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This memorial website was created in memory of Don Goodyear. Please share your memories and photos or other documents for Don's family and friends.

August 22, 2021
August 22, 2021
Late for Don's birthday this year, Happy Birthday Don! I've got a really cool framed picture of him in my new apartment in the low lit den, next to a writing desk with some of his letter openers and pottery from Africa on it. I miss Don every year and I wish I could tell him what I'm doing now.
August 16, 2021
August 16, 2021
I've been away from looking at emails for a few days as I get my son ready to go off to college, but when I saw the notice about Don I immediately clicked so I could see all of these lovely photos. My memories and thoughts about Don (and Arlene) bring me much joy. I am fortunate to know them both, and they have influenced my life and have made me a better person.
August 13, 2021
August 13, 2021
Arlene and Don taught me more than pottery. When I think of Don, it makes me realize how important it it to share what you have been given and leave the world a better place.
February 4, 2021
February 4, 2021
A day late, I had a long day of school yesterday. I don't think Don would have minded the excuse. I still talk about him and miss him all the time.
August 13, 2020
August 13, 2020
I was thinking about Don just the other day. Whenever I walk through Ft. Tryon Park and look over the Hudson River from Linden Terrace, I think about all of the wonderful walks we used to go on and our lovely conversations. I miss him and Arlene very much.
February 3, 2020
February 3, 2020
It's been 6 years since Don's passing, hard to believe. I wish I could tell him all about my college experience. I'm baking cookies tonight in his honor. I miss him a lot.
August 14, 2019
August 14, 2019
Happy 91st Birthday Don!! (A little late...)I will have tea from one of your mugs tonight to celebrate
February 3, 2019
February 3, 2019
From your “grandkids’ and myself...... we miss you Don.
David
August 13, 2018
August 13, 2018
Happy Birthday to Don! I am on my second year in college and trying to make him proud. It has been an exciting year, and I have attempted to channel his spirit in civil rights marches and peaceful protest. Time flies, but I still think about him a lot.
August 13, 2018
August 13, 2018
Don and Arlene enriched my life with a knowledge of pottery. It is a happy moment for me every time i look at their finely crafted work and the more crudely fashioned pieces I made under their kind tutelage.
February 3, 2018
February 3, 2018
I can't believe it's been 4 years since Don's passing. I was a freshman in high school at the time, and I'm a freshman in college now. I think of him a lot, and I wish he could see me in my studies. I hope that I am doing him proud.
August 13, 2017
August 13, 2017
Recently I began to read a book about trees that had formerly belonged to Arlene and Don Goodyear. I thought about how much I learned from them, wonderful teachers, and felt deeply grateful.
August 13, 2017
August 13, 2017
A very happy birthday to Don! I leave for college in two days, an event I know he would have liked to see. Knowledge is power and I plan to use every opportunity I am given, as I know he would have been proud of.
February 4, 2017
February 4, 2017
I may just "light a candle" for Don.....Knowing he would fight the good fight against the regime in place. That and I miss my visits to NY with D/A and Hudson view Gardens.
February 4, 2017
February 4, 2017
I was caught up in school and college preparation yesterday, but I knew that the 3rd anniversary of Don's death was very close. I find myself thinking about him more and more as I prepare for college. Maybe it's the academia, Don was very intelligent and worldly. Time flies, it's hard to believe it's been 3 years. My thoughts to Arlene.
February 4, 2017
February 4, 2017
Arlene visited us in California last week and we had a grand time: whale watching, orbiting simulator at Tech Museum, fish as Phil's, Mission San Juan Bautista, 2 movies. Not surprisingly, we also talked about Don a lot, remembering times ranging from the 60s to the present and in such places as Abidjan; Ougadougu, Upper Volta; Ghana; Enugu; Lagos; Manhattan; Mazatlan; California; Atlanta, just to name some. It was a fine time reminiscing about our interwoven lives and our great love and respect for Don. We miss you a lot, Don.
August 13, 2016
August 13, 2016
Arlene--hope you are having a good day remembering the pleasant times you and Don shared. I think of your sweet self, often.
February 4, 2016
February 4, 2016
Given what's going on in politics in this country this year- it would have made a lively discussion with Don. I miss my uncle.
February 3, 2016
February 3, 2016
Don Goodyear's gracious spirit and helpful lessons in ceramics contributed to the best of my experiences at Hudson View Gardens and left me with wonderful memories of my time there.
February 3, 2016
February 3, 2016
Thinking of Don in school a few weeks ago, I shared that he and Arlene were members of the Peace Corps, to which everyone was thoroughly impressed. We bought a little cake and lit a candle for Don tonight, it's strange to think it's been 3 years.
February 3, 2016
February 3, 2016
Thinking of you both on this day Arlene with warm memories of good times shared.
February 3, 2016
February 3, 2016
Just a note to remember a good friend. I probably think of Don at least once a day and talk of him and tell stories about him with family and friends on a regular basis. Time has softened his loss but not dimmed my memories.
February 3, 2016
February 3, 2016
Was thinking of a certain Irish establishment last evening and i smiled.
Thank You Don.
August 13, 2015
August 13, 2015
Wishing Don another Happy Birthday. We have an entire set of dinnerware that he and Arlene made for us a long time ago. We have a lot of their pottery actually, and when you turn them over, you can see his signature on the bottoms. I miss him everyday.
August 13, 2015
August 13, 2015
Don, I miss you. I am spending more time in Cedar Rapids now and will drive past the old house. Again, the warm humid Iowa summers and that unique Cedar Rapids "smell" are still there...
February 3, 2015
February 3, 2015
I was thinking about Don this morning. He and Arlene made little animal bowls for my siblings and I, and we eat out of them every morning. I will be thinking of him all day.
February 3, 2015
February 3, 2015
An exceptional teacher and friend much loved by many at Gateway. My warmest wishes and blessings to Arlene on this day.
Jossie
August 13, 2014
August 13, 2014
Don made a bowl Arlene gave us several years ago and we think of him every time we use it. Arlene, our thoughts are with you all.
June 12, 2014
June 12, 2014
I did not know Don except by words from Arlene. I knew Arlene since four of us were in Grade school in a 1-room schoolhouse In Mud Corners, NY. It surely follows that Arlene would choose a mate of Don's character,kindness, compassion, and wisdom. They had 40 great years together. But Don was mortal like all of us, and has passed on to a better place where ther are no tears, no pain, and no suffering. It is a blessing that she is close to her Sister and family.We pray that God will continue to bless her with loving and caring family and friends, and with good health until she passes to go be with Don..
March 29, 2014
March 29, 2014
Through and through, Don was a respectable, extremely intelligent man. It was both a pleasure and experience to have known him, even for such a short amount of time. I only got to see him annually for 6 or 7 years, but he made every moment a memorable joy as well as learning experience. I am his grand-niece, but he was much more of a grandfather to me. I will always remember him as a polite, accomplished gentleman with a thing for cookies....

With love, Cameron.
March 13, 2014
March 13, 2014
I was so saddened by the news of Don's passing, by so many others here who knew him better than I. I would often see Don and Arlene walking around the neighborhood and seeing the way they were with one another, I could tell they were a special couple. One day, I found myself sharing a bench with them outside of Starbucks and mustered up the courage to say hello, and introduced myself as a fellow HVG neighbor. I don't remember the particulars of the chat, other than the fact that it was lovely. The best thing that came out of it, was that I could call them by name after that meeting. The warmth and loveliness that radiated from Don and Arlene was infectious and always put a smile on my face. HVG misses you both, very much.
Wishing you prayers and comfort, Arlene, to you and your family.

Respectfully,
Liz Layton - HVG neighbor.
March 8, 2014
March 8, 2014
David and I miss seeing Don and Arlene around Hudson View Gardens. We've known them since the 80's when they won a fruit basket in a raffle organized by the Parents Group.  What a great couple. So friendly and fit, walking around the neighborhood. They were very community-minded and volunteered for so much at Hudson View Gardens.  We can clearly picture Don, tall and good-looking (always struck me as very "American-Clint Eastwood-Western looking) going off in the mornings with his tennis racquet to meet his friend at the courts under the GW bridge. I came to know Arlene well through our weekly yoga classes and to see how she lovingly cared for Don through the difficult last several years. 
With love from David and Jennifer
March 3, 2014
March 3, 2014
We knew Don was having some rough years but never-the-less sad to hear of his death. Brings back memories of 13 years spent at Immaculate Conception School, college years and the Air National Guard. My first real memory of Don was in third grade when the good nun was Sr. Jude, I think. Anyway, she was looking for a Spanish dancing partner for Joanne McGuire. Not sure if Don volunteered or was drafted but he looked good in the black hat with little red balls hanging from the brim. This led to his life of Spanish immersion. We spent many hours playing basketball in driveways and were both on the team in high school; many hours playing tennis and a little golf.

We went into the Air Force in 1951 and were sent to Alexandria, LA. I volunteered for nothing so I would have no skills that might delay my discharge.  Ever venturesome, Don volunteered to go to radio morse code school and then was sent to England (not Korea). Lucky him. After the service in 1953 we both went to summer school at the U of Colorado and then our separate ways.

We remember well meeting you (20 years ago?) at our hotel near Lincoln Center and your guided tour to Ellis Island and taking us to dinner somewhere down the East side. Also, the fast pace of veteran NYC walkers. There can be no complaints when you live for 85 years but it seems quite short when you look at it from this end. 

Jerry and Monica
March 2, 2014
March 2, 2014
I so remember this wonderful man who inspired so many young urban adolescents just by using their monocycles! By manuvering this cycle, he taught them the importance of balance in life! and finding their own folcrum . I so admire him. I loved when he spoke Spanish and his presence made me feel always welcomed. I wil miss him. Jossie
February 26, 2014
February 26, 2014
The wonderful photos you posted remind me of how Don always seemed to have a smile on his face even for neighbors he only knew in passing.. To all his fiends, students and family, you seem lucky to have had him in your lives and he was lucky to have had such a wonderful and devoted partner in Arlene. May his memory be a blessing and a comfort.
February 23, 2014
February 23, 2014
Sorry to hear about the passing of Don. He was a good man, a warm man, and a kind man. I always enjoyed bumping in to you and Don in the gardens or in Ft Tryon Park during your many walks. Birgit and I miss you and all the wonderful contributions you have made to the gardens and the community. I can't help but think of Arelene Goodyear picking up bits of trash out of the HVG bushes every time I take a casual stroll along the drive. I'm happy to say I've taken up the habit as well.

All the best,

Lenny Hickey
February 20, 2014
February 20, 2014
Arlene, we are so sorry about Don's passing. Our condolences to you, your family, and loved ones.
Don was such a sweet man, funny, and of course,a wonderful neighbor. This page is a lovely tribute. You are both dearly missed at HVG, and especially in M building.
Yours Truly,
Alee M-T and Jed S-Egan
February 20, 2014
February 20, 2014
Arlene, We were so sorry to hear of Don's passing. It's nice to see so many thoughtful tributes here. Sending warm thoughts to you and your family. We miss your smiling face around here.

Your former HVG neighbors,
Chris, Wendy and Quinn Donnell
February 20, 2014
February 20, 2014
I am so sorry to hear of Don’s passing. I met Don and Arlene many years ago when they were visiting Uncle Norm and Auntie Alice in San Jose. They came with a gift of pottery they made, a coffee cup, when they met me for the first time. Afterwards, they invited me to visit them in New York and extended their invitation to show me around New York. The invitation was genuine. I feel honored to have known Don. I’ll always admire and respect his wisdom.

With sympathy
Hiwot form San Jose
February 15, 2014
February 15, 2014
What an honor it was to have known Don.. He was kind and gentle,and even through his challenges with his illness I was able to see who he really was, one of those rare human beings that graced the world with love and compassion. He will always have my deepest respect.
February 15, 2014
February 15, 2014
We would like to share some fond memories of Donald Goodyear:

needing a measurement for the outhouse seat, Don willingly complied by bending his knees and squatting somewhat, but we all forgot his height, and our feet forever swung loose;

we objected to his name choice of “Solon” in the Botticelli game, never having heard of such a person, only to see the name used four times in the next day’s paper;

asked why he worked and laughed so hard at freeing ice flows in the Hudson River, he replied “If I don’t do it who will?”;

making and bottling beer in his NYC apartment proved relatively simple once Arlene gave up use of the bathtub, others agreed to hair-raising car jaunts in search for ingredients, and once tenants became accustomed to the smell;

Maurice Chevalier would have smiled approvingly as Don sang and danced one evening near the park to “Thank Heavens for Little Girls”;

as well the proud smirks when he wore the clay pendant made in a raku kiln constructed of haphazard sheet metal pieces and fired with the help of our sheep/goat/pig guano.

Oh, and then there were the loved excursions to NYC used book stores with Don in the lead.
February 14, 2014
February 14, 2014
I was Don’s caregiver from the time he left rehab until his passing. I did not know Don before the onset of dementia and yet, reading other comments, I knew him better than I realized. It was late spring, and I would take Don to Kemper Park by Mitchie Tavern. It has several walking trails leading to Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello or up Carter’s Mountain. We would walk about a quarter of a mile before tiring, sit on a bench, eat a snack, and watch the runners go by. Don loved nature. There was always something in bloom and it fascinated him how thick the forest was. He never turned down an apple, or one of Arlene’s cookies! With each week, the return walk to the car became more difficult. We would spend a little less time walking, and a little more time riding in the car. We always stopped at McDonald’s for a coke and an apple pie! Don would comment when he saw a nice car, particularly a red one that looked fast!

Taking Don to the nursing home up in Stanardsville was a difficult day for me but he was a trooper. The other residents humored him. However, his slow decline began to accelerate. When Don could, we would go out for a ride. I would open up the sunroof, all of the windows, and ride up over the Blue Ridge Mountains, filling him with fresh mountain air, stopping in the little town of Elkton on the other side. Don and I would sit at the McDonald’s eating our apple pies, sharing a coke, and watch the world go by. We did that once or twice a week until hospice said no more.

His body was having difficulty healing itself. Simple bruises became wounds. However, even when he was in pain, Don was always charming, especially with the ladies. Anyone who met Don fell in love with him. His eyes were so expressive and he had a mischievous smile. There was something about that smile. My day was not complete without one but what touched my heart most was the genuine love his eyes expressed when Arlene walked in the room.

Trying to heal his wounds was a battle. I would assist the hospice RN with changing his bandages. It was disheartening. There is a shortage of beds but Hospice found a nursing home in Charlottesville and with more specialized care. I would get there early every morning so I could work with their wound care nurse. Carol was awesome! Don’s wounds were looking better. For a brief time, it felt like we were winning the battle. It was short lived. The antibiotics became ineffective.

The last three days, I sat by his side, holding his hand, and praying. I sensed the time was near, but I kept asking God for more time. It seems selfish now, but I think I needed him more. It was in those moments I had learned so much about myself. Don was a teacher to the end.
February 14, 2014
February 14, 2014
Norm and Alice Gary win the medal for steadfast friendship! For several years they have bolstered Don and me in so many ways: frequent cross country visits, phone calls, emails, surprise mailings of no end of surprising contents - It is no wonder that on Norm's last visit Don, even with his memory loss, said on Norm's leaving, "Goodbye, Norm. Thanks for coming!"

The credit for this memorial is Norm's. I am profoundly grateful.
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August 22, 2021
August 22, 2021
Late for Don's birthday this year, Happy Birthday Don! I've got a really cool framed picture of him in my new apartment in the low lit den, next to a writing desk with some of his letter openers and pottery from Africa on it. I miss Don every year and I wish I could tell him what I'm doing now.
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February 3, 2015

It's a year since Don died and not a day goes by that I don't think of him. Don and our friend Al Ulmer both died this year. Goes with getting older, I guess.

Many of my stories with Don in them revolve around Al and a bunch of our other Nigeria Peace Corps friends.

A general story concerns Don's very knowledgeable and pragmatic take on American history and American politics. In Nigeria several of us got together regularly to discuss (argue?) politics. Don was a bit older and considerably better informed. Most of us younger ones were fairly radical in our politics and very critical of American foreign policy and civil rights issues, even then. Don was often the voice of reason, pointing out that change was slow and that a lot of the things we were critical of had historical precedents. He even defended Bobby Kennedy, whom JFK had appointed attorney general from our cry of nepotism, telling us that this was usual. Successful candidates often appointed their campaign managers as AG.

Of course all of this was before Vietnam had become a daily headline, and Selma and some of the more visible civil rights issues were still a year or two away. 

After we returned to the US, Don became much more activist and impatient at the pace of change; he helped found the Committee of Returned Volunteers, an activist group of former Peace Corps Volunteers dedicated to protesting the Vietnam war and promoting civil rights. He was very active and at some point ended up being hauled off to jail as part of a protest--a fact that I think he viewed as a badge of honor. He was involved in much more and spent some of his later history scholar time writing about the abuses of American power in Latin America.

Don continued to set an example for the rest of us. We miss him.

Goodyear, Al Ulmer and Albert Camus

April 19, 2014

This seems like a good time to add another anecdote to the Don file.

Our good friend and Peace Corps colleague, Al Ulmer, died this week.

In the Peace Corps, Al and I regularly played tennis, usually mid-day in the African sun and usually during times when nobody else was using the courts, such as during vacation periods. One time we were having our usual slam-bang match and Al mentioned in passing that he had just come across an author he was very impressed with. He had just read a novel named "The Stranger" by a French Algerian named Camus, pronouncing the name with the final "s".

A couple of games later I said, "Al, I don't want to embarrass you, but the author's name is pronounced as Camu, without saying the final "s". "  I know you would want me to tell you this because if you ever said Camus with the "s" around Don, you would never hear the last of it.

"Right. Thanks, Norm" says Al.

Over beer after the game, it suddenly occurs to us both that this might be a chance to put the Mickey up Goodyear. "Al, how about we bring up "The Stranger" casually around Don, pronounce the author's name as Camus and see if he will take the bait." "Norm, I love it! We can catch him and then have a good laugh when he corrects us" says Al, never missing a beat in a chance of one-ups-manship.

So at the next Emene Basketball and World Affairs Seminar, we casually begin talking about this new French writer we have discovered named Camus (with the "s"), waiting for Don to take the bait. Not a word. Not a smirk, Nothing. All evening. Never. Damned Goodyear had foiled us again.

Former Student

March 20, 2014

Mr. Goodyear was one of my favorites at Glen Cove High School, and this memorial collection would be incomplete without a note from one of his ex-students.  I took 3 of his courses, from 1974-1977.  We even created a new course just to keep him as our teacher.  I worked on the Profile yearbook with him.  I can't say for certain why he was a favorite.  Of course, he was a great teacher, inspired interest in history, etc.  He had a wry sense of humor, and put up with a lot of teenage attitude.  He taught on Long Island, where most students were rather well off, and had strong opinions and were outspoken.  We knew he was from the Midwest.  He had all of these hokey ways of saying things.  "Nyucular" energy and "Febyouary" come to mind.  Like George Bush, much later...
We convinced him to take us on a couple of field trips to New York City.  I remember one in particular, to see a movie about coal miners.  We wound up at a Brew Burger in midtown.  Bad Company's "Feel Like Makin' Love" was playing.  The whole thing was surreal.
I have a picture that looks remarkably like "Don Taking a Break from reading" in this memorial.  I think he gave it to us for the yearbook.  He didn't like our candid shots.  He also didn't like to share too much of his private life with us.
Rumor had it that he attended a party given by some of his ex-students in the 1980's.  Unfortunately I missed it.  Wish I had stayed in touch.
Mr. Goodyear, you would have laughed to learn that now I am the token Long Islander living in the Midwest.
Rest in peace.  You are missed.
Carl Forrest
(nee Feldman) 

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