Let the memory of Deborah be with us forever Life with out you sis will never be right again.
  • 47 years old
  • Born on July 4, 1965 in Lafayette, Indiana, United States.
  • Passed away on April 29, 2013 in Frankfort, Indiana, United States.

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Deborah Wilkinson-Martin, 47, born on July 4, 1965 and passed away on April 29, 2013. She was the glue that held our family together now life will never be right with out her. We will remember her forever.

Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 12th November 2018
I still cant understand why I'm still here and your gone. I should be gone and you should be here. Being with out you is the worst punishment in the world. I love and miss you sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 9th August 2018
Hey sis, I wanted you to know Joel Osteen will be here tomorrow night at 7pm and I am taking Cliff he is very excited to go and experience what we did 7 years ago. I wish you were here to go with me again and hold my hand. I really miss you sis my world has been so empty with out you in it. I will be thinking about you tomorrow night I know you will be with me in spirit. Deb can I ask you a favor? In my dreams you and I are happy and we have so much fun but could you slow down a little. I'm older than you now and it's getting harder for your little sis to keep up. Lol.. I love and miss you Love always Tina
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 4th July 2018
Hi Sis I want to say Happy Birthday! you would have been 53 today. Wow! I just want to tell you how much I miss you every single day and every moment since you left. Every birthday since you left has been so painful knowing I'm hear another year and your gone. I am so sorry sis. I'm not sure why I am still here other than because of Brandon. I just know life is sure empty since you left. I'm sending you birthday messages on sky lanterns tonight so watch for them. I love and miss you sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 28th April 2018
I can't believe here in a few hours you will be gone 5 years. Debby I love and miss you so much. I never in my life ever thought I would ever be this lonely and feel this alone in the world for this long. I dream of you almost every night and most of the time you and I have so much fun together that I don't want to wake up. I wasn't even sure if I would make it to the 5 anniversary of your passing, most don't. I felt the count down begin the moment you left us and I wonder how much time I have and how long I will have to be here with out you. I am trying so hard deb I really, really am. I am trying so hard for Brandon but I still just don't know if I can do this. I just feel so alone in this world with out you. I stopped and left you flowers today to say I'm sorry that your gone and I am still here, it would have been easier if it was you bringing flowers to me I know you would have handled this so much better than me. I just really, really miss you sis. Love you always your LiL SiS.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 20th March 2018
Hey Deb, can you believe it Amanda is 29 years old now. I feel so old I really do and I no Amanda misses you and so does Brandon he tells me tha t all the time and all I can say is me to sweety. Life is just flying and be for you know it I will see you again. Don't forget me sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 13th March 2018
I really miss you sis, I miss your voice your silliness and your smile. God what I would give for a hug and to hear you say I love you LiL sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 17th February 2018
I miss you sis, I really need to talk to you and I really need you to hug me and tell me it will be ok.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 27th January 2018
Tomorrow Matt will be gone 5 years sis, five years. The pain and loss I feel hasn't gotten any better in the last five years, it has only gotten worse. I knew life would never be the same when you left, I just didn't know my whole life would end, I just wasn't prepared for that. I just miss you so much and I'm just scared.
Posted by Tina Knight on 31st December 2017
Happy New Year sis. I can't believe another year with out you is almost here. I miss you a lot and I'm sorry your not here you should be your missed alot.
Posted by Tina Knight on 29th December 2017
Well sis I kept my promise and had my mammogram and this time it didn't come back fine. I have to go back for more pictures. I hope it's nothing but I'm a little scared. It will soon be 5 years since you left I was kinda hoping if I made it past the 5 year mark I'd be ok. Stay with me sis I'm scared I'm not as tough as you and I don't want to do this alone.
Posted by Tina Knight on 25th December 2017
Merry Christmas sis I miss you so much. I hope you and matt and the rest of the family there in heaven have a Merry Christmas and know we love and miss you and with out you the world is less bright.
Posted by Tina Knight on 23rd November 2017
Happy Thanksgiving sis, I love and miss you.
Posted by Tina Knight on 17th July 2017
Hi sis, I miss you. Well now i'm 2 years older than you. I'm having a hard time dealing with this. I just feel guilty that i'm stll here and your gone it's just not fair. Well we are starting on the 5th year now so i guess i will find out if i have to stay or i get to go. If you servive 5 years after a siblings death your good so i guess this year is a waiting game for me. I've decided on no buryal i just want to be creamated and have my ashes scattered at sea. I love being on the water. No grave, no stone, no furneral no showing. Save my kids a tone of money. No one would show up to see me anyway. Just remember you promised to come get me so don't forget. Tell matt i love and miss him and Happy Birthday. Can't believe he's 31 now.i miss you both.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 4th July 2017
Hey sis Happy Birthday. Here on earth your now 52 but in heaven your younger. I love and miss you sis im lonley with out you. Please dont leave me here forever it sucks with out you. Give everyone a hug and kiss for me and tell them i love them.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 26th May 2017
I guess by now that Shelbe is with you and you are watching over her. I am truly saddened to know that Mike waited over a month to tell me she had died April 7, 2017. We may not see eye to eye but I am not so cold of a sister or a person in general that I wouldn't care. She was my niece and I care and would have been more than willing to help any way I could. I don't understand sis why are kids are dying early. My heart breaks for Mike it really does I know what it did to you. My heart keeps getting ripped out again and again by our cousins. I am not allowed to give you and grandma a headstone and I really wanted to do that for you because I love you. Now I am no longer allowed to decorate your grave. I can only have the Mary statue and I am only allowed to leave flowers on your birthday or a Holliday. Each time I get denied to do things for you it is like losing you all over again. It hurts that family can treat family this way and it's OK. I just don't want you to be disappointed in me sis I tried so hard to do what I could for you but there are people for some reason that go out of their way to make sure I don't get it done. I tried really hard for you sis I really did. I love and miss you Tina
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 14th May 2017
Happy Mother's Day sis I love and miss you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 29th April 2017
It's 4 years now that your gone and I just want you to know how much I love and miss you. Life has been so dark and lonely since you left. I miss talking to you and coming to you with problems because I knew you cared and I knew you had an answer. I have no one now and all I can do is cry when I need relief from pressures of this life I have now that your not here to help me fix it. I'm happy that your free from pain but for me the pain just drags on. I still don't get why your gone and I'm still here. I feel so guilty because you had grand babies that needed you so much and I will never have that. If it wasn't for Brandon I would have joined you a long time ago but I have to stay for him as long as I can. I really, really miss you sis and I'll never stop loving you or protecting you as long as I am breathing. Don't forget about me sis. I love you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 16th April 2017
Happy Easter sis, I love and miss you. I hope you, matt, mom, dad and grandma are having a nice Easter in heaven. Know I miss you and Brandon colors a pink egg just for his Aunt Debby every Easter.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 27th January 2017
Hey sis I got a treat for you. Cindy Stanifer gave me a couple of pictures of you. One was her and you at the zoo in Chicago and the other is mom holding you and she is pregnant with me. Cool uh, it's our first picture together. I wish you could have seen them before you died. I will put them up so everyone can see. I love and miss you sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 1st January 2017
Happy New year sis I miss you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 30th December 2016
Miss you sis but I caught the signs you were sending me Christmas day. I spent Christmas at work it was horrible. I wish I could have went to your house to see you I really miss doing that. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas in heaven know I miss you and I'm really lonely with out you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 16th July 2016
Hey sis, I want to tell you I am so sorry from the bottom of my heart. I am so sad and confused and I have dreaded this day since you left. I am now officially older than you. I knew it would happen but I really didn't want it too. If I thought I was hated before, I really am now because I'm still here and your not. I don't understand that at all why you wouldn't be here and me be gone I still don't understand it. Did you know how much I'd miss you sis did you understand how bad it would hurt when you left. I'm so sorry I'm here and your not. I used to give you cards that said you would always be older than me and there was nothing you could do about it, did you have to prove me wrong? I never wanted to be older but we did plan to grow old together and now I have to do it with out you. I bought you a new statue for your grave since the one you and grandma have is falling apart. I know it's not as pretty as the one you have but sis it was the best I could do I hope you like it. I love and miss you with all my heart.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 5th July 2016
Happy Birthdy SIS I LOVE and miss you...
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 27th June 2016
Thank You Sis for holding my hand and my heart as I took my final test and passed it. I could feel you with me as I took my test I hope your proud. I couldn't have done it without you, of all the people in my life that has abandoned me I knew no matter what that you never, ever would. I love and miss you with all my heart. Thanks Sis for believing in me.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 3rd May 2016
I screwed up sis big time. I wish I could talk to you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 28th April 2016
Oh sis I have dreaded this day, I knew it would come and I have been so scared of it. I promised at one of your last Dr. Appt. that if you passed away that I wouldn't be long after you and if it hadn't been for Amanda and Brandon I would have already been with you. I just couldn't leave them especially Brandon as much as I hate being here without you I just can't leave him. Sis I know you understand that I have to stay with him as long as I can if it wasn't for that I'd have done left. I can't help the way I feel, I feel so guilty that I'm still here and you had to leave. You had your granddaughters and they needed you so bad and I would have given anything to have taken your place so you could have stayed. I never thought in a million years that I would become older that you. I hate it and I am so, so sorry. I just feel that I got something you should have had and it makes me feel so guilty. We shared everything and I hate that I have something you should have had the chance to have. I really don't feel like I deserve this I guess that's why I feel so guilty. I wanted so much for you and grandma to have a headstone but the powers that be won't let that happen and I'm sorry, you and grandma deserve to have one. I am going to start giving back the little bit of money back that was given to me for that since I can't get you one. The money was for you and not for me so if I can't give you a stone then I will give it back. I just wanted to do something nice for you and grandma. I keep buying you flowers and solar pretties for your grave so you will know I haven't forgotten you. I miss you just as much today as I did the day you left. I hope you’re happy where you are and Please sis don't forget me. I love you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 6th February 2016
I will never get over how empty and lonely life is with out you sis. I miss you more then you would have ever imagined. I love and miss you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 1st January 2016
Happy New Year Sis, I really miss you so much I hope you know that.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 26th December 2015
Missed you today Christmas day sis. This is my 2d Christmas without you and it was lonely with out you and Amanda wasn't hear either so that made it sad too. Didn't hear from one person in our family I shouldn't be surprised I guess. Just know you were very missed by me today. Love and miss you sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 26th November 2015
Missed you today sis, I miss having ThanksGiving at your house. I missed helping you in the kitchen and just sitting and laughing with you and spending time with you. Life just hasn't been the same since you left. No one calls and No one cares since you left. I still wish it had been me and not you, you would have handled this so much better than I have. I just wanted you to know how much you are missed today. I'm sure by more than just me.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 9th October 2015
Deb, I think Matt came to see me today in a round about way. I was so happy to see him. I am sure with out a doubt that I saw an angel today. One of the young men that installed windows on my house looked and sounded like my nephew Matt that killed his self 2 years ago. I don't think I realized till today just how much I missed him. The young man was silly and sweet and nice just like my birthday buddy Matt was when he was younger. If that was you in spirit Mathew thank you for visiting your Aunt Tina I sure have missed you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 23rd September 2015
Tuesday Sept 22, 2015 I had to put Samantha to sleep. Deb I needed you today to hold my hand through this. Doing this was like losing you all over again and my heart is just so broken. She stopped eating and today she only weighed 2 pounds and 14 ozs and Samantha was having a hard time standing so I petted her and told her I loved her as she went to sleep then I took her home and buried her next to Salem and Jeremy. God what a hard day, I know if you had been here you would have been with me today holding my hand and crying too. It is so hard to keep going since you've been gone. My whole world has just crumbled and I just don't know what to do. Still need your help sis. I love and miss you please take care of Samantha for me til I can be with you again.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 30th July 2015
Yesterday was Brandon's 19th birthday and not one person in our family called or left a message on face book to wish him a Happy Birthday. I guess I should be used to it by now being the outsider in this family and world I always have been but why should Brandon be treated the way I get treated he didn't do anything to any body. I took Brandon out for supper to Applebee's in Lafayette and a Lady walked in that looked just like you glasses and all and Brandon did a double take and asked me is Aunt Debby alive? I said no honey she is in heaven that lady just looks a lot like her, he just looked down and said Oh. You could see the dissapointment on his face. I think he hoped he had gotten a birthday gift from heaven. I just wanted you to know that Brandon and I both missed you yesterday. I miss you every second of everyday sis. I just wanted you to know.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 16th July 2015
Hi Sis, Well today arrived weather I wanted it to or not. I don't feel it is right for me to be the same age as you and if I make it to next year I will really be sad to become older than you. I just don't feel it is right or fair that I am the same age now as my big Sis. I hope you and dad and mom and grandma and matt are celebrating for me because I just am having such a hard time with this. Tell Matt I said Happy 30th Birthday tomorrow. I really do miss his silly ass running around making everyone laugh. Most of all I miss my phone call I would have gotten from you today wishing me a happy birthday!!!! Only family member that remembered me to day was Amanda and Cliff said he reminded her. Wow how things have changed since you left. If I could have one birthday wish today it would be to talk to you and give you a big hug and tell you how much I love and miss you with all my heart. It wasn't supposed to be this way, we were supposed to grow old together now I am doing that alone. I hope your at peace sis I love you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 6th July 2015
Hey sis, Hope you had a wonderful Birthday in heaven. I sent 12 balloons and a Birthday Crown your way did you see them? I hope so I wanted you to see that I was thinking about you and miss you with all my heart. Life just keeps sucking since you have been gone. I am in constant pain and meds are not helping. I really don't know what to do anymore I just feel so lost and out of place since you left. No one talks to me anymore or asks if I am ok or how I am doing, I am just here and that's it. Hope you and mom and dad and all our family in heaven had a great time on your birthday sat. I keep hoping to see you someday. Love and miss you with all my heart.
Posted by Tina Knight on 1st June 2015
Hey sis, Just wanted to say how much I missed you and love you and I am sure you know that Brandon was voted unanimously by his class mates to be Prom King it was a wonderful night and the girl that was voted Prom Queen looked just like you and I just couldn't contain my tears. I felt you with us that night and I wish we could have watched it all in person together I know you would have loved to have been there. Brandon just Graduated May 30th from high school and I know you would have given anything to have been there to watch it but you were there in sprit and I wore my necklace with your ashes in it so you could be there. I know you were smiling big as he received his core 40 diploma. I wish other family members would have been there but since you left I have no one now so it is just me all alone now. There is so much you have missed and wish you could still be here but I know you are much happier now and I know you are very loved in heaven. Just know we all miss you down here. Love you sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 29th April 2015
Well sis, it's been two years today that you left me behind and went home. I have missed you so much and it has been so very hard with out you. I have so much I want to share with you and so much you have missed since you've been gone. Brandon is graduating next month and I wish you were here to watch it with me, it is because of you that he is here to do that. If it wasn't for you Brandon would have died the day he was born and because of you I got to keep him. You will never believe what has happened. Brandon was elected by his classmates to be on the prom court and he is up for Prom King. I know I am so proud of him and I keep telling him how happy that you would be for him, I really hope he wins I think he will. I got him fitted for a tux for prom and he looks so good I knew you would have wanted to go with me and watch it all happen. I can honestly say if was a lot faster and cheaper than a girl. It has been so hard this past two years since you went home. I still sleep a lot and I have no motivation at all. I just don't know how to get it back. I had you to push me and make me do stuff and now I have no one. Amanda has moved away and it is just Brandon and I now and I get very lonely with no one to talk too. I miss you sis and May 30th I will really miss you at Brandon's graduation. I love and miss you sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 11th March 2015
If I never told you sis, You were my Hero!!!! I love and miss you so much. I miss you the most at night calling me to say you love me and tell me goodnight. It is so hard for me to keep going forward with out you but I try for Brandon, he is about to start college and I have to see that through and it is going to take all of my will and concentration to see it to the end. Please sis help me through this and help me make the right choices for Brandon. I love and miss my big sis.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 26th February 2015
Hey Deb, I have something I want to share with you. Brandon made something in his Ceramics class for you. He made it with the hopes I could sell it and make some money for your headstone fund but after seeing it and crying I told him that it was so beautiful I just couldn't sell it. I told him that if you were hear that you would love it so much that you would cry also and give him a big hug and you would be so touched at how much he loves and misses you. I will find another way to raise money for your stone. I wish with all my heart that we could give this to you bowl/vase he made for you with the breast cancer ribbon on it.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 29th January 2015
Two year ago last night matt took his life and I knew sis your fate was sealed and there wasn't a thing I could do to stop it. I prayed that god would let you stay with me anyway and give you the will to push forward but you just gave up the fight when he took his life and broke your heart. I still believe it was an accident or a stupid stunt gone wrong but matt didn't have a clue what he was going to take from everyone that night and I don't think he knew how connected his life was to so many people and the devastation that the loss of his life was going to bring. I don't know if I have quite forgiven him yet for me loosing you or all the family connection that left me too but I'm working on it sis I really am. I really did love him I always have from the first time I ever saw him and I really do miss his silliness. I love and miss you both.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 1st January 2015
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!! Sis, I love and miss you so much. I hope your having a wonderful time in heaven you are so missed.
Posted by Cael Roettger on 28th December 2014
Sorry for your loss. I hope she's having a joyous time in heaven!
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 25th December 2014
MERRY CHRISTMAS Sis, I miss you so very much. It's not Christmas with out you.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 24th December 2014
I miss you sis, I'm just sitting here at 4am by myself crying and thinking about you. I'm so lonely with out you life is so hard to live now that your gone. When I dream of you we are always having fun or I'm looking for you and even once I saw you with a beautiful crown on your head and you had a beautiful smile on your face and the prettiest wings I had ever seen and you looked so happy and healthy. I want so much to give you Christmas gifts I even bought a few for you even though I know I can't give them to you. I find no joy at all at Christmas and I know you loved it you and your charlie brown christmas trees. It is so hard to deal with all the sadness in my heart since you left, Please help me sis, because no one cares about me but you. I hope you matt and mom and dad and gradma have a Merry Christmas in heaven. Know you never leave my mind and I'll be thinking about you. I love and miss you so much Deb.
Posted by Tina Ann Wilkerson Knight on 12th December 2014
Hey Sis, I bought two silver eternity rings that have sister's forever engraved in them one for me and one for you. I can't help myself, buying you Christmas gifts. I want so bad to be able to give them to you but I know I can't so I will keep them. Just know I haven't forgotten you at Christmas. I have even thought about putting up a charlie brown tree just for you and cover it in bears. I love and miss you so much sis, the world is such a dark and empty place with out you.
Posted by Tina Knight on 27th November 2014
Happy Thanksgiving sis I really miss you today.
Posted by Tina Knight on 1st October 2014
http://www.gofundme.com/A-little-sisters-love Please help by donating. Thank You!!!!
Posted by Tina Knight on 1st October 2014
To all that visit this page, I am asking please help me put a headstone down for my big sister. I can't do it on my own and I am begging for help. I know people are short on cash but only if it is 5 or 10 dollars it adds up and with enough help I can give her a headstone. It bothers me my beautiful big sister is in an unmarked grave. Debby was a beautiful and giving person and she deserves more than that. I promise that the money will go toward a stone for her. Please go to my link and donate for my big sister. Thank You!!! http://www.gofundme.com/A-little-sisters-love
Posted by Tina Knight on 1st October 2014
Hi sis, yesterday was so funny it is days like yesterday that I wish I could call you like I used to and tell you what happened and hear you laugh, I miss hearing you laugh, sometimes when I laugh I hear a little bit of you. I took Brandon for a haircut yesterday and it was cute he was poking at me and laughing and flicking me in the arm and I would tell him, No hurting the mama and he would laugh. Last Night we were feeding the cats and Samantha gave Sabrina the ultimate payback. Amanda went to get Sabrina’s dish to put food in it and Samantha had pied in it. I laughed so hard and I wish I could have called you I know you would have gotten a big kick out of it. Amanda she was just grossed out. I miss you so much and it is very lonely without. I know you have beautiful wings now and I hope someday I get to see them. Love you sis. Tina
Posted by Tina Knight on 26th September 2014
Very lonely without you sis. I love and miss you!!!

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