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From A Stranger

August 12, 2014

I am a stranger. A total stranger. In fact, my lolo is the only one who introduced Dr Eufemio to me. I never saw him, met him, although I met him in my lolo's stories. I imagined him like what he is in real photos... only difference is that he is skinnier than from what i imagined at the back of my mind. All praises, all good memories, my lolo is 81 years old now, whenever we would catch up with each other during visits, he always tells stories about Dr Eufemio, how he treated them with care, so very empathetic with the poor and the unfortunate. He is very strict and straightforward, and yet very genuine. And honest too. My lolo told me to search for him. mail him his regards, by the way Dr Eufemio was once our family doctor. My lolo's name is Max Capili from Paco..... Dr Eufemio took care of my great grandparents, my grandparents and my mother....alll the vivid stories and jokes, I am deeply saddened to search him today August 12 2014 to find out he's already passed away a year ago...I dont know how to break the story to my Lolo a very sensitive man he is, and he's 81 now..... but Im happy, so happy to see this site for Dr Eufemio,, reading all those stories about him. What a great man he was, although I havent met him, I am deeply touched by the stories. I pray for you, Dr Eufemio, I will forever be in debt for your compassion, for touching so many lives, lives as simple as those like my family. I am just a stranger, actually I havent met him, but from my Lolo's stories, Im so glad I found this page for him. Thank You. Thank You Sir.

From Malaya Newspaper Column

January 18, 2013

For most of the last six decades, to many of those who knew him, the name of George Eufemio was synonymous with surgery in the Philippines. When he passed away early this month, a few weeks short of his 83rd birthday, Philippine medicine and indeed the whole health sector lost a pillar of strength and an advocate of excellence in service.

After graduating from the University of the Philippines in 1956, Dr. Eufemio served the Filipino people in many capacities as a physician. As a practitioner, he did surgery on many patients including countless indigents who sought treatment at the Philippine General Hospital. As a medical teacher, he trained a whole generation of undergraduates and surgeons in all the hospitals where he practiced but most significantly his alma mater where he also served as Chairman and Professor of Surgery and Vice-Chancellor for Planning and Development in the 1980s. As a medical scientist, Dr. Eufemio was a prominent member of the UP-PGH Liver Study Group that earned a global reputation for advances in the treatment of liver diseases. To many colleagues in the academe, his crowning academic achievement was guiding the publication, as editor-in-chief, of the first Philippine Textbook of Surgery

Most of his friends and colleagues called him simply George. He was active in medical organizations, serving as president of the Philippine College of Surgeons and chairman of the Philippine Board of Surgery. He was involved as well in the Philippine Cancer Society as a member of its Board of Directors and outstanding Chair of the Manila Cancer Registry.

A proud and patriotic Filipino, George was nevertheless highly conscious and respectful of his Chinese roots. Perhaps for this reason, he allowed his close associates, including those whom he taught, to sometimes refer to him as “Akong” (a reference to a comic Chinese stereotype portrayed in an old radio comedy show of the late 1950s). The medical community will miss him.

- Albert Romualdez, Malaya Newspaper, 16 Jan 2013 

January 18, 2013

I remember and miss Uncle George for his warmth, kindness, good humor, and love for family, all of which I see have been passed on to his children and know will be passed on to his grandchildren.  I remember those times when he visited us in New York, memories highlighted by the special things we did (watch Jurassic Park in the theater when it first came out, watch Les Miserables on Broadway with Lea Salonga as Eponine). Like An I feel very lucky to have been able to spend time with Uncle George this past summer, probably the most time in the past 20 years.

I remember his vitality and love of tennis, his laughter and my own when he told one of his many funny anecdotes.  I also remember his devotion to and excellence in his life's calling, and the great admiration and respect he had from patients and colleagues alike.

We remember you today, your birthday, and always.  Thank you Uncle George.

Eric

From Eugene Tan

January 16, 2013

I just wanted to convey my sincere condolences on the passing of your father, our Uncle George.   As you remember and pay tribute to your father, I wanted to share with you my last memory of him.   The last time I saw Uncle George was during the 75th birthday celebration of my mother last August 11, 2012.  As you may know, my mother suffered a very serious stroke in 2009 and so is half-paralyzed.  Uncle George attended the celebration of my mother's birthday.  We remember his attendance so well as he was one of the most punctual and by far the best dressed among all our guests.   He was the only person who attended the event in a suit and was very warm and kind to my parents, especially my Mom.   These things meant a lot to me personally as as it showed how Uncle George was a very proper man who respected to the people I value most.  In addition, I will never forget that Uncle George also helped look after my Mom while she was in the hospital.    I did not have the fortune of knowing Uncle George better, but I would say that the Uncle George I know and will always remember is a true Gentleman and a man with a kind heart.   I attach his picture during our celebration for our mother last August.   Uncle George is in the prayers of our family.   God bless, Eugene    

ang Pamana..

January 14, 2013

          Sa tuwing umaga na magra-rounds si Dr. George sa bawat floor, kaakibat noon ang mga supot ng pandesal na pinapamahagi niya sa umaga. Halos kilala siya ng lahat bilang isang kinatatakutang doctor. Noong una, kilala ko lang siya sa pangalan dahil ang Mommy ko ay nagtatrabaho sa Operating Room ng CSMC. Lahat ay takot sa kanya, makita pa lang siyang lumalabas sa elevator ay kaniya-kaniyang alisan na ng mga nurse sa station. Nung na-admit siya sa aming floor, isa ako sa naatasang mag-alaga sa kanya. Masasabi ko na strikto talaga siya. Ayaw niya ng sasagot ka ng sasagot na para bang hindi mo alam ang nangyayari. Unang kita pa lang namin ay masasabi kong nagkasundo naman kami. Hindi niya ako nasabihan ni isa mang hindi magandang salita. Naaalala ko pa nung muli siyang na-admit samin, pumunta ako sa kwarto niya para dalhan siya ng admitting kit. (Hindi dapat ako ang nurse niya kundi si Maam Marie Bernabe). Pero nung nakita niya ko, ang nasambit lang nya ay, "YOU TAKE CARE OF ME!". Mula noon, ako na palagi ang nagiging nars ni Akong, minsan habang nagsasalin ako ng dugo sa kanya, tinanong nya, "Anung gusto mong pagkain?, Nakakain ka na ba sa Anapolis?" ang tanging nasagot ko lamang sa kanya ay, "Hindi po Doc, hanggang Mcdo lang po ako. :) Pagkatapos nagulat na lang ako na biglang may dumating na pagkain from Anapolis na agad naman naming pinagsaluhan ng aking mga kasama. Sa di inaasahang pagkakataon, nagkaroon si Doc ng reaksyon sa transfusion ko, ayaw niya akong umalis sa tabi nya. Kahit anim ang pasyente ko ng gabing iyon, sinikap kong bantayan siya hanggang sa mawala ang pag-aalala sa mukha niya. Na-discharge siya subalit pagkaraan ng ilang araw ay na re-admit sa aming floor. Nakaugalian sa amin sa 6th floor na gumamit ng pulse oximeter sa tuwing magra-rounds sa mga pasyente (although iilan lamang ang meron nito sa floor namin dahil sila sila rin ang nagprovide nito). Minsan ng magrounds ako sa kanya, itinuro nya ang kanyang daliri, na para bang nagaantay na gumamit ako ng pulse oximeter. Ngunit sa kasamaang palad, wala akong ganoong gadget. Sabi nya, "Oh, Nasan ung oximeter mo? Ang sabi ko lamang ay, "Wala po Doc e." "Bakit naman?! tugon niya. "Walang pong pambili. :)" biro ko sa kanya. Natawa lamang siya. Bago siya na-discharge pinapunta nya ako sa kwarto nya. "May regalo ako sayo!" Nagulat na lang ako ng iabot sa akin ang isang Pulse Oximeter. Natuwa ako ng sobra at ang tanging nasambit ko lamang ay "SALAMAT PO DOC!" He got my number at sinabi nyang tutulungan kita.

          Sa tuwing magrarounds si Doc sa amin, kasama si Doc Sherry Lee, lagi ko siyang sinasamahan. Halos lumundag ako sa tuwa sa mga papuring sinasabi niya sa akin kay Doc She. "I like this guy! Magaling na bata." Coming from him sadyang nakakataba iyon ng puso. Sa tuwing masasalubong ko naman siya sa baba ay agad kaming nag-aapir na kamay at nagbabatian. :)

             Ang huli kong alaala ko sa kanya ay ng dalawin ko siya sa ICU, nang makita niya kami, ayaw niya kameng paalisin. Kahit na hindi siya makapagsalita dahil sa laki ng Mask na nasa mukha niya, Minustra nya na tumabi kami sa kanyang tabi. Pagkatapos, para bang nagsign language siya na ang ibig sabihin ay IPAGDASAL NINYO AKO. Kahit na hindi sabihin ni Doc, mula ng una kong nalaman ang kalagayan nya'y palagi siyang kasama sa aking mga panalangin. Nang dumating ang araw ng kanyang paglisan, pumunta ko sa ICU at masasabi kong masaya ako na isa ako sa tumulong upang iayos ang kanyang mga labi. Sa isang banda, malungkot mang isipin ngunit at least, hindi na mahihirapan si Doc.

         Maraming salamat Doc George sa mga alaala. Hindi ka po namin malilimutan. Masaya akong nakita ko Doc George na masayahin. Yung Doc George na hindi dapat katakutan. Salamat po sa pamanang mga pangaral at sa oximeter. Gagamitin ko po ito para mas lalong mapabuti ang paglilingkod ko sa mga pasyente. I know you're in God's good hands Doc. Til we meet again.

From Royal Australasian College of Surgeons

January 12, 2013

I should like to convey my condolences to you after George's death.

George was a friend for over thirty years.

I was privileged in every way, not only  his friendship, but the opportunity to discuss & review scholarship, academia & many aspects of surgery.

These are the matters that bind surgeons in a strong Fellowship, and this George treasured as a special privilege.

His knowledge, his humour & capacity to make those around him feel at ease were special features of your father.

Every time I visited RP from Australia, I was always privileged to enjoy his warmth & his humour –very special.

I was really a proponent of his Textbook, which was a Filipino achievement indeed.

I was also privileged to be involved in George becoming an Honorary Fellow of the Royal Australasian College of Surgeons in 1992.

I will miss his friendship & the loss of his strong & contributory intellect.

 

Tom Reeve.

 

My Boss...

January 12, 2013
Year 2002, i needed a job. Yes. I resigned from CSMC after my contact and delivered my 2nd child. My OR supervisor then asked me if i want to apply as private scrub nurse because at that time 3-4 doctors needed one and one of them is Dr. George. I said I needed to think about it baka di ko kayanin especially Akong's pinaka-kakaibang personality. Perfectionist, walang pakialam sa feelings ng iba, sasabihin kung ano ang gustong sabihin, strict, matanong kasi masyadong matalino. Yan ang pagkakakilala ko sa kanya. But I'm really interested with General Surgery that's why I chose him. He was immediately informed na may isang nagkamaling magapply sa kanya. He interviewed me sa OR lounge. His first question was "Are you married?" and said yes. He called my husband to join us that afternoon. Tanungin ba naman ako kung kaya ko daw ba sya? Gusto kong umatras pero I needed a job kaya sinagot ko sya OPO kaya ko kayo. He smiled.. I started the next day.. Utang na loob, unang araw namura ako kasi napatayan ko sya ng ilaw sa table nya. Gusto kong umiyak...sabi niya you need to memorize everything I prefer in 1 month or else... Some of my friends told me, "pustahan tayo di ka tatagal ng 6 months." Ayokong umalis ng CSMC. Kinaya ko. Everyday got better. May times pa din na napapagalitan ako in front of our patients. Tumibay ang loob ko. After that madalas napupuri na ako. Obviously, tumagal ako for 10 years. Di lang trabaho ko ang minahal ko pati personal OR instruments niya. Hindi sya maramot purihin ako kung talagang deserving ako. Everything he did made me an efficient nurse. Sa kanya ko mismo narinig na magaling akong nurse. I realized madalas ako na ang gumagawa ng mga trabaho namin sa clinic. He see to it alam ko lahat kahit di ako doctor. Kaya nagra-rounds ako early morning and will update him and will join him again pag magrounds na sya. Kaya kahit nasa tennis pa sya alam niyang nagtatrabaho na ako kaya panatag na sya. Madalas tinatanong tuloy ako ng floors kung kasunod ko na daw ba sya  kasi magtatago na sila.  Kala tuloy ng pasyente doctor din ako. Kaya tuloy sa sobrang tiwala niya sa akin, pati trabahong outside sa job description ko eh ako na ang gumagawa. Kala ko nong ginagawa namin yung research/ study namin sa patients on SE, laging hirap lang ang sa akin kasi sa akin nya lahat tinambak trabaho, taga edit at puna ka lang. Pero nung natapos natin ung paper, you see to it alam nila na kasama nya ako sa paggawa, na mas madami ang hirap ko habang on going ang study. Sa kanya din ako nagkainteres sa photography kaya aside from celphone, next gadget na dala ko ay camera especially pag may OR kami. Madalas ako pa ang kinukuhanan nya ng pictures sa OR. Wag ideny madami akong evidence. There are times gusto akong batukan ng 2 pinakamamahal kong secretaries nya kasi bakit ko sya tinuruan sa mga new technologies. Kaya tuloy dumami ang hinihingi nya. Search this, search that. hay sabi ko kung kelan nsa 80's na tsaka pa naging techy.. Kakatuwa din naman kahit pano.  He's a very generous person. Kahit di kilala bibgyan ng tulong. Balewala daw ang pera. I am a very good witness to that. Thank you very much. Alam mo na po yun sir. But nung dumating yun time na alam kong embassy interview ko na, di ko maumpisahang magpaalam. Kasi alam ko maski sya in denial. Pero sabi nga nya di nya ako kayang bayaran per hour. Wala akong makuhang papalit sa akin. Kaya lalo tuloy ayokong magpaalam. Pero may pakpak ang balita at nalaman nya. araw araw tinatanong nya ako kelan ang tentative date ng alis ko. Mabigat pala sa loob ko umalis pero kailangan. I will never forget yung party na binigay nya para sa akin. Kahit kitang kita ko na malungkot sya, pilit nya pa din tinatago. Tanging nasabi ko lang THANK YOU SIR..DI KO NA PO IISA ISAHiN. nakita kong naluha sya. Separation anxiety..sabi ko sa sarili ko. I am updated with all that what's happening kahit andito ako sa malayo. Alam ko na in and out sya ng hospital. I always asked them how is he doing. Yun pala tinanong din sila ni sir kung alam ko ang nangyayari sa kanya. I can tell at this point na naging bahagi na din talaga ako ng buhay nya. Pinagalitan tuloy sila ni sir nung sinabi nilang alam ko lahat. Bakit daw di nila sinasabi sa kanya. Haaay ganyan pa din sya kahit may sakit. At kahit na im not his employee anymore, he see to it that I have a gift coming from him for xmas.   Well, madami akong experiences na hindi magkakasya sa page na ito pag inisa isa ko. Malupit ka man sa mata ng marami, nagiwan ka pa din ng soft spot sa puso namin. I always remember what you told us nung last party with your secretaries na dapat lagi tayong nagkikita sa mga party kasi there will come a time baka sa funeral na tayo magkita uli. Sorry sir im not there to hold your hand when you need one. Lagi ko nalang iniisip na tuwing magkakasakit ka, gusto mo kumpleto kaming 3 sa tabi mo kasi alam namin nagpapalakas kami ng loob mo. na alam mong wala kang iintindihin kasi everything will be taken cared of. Sabi mo nga very efficient kaming tatlo. Na natutunan namin sa iyo.  Until then sir..we will see each other in another time. And if you're still a surgeon then, reserve mo na sa akin ang position na private scrub at clinic nurse ha.  It's truly a privilege working and knowing you. Bye for now, Sir.  I will never forget, you always call me BER pag maganda ang mood..BERNA pag galit. You can call me either name and will treasure that forever.

Pagbalik-Tanaw sa Kabutihan ni Doc

January 11, 2013

Noong 2009 na wala pang namamahala sa CSMC marami ang nangagamba sa kalagayan ng mga empleyado. Kinausap ng grupo ni Dr. George Eufemio ang grupo namin upang kausapin ang Roman Catholic Archbishop of Manila (RCAM) na pinangungunahan ni Cardinal Gaudencio B. Rosales. Magkahiwalay na nagkaroon ng ilang mga pagtitipon sa Arkidiyosesis ng Maynila at San Carlos Seminary ang grupo ng mga Doctor at grupo ng KASANGGA. Hindi kami nabigo at ang mga kahilingan namin ay napagbigyan. Nanatili ang mga manggagawa sa kanilang trabaho at ilang mahahalagang benepisyo ay hindi inalis ng bagong namahala, ang Colinas Verdes Hospital Managers Corp. (CVHMC) - Metro Pacific Investments Corp. (MPIC) ni Mr. Manuel V. Pangilinan. Sa pagtutulungan ng mga doctor at ng mga empleyado ay nawala ang takot ng lahat. Kung hindi namin ito ginawa ay natulad tayo sa Our Lady of Lourdes Hospital na tinanggal ang halos lahat ng manggagawa kasama ang kanilang unyon nang pamunuan ito ng MPIC ni MVP.

 

Sa ngayon, ang naranasan namin noon ay nararanasan din ng mga manggagawa ng Philippine Orthopedic Center (The Daily Tribune, December 30, 2012) at  De Los Santos Medical Center (Philippine Daily Inquirer; December 3, 2012) na nababalitang kukunin ng MPIC sa pangunguna ni MVP. Kung mayroon sanang isang tao na kagaya ni Dr. Eufemio ang mamuno para ipagtanggol ang karapatan ng bawat manggagawa ay mawawala ang kanilang mga takot. Ganyan kamahal ni Doc ang mga manggagawa ng CSMC.

 

Napakalaking pasasalamat ng KASANGGA sa pagkilala at pagtitiwala sa amin ng mga doctor sa pangunguna ni Dr. Eufemio.

 

Isa sa laging sinasabi ni Doc na hindi ko malilimutan---“Ipagpatuloy mo ang pagtulong! Hayaan mo lang ang mga naninira, magsasawa rin ang mga yan, mga *#$@ sila.” :)

 

Sabi nga ng iba masungit daw si “Akong”, alyas ni Doc, pero akala lang nila yun. Kilalanin muna natin ang isang tao bago tayo maniwala sa sabi-sabi ng iba. Kung nagpakita ka ng kabutihan bakit hindi ka susukliaan ng kabaitan. Wala na si Doc pero ang mga pangaral niya mananatili ay sa atin.---Mahal ka namin Doc!

COME WITH ME




January 11, 2013


 

The Lord saw you getting tired


And a cure was not to be,


So He put his arms around you


And whispered, "Come with me."



 

With tearful eyes, we watched you suffer


And saw you fade away,


Although we loved you dearly,


We could not make you stay.



 

A golden heart stopped beating,


A beautiful smile at rest,


God broke our hearts to prove


He only takes the best.



 

It's lonesome here without you


We miss you so each day,


Our lives aren't the same 


Since you went away.



 

When days are sad and lonely,


And everything goes wrong,


We seem to hear you whisper,


"Cheer up and carry on."



Each time we see your picture,


You seem to smile and say,


"Don't cry, I'm in God's keeping,


We'll meet again someday."

 

Rhonda Braswell

 

 

I'M FREE

January 11, 2013

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free

I'm following the path God has chosen for me.

I took His hand when I heard him call;

I turned my back and left it all.

 

I could not stay another day,

To laugh, to love, to work or play.

Tasks left undone must stay that way;

I've now found peace at the end of day.

 

If my parting has left a void,

Then fill it with remembered joys.

A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss;

Oh yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow

Look for the sunshine of tomorrow.

 

My life's been full, I savored much;

Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seems all to brief;

Don't lengthen your pain with undue grief.

Lift up your heart and peace to thee,

God wanted me now-He set me free

 

Author:  Shannon Lee  Moseley

 

 

 

January 10, 2013

I had asked Tony Oposa to convey my deepest condolences to you and your family as I did not have your contact addresses. George Eufemio was a close friend of mine for over 30 years. He was sincere,affectionate and always hospitable. He was mainly responsible for my close association and involvement with the scientific conventions of the Philippine College of Surgeons. I was there when he was installed President and we were together for so many scientific sessions of the College. I cannot forget the many happy social events that he happily hosted whenever i came to Manila. We often met at several meetings of the Asian surgical Association and the American College of Surgeons.

The passing away of George came as a shock to me as I had not known that George was ill for some time and was on dialysis. It is a great loss not only to his family and friends in the Philippines but he will be dearly missed by so many of his overseas friends as well. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.take care. Kind regards.

Eulogy of Dr Sherry Lee

January 10, 2013
One of the things I dread most in life is to give speeches, I once even told a friend that I would rather perform a 10 hour surgery than give a speech.  But today  is one of those exceptions, today  i am here to honor the memory of a man who has been such an influential part of my life.

     I have been an associate of Dr. Eufemio since I graduated from residency in 2005.  Even before actually meeting him for the  first time, let's just say his reputation preceeded him.  I was already forewarned that he was a strict teacher with a no holds barred - straight to the point attitude.  Everyone seemed to cower in fear at the mere mention of his name.  It still astounds me to this day, that despite his fearsome reputation, we hit it off very well from the first day we met.  And now 7 plus years later I would go so far as to say our relationship has evolved to a point that he treated me like a daughter.

   Everything everyone warned me about Dr. Eufemio was ALL TRUE.  Yes he was strict, he was impatient - a perfectionist wanting everything planned and prepared right down to the last detail, he was extremely frank and said what was on his mind - sorry na lang if your feelings got hurt.  If Dr. Eufemio felt you needed to hear it then you would definitely HEAR IT! He will not sugar coat a comment, he meant for one to realize what was being said.  More often than not, people would try to dismiss as Dr Eufemio just being who he was.  But if you really got down to it, (after getting over one's pride), you'd realize he was right, he was saying it for your own good.

  Having been his associate since 2005, I was privy to Dr. Eufemio, the man, the GOOD man.  His priority was always good patient care, not money, not accolades.  Despite his hard demeanor, he always had a soft spot for the less fortunate and never failed to instill that same charitable attitude to all that were training under him.  One time, he operated pro bono on a cancer patient who as it turned out made a living raising chickens.  it was november then and they revealed that they only had 40 chickens to sell by december since that was all they could afford .  Dr. Eufemio then asked the patient and her husband how much more would be needed to buy more livestock and they answered P10,000.  he then proceeded to write them a check for 15k to include the cost of the feeds and miscellaneous expenses and said " para masaya pasko ng pamilya nyo" . Then patient said "Doc! Ngayon lang po tayo nagkakilala pero di nyo na ako siningil sa operation, binayaran nyo pa ang hospital bills ko at ngayon pati pangkabuhayan namin tinulungan nyo pa din kami !" I still get teary eyed when I recall how this couple just burst into tears from happiness and gratitude at the kindness and generosity of his magnanimous act, many of us doctors do a lot of charitable pro bono work but Dr. Eufemio really took it to the next level.  Rich or poor, he always saw to it that all his patients got the best care he could provide. 

 As a mentor,words cannot express how fortunate I feel to have trained under him.  In the early days of my career as a surgeon, this is the man who came to my assistance during a difficult surgery at 2 in the morning.  I am and will always be humbled by how a doctor of his stature came to help me, a novice then, without the slightest hesitation even at such an ungodly hour.  He was  a brilliant surgeon who felt that experience was still the best key to learning.  

If one was feeling bad about some incident or being singled out by others, he would say mabait ka kasi. But remember, kapitbahay ng mabait e tanga. So don't go there.

Planning and Preparation- he would always drill these words to us. Whether im surgery or in everyday life, he emphasized the importance of these. He was a prime example of this. He was at the end of the day, despite the facade he wanted everyone to see, a Doctor who truly cared for people.

I know he was not afraid to die. He love to talk about death and i would always try to change the topic when he starts. One incident, he told our paient " Remember her face coz when I die papamana ko na kayo sa kanya, trained sa akin yan , di ako Mapapahiya!"
I replied, "Doc, ano ka ba!Pwede ba cash nalang ipamana nyo!" in fairness, natawa sya. 

The passing of a great man is a sad thing, but for me, this one is particularly heart wrenching because I knew him in so many ways- as a Doctor, a Mentor, a second Father, and a compassionate, generous human being. He will always be my inspiration. 
January 10, 2013

Wish we are there at this time to pay our respects to Uncle George.

He will be missed, but he will remain in our hearts and in our prayers.

His generosity in sharing his time, his experiences, and his medical knowledge, in typical “Tough Love” Eufemio fashion will always remembered.

We thank the Lord for Uncle George's time with us.

Now that he is with Him, may he rest in peace and continue to watch over all of us from above.

With love,
Jane, Eugene, Garet, Liz and our families

A Letter to Daddy

January 9, 2013

Dear Daddy,

 

In line with your wishes, I will keep this SIMPLE, PRACTICAL, and MEANINGFUL.

 

My earliest memories with you are those moments when as you would let me ride on your knee as a child and when you would carry me on your shoulders and you would run around the house.  You were a disciplinarian then and you would tell me you only picked me up from the trash can when I was misbehaving.

 

Above all else, I know you are a TEACHER.

 

As a teenager, you taught me the value of education.  You always tell me when I would get low grades that I don’t have to like the subject but I still have to study it.  But you also taught me that academics are not everything and that I should have a balanced life.  To engage in sports and engage in other interests outside schoolwork, sorry that I did not take up tennis like you asked me to.  You have taught me how to enjoy life.  I know you always pursued QUALITY OF LIFE, and that it is not how many years you live but how many happy moments you have collected.

 

You told me to pursue whatever career interests me, and you always made sure you provided me with all the information to make the right choice for myself.  You have always encouraged me to be independent minded, to learn how to think for myself and to do things for myself.  You always taught me to be innovative, and modern, and keep up with the times.  I remember that as early as when I was in high school, you gave me an Apple II computer already. 

 

You showed me that we should not be afraid to make mistakes and learn from them.  When I drove your new Red Toyota Corolla when I was in high school, without asking for permission, and got into an accident by hitting a tree in the driveway, I was so sure you would get mad when you learn of what I had done.  When you arrived home, the first thing I said was “Daddy, you can punish me anyway you can, I drove your car, and hit a tree.”  And you told me simply, “That’s ok, make sure you don’t get a phobia of driving, and keep learning how to drive.”

 

You taught me to set financial goals and not to be afraid to take business risks.  When I asked to borrow money to invest in a restaurant business, I told you that the investment, like any business, has a good pay-off but of course will be full of risks.  You casually said, “In life, no risk, no fun.”  By your example, you have also taken lots of business risks, and now I know taking risks is all part of the fun of life. 

 

You have the gift of showing us that the most difficult problems are nothing to be afraid of.  You always say “Ah, wala yan!” or “That’s nothing!”, no matter how big or serious the problem may be to us, especially if it is a medical condition.  Now I know that you were never belittling us or our situation, you were only showing us that we should be confident in handling our problems, that we can and should learn to handle it on our own.  Or just to show us that the problem is not that big anyway, making us ALWAYS feel much better after talking to you about our problems.

 

You have taught me that PEACE OF MIND is very important and that we should always pursue this.  You taught me the value of SERVICE, that we live on this earth not for ourselves but for others and that is the only way to make our lives MEANINGFUL.  I know that you were always busy with your work to make ends meet when we were young, but I know very well that you loved your work especially the part where you were helping others and teaching others, and it’s ok with me.  You often repeat that we should all live our lives following the Golden Rule- do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

 

I have also been the target of your disgust- “Use your head!”, “Ang hina ng utak mo!”. I have learned that you are also the same with your students, residents, nurses, staff, household help, and even your friends.  I then always said to myself that when you berate us like that we should NOT take it personally, and that this is just your character.  Now I realize that you love education and teaching so much, and you are a true educator.  I know now that you berate us only because you want us to learn, and to be better.  Now I am convinced of the exact opposite-  when you berate us we SHOULD take it personally.  It means that you love us so much that you PERSONALLY cared and bothered to TEACH us.  So it was not just a meaningless expression.  It was a personal message of love.  So we should take it PERSONALLY.

 

Your standards are always so high when it comes to anything.  You always expect us to anticipate things and have foresight.  You get mad when we don’t anticipate things to the point of sometimes expecting us to predict things and see the future or read the minds of others.  In the hospital, I have seen you get mad at the nurse for not anticipating how to properly position the pillow on the head of a patient.  Standards so high, but always properly placed.  If only we could reach them to make you happy, but we know you placed the bar high for a reason.  You have all the right to expect us to anticipate things and have foresight.  This is because you are also the same to us.   I know more than ten years ago, you anticipated the inevitable, and you bought an urn for your ashes, and prepared us all for this moment.  You also made sure to provide and prepare for your family.

 

You have always pointed out the things wrong in this world, and you are one of the few remaining true and pure idealists.   Steve Jobs said that it is those people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world that actually do.  People may have thought you were crazy for being too generous and idealistic, but shame on us for just not believing in you.  You have lived your life to the fullest, you taught us to enjoy life also, and you lived your life in your own unique way and in accordance with your own rules- and you shown us that that is really the only way to live.

 

You were very generous as to your time, resources, and efforts.  You have given everything you could give to this world.  Your passion for life is fueled by your COMPASSION for others and passion to help those in need.

 

Even to the last moment you gave your life so that you could be a classical medical textbook case, and even to the last moment you were teaching your doctors, nurses and us how to properly treat a patient.  Even to the last moment you brought your FAMILY closer to each other and to GOD, when you requested that all 5 of us pray before the grotto at home.

 

I thank God for this moment, where we now are given the chance to reflect on your life, and how knowing you whether as a son, student, colleague, friend, business partner, has INFECTED us permanently.  I thank God for sharing you to us and allowing us to learn from Him through you.

 

At first I cry without knowing why.  Maybe they are tears of sadness since you are no longer with us.  Maybe they are tears of joy knowing that you are at peace. Now I know they are simply TEARS OF LOVE. 

 

To keep things simple, practical and meaningful, as you would have wanted, I just want to say that I love you very much, and I know that you love me, and I know now this is the only thing that matters.

 

I salute you, Daddy, my hero!

 

Edson

My beloved Uncle George

January 8, 2013

I will miss my dear uncle George.  I have wonderful memories of when my uncle would visit us in New York and Maryland and our family trips to the Philippines.    Our visits with him would be memorable and special.  He was always the life of the party.  Since our birthdays are a week apart, I have fond memories when we celebrated our birthdays together at his house in the Philippines with our family and relatives.  I still remember those days as if it were just yesterday.  

I enjoyed listening to his stories and his jokes which put a smile on my face or made me chuckle.  He was also a great educator of life and great humanitarian, always there to lend a hand.   Whenever one us or our relatives were sick, he was the one to go as he was the best at what he did.  

This past summer, we were fortunate to make a visit to the Philippines.  It had been 20 years since I had last been there.  It was a wonderful reunion.   My uncle George coordinated our main events/activites during our visit.  My uncle met my husband and two children for the first time.  In the short time that we were there, he made a great impression on my kids and husband as I knew he would.  I am blessed that we were able to see him one last time before his passing.  

We will forever miss him and take comfort that he is now in a better place in heaven reunited with other loved ones that have also passed.  Thank you uncle George for being in our lives and we will forever hold you in our hearts.  Rest in Peace...our beloved uncle George.....Love always, An-Marie, Bill, Laura and Anabelle

     

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