You're still here with us Mom.
  • 86 years old
  • Born on December 28, 1926 in Detroit, Michigan, United States.
  • Passed away on November 17, 2013 in Danbury, Connecticut, United States.
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Dorothy Duncan 86 years old , born on December 28, 1926 and passed away on November 17, 2013. We will remember her forever.
Posted by Barb Glovac on 29th December 2017
Aunt Dorothy came to visit us in 1999. We remember how much fun our daughters had with her at the Henry Ford Museum. It was a great day!
Posted by Amy Appleby on 28th December 2017
Happy Birthday Mommy, It's getting a little easier here as the years go on without you. But still so hard at Christmas. Your love goes on, and so does mine. Thank you for everything. I hear you.
Posted by Don Fleming on 17th November 2017
Working with Dorothy to find her ideal home on Kellner Pond was really a wonderful experience. It was great to help her fulfill her vision and to know her during those final years... but the time too short. Wishing the best and fond memories to all who knew and loved her.
Posted by Amy Appleby on 28th December 2016
Happy Birthday Mom. Thanks for looking after us. Your love continues to guide me while you rest. I miss you so. The
Posted by Matthew Vianna on 28th December 2016
Happy Birthday Grandma Didi! I miss you and dad a ton. Christmas is never the same now without you two. I loved spending the holidays at your house. Well anyways I hope you guys had a blessed holiday up in the skies and that you two spent it together. I love you. 90 and rocking in my heart!
Posted by Shaun Appleby on 26th December 2016
Been feeling you a lot lately, Mom. Tomorrow would be your 90th birthday and I so wish we could spend that day together. Dear memories of you keep coming to me and I am so grateful for the lightness and grace of your love. Bless you and thanks; you are in my heart always. Happy birthday, Mom.
Posted by Amy Appleby on 17th November 2016
Mommy it was three long years ago that you stepped out so suddenly. I know you would have suffered to stay. So very tired. I'm still trying to get used to it, your voice so quiet. Keep talking' I can hear you. I love you so.
Posted by Shaun Appleby on 28th February 2016
Mom, I miss you very much. I hope my eyes can see some light for you too, now, the way you always shared things with me. I spend a bit of time thinking about you quite often and in unexpected ways. A bit of Chopin or a beautiful sunset is where we meet these days, it seems. That is fine with me, Mom, and I'm grateful for your presence. Life is all about love and yours filled my world in ways I am still only realising. God bless you and thanks for everything. Your love rests in my heart.
Posted by Amy Appleby on 28th December 2015
Happy birthday Mom. I love you, as always--and miss you so very much. Thanks for everything. You sure stood by me,, and I see your face in everything beautiful.
Posted by Matthew Vianna on 28th December 2015
Happy birthday grandma didi. I love you.
Posted by Ehukai Teves on 28th December 2015
Happy Birthday share some cake with the angels........................
Posted by Mary Lou Duncan on 18th November 2015
"I will always remember Dorothy singing Ich Liebe Dich at Jack's and my wedding. I also remember her smile and the twinkle in her eye. We didn't see her as much as we would have liked, but always enjoyed our visits."
Posted by Steve Malley on 17th November 2015
Dear Dottie, I think of you often, still. Our cups of coffee with evaporated milk. I bought some recently and think of you each time I put some evaporated milk in my coffee. Bless you. Thank you for being my second Mom. Love, Steve
Posted by Sam Austin on 17th November 2015
Thinking of you with much love.
Posted by Amy Appleby on 17th November 2015
Mom it was your last night tonight two years ago. We had some tasty brownies and laughed about Mr. Monk on TV. Then you hugged me tight and said goodnight. Thank you for all you did for us. You were a wonderful Mom and I miss you so.
Posted by Amy Appleby on 9th July 2015
Mom, it was nice to sit with you at the cemetery. Jed's headstone will be ready next week. Sorry to say you will have the early company there. How nice that those geraniums are still blooming there. I miss you so much. The world is so different without you--my dear friend.
Posted by Amy Appleby on 28th December 2014
Happy Birthday Mom. We miss you every day.
Posted by Ehukai Teves on 28th December 2014
Enjoyed every visit with you .......... thank you and Happy Birthday.....
Posted by Shaun Appleby on 27th December 2014
Happy birthday, Mom, you will always be close to our hearts. We love you and miss you very much.
Posted by Eva Saks on 18th November 2014
Thinking of you.
Posted by Eva Saks on 18th November 2014
I would expect a night of a thousand stars from anyone who produced Amy!
Posted by Mary Lou Duncan on 17th November 2014
The photos bring back so many happy memories of visits with Dorothy - the visit Jack and I made to Candlewood and the last visit with Dorothy at her perfect home on Apple Blossom Lane. We all remember her visit to Grosse Pointe with a picnic at the park and the "I Love New York" T-shirts that she brought all the children. The New York World's Fair was an excuse for the Duncans to visit Bayview. Adding six more to the mix did not faze Dorothy! Apple Blossom Lane seemed to be such a paradise for her, surrounded by beautiful views across the pond and pool, her garden and Daisy at her side and Peter and Amy's loving visits. Always smiles and laughs. How could one not wish for a more peaceful final sleep than hers with all the beauty and love around her.
Posted by Howard Sperber on 17th November 2014
I never met you, Dorothy, but just knowing Amy as I did, over all these years, lets me understand how wonderful you must have been, and what a special relationship you and Amy must have shared! Wishing you eternal peace and rest.
Posted by Karin Pedersen on 17th November 2014
Fond memories of Mrs. Appleby....although all of Jed's friends could call her by her first name, I could not....something my parents instilled in me. Screaming at us to turn down the damn music, constantly, and the willingness to drive us all to Rye Playland to celebrate Jed's 16th birthday! FUN TIMES!
Posted by Trish Pries on 17th November 2014
Dorothy - Can't believe its been a year. I miss hanging out with you and Amy and Peter in your pool. I miss seeing you with Daisy. When ever I see a Shepard, the image of you with Daisy's paws on your shoulders always comes to my mind. The joy on your face and Daisy's convinced me of the bond between a dog and it's master, considering that dog could have bowled you over in a heartbeat. And I miss hearing the joy in Amy's voice when she spoke of the things you did together. You are missed, but your kind and wise words are still with us. Thank you. And thank you for my very dear friend Amy.
Posted by Jackie Torrance on 17th November 2014
Dorothy, I did not know you but Amy has spoken of you so often during the past year and I am witness to how much you are loved and missed. God Bless!
Posted by Deborah Freed on 17th November 2014
Dear Dorothy, you were a beacon in our childhood and teenage years. Do you have any idea how much we admired you? You were a pillar of strength. You always knew the truth and loved us anyway. You never failed to teach, mentor, or love your children's friends. You were a hands-on mother. You brought us great joy and laughter, taught us about garage sales, and let us hold our own in your yard. You are missed. My love goes out to Amy, Jed, Shaun and their families. You remain a shining star whose light lives on through them.
Posted by Laurel Lake on 17th November 2014
Today is your birthday with your father above.we all miss you love all ways from the Simmons Family to the Pickow family
Posted by Jed Appleby on 17th November 2014
It's Taken me a year to put my thoughts together and pay tribute to the greatest mother a son could have asked for. even after i stole the VW bus or had wild parties at 60 Bayview she still handled things like you have read from so many people on this page, supportive, guiding, and very wise. She was not just a great mother but a mentore and a great friend. When my dad passed we knew it was coming and his sons, daughter and grand children got a chance over a week to say goodbye. I thought Didi would out live me! she was so strong and I was going to call her that Sunday to make plans for Thanksgiving but she never woke up that morning. For a brief moment I felt cheated that i couldn't say goodbye, then I realized what a jerk I was because she went so peacefully. I'm sorry mom that it took a year to write this I just wanted it to mean something. I love and miss you so much!!! Your baby boy, Jed
Posted by Amy Appleby on 17th November 2014
Mom, it was today you left us last year. I miss you so much. So very much. Life is so different without you. I love you.
Posted by Sam Austin on 17th November 2014
What a beautiful tribute to a fabulous lady. We will remember her always. Thinking of you Amy & Peter xox
Posted by Grazina Crisman on 17th November 2014
Memories, memories... Such great memories... You will never be forgotten, Dorothy!! Hope you are enjoying your new dimension and space!
Posted by Abdulla Al Mazidi on 17th November 2014
I have never met Dorothy. But from the love and the void in people's heart who has been left behind I can see she was a very special person that forever she will be missed. May God rest her soul and welcome her in his kingdom. Abdulla
Posted by Grazina Crisman on 9th July 2014
I already miss this absolutely wonderful, wise and funny woman with a great zest for life! I just remember laugh upon laugh being with her. We worked together and then became personal friends outside of work. Life took us in different directions, but when we would reconnect, it was like we just talked yesterday. Knowing Dorothy was a gift in my life! One that will always be with me... I know you are laughing with us still, Dorothy, wherever you may now be!
Posted by Amy Appleby on 29th December 2013
Mom, happy birthday. Peter and I miss you so much.
Posted by Laurel Lake on 28th December 2013
To a loving mom : Amy and Family remember a wonderful mother and friend. Happy 87 Birthday you will be missed very much.From the Simmons. Love you.
Posted by Glen Duncan on 11th December 2013
Aunt Dottie was truly my favorite! Loved every Christmas growing up, waiting to open the beautifully wrapped gift, knowing it would be a wonderful book I could get lost in. She was our connection to the world of books, and made sure we appreciated them by sending beautiful, special, hand-picked editions to us all each year. I remember phone calls as student/grad student/adult and loved to hear her voice. When we visited that big house in Port Washington at Christmastime, she magically snapped up tickets to the Radio City Music hall Christmas special with the Rockettes. In one scene, Santa was reading letters from girls and boys. When he held up one and said this is from Hillary, our daughter Hillary about came out of her chair with the biggest smile ever and look of astonishment, believing this special woman had made that happen ! Dottie, we miss you very much. Thank you for being in my life. - Glen
Posted by Steve Malley on 9th December 2013
One of the great things about Dottie was visiting around the dining table and drinking coffee brewed in her special Chemex drip pot. She was always such a good listener and so friggin smart - always had good genuine advice and concern.
Posted by Rich U. on 9th December 2013
"I'm still shocked at the loss of this beautiful and kind woman. To have a next door neighbor as friendly and sweet as Dorothy was will forever be a blessing. Always up for some tea and conversation, she spoke of her love of family and home often and I think Dorothy was very happy. I'll miss our talks together, and will always think fondly of her."
Posted by Amy Appleby on 6th December 2013
Cousin Paul Jacobi asked me to leave this note: "Dear Amy, I was so shocked and saddened to hear about your mother's death. The news was a reminder about just how fragile life is for us all. Your mother had a wonderful collection of traits that included humor, sympathy, frankness, and patience - sometimes all at the same time. Oh, I am going to miss her! Your cousin, Paul"
Posted by Charles Geyer on 6th December 2013
I had the privilege of being Dorothy's guest in Port Washington numerous times in the years after Amy and I had graduated Yale, and feeling always that she was a friend of potent and valiant character. I cherish memories of her wit and forthrightness, her canny appreciation of human nature -- not to mention humane love of canine nature! She was erudite, strong and artistic. My heart is with you – Amy and Peter and all of her friends and loved ones. I too will miss having Dorothy among us.
Posted by Jackie Torrance on 5th December 2013
Amy,Peter We know how hard it is to lose a mother - our hearts go out to you. But be pleased that you had so much time together - she was certainly blessed to know how much she was loved - the photographs are testimony to that. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May your memories sustain you. Love Jackie and Luis
Posted by Barb Glovac on 4th December 2013
What a delight and what fun Aunt Dorothy was when she came to visit Grosse Pointe in 1999. I am so glad my daughters had a chance to meet her. She will truly be missed.
Posted by Alan & Pat Gelman on 4th December 2013
This is such a beautiful tribute to your beloved mother, A & P….she clearly was a person who inspired love and laughs in everyone she knew! The photos of her enjoying that great house and her animals are just wonderful. You were lucky to have her in your lives for as long as you did. Love, the other A & P from 82nd Street
Posted by Amy Appleby on 4th December 2013
James Moulton asked me to leave this comment about Mom: ''I am so saddened to have learned of the tragic passing of Dorothy Duncan on 11/17/13.... she and her entire family have been very such wonderful neighbor-friends from 60 Bayview Avenue in Port Washington LINY since we first met in the springtime of 1966.... and ever since...as the many enviable years having rolled on by...we have always been the very best of such wonderful neighbor-friends..keeping everybody entertained and helping each other out when needed....I do have several audiotaped-recordings of Dorothy Duncan...including right on my 8/2/80-loud Tstorm tape when she was talking with my dad. Dorothy will be badly and sadly missed by her entire loving family and many of her good friends....as she will always be happily reminisced..''
Posted by Matthew Vianna on 3rd December 2013
Dear Grandma Didi, You've been around my whole life. From Christmas times up at the Church to recently at your houses in Connecticut. So many good memories have been spent with you. One of my last visits I got coming up to visit you I had the chance to tell you what I wanted to do when I got older. I could see you a tear in your eye that you were proud of me; seeing me turn around and looking to become something you never thought I'd be. I love you. A lot of us wish you were here with us or at least gave us a chance to say good-bye but you avoided all the pain and that's what matters :) I have to admit you have some of the best children.. Amy, Shaun and my father. I am so grateful to have a family like this. "Ohana means family and family means no one gets left behind or forgotten." Its a quote from a cartoon I used to watch. Point is Family is forever. I know that your best friends have always had 4 feet. I hope all is well up there with all your German Shepherds. You were the best and I will never forget you.. Love Your Grandson <3
Posted by Sharon Kermiet on 3rd December 2013
Hi, Amy - I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I know from experience there are no right words to make someone feel better in this situation, but I want you to know you and your family are in our thoughts. The pictures on your mom's memorial site show a happy family with lots of living . . . and German shepherds! I had to smile at those pics - my mom, who passed away in 2008, also loved German shepherds and had one at her side most of her life. The ache gets better over time as I'm sure you've been told. I remember thinking it never would. Take care of yourself and give our love to Peter. Sharon
Posted by Maureen McDonnem on 3rd December 2013
Amy and Peter: I am so sorry to learn about your Mother's passing. Although I did not know your Mom, she seems to be an amazing independent woman. You were indeed blessed by having her in your life and her life lessons she passed to you are passed on to others who know you -- and I am one of those lucky people. Love, Maureen and Jimmy
Posted by Andy Rubenoff on 3rd December 2013
Thinking of you all with great fondness.
Posted by Jan Duncan on 2nd December 2013
Dear Aunt Dorothy - I only just realized how much you resemble your mother (dear Grandma Mimi). She was a wonderful spunky lady and so were you. I regret that we did not have an opportunity to visit you in CT and spend more time with you. You raised 3 wonderful children. We love you dearly and you will be missed. Say hi to Jack for us - I bet he and Maude have a lot of stories to tell you. Love, Jan

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