an errand.  When I returned, he told me his side of the story and we laughed until we cried.  Several years afterwards, Dean would still pop into my office and say, “You Rat!”.  It became his endearing way to say how much he appreciated our relationship.

Here it is, twenty years later, and that card is still displayed above my desk.  I use it to remind me of the many wonderful times I had with Dean in my life… and I still laugh when I think about how I became known as “The Rat”.

It’s the most endearing nickname I’ve ever had…

David Parrott, Department Chair, Audio & Video Technology Department, Mt. San Jacinto College

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